I did that since I'm about to gtet married and I realized I flirted a lot. But i didn't stop. My fiance was with me one day and she smacked me in the face and left the resteraunt without me, I had no ride home and my phone was in my car she took. I had to walk home in the rain. She ignored my for 3 weeks I was so scared she was gonna leave me. I barely ever talk to girls nowGUYS I WANT YOUR ADVICE!My fiance flirts with other women too much . Should i ignore him back?
Definitely do not marry him. If this bothers you now, you'll be signing up for a lifetime of misery. Especially if he just blows off the fact that it hurts you and says ';It's JUST the way I am';. What bull. Ditch him and let him go play with the other kids in the sandbox. Find yourself a real man.GUYS I WANT YOUR ADVICE!My fiance flirts with other women too much . Should i ignore him back?
if his flirting with other women and you don't like it which i assume you don't not really anyone does. then i would talk to him about it. before you get married and something really bad happens
Communicate your feelings to him. Why is this so hard for people. If he still does it tell him you want a break. Because it seems like it's a big deal and if he can't stop maybe you need to dump him.
I wouldn't like it. I would talk it out with the person once. And if it still continues, I'd move on. No point in hanging around with someone who doesn't respect you and your feelings.
yes you should. what good for the goose is good for the gander to. meaning do to him what he does to you and i bet he would feel the same
if he blatantly flirts, that is rude and you shouldn't have to deal with it.
Friday, April 30, 2010
I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
I've always been against all forms of real discrimination. I actually base my life on being against it in everything I do. But over the past few years, I've been feeling like I'm becomging more and more racist against specifically white american women.
It's specifically because, based on attitudes I've seen on here, at my job, in college, at the mall, and reflected on TV, I see this princess entitlement mentality that I never really noticed before. I've ignored it as me feeling maybe I'm just being paraniod but then I keep seing more and more examples of it. Maybe I'm just noticing it because thats what I want to see, and ignoring all of the good ones out there. Or maybe not.
I've hung out with a lot of girls from other ethnicities, specifically foreign girls who have become Amercan, or are American but who's parents are from other countries. Yeah, some of them can have princess mentality too, but many of them usually end up being so down to Earth. Maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe it's just me and I just don't agree with America's mentality when it comes to women.
When American women here guys say this, they usually say things like, '; Oh you just like foreign girls because your afraid of strong independant women, and you want a female slave';. Isn't that racist? Thats the kind of attitude I'm talking about. And the foreign girls I'm talking about are actually strong and independant.
The sweetest thing I've ever seen a white female do, were these two 12 year old girls who were blind. My wife was baby sitting them, and we all went out to eat. They absolutely loved conversating about everything, they gave me all their attention. They were open, kind, attentive, considerate, etc. Not sure if it was because they were blind, or if it was their upbriging but they were so pleasant. The complete opposite of what I see from girls at the mall and other places.
But I want to learn not to become racist because of what I've seen.
Thoughts?I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
What race are you? You say you have a wife, what race is she? I'm confused how you are married yet still measuring up white women as if you're in the market for one. Can you clarify exactly what your problem is?
Thumbing me down is not an answer, it's an evasion. I'm waiting. You may have TDed me but everyone else can still see my questions and see how you're avoiding answering them.
Add:
I think maybe you're seeing it because you're looking for it. Just like racist white people look for the worst behavior in minorities and completely overlook those who are not acting stereotypically. Also, younger women (as well as men) tend to be more self-absorbed and opinionated. Mellowing comes with maturity and experience. Not all, of course, but a good number.
Keep fighting the urge to judge an entire race of women because you know very well that an entire group like that is never all the same. As a black man you know the unfairness of stereotypes.
(I apologize for accusing you of thumbing me down)I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
i disagree with just about everything america does.... i hate what most of the american people think.... but my reasons aren't racist.... and i dont usually generalize all americans by the vast majority of them...
just know in your mind that there are decent american women out there... more than you think..... just dont generalize..
Please dont do that.Your just setting yourself back.What if everyone felt this way towards each other??Dont let ignorance cloud your better judgement.
P.S Im not caucasian
Don't worry about whether or not you fit the ';racist'; label. Just worry about truth.
You gotta be kidding. How many white American women have u met in your life? 2? 3, maybe? Where do people come up with crap like this?
there are some women in any race who act like that.
';You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up.';
OMG, where could he have gotten THAT idea? LOL
If you look hard enough for something, chances are you'll see it everywhere even if it's not really there. It can even become an obsession. I'm not so sure you're not already there. Not saying that to be hurtful but it seems that you're pretty fixated on it. It's like a bad habit that's run away with you like an out of control horse running away with its rider.
Try focusing on other things than skin color because it's the least important thing in the world anyway. Get some help if that's what it takes to break this thing because if you let it keep growing inside of you it could lead to depression or anger or other problems.
Besides, it's not a healthy thing to be stereotyping people this way and that includes stereotyping the foreign women too. Would you want it done to you?
If you trained yourself into this bad habit, you can train yourself out of it too with some work on your part and some help if needed.
You'll be a lot happier if you do.
You just have to accept that what you see isn't really how it is.
Your exact same arguement could be made from the perspective of any race against any other race. ie: ';White boys just want white girls so that they can make them into house wives. What they really need is a ___ (insert ethnicity or race) girl who can show them what a real woman is like.';
It sounds like you're just naturally prone to negativity. There are stereotypes about every race out there. I would argue that it's not a ';white'; girl thing but an ';american'; or even a ';western'; girl thing to act like a princess. I've seen women of every dang color out there act like that.
I guess what I'm saying is, you must realize you have no point. your argument is biased and invalid. If you see a girl acting like a princess, go ahead and dislike all you want. Your ability to translate these examples of girls you don't like into stereotyping an entire race or culture, you are no better than a bunch of americans sitting around who don't trust muslims because they think they are terorrists.
just remind yourself of the nonsense that you are creating out of nothing with these notions.
Does it tell you something when the only white American women you got on with were 2 blind 12 year olds? Perhaps it it is *you* and not *everyone else*.
I didn't say ';men';, I said YOU.
You are racist. You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up. And the only example you can give of white females that you liked are a couple of 12 year old blind girls. Was it because they were blind that they were so 'non-judgmental'?Just get over yourself. The color of a person's skin does not determine personality, caring, kindness, or any other kind of traits.
women? thar all the sammme!
It's specifically because, based on attitudes I've seen on here, at my job, in college, at the mall, and reflected on TV, I see this princess entitlement mentality that I never really noticed before. I've ignored it as me feeling maybe I'm just being paraniod but then I keep seing more and more examples of it. Maybe I'm just noticing it because thats what I want to see, and ignoring all of the good ones out there. Or maybe not.
I've hung out with a lot of girls from other ethnicities, specifically foreign girls who have become Amercan, or are American but who's parents are from other countries. Yeah, some of them can have princess mentality too, but many of them usually end up being so down to Earth. Maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe it's just me and I just don't agree with America's mentality when it comes to women.
When American women here guys say this, they usually say things like, '; Oh you just like foreign girls because your afraid of strong independant women, and you want a female slave';. Isn't that racist? Thats the kind of attitude I'm talking about. And the foreign girls I'm talking about are actually strong and independant.
The sweetest thing I've ever seen a white female do, were these two 12 year old girls who were blind. My wife was baby sitting them, and we all went out to eat. They absolutely loved conversating about everything, they gave me all their attention. They were open, kind, attentive, considerate, etc. Not sure if it was because they were blind, or if it was their upbriging but they were so pleasant. The complete opposite of what I see from girls at the mall and other places.
But I want to learn not to become racist because of what I've seen.
Thoughts?I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
What race are you? You say you have a wife, what race is she? I'm confused how you are married yet still measuring up white women as if you're in the market for one. Can you clarify exactly what your problem is?
Thumbing me down is not an answer, it's an evasion. I'm waiting. You may have TDed me but everyone else can still see my questions and see how you're avoiding answering them.
Add:
I think maybe you're seeing it because you're looking for it. Just like racist white people look for the worst behavior in minorities and completely overlook those who are not acting stereotypically. Also, younger women (as well as men) tend to be more self-absorbed and opinionated. Mellowing comes with maturity and experience. Not all, of course, but a good number.
Keep fighting the urge to judge an entire race of women because you know very well that an entire group like that is never all the same. As a black man you know the unfairness of stereotypes.
(I apologize for accusing you of thumbing me down)I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
i disagree with just about everything america does.... i hate what most of the american people think.... but my reasons aren't racist.... and i dont usually generalize all americans by the vast majority of them...
just know in your mind that there are decent american women out there... more than you think..... just dont generalize..
Please dont do that.Your just setting yourself back.What if everyone felt this way towards each other??Dont let ignorance cloud your better judgement.
P.S Im not caucasian
Don't worry about whether or not you fit the ';racist'; label. Just worry about truth.
You gotta be kidding. How many white American women have u met in your life? 2? 3, maybe? Where do people come up with crap like this?
there are some women in any race who act like that.
';You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up.';
OMG, where could he have gotten THAT idea? LOL
If you look hard enough for something, chances are you'll see it everywhere even if it's not really there. It can even become an obsession. I'm not so sure you're not already there. Not saying that to be hurtful but it seems that you're pretty fixated on it. It's like a bad habit that's run away with you like an out of control horse running away with its rider.
Try focusing on other things than skin color because it's the least important thing in the world anyway. Get some help if that's what it takes to break this thing because if you let it keep growing inside of you it could lead to depression or anger or other problems.
Besides, it's not a healthy thing to be stereotyping people this way and that includes stereotyping the foreign women too. Would you want it done to you?
If you trained yourself into this bad habit, you can train yourself out of it too with some work on your part and some help if needed.
You'll be a lot happier if you do.
You just have to accept that what you see isn't really how it is.
Your exact same arguement could be made from the perspective of any race against any other race. ie: ';White boys just want white girls so that they can make them into house wives. What they really need is a ___ (insert ethnicity or race) girl who can show them what a real woman is like.';
It sounds like you're just naturally prone to negativity. There are stereotypes about every race out there. I would argue that it's not a ';white'; girl thing but an ';american'; or even a ';western'; girl thing to act like a princess. I've seen women of every dang color out there act like that.
I guess what I'm saying is, you must realize you have no point. your argument is biased and invalid. If you see a girl acting like a princess, go ahead and dislike all you want. Your ability to translate these examples of girls you don't like into stereotyping an entire race or culture, you are no better than a bunch of americans sitting around who don't trust muslims because they think they are terorrists.
just remind yourself of the nonsense that you are creating out of nothing with these notions.
Does it tell you something when the only white American women you got on with were 2 blind 12 year olds? Perhaps it it is *you* and not *everyone else*.
I didn't say ';men';, I said YOU.
You are racist. You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up. And the only example you can give of white females that you liked are a couple of 12 year old blind girls. Was it because they were blind that they were so 'non-judgmental'?Just get over yourself. The color of a person's skin does not determine personality, caring, kindness, or any other kind of traits.
women? thar all the sammme!
Help/advice from married/live in women?
im 46 and my girlfriend is 52. my job takes me away for 3 weeks at a time and she works in an office mon-fri. we have no kids at home and talk several times a day on the phone. heres the problem. when i com home i want sex the first night(not as soon as i walk in the door) and this seems to piss her off. i have tried bringing flowers, cards, going out to dinner, etc...then in the bedroom i try long soft kisses, gentle touching, giving her oral till she cums, back rubs, fondling, extented forplay and then after all this then we have intercourse and then lay in each others arms. then to compromise the next couple of nights we cuddle and watch tv cuz if i try and have sex with her every night im home she gets mad, then on my last day in (usually 3-4) i want sex 1 more time before i leave. i thought i was doing what she wanted but she a couple of days later said she just has sex with me the first night cux thats what i require. what do i doHelp/advice from married/live in women?
One thing you need to know, When some women reach a certain age They just don't want it as much or certain meds. works the same way on women that it does on men. They also may have some issues to. Take some time to ask her, you may get your answer your self. Good Luck, BeckyHelp/advice from married/live in women?
i really don't know why she would be upset. it's not unreasonable to think that you would want to have sex with her the first day you get back and the last day before you leave and as much as possible in between. you are going to be gone for 3 weeks which is a long time to go without. have you tried asking her why she feels the way she does?
Have you asked her what the problem could be? Is her job stressful? Is she on any medication? There are alot of reasons why a woman is not hot to trot all the time. Fatigue or lack of vitamins could be the cause. A stressful job could also be the reason. Hormonal? how far is she from menopause? How long have you been together? I would begin by making sure that physically, she is OK. Mentally stable, and comfortable in the relationship. Love has nothing to do with sex, for a woman. It has very much to do with the stability and trust in the relationship. I love my husband dearly, but sometimes, I am so tired, I have a job, a home, a teenager and alot of things on my mind. I am a decade younger than your girlfriend, and I am already tired.
Try to compromise and let her know what your needs are. If she doesn't really wanna do it, then you can either accept that and love her anyway or be thankful she cares enough about you to want to please you even though she might not be in the mood for it all the time.
very difficult
If what you're saying is true, find some who loves and appreciates you. Obviously, she does not..Most women (in love) would be screwing your brains out after three weeks apart. Just a bit of advice from a female someone who knows.
for her it sound like a way to get her rocks off she don't care about you. convience is always nice to have
oPEN A BED AND BREKFAST.
Is she going through menopause, sometimes women her age aren't interested in the same way she used to due to hormonal changes. .Although it's not fair to you, it's a fact of life none the less. Ask her what the problem is.Has she met someone else while you
were away? You didn't mention if her attitude towards sex with you has changed or if it's always been this way..
Communication is the best start to understanding where she's coming from.
Good for you in working hard at trying to please her,she's a lucky woman to have such an understanding man.
Sounds like the two of you need more COMMUNICATION. She has these preconceived notions of what you need and you have your preconceived notions of what she likes. You both need to talk to each other as to why you aren't so close that when you get home, she doesn't want to jump into your arms and into your pants. Then again, with the hours you keep, it's really hard to keep fanning a flame alive. Good luck.
she's menopausal !
Get a new one.
try being a little more spontaneous, it sounds so planned out.
why don麓t you ask her to read what you wrote? there could be a communication problem betwen you two. ask her when is the best time for her, or at least try to discuss your needs with her.
good luck, be patient
Dump her and come on over
Too bad there arent more guys like you !
She probably has a boyfriend, pal, and is getting plenty of sex while you are gone. The relationship is not going well.....you are not meeting each others needs. Perhaps it time to move on.
Do you understand women at all?
We need to know you before sex. That means everyday. In other words when you come home she has to acclimate to you before her desire happens.
Try to be more understanding of her brain. The flowers are just to get her in the sack and deep down she knows it.
show her this post (joking) try not asking her for sex. bring her the flowers the card. then sit and have a nice chat. don't give her any oral a kiss on the cheek is fine. then she may see what she is missing and want to give it to you as you walk through the door. she sounds a bit selfish maybe she has issues with you going away. talk to her. if it doesn't work do the above. she will be begging for some.
I do not know how long you have been married but I do know that when a person has been around a person for a number of years that they learn that persons habits, dislikes, and likes. Did she have a problem with you traveling when you first got together? If she didn't than why should it be any different than before. I know women can go through menopause or sometimes not even enjoy sex anymore. If that is not the case than she is having sex with someone else. I know if my husband is gone 3 weeks at a time, I would be ready to rip his clothes off when he steps in the door. Let me ask you this. Do the things that you used to do to make her happy make her unhappy now? If so, than she's got someone else.
She may be cheating on u.Good luck.A job where u could be home with her would help.
Go without.......just do it. I know you will suffer but really, it will make her suffer. Goof around with her, play, but then stop.....just pretend like you don't want it for a while.eye makeup
One thing you need to know, When some women reach a certain age They just don't want it as much or certain meds. works the same way on women that it does on men. They also may have some issues to. Take some time to ask her, you may get your answer your self. Good Luck, BeckyHelp/advice from married/live in women?
i really don't know why she would be upset. it's not unreasonable to think that you would want to have sex with her the first day you get back and the last day before you leave and as much as possible in between. you are going to be gone for 3 weeks which is a long time to go without. have you tried asking her why she feels the way she does?
Have you asked her what the problem could be? Is her job stressful? Is she on any medication? There are alot of reasons why a woman is not hot to trot all the time. Fatigue or lack of vitamins could be the cause. A stressful job could also be the reason. Hormonal? how far is she from menopause? How long have you been together? I would begin by making sure that physically, she is OK. Mentally stable, and comfortable in the relationship. Love has nothing to do with sex, for a woman. It has very much to do with the stability and trust in the relationship. I love my husband dearly, but sometimes, I am so tired, I have a job, a home, a teenager and alot of things on my mind. I am a decade younger than your girlfriend, and I am already tired.
Try to compromise and let her know what your needs are. If she doesn't really wanna do it, then you can either accept that and love her anyway or be thankful she cares enough about you to want to please you even though she might not be in the mood for it all the time.
very difficult
If what you're saying is true, find some who loves and appreciates you. Obviously, she does not..Most women (in love) would be screwing your brains out after three weeks apart. Just a bit of advice from a female someone who knows.
for her it sound like a way to get her rocks off she don't care about you. convience is always nice to have
oPEN A BED AND BREKFAST.
Is she going through menopause, sometimes women her age aren't interested in the same way she used to due to hormonal changes. .Although it's not fair to you, it's a fact of life none the less. Ask her what the problem is.Has she met someone else while you
were away? You didn't mention if her attitude towards sex with you has changed or if it's always been this way..
Communication is the best start to understanding where she's coming from.
Good for you in working hard at trying to please her,she's a lucky woman to have such an understanding man.
Sounds like the two of you need more COMMUNICATION. She has these preconceived notions of what you need and you have your preconceived notions of what she likes. You both need to talk to each other as to why you aren't so close that when you get home, she doesn't want to jump into your arms and into your pants. Then again, with the hours you keep, it's really hard to keep fanning a flame alive. Good luck.
she's menopausal !
Get a new one.
try being a little more spontaneous, it sounds so planned out.
why don麓t you ask her to read what you wrote? there could be a communication problem betwen you two. ask her when is the best time for her, or at least try to discuss your needs with her.
good luck, be patient
Dump her and come on over
Too bad there arent more guys like you !
She probably has a boyfriend, pal, and is getting plenty of sex while you are gone. The relationship is not going well.....you are not meeting each others needs. Perhaps it time to move on.
Do you understand women at all?
We need to know you before sex. That means everyday. In other words when you come home she has to acclimate to you before her desire happens.
Try to be more understanding of her brain. The flowers are just to get her in the sack and deep down she knows it.
show her this post (joking) try not asking her for sex. bring her the flowers the card. then sit and have a nice chat. don't give her any oral a kiss on the cheek is fine. then she may see what she is missing and want to give it to you as you walk through the door. she sounds a bit selfish maybe she has issues with you going away. talk to her. if it doesn't work do the above. she will be begging for some.
I do not know how long you have been married but I do know that when a person has been around a person for a number of years that they learn that persons habits, dislikes, and likes. Did she have a problem with you traveling when you first got together? If she didn't than why should it be any different than before. I know women can go through menopause or sometimes not even enjoy sex anymore. If that is not the case than she is having sex with someone else. I know if my husband is gone 3 weeks at a time, I would be ready to rip his clothes off when he steps in the door. Let me ask you this. Do the things that you used to do to make her happy make her unhappy now? If so, than she's got someone else.
She may be cheating on u.Good luck.A job where u could be home with her would help.
Go without.......just do it. I know you will suffer but really, it will make her suffer. Goof around with her, play, but then stop.....just pretend like you don't want it for a while.
Can any women please give me some advice?
I'm considering getting circumcised. I was thinking of surprising my girlfriend because she is overseas and i will be able to heal b4 i see her again. I was just wondering what most women would think of this if their man did it it. Does it make any sexual difference at all? Does it feel any different?Can any women please give me some advice?
i dunno...but i'm trying my best to help...so if a guy really did that for me...i would be so happy cuz i finally get to see my beloved again! i would feel so sorry that he came all this way jux to see me yet i'm happy to see him...but i don't knoe ur girlfirendso i don't knoe wat kind of person she is. aniwaise do wat ur heart said!Can any women please give me some advice?
Maybe. im not sure never happebed to me?
i dunno...but i'm trying my best to help...so if a guy really did that for me...i would be so happy cuz i finally get to see my beloved again! i would feel so sorry that he came all this way jux to see me yet i'm happy to see him...but i don't knoe ur girlfirendso i don't knoe wat kind of person she is. aniwaise do wat ur heart said!Can any women please give me some advice?
Maybe. im not sure never happebed to me?
For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
I have currently started to talk regularly and spend time with this great girl I have had feelings for...since about 2 years ago. I have always felt guilty while dating others because I have always had something for this one. Since I broke up with my ex 3 months ago I have started to keep regular contact with this girl,lets call her Jess.
Anyway, i ahve gotten her little gifts her and there, little plants for her house and some chapstick haha. Nothing to crazy because we are just starting to warm up to each other more and more. I have not had any physical contact with her at all besides hugs and little kisses on the cheek as we part. But I would most certainly like her to be mine...I have never had such strong feelings for someone. Recently I went christmas shopping and I bought her some gloves, tuke and a warm blanket. My question for the ladies is that, would it be too much to by her a piece of Jewelery (a cross,shes christian) even though we are not an item yet, please help :)For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
I think that would be very sweet!! Do it!! You sound very nice! Keep it up! Good Luck!For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
A piece of jewellery would be fine, as long as it is not a ring, nor anything too expensive.
I think if she is Christian, a cross on a chain would be a much appreciated and most welcome gift.
I know you would give her the world, but be careful, though, not to embarrass her with the number of presents you give her for Christmas, as she may only have one small gift for you, and you don't want her to feel overwhelmed and feel bad about that.
Good luck to you. I think it sounds promising for you!
No don't get her jewellery yet in case it freaks her out
You aren't even dating her yet so take it slow
well i think it is pushing 'too much.' but its not a bad idea as long as you are willing to take your feelings a step furthur and ask her if she is interested in a relationship. dont get her a cross but something a bit less obvious. like a nice bracelet or a pretty necklace. but dont spend too much money just in case.
Anyway, i ahve gotten her little gifts her and there, little plants for her house and some chapstick haha. Nothing to crazy because we are just starting to warm up to each other more and more. I have not had any physical contact with her at all besides hugs and little kisses on the cheek as we part. But I would most certainly like her to be mine...I have never had such strong feelings for someone. Recently I went christmas shopping and I bought her some gloves, tuke and a warm blanket. My question for the ladies is that, would it be too much to by her a piece of Jewelery (a cross,shes christian) even though we are not an item yet, please help :)For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
I think that would be very sweet!! Do it!! You sound very nice! Keep it up! Good Luck!For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
A piece of jewellery would be fine, as long as it is not a ring, nor anything too expensive.
I think if she is Christian, a cross on a chain would be a much appreciated and most welcome gift.
I know you would give her the world, but be careful, though, not to embarrass her with the number of presents you give her for Christmas, as she may only have one small gift for you, and you don't want her to feel overwhelmed and feel bad about that.
Good luck to you. I think it sounds promising for you!
No don't get her jewellery yet in case it freaks her out
You aren't even dating her yet so take it slow
well i think it is pushing 'too much.' but its not a bad idea as long as you are willing to take your feelings a step furthur and ask her if she is interested in a relationship. dont get her a cross but something a bit less obvious. like a nice bracelet or a pretty necklace. but dont spend too much money just in case.
For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
I'm a woman and I just feel like I have not really enjoyed sex, only if it's oral, but once I get to the intercourse it either hurts, feels like I have to fart or pee and I don't feel like I'm gonna reach that climax anytime soon. One time I found myself laughing at something on tv in the middle of it. My guy always reaches his climax and I'm just numb to it all. I just end up really exhausted. I don't know what more the guy can really do to help in the middle of it. I am still somewhat a newbie to sex, and I am more comfortable to it now, but I've never had an orgasm with intercourse. What works to get to that point?For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
I feel you, and many women actually have a hard time reaching orgasm with actual intercourse, so you are not alone by any means. Oral sex can get me there faster too, because it feels so damn good, depending on whose doing it of course...I've had weird experiences in that department lol! Are you physically attracted to the guy that your with? Are you well lubricated before intercourse? The fact that you are kind of a newbie, may be the reason why it's a little painful when you are doing it.
Close your eyes, turn the t.v off and try to imagine a celebrity or movie star that you are super attracted to and who makes you super horny and see if it helps. Focus on what your doing and not the t.v or anything else in the room. Men are going to get their's regardless, and that's just a known fact. I took a class once that said orgasms don't happen between your legs, but rather in the mind. In my experience, it is the truth. Happy holidays and love making. ; )
-Knowledge24For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
Wow....I have a friend like this...but I have never been able to understand that personally! Try to experiment with different positions...you will more than likely find one that will position your body to where it is more enjoyable and enable your to climax....and trying new things can definatley make things exciting....oh...and turn off the TV so you have very little else to distract you!
Try being on top. In any other position I myself can not reach orgasm however when I'm on top I have more control as to how to stimulate myself. Also a lot of it is mental. A lot of foreplay, touching, kissing etc. Don't just concentrate on the sex part, there is so much more to it AND to enjoy in the middle of it.
Switch positions, tickle, touch, massage, kisses, dirty talk... all can be done while having sex to heighten your feelings. Do some research for yourself, maybe you're into a certain fetish that will really get you turned on. Maybe you like feathers, lace, leather, spanking, long showers, massages, dirty talk etc etc. There's so much out there that there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy it.
AND piece of advice - turn the tv off before you start! Concentrate on him. Most people feed off of each other while being intimate. The more intense you are, the more intense they are. Even if it's a quickie make it as enjoyable as you can w/o all the distractions.
Good Luck
I was with a woman who had been sexually molested when she was a child and had never been able to have an orgasm with a man. We unfairly refer to that as being frigid. What we tried that worked was that I would kiss her and fondle her while she used a vibrator. When she finished then she would accommodate me. Regardless of how it might sound, it worked out better than anything else we tried.
I can't give you any more advice than from what I have read.
To start with, why are you having sex? If it's because he wants it, then guess what, you may not be in the mood.
How often are you having sex? If it become routine, it looses its specialness.
When are you having sex? Are you just popping into the sack and going at it, or is their any courtship involved?
My advice is to cool things off for a couple of weeks. Explain to your partner than you are not achieving the satisfaction you envisioned. Given your ';hurts'; and ';pee'; comments, it sounds like there is not proper build up to the moment.
By taking time off, you can work on your communication skills. By doing those ';romantic'; everyday things and courting you, you start feeling the need to be intimate with him.
I once read that a man should court his beloved all the time. This way, you feel loved and appreciated and then when the mood takes you, then he will be in for a wonderful experience.
If he does not court you, then you become just an object for his personal satisfaction.
I have heard that orgasm with intercourse is RARE for women. most have orgasm through fingering or oral
You need to take control! Move how you want! I never got off with my guy moving how he wants... I had to take control... being either on top and doing all my moves or just be aggressive on the bottom! Try different positions.
Ok so i used to be the same way.The only way i would orgas*m was through fingering and oral, etc. It is very RARE for a women to orgas*m during intercourse in the first place. My guy was never able to plz me, so i had to take charge and get on top, it feels sooo much better, but i used to be scared to do so, so i had to work up confidence. But in the meantime play with ur nipples/cl*t, its a turn on for u and him, and makes u orgas*m and makes him wanna plz u even more. I promise this will work.=)
Maybe he should work on you and THEN you guys can have sex.
Play with your nipples and clit*ris, it might help a lot.
Also, sex is mostly about psyhology, don't think if you're going to c*m, just enjoy the moment, pay attention on your man's pleasure (seeing him excited will make you excited).
Best luck!
I've never had an orgasm during intercourse either. So I make sure Im happy before I pass out. If the guy can't do it well someones got to.
Here's an informative article: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
You need to person to love by heart, not just on the bed. He make you horny.
I feel you, and many women actually have a hard time reaching orgasm with actual intercourse, so you are not alone by any means. Oral sex can get me there faster too, because it feels so damn good, depending on whose doing it of course...I've had weird experiences in that department lol! Are you physically attracted to the guy that your with? Are you well lubricated before intercourse? The fact that you are kind of a newbie, may be the reason why it's a little painful when you are doing it.
Close your eyes, turn the t.v off and try to imagine a celebrity or movie star that you are super attracted to and who makes you super horny and see if it helps. Focus on what your doing and not the t.v or anything else in the room. Men are going to get their's regardless, and that's just a known fact. I took a class once that said orgasms don't happen between your legs, but rather in the mind. In my experience, it is the truth. Happy holidays and love making. ; )
-Knowledge24For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
Wow....I have a friend like this...but I have never been able to understand that personally! Try to experiment with different positions...you will more than likely find one that will position your body to where it is more enjoyable and enable your to climax....and trying new things can definatley make things exciting....oh...and turn off the TV so you have very little else to distract you!
Try being on top. In any other position I myself can not reach orgasm however when I'm on top I have more control as to how to stimulate myself. Also a lot of it is mental. A lot of foreplay, touching, kissing etc. Don't just concentrate on the sex part, there is so much more to it AND to enjoy in the middle of it.
Switch positions, tickle, touch, massage, kisses, dirty talk... all can be done while having sex to heighten your feelings. Do some research for yourself, maybe you're into a certain fetish that will really get you turned on. Maybe you like feathers, lace, leather, spanking, long showers, massages, dirty talk etc etc. There's so much out there that there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy it.
AND piece of advice - turn the tv off before you start! Concentrate on him. Most people feed off of each other while being intimate. The more intense you are, the more intense they are. Even if it's a quickie make it as enjoyable as you can w/o all the distractions.
Good Luck
I was with a woman who had been sexually molested when she was a child and had never been able to have an orgasm with a man. We unfairly refer to that as being frigid. What we tried that worked was that I would kiss her and fondle her while she used a vibrator. When she finished then she would accommodate me. Regardless of how it might sound, it worked out better than anything else we tried.
I can't give you any more advice than from what I have read.
To start with, why are you having sex? If it's because he wants it, then guess what, you may not be in the mood.
How often are you having sex? If it become routine, it looses its specialness.
When are you having sex? Are you just popping into the sack and going at it, or is their any courtship involved?
My advice is to cool things off for a couple of weeks. Explain to your partner than you are not achieving the satisfaction you envisioned. Given your ';hurts'; and ';pee'; comments, it sounds like there is not proper build up to the moment.
By taking time off, you can work on your communication skills. By doing those ';romantic'; everyday things and courting you, you start feeling the need to be intimate with him.
I once read that a man should court his beloved all the time. This way, you feel loved and appreciated and then when the mood takes you, then he will be in for a wonderful experience.
If he does not court you, then you become just an object for his personal satisfaction.
I have heard that orgasm with intercourse is RARE for women. most have orgasm through fingering or oral
You need to take control! Move how you want! I never got off with my guy moving how he wants... I had to take control... being either on top and doing all my moves or just be aggressive on the bottom! Try different positions.
Ok so i used to be the same way.The only way i would orgas*m was through fingering and oral, etc. It is very RARE for a women to orgas*m during intercourse in the first place. My guy was never able to plz me, so i had to take charge and get on top, it feels sooo much better, but i used to be scared to do so, so i had to work up confidence. But in the meantime play with ur nipples/cl*t, its a turn on for u and him, and makes u orgas*m and makes him wanna plz u even more. I promise this will work.=)
Maybe he should work on you and THEN you guys can have sex.
Play with your nipples and clit*ris, it might help a lot.
Also, sex is mostly about psyhology, don't think if you're going to c*m, just enjoy the moment, pay attention on your man's pleasure (seeing him excited will make you excited).
Best luck!
I've never had an orgasm during intercourse either. So I make sure Im happy before I pass out. If the guy can't do it well someones got to.
Here's an informative article: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
You need to person to love by heart, not just on the bed. He make you horny.
Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
I鈥檓 just going to break it down like this:
Every single day for the past month and a half (every single day) my neighbor has come over. He pulls up from work, gets out of his truck and walks straight to my place. He does this even when he鈥檚 worked a long weekend day 鈥?makes it a point to come over to my place and stay for a while to talk. I鈥檓 new to the neighborhood (which I must say is very small). We have started developing a comfortable friendship and I am now definitely developing a crush on him. I鈥檝e known him since I moved in (3 months ago) but we now spend a lot of time together. He鈥檚 41, I鈥檓 28 鈥?we are both single. I have a feeling he might be into me, but I鈥檓 just not so sure? What can I do to confirm his feelings without coming straight out and telling him? I don鈥檛 want to ruin anything we have going on but at the same time, I don鈥檛 want to miss out on something that could be? I don鈥檛 think he knows I鈥檓 interested and I don鈥檛 know what to do to show him that I am.
Would a man spend this much time with a woman if he just wanted to be friends?
Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Invite him over for dinner, say you've cooked too much and knock on his door or something. Then while chatting you could say it's pleasant to have his company for dinner and you should do it again somewhere else (like a restaurant wink wink), take it from there.Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Based on the facts you presented, I think it safe to say he is interested. I find some humor in this whole thing because I feel if you laid all your cards on the table the problem may be solved. I would bet he feels very much the same and is looking for a sign from you. Communication, is the basis to move any further.
This man is on you like a hound dog, and you're worried he might not like you?
Lady, He likes you to the point it worries me. Of course he knows you're interested too. Next time he comes over after work say ';I don't want to cook tonight - say, do you want to go out and grab some dinner?';.
He's 41. You're 28. He's hit the motherlode.
Well it could be that he likes you but he could also be very lonely and want company after a hard days work. You should pay more attention to the things he does when he comes over. How does he look at you? Does he touch you when you guys talk? What is his body language? Those are some sure fire ways to find out if he's interested in you.
You could inquire as to where a good place would be to meet people or just pep yourself up a bit more than usual and see if he notices. As a guy, I would tend to think that he is interested in something a bit more than just friends but I could be wrong.
you are an adult, just ask him to go the movies some night.tell him you appreciate his friendship but maybe you should not spend so much time together as you are starting to have feelings for him, and see how he responds, he may tell you he likes you too.
From a good guy point of view I think most guys are somewhat oblivious when a female likes him but for a older man he should know what he wants. (relationship etc.) Him coming over as much as he is does is alittle more than than neighborly. You should got 4 it!
good luck
juanjohnny
You can't get anymore obvious - he likes you. Why not ask him if he'd like to go out for a coffee or a drink sometime? It's a harmless question that might help you get the answer you're looking for.
If you had to break it down honesty is the best policy, but timing is involved in your question. You will know when you will make that plunge of no return, exiting isn't it.
I'd definitely say he's into you. However, are you comfortable with that age gap? And also, if things go badly once you do go out, it'll be an awkward situation since you guys are neighbors.
I think there is a love connection between you two . Don't grow old , alone . This guy could be mister right . Tell him your true feelings . If he fells the same as you , wonderful . If he doesn't , at least you know you tried .
in a way you can physically say what you are thinking. Yes, it is possible for him to spend this muck time with you and just want to be friends.
maybe he's just geniunely friendly... or maybe he's interested... either way..does it matter? you enjoy him coming over, you enjoy his friendship. why bother asking questions and ruining it. if he wants more, he'll make the move...
cook him a nice meal,get in some wine and ask if he would like to spend a little more time together.
he's obviously interested or he would not be hanging around
maybe he's on yahoo asking the same question
Oh, he's interested. Just start having a sandwich and a cold beer waiting for him when he gets there, he won't stand a chance
I think he's already showing he likes you by coming over every day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ask him out to dinner one night. when the bill comes offer to pay the tab by saying i asked you out on this date so its on me. his reaction to the date word will give you your answer
honest advice: all men want you know what
men are such pigs... that's why i gave up on them years ago.
good luck sistah!
i think oyu have a chance that he might liek you maybe ask him out as friends maybe invite him to bring his friends and oyu bring your or somehting do somehting if oyu like him
ask him to dinner, I'm sure he's interested, just be honest and confident.
Your first question: I would just kiss him, if he completely rejects you at least you'll know.
And your second question: I don't think he would, it seems he likes you.
Invite him over for dinner
you have posted this question 100 times already...
Sounds like the crush is mutual. Invite him to stay for dinner and see how it goes
Next time he comes over confront him about it.
*
rub it in that you're looking for a husband in a joking manner, maybe ask him out.
Swallow your pride and ask him.
That's it.
yes my friend spends lots of time with me and he and i are married
this guy is like a pedo but obviously he digs you just ask him out for dinner it doesnt do any harm....
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww he is old! dont do anything
Every single day for the past month and a half (every single day) my neighbor has come over. He pulls up from work, gets out of his truck and walks straight to my place. He does this even when he鈥檚 worked a long weekend day 鈥?makes it a point to come over to my place and stay for a while to talk. I鈥檓 new to the neighborhood (which I must say is very small). We have started developing a comfortable friendship and I am now definitely developing a crush on him. I鈥檝e known him since I moved in (3 months ago) but we now spend a lot of time together. He鈥檚 41, I鈥檓 28 鈥?we are both single. I have a feeling he might be into me, but I鈥檓 just not so sure? What can I do to confirm his feelings without coming straight out and telling him? I don鈥檛 want to ruin anything we have going on but at the same time, I don鈥檛 want to miss out on something that could be? I don鈥檛 think he knows I鈥檓 interested and I don鈥檛 know what to do to show him that I am.
Would a man spend this much time with a woman if he just wanted to be friends?
Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Invite him over for dinner, say you've cooked too much and knock on his door or something. Then while chatting you could say it's pleasant to have his company for dinner and you should do it again somewhere else (like a restaurant wink wink), take it from there.Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Based on the facts you presented, I think it safe to say he is interested. I find some humor in this whole thing because I feel if you laid all your cards on the table the problem may be solved. I would bet he feels very much the same and is looking for a sign from you. Communication, is the basis to move any further.
This man is on you like a hound dog, and you're worried he might not like you?
Lady, He likes you to the point it worries me. Of course he knows you're interested too. Next time he comes over after work say ';I don't want to cook tonight - say, do you want to go out and grab some dinner?';.
He's 41. You're 28. He's hit the motherlode.
Well it could be that he likes you but he could also be very lonely and want company after a hard days work. You should pay more attention to the things he does when he comes over. How does he look at you? Does he touch you when you guys talk? What is his body language? Those are some sure fire ways to find out if he's interested in you.
You could inquire as to where a good place would be to meet people or just pep yourself up a bit more than usual and see if he notices. As a guy, I would tend to think that he is interested in something a bit more than just friends but I could be wrong.
you are an adult, just ask him to go the movies some night.tell him you appreciate his friendship but maybe you should not spend so much time together as you are starting to have feelings for him, and see how he responds, he may tell you he likes you too.
From a good guy point of view I think most guys are somewhat oblivious when a female likes him but for a older man he should know what he wants. (relationship etc.) Him coming over as much as he is does is alittle more than than neighborly. You should got 4 it!
good luck
juanjohnny
You can't get anymore obvious - he likes you. Why not ask him if he'd like to go out for a coffee or a drink sometime? It's a harmless question that might help you get the answer you're looking for.
If you had to break it down honesty is the best policy, but timing is involved in your question. You will know when you will make that plunge of no return, exiting isn't it.
I'd definitely say he's into you. However, are you comfortable with that age gap? And also, if things go badly once you do go out, it'll be an awkward situation since you guys are neighbors.
I think there is a love connection between you two . Don't grow old , alone . This guy could be mister right . Tell him your true feelings . If he fells the same as you , wonderful . If he doesn't , at least you know you tried .
in a way you can physically say what you are thinking. Yes, it is possible for him to spend this muck time with you and just want to be friends.
maybe he's just geniunely friendly... or maybe he's interested... either way..does it matter? you enjoy him coming over, you enjoy his friendship. why bother asking questions and ruining it. if he wants more, he'll make the move...
cook him a nice meal,get in some wine and ask if he would like to spend a little more time together.
he's obviously interested or he would not be hanging around
maybe he's on yahoo asking the same question
Oh, he's interested. Just start having a sandwich and a cold beer waiting for him when he gets there, he won't stand a chance
I think he's already showing he likes you by coming over every day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ask him out to dinner one night. when the bill comes offer to pay the tab by saying i asked you out on this date so its on me. his reaction to the date word will give you your answer
honest advice: all men want you know what
men are such pigs... that's why i gave up on them years ago.
good luck sistah!
i think oyu have a chance that he might liek you maybe ask him out as friends maybe invite him to bring his friends and oyu bring your or somehting do somehting if oyu like him
ask him to dinner, I'm sure he's interested, just be honest and confident.
Your first question: I would just kiss him, if he completely rejects you at least you'll know.
And your second question: I don't think he would, it seems he likes you.
Invite him over for dinner
you have posted this question 100 times already...
Sounds like the crush is mutual. Invite him to stay for dinner and see how it goes
Next time he comes over confront him about it.
*
rub it in that you're looking for a husband in a joking manner, maybe ask him out.
Swallow your pride and ask him.
That's it.
yes my friend spends lots of time with me and he and i are married
this guy is like a pedo but obviously he digs you just ask him out for dinner it doesnt do any harm....
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww he is old! dont do anything
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