I really love my girlfriend but i just cant take her not trusting me anymore.. can a women give me some advice?

ive been with my girlfreind for five years eversince highschool., but i started out the relationship by lying to her for two years and told her one day that i had cheated on her on some occasions. Ever since then she has not trusted me and i understand whyshe even admitted to cheating on me a couple of times and tryed to lie about how tsituation happened to make her look not look so bad..she said she just got so angry over what i have done.. Well we have broke up a couple of times because she still doesnt trust me.. when we fight she just always brings up all the things i have done and i dont like to bring up things she has done because i feel like its just a you did this! But you did this to !kind of situation. we are friends again .. I just really want to be with her and for everything to be normal and the trust to be strong but she tells me she may NEVER be able to trust me fully which drives me insane... I really dont want her to meet someone else!I really love my girlfriend but i just cant take her not trusting me anymore.. can a women give me some advice?
Well you got a tough one. It is really hard to regain trust in someone, especially when they have been hurt so many times. It seems that you both are young and will go through the trials of a relationship when one or the other is cheating. Maybe you guys need to slow down, give each other some space because it seems like you both are not going to forget what the other has done to hurt you, She needs to step up and tell you that yall need to be friends until you both know for sure you want one another,I really love my girlfriend but i just cant take her not trusting me anymore.. can a women give me some advice?
You spent the first half of your relationship lying, and the second half trying to deal with the fallout. Have things ever really been ';normal'; for you two?





I'll be honest: in her shoes, I don't think I'd be able to trust you, either. Two years is a long, long time to deceive someone, especially if there wasn't a prior history of being open and honest. Unfortunately, I think you're just going to have to accept that the damage here runs too deep, and learn your lesson for the next relationship.
I know exactly how you feel !!! She must be your first love right? me too! He was my BF since i was 14 and we broke up months prior to my 21st bday.





i cheated 2 years into my 6 1/2 year relationship w/my BF (we are no longer together).. he never trusted me after th cheating and i understood.. he made sure he brought it up in every arguement. Into our 4th year, I totally turned my life around, meaning I stopped cheating, stopped flirting, changed my # so guys wouldn't call me, and was nothing but truthful yet he would still not trust me.





Into our 6 years, we would still fight about the cheating so I finally told him, if you are not going to at least TRY to make an effort to trust me ever again, then we should not be together. He decided that he would never trust me again and i understand that is my fault..(don't do the crime if you can't do the time) we gave 6 more months to see if we could still work it out but we couldnt anymore





we have since broke up and I am devastated but I know it's for the best: I don't want to be with someone who is never going to trust me and I dont want to live that way the rest of my life.





It's hard to break up, (I stil miss him and cry about him) but I know we are better off this way. Breaking up with your first love is difficult, given the fact that you were together for 5 years and all, but there are many girls out there for you (when you decide you are ready to date)





You can't stay in a relationship with someone who is not going to trust you-- ALSO keep in mind, some girls don't forgive, they get even... so if you do give it a try again, you may have some doubts about her fidelity








I think you will be fine by yourself, I know I am. Just give it some time .. she may also need time to think about it..





I feel good not having to worry about being accused every day but I feel bad because I broke his heart