I am a woman who was married to a man at a young age. We also have a daughter together. He cheated and we broke-up, when my daughter was 9 months old. We are seperated now, but still legally married. We now live in 2 different states. He is visiting to see our daughter and I found a video of him and his new girlfriend having extremely graphic, nasty porno-type, anal and oral s*x, and a picture of them (that was taken at a studio) in his wallet. I guess I was always hoping that we'd get back together eventually, but now I am extremely upset. I had so much in common with this man, loved him more than anybody and we had a family. My daughter is so incredibly excited to be spending time with him and I know she wants both parents to be her family and be together.
My question is: Do you think that a girl who would do that stuff after dating for a short while is just a sexual fling for this man, or could they actually have potential at a strong, loving relationship? I know men can be kinky, but at the same time I don't think they'd respect a woman like that long enough to really be serious about her due to the woman not being ';respectable'; or ';someone they could take home to mom';. ie: she must be sleezy to let him do that and while he likes it, the realtionship is just temporary.
Men: would you be long term with a girl like this?
Ladies: would you ever want to work something out with a guy that did that in the long run for your family? Would you hold on to that hope like I had been, or would you give up?
What do you think?
I am crushed. :-(Men - would you really be in love with this girl? Women - what would you do? (Relationship advice)?
k, i hope i dont offend you because i am going to be honest here. first, i think the photo is more indicitive than the sex video. if they are going to have professional pictures done, they are more than just a fling. i have had my share of flings, or guys that i casually date, and i have not been to get pictures done with one of them. most likely, they are together. i cant help but to feel confused about why you hold onto the notion of getting back with him. to me, that is like keeping some ripped, stained, old, ugly jeans on your shelf in the hopes that one day they will fit again. but why? they are crap to begin with. and when you put them back on you will see that they are just an ugly pair of jeans. see what i mean? you hold on to the hope that you will in 4 years maybe, possibly get back with the ';ex';. i can see if he was a good guy, good father, treated you like a princess, etc but he isnt. so what are you waiting around for? yes, you love him. i totally get that. But it is not worth it. you have to let go, and if you stay married ';for the $'; that is not healthy. it is at the cost of your emotional well being, and i highly doubt that the extra $ is worth catering to his needs, not saying things in case he doesnt give you the $, etc. I feel like he has moved on, and you still havent. and i feel like the ';$'; is your excuse for keeping the marraige. if that is really what it is about, then i am wrong. but i feel like there are other reasons. basically, i feel like you are hanging on to something that is not worth it. and i feel like you will not meet anyone and fall in love again if you continue to hang onto that hope because you still are not over him and will not be until you move on completely...Men - would you really be in love with this girl? Women - what would you do? (Relationship advice)?
Yeah, I would see her as nothin more than a sexual tool for me to play with. She wouldn't have any other purpose. This is of the POV if I were single, because I wouldn't even entertain that now.
I agree with Sheloves 100%
The sex is just that, sex. As to whether it's a relationship that they care for each other, is a completely different question. I cannot speak for other men, but as for me, I'm comfortable with my own choices enough that if I care for someone, in a loving relationship, then I will respect them whether they are wild in the bedroom or not. Men's heads are turned temporarily by sex, but their attention will soon wander unless there is more than that.
What the girl did within the confines of her relationship with your 'ex' husband really does not concern you. You may still be in love with your husband but both of you have not worked on getting back together. Find out if he wants to work it out and see where that may lead. It would be nice if both parents are in the same house for your daughter's sake.
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Talk to him Girl. If you all can make this work that will be one more marriage that did NOT end in divorce. The fact that he has not asked for a divorce during this time is a good sign.
Try to put the video thing behind you. I commented on such a thing on the board recently and I got a bunch of thumbs down for it. I do believe that women who are not married to men should not be so sexually 'liberated' as I feel there can be no respect from the man there. So I do share your view on it. However, you should not let that deter you in trying to get back with your husband.
I sincerely wish you all the best and I hope you guys can work it out and put this marriage back together!
More than likely he is in it for just the sex. If you do get back together I would try something different to make him not wander off anymore. Yes I would work things out with him. But I am telling you know it will not be easy. Do it because you want to not just because of your kid.
I'm afraid it could be a long term relationship to be very frank with you. Men like other than just normal bedroom routine, so good exciting sex makes a relationship stronger. The only thing that could undermine that is if she was a ****.
First think if you really want that man back, and if you're sure, dump the guy you're seeing now, and then go and get your man back. Don't speak bad about his current girlfriend, that would be a mistake, just show him that you're better than her.
Maybe he just wanted ';a freak';! Sounds like he got what he wanted too. Just because she gets a bit more ';kinky'; in the bedroom, doesn't mean thier relationship won't last. The obvious is that he doesn't want you! If he did, he wouldn't have his slong in another womans openings! LoL...even if she is a fling, and you get back together...he will still cheat on you. Perhaps its time to wake up and smell the coffee. Move on with your life.
txjeepn, I am reporting you for being nasty.
If I was you, HBIC I would probably file a report against that girl and take that video and show it to her mother. I've been a snitch for a long time and I've gotten very good at it. You should get copies of that video, you never know when they may come in handy.
I don't think her behavior (solely based on those photos) means anything at this point. He could be serious about her, he might not be, it depends on the man. But considering you were married to him at one point, you'd know best.
As far as holding out hope goes, I wouldn't do that. I'm a realist and my thinking is, if he isn't showing any interest in me to indicate otherwise, it isnt there. So I'd forget about him and focus on my current relationship. And don't worry, you're the mother of his child and you aren't going anywhere so if it's meant to be, it'll be.
Nothing you described is dirty/nasty or indicative that she's not respectable.
You don't know much about sex and what men like/want, do you? Anal and oral are practiced my millions of respectable people all over the world...
If I were separated from my partner and they were in a new relationship I'd accept that they'd moved on.
Edit: Just because you wouldn't do it doesn't make a girl who would not respectable...
If I am in your shoes, I would probably observe how my ex husband is treating me. If I can still sense that he still have feelings for me even just a bit (romatically) I would consider the sexcapade video was just past time for him and I could still win him back. But if I sensed that he is not in to me anymore, I will let him go and move on. It'll be hard at first but I will not let anybody take away the respect I still have for myself and the love I have for my daughter.
Why may I ask were you going through his wallet ? If he is your Ex, that is out of bounds. How would you feel if he went through your purse ?
Maybe the reason you are separated is because there are also so many things you would not do with him ! It could also be that she does not know that he recorded her. The possibilities and probabilities can be numerous.
HBIC, I like you so I'm not going to be a sarcastic as I would like on this one but this may still sting a little so brace yourself.........
Sounds like somebody got some green eye goin on now doesn't it. It's seems a little funny that now you know how she puts it on him she gotta be all kinds of sleezy, ho'ish, not worthy of respect, or meeting his mom. Get a grip girl!
BTW. You two must be pretty cozy if you have access to his phone and wallet like that. I mean where was he when you got that? In the shower? After what? Act like you know girl. My bet is that you have a fair shot to put it on him like he likes it. If you really want him then do your thing. If you aren't willing to go that far then let the man go baby. It ain't for you and there's nothing wrong with that. You have a responsibility to yourself to DO YOU!
So you said you had a lot in common with him? As in you make these kind of videos and pictures like him? If so post them up lets take a look.
And what where you doing snooping in his wallet. Where was this video? In his wallet. How did you come in possession of this video?
This sounds like a total bunch of BS.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Relationship advice from psychic readers regarding if I am with the right woman.?
Any psychics out there who can help me? I've been a relationship with a married woman for a year. I have commited to her, but recently another woman has come into my life and tells me she loves me. I don't want to hurt anyone but if the married woman is the wrong one for me should I try something with the new woman? Any help/advice is gratefully received.Relationship advice from psychic readers regarding if I am with the right woman.?
If the married woman was right for you she wouldn't be married. You don't need a deceitful woman in your life. Give this other woman a chance. However, I still see someone else better suited for you further down the road.Relationship advice from psychic readers regarding if I am with the right woman.?
First psychics cannot give a reading over the internet. There is no personal connection there. They need to read you, not your computer. Anyone who says they can is not telling you the truth.
Second it sounds like you already know the answer to your own question. You may have committed to the married woman but it's obvious she has not committed to you, she's still married. The other woman may not be ';the one'; but at least it's a relationship that has a chance.
I wouldn't trust physics If i were you and anyone could tell you the answer to this. Stop whatever you have with the married woman, she's married and you should leave her alone and if she's cheating on her husband she doesn't seem like an honest caring person. I would say give this new girl a chance, she might be the right one she might not be but at least she's not married.
I don't have to be psychic to tell you that the relationship with the married one is a dead end street. Go for the new single one. You won't have the guilt and the hassle of the husband, and you can be the star of her show and not share the spotlight with another man.
first of all the married women is in a sacred union so leave that alone.
dont ask psychics turn to God in prayer i promise you those will be the answers worth while that will mean something. ill be praying for you aswell
prayer is a powerful thing
God Bless
Don't always believe psychics , they sometimes misinterpret stuff or are complete quacks.
Common sense should tell you - always pick the single woman over the married woman.
鈾?go with the new woman.
If the married woman was right for you she wouldn't be married. You don't need a deceitful woman in your life. Give this other woman a chance. However, I still see someone else better suited for you further down the road.Relationship advice from psychic readers regarding if I am with the right woman.?
First psychics cannot give a reading over the internet. There is no personal connection there. They need to read you, not your computer. Anyone who says they can is not telling you the truth.
Second it sounds like you already know the answer to your own question. You may have committed to the married woman but it's obvious she has not committed to you, she's still married. The other woman may not be ';the one'; but at least it's a relationship that has a chance.
I wouldn't trust physics If i were you and anyone could tell you the answer to this. Stop whatever you have with the married woman, she's married and you should leave her alone and if she's cheating on her husband she doesn't seem like an honest caring person. I would say give this new girl a chance, she might be the right one she might not be but at least she's not married.
I don't have to be psychic to tell you that the relationship with the married one is a dead end street. Go for the new single one. You won't have the guilt and the hassle of the husband, and you can be the star of her show and not share the spotlight with another man.
first of all the married women is in a sacred union so leave that alone.
dont ask psychics turn to God in prayer i promise you those will be the answers worth while that will mean something. ill be praying for you aswell
prayer is a powerful thing
God Bless
Don't always believe psychics , they sometimes misinterpret stuff or are complete quacks.
Common sense should tell you - always pick the single woman over the married woman.
鈾?go with the new woman.
I am an African American woman who experiences slight acne. I am trying to get rid of acne scars. Any advice?
I've tried cocoa butter, amni fade cream, and I am now using shea butter.I am an African American woman who experiences slight acne. I am trying to get rid of acne scars. Any advice?
lol. Its so funny im on the phone with you lol.... I think you should exfoliate with cornmeal and honey or use lemons on the darker scarred areas...Hope it works.I am an African American woman who experiences slight acne. I am trying to get rid of acne scars. Any advice?
Try Mederma. You can get it at any drugstore. It works better than Ambi for me.
good luck.eye shadow
lol. Its so funny im on the phone with you lol.... I think you should exfoliate with cornmeal and honey or use lemons on the darker scarred areas...Hope it works.I am an African American woman who experiences slight acne. I am trying to get rid of acne scars. Any advice?
Try Mederma. You can get it at any drugstore. It works better than Ambi for me.
good luck.
Calling all women! My 15 yr old daughter needs advice!?
ok Ladies, she won't fully listen to me cuz I'm mom. Her hot Jock boyfriend broke up with her. Why because he says he's so busy and her family is too strict? He's going to Fl and CA durring the summer...(betcha he wants his freedomn so he can chase all the pretty girls there....right)But he still keeps calling her and flirting with her. Please tell her that no matter how beautiful and sweet you are teen age boys and most men always want something new. It's not her!!!! He flirts and calls cuz he wants to keep her hanging on. AM I RIGHT?Calling all women! My 15 yr old daughter needs advice!?
Yes. If he cared about her he would not have broken up with her. He keeps calling to make sure she doesn't find a new interest, almost like he wants something to fall back on after he returns from having his fun. She needs to remember that he broke up with her and while she is miserable he is enjoying himself. She shouldn't answer his calls.Calling all women! My 15 yr old daughter needs advice!?
You're right Lola and besides she's too young to get caught up in someone who's making up excuses not to be with her.
She needs to forget about this boy and go out with her friends and have fun. There will be plenty of guys knocking at your door to date her when she's a little more mature to handle relationships. At the age of 15 she should be enjoying her childhood and focusing on school.
Of course he wants to keep her hanging on! He wants to go to FL and CA this summer and have his freedom to do whatever (and whoever) he wants. After the summer, he will come home and probably want to get back with her. In the meantime, he doesn't want her to see anybody else, so he is keeping her hanging on!! Tell her to be carefull!
U R right! He sounds like he's ne good. She doesn't need to be chained to a boy who's just gonna hurt her again. He broke up with her, tell her not to let him hang around. If he wanted to keep her, he would have. He's got issues. Find someone else for the summer, have fun and tie yourself down to one guy for a while agian... Just enjoy the free food and movies!!! hehehehe
BROKE UP means bye bye, tah tah, adios. When the caller ID says it is him, it's your phone and you do not have to pick it up. Besides, at 15, she has alot of living to do.
We all want to protect our children from pain, but as an experienced mom of three grown daughters,i learned that i could advise them, but couldnt make them do as i personally wished.they needed to make the choices for them selves..if their choices were god,then they and i were proud, but when the choices turn bad,it is a learnign experience we as moms cant personally show them....the need to go through some of the pains to learn something new...in order to not repeat..they will remember and follow another path the next time around.
Well i can tell you men want one thing and one thing only ,you just need to move on and find some one who will love you for who you are.
Yes. He is just keeping her on the back burner in case things don't work out with all his other girls this summer. The best thing for your daughter to do would be to just forget about him. It sounds like he is a jerk and full of himself, or else he has a self-esteem issue and needs to have somebody there for him even if he doesn't currently have a girlfriend. I hope your daughter listen's to you! %26gt;L
you are exactly right!...all guys in general want to know that no matter what they do they always have the ';one'; they know they can do whatever to...she is too young to be caught up in all of that drama...
you are a wise woman ;)
yeah your daughter is just at the age were every thing seems normal to her and no one can tell her otherwise. just let her learn on her own. she is going to get hurt but she has to learn. trust me when i was her age my mom would tell me the same thing and sooner or later i learned the hard way. so be very patient. ok take care and good luck.
Very true. I think your daughter just likes him so much she thinks he is telling her the truth but that is just not the case your right he wants his freedom and i betcha after the summer after he has his fun he will be looking to hook back up with your daughter!
Well, she probably won't listen to me either, but yes you're right.
If he was the one she was meant to be with he would be spending as much time with her before he left for vacation, and begging her to wait for him!
GIRL%26gt;%26gt; Quit taking his calls. Up your nose when you pass him in the halls. TOTALLY ignore him. You deserve better! Once you get passed him, some one better is waiting for you to be single so HE can treat you right!
Who knows what goes through the minds of teenage boys or girls for that matter. I would say that this guy is a tool and that she should find some other boy to spend time with. That will get him.
it's not her
i think you are right but she is using her heart and not her head. You want to believe the best in everyone especially your bf but it ends up being the wrong thing. She is probally going to have to find out the hard way as much as we love our kids they have to make thier own mistakes and make up thier own minds we can try to protect them but it's their choice in the end.
Most definite! Teen boys and men always want something they can't have. He is absolutely leading you on and will continue until you break it off. Mom is right and I know for a fact my children didn't believe me either until they were older. Honey trust mom, she has been there and has some knowledge on you. I am sorry you are going through this but move on.
i dont know u dick
once he leaves the state he will want the other girls, its a guy for ya. if she stays with him he will try to get her do something with him and at 15 thats not good [ believe me im a mom at 14]. he may call cause he has nothin else to do and flirt is all he knows how to do.
SO YOU'RE RIGHT, WHOOPIDY F.U.C.K.ING DO. NOW I BET YOU WENT UP IN HIS GRILL, AM I RIGHT?
What I would tell her is that at this age no guy is serious about anything. What she really needs to do is find some good girls to hang out with and keep strong on not allowing him to constantly call him.
You are soooo right, tell her to tell him that it is was great idea for him to want to break up,and say to him I have a busy summer planned as well and plenty of other people to hang out with.The ball will be in her court then and it will be like she broke up with him since he is still calling and flirting. Reversing a bad situation
Yes, you are right Mrs Lola.
YES! Find a way to scare him away... ^.^
It's a horrible thing for you to tell her ';most men always want something new.'; Do not put those thoughts in her head. Especially at 15. She is very impressionable.
Just be there for her and listen to her. Tell her she is better off without him.
he sounds like a real jerk anyway.
Just be careful with your words. You could scar her.
i'll give you a mans advice. tell her he is just using her for a booty call and he could care less about her, especially if he's leaving he's just trying to get all he can get before he's gone and then he'll be hitting on all the girls down there and wont even think about her when he's gone. yes mom, you are definately right !!
Okay MOM you been hurt a lil huh? If she is just talking and flirting I think that is okay. She can still talk on the phone and not be hanging on. I would definitely tell her not to put her life on hold though. And remember MOM sometimes we have to let our kids find things out for their self and be there for them when they do.
YES you are right....listen to mom, even they know the right answers.
Yes mom you are very right. She is 15 years old. She shouldn't be so emotionally involved with a guy. She has an entire future ahead of her and I guarantee her that she will find better guys when she gets older. Not only b/c he is a Jock doesn't mean that he is the ONE for her. And yes, most men do always want something new, and I suggest not to give them what they want, b/c at the end you are going to regret it. Don't ruin your life for a stupid boy that is playing you like play station two. You need to move on and look at the life ahead of you. And the best advice that you can ever get is from your MOM. By the looks of it she really cares about you and is worried that you might end up getting hurt and played. She is your best-friend and the one that will guide you through the right path. My mom is my best-friend and without her I'd be nothing. She is your guardian angel and thank God that you have a mom that at least cares about you. And blow off that Jock b/c I guarantee you that in Ca he has done that to you. Show that you are a better person. And mom, if your daughter is a hard head. Let her learn from her mistake. Be proud of yourself for even trying to prevent a heart break. Good Luck to both of you.
oh common.... its up t0 y0u!!!......ahuh...!!!!
You are right. Most guys (and girls, in fact) aren't interested in anyone but themselves and what they want. Some guys out there will acutally be mature and care about her, but clearly this looser isn't one of those guys. Frankly, highschool age guys generally are not worth it.
SO girl, listen to you mom. And remember that YOU are SPECIAL, and precious! and somewhere out there there is a guy for you. You don't have to have a bf all the time, and you are disrespecting yourself when you let guys take advantage of you. Clearly this dude just likes to have you (a pretty girl) like him...it appears to all be for his ego. Don't let him have that! Because you are WORTH so much MORE!
Yes. If he cared about her he would not have broken up with her. He keeps calling to make sure she doesn't find a new interest, almost like he wants something to fall back on after he returns from having his fun. She needs to remember that he broke up with her and while she is miserable he is enjoying himself. She shouldn't answer his calls.Calling all women! My 15 yr old daughter needs advice!?
You're right Lola and besides she's too young to get caught up in someone who's making up excuses not to be with her.
She needs to forget about this boy and go out with her friends and have fun. There will be plenty of guys knocking at your door to date her when she's a little more mature to handle relationships. At the age of 15 she should be enjoying her childhood and focusing on school.
Of course he wants to keep her hanging on! He wants to go to FL and CA this summer and have his freedom to do whatever (and whoever) he wants. After the summer, he will come home and probably want to get back with her. In the meantime, he doesn't want her to see anybody else, so he is keeping her hanging on!! Tell her to be carefull!
U R right! He sounds like he's ne good. She doesn't need to be chained to a boy who's just gonna hurt her again. He broke up with her, tell her not to let him hang around. If he wanted to keep her, he would have. He's got issues. Find someone else for the summer, have fun and tie yourself down to one guy for a while agian... Just enjoy the free food and movies!!! hehehehe
BROKE UP means bye bye, tah tah, adios. When the caller ID says it is him, it's your phone and you do not have to pick it up. Besides, at 15, she has alot of living to do.
We all want to protect our children from pain, but as an experienced mom of three grown daughters,i learned that i could advise them, but couldnt make them do as i personally wished.they needed to make the choices for them selves..if their choices were god,then they and i were proud, but when the choices turn bad,it is a learnign experience we as moms cant personally show them....the need to go through some of the pains to learn something new...in order to not repeat..they will remember and follow another path the next time around.
Well i can tell you men want one thing and one thing only ,you just need to move on and find some one who will love you for who you are.
Yes. He is just keeping her on the back burner in case things don't work out with all his other girls this summer. The best thing for your daughter to do would be to just forget about him. It sounds like he is a jerk and full of himself, or else he has a self-esteem issue and needs to have somebody there for him even if he doesn't currently have a girlfriend. I hope your daughter listen's to you! %26gt;L
you are exactly right!...all guys in general want to know that no matter what they do they always have the ';one'; they know they can do whatever to...she is too young to be caught up in all of that drama...
you are a wise woman ;)
yeah your daughter is just at the age were every thing seems normal to her and no one can tell her otherwise. just let her learn on her own. she is going to get hurt but she has to learn. trust me when i was her age my mom would tell me the same thing and sooner or later i learned the hard way. so be very patient. ok take care and good luck.
Very true. I think your daughter just likes him so much she thinks he is telling her the truth but that is just not the case your right he wants his freedom and i betcha after the summer after he has his fun he will be looking to hook back up with your daughter!
Well, she probably won't listen to me either, but yes you're right.
If he was the one she was meant to be with he would be spending as much time with her before he left for vacation, and begging her to wait for him!
GIRL%26gt;%26gt; Quit taking his calls. Up your nose when you pass him in the halls. TOTALLY ignore him. You deserve better! Once you get passed him, some one better is waiting for you to be single so HE can treat you right!
Who knows what goes through the minds of teenage boys or girls for that matter. I would say that this guy is a tool and that she should find some other boy to spend time with. That will get him.
it's not her
i think you are right but she is using her heart and not her head. You want to believe the best in everyone especially your bf but it ends up being the wrong thing. She is probally going to have to find out the hard way as much as we love our kids they have to make thier own mistakes and make up thier own minds we can try to protect them but it's their choice in the end.
Most definite! Teen boys and men always want something they can't have. He is absolutely leading you on and will continue until you break it off. Mom is right and I know for a fact my children didn't believe me either until they were older. Honey trust mom, she has been there and has some knowledge on you. I am sorry you are going through this but move on.
i dont know u dick
once he leaves the state he will want the other girls, its a guy for ya. if she stays with him he will try to get her do something with him and at 15 thats not good [ believe me im a mom at 14]. he may call cause he has nothin else to do and flirt is all he knows how to do.
SO YOU'RE RIGHT, WHOOPIDY F.U.C.K.ING DO. NOW I BET YOU WENT UP IN HIS GRILL, AM I RIGHT?
What I would tell her is that at this age no guy is serious about anything. What she really needs to do is find some good girls to hang out with and keep strong on not allowing him to constantly call him.
You are soooo right, tell her to tell him that it is was great idea for him to want to break up,and say to him I have a busy summer planned as well and plenty of other people to hang out with.The ball will be in her court then and it will be like she broke up with him since he is still calling and flirting. Reversing a bad situation
Yes, you are right Mrs Lola.
YES! Find a way to scare him away... ^.^
It's a horrible thing for you to tell her ';most men always want something new.'; Do not put those thoughts in her head. Especially at 15. She is very impressionable.
Just be there for her and listen to her. Tell her she is better off without him.
he sounds like a real jerk anyway.
Just be careful with your words. You could scar her.
i'll give you a mans advice. tell her he is just using her for a booty call and he could care less about her, especially if he's leaving he's just trying to get all he can get before he's gone and then he'll be hitting on all the girls down there and wont even think about her when he's gone. yes mom, you are definately right !!
Okay MOM you been hurt a lil huh? If she is just talking and flirting I think that is okay. She can still talk on the phone and not be hanging on. I would definitely tell her not to put her life on hold though. And remember MOM sometimes we have to let our kids find things out for their self and be there for them when they do.
YES you are right....listen to mom, even they know the right answers.
Yes mom you are very right. She is 15 years old. She shouldn't be so emotionally involved with a guy. She has an entire future ahead of her and I guarantee her that she will find better guys when she gets older. Not only b/c he is a Jock doesn't mean that he is the ONE for her. And yes, most men do always want something new, and I suggest not to give them what they want, b/c at the end you are going to regret it. Don't ruin your life for a stupid boy that is playing you like play station two. You need to move on and look at the life ahead of you. And the best advice that you can ever get is from your MOM. By the looks of it she really cares about you and is worried that you might end up getting hurt and played. She is your best-friend and the one that will guide you through the right path. My mom is my best-friend and without her I'd be nothing. She is your guardian angel and thank God that you have a mom that at least cares about you. And blow off that Jock b/c I guarantee you that in Ca he has done that to you. Show that you are a better person. And mom, if your daughter is a hard head. Let her learn from her mistake. Be proud of yourself for even trying to prevent a heart break. Good Luck to both of you.
oh common.... its up t0 y0u!!!......ahuh...!!!!
You are right. Most guys (and girls, in fact) aren't interested in anyone but themselves and what they want. Some guys out there will acutally be mature and care about her, but clearly this looser isn't one of those guys. Frankly, highschool age guys generally are not worth it.
SO girl, listen to you mom. And remember that YOU are SPECIAL, and precious! and somewhere out there there is a guy for you. You don't have to have a bf all the time, and you are disrespecting yourself when you let guys take advantage of you. Clearly this dude just likes to have you (a pretty girl) like him...it appears to all be for his ego. Don't let him have that! Because you are WORTH so much MORE!
Can any women from 22-26 yrs old give me some advice?
Hi, I'm 24; 25 n 1 month,last nite my friend introduced me (it was a set-up deal) 2 a friend of hers. we had a blast! we were w/ 4 other people. she kept tellin me how funny i was, how much she was enjoying my company %26amp; she asked if she could go 2 my car w/ me to smoke w/ me but we didn't, i was out of smokes. Anyway, she kept touchin my arm, hand, poking my chest, etc. very touchy-feely.anyways we have a lot in common.HOWEVER, she has a boyfriend she's getting ready to dump, she just moved out of his apartment. @ the end of the evening we exchanged numbers %26amp; she said ';Yeah! we no eachother enough now 2 exchange numbers!'; So we did, I gave her a hug goodbye %26amp; we all left the bar. I called my friend this morning %26amp; she told me that I might not wanna ask her out on a date 4 a while because of the boyfriend situation, AND the fact I'd miss out on how much fun she might actually b w/out the pretense of a ';date';. my question is how long should i wait to call? %26amp; should i call her at all?Can any women from 22-26 yrs old give me some advice?
She comes across as a two timer here. She playing you along. Ok she joked with you boosting your ego etc. Just because your hoping she dump the bf and you two get hitch. But I get the feeling reading this she do the same to you. I don't think you should call. Find someone who is free, not someone you have to wait to see if she will dump her ex.
She comes across as a two timer here. She playing you along. Ok she joked with you boosting your ego etc. Just because your hoping she dump the bf and you two get hitch. But I get the feeling reading this she do the same to you. I don't think you should call. Find someone who is free, not someone you have to wait to see if she will dump her ex.
I am satarting a new job in a hospital and I am heavy set woman and I am needing advice from you other nurses.?
PLEASE help me find a comfortable and affordable shoe to wear!!! I am DESPERATE and my feet hurt very easily!!! WHat do you recommend?I am satarting a new job in a hospital and I am heavy set woman and I am needing advice from you other nurses.?
http://www.footsmart.com/general-foot-lo鈥?/a>
Try Nursing shoes or
go to a specialty foot shoe storeI am satarting a new job in a hospital and I am heavy set woman and I am needing advice from you other nurses.?
Go to a specialty footwear shop. Expect to replace your shoes at least every few months. Do not wear flimsy shoes, such as $2 clogs from the grocery store. Although the good shoes will cost money, it will save you pain and stress on your body. You will be in a bad mood and very unproductive if your feet hurt.
http://www.footsmart.com/general-foot-lo鈥?/a>
Try Nursing shoes or
go to a specialty foot shoe storeI am satarting a new job in a hospital and I am heavy set woman and I am needing advice from you other nurses.?
Go to a specialty footwear shop. Expect to replace your shoes at least every few months. Do not wear flimsy shoes, such as $2 clogs from the grocery store. Although the good shoes will cost money, it will save you pain and stress on your body. You will be in a bad mood and very unproductive if your feet hurt.
Job advice for a middle aged Muslim woman?
Hello all,
I am 33 years of age , I have an IT background (M/S and Juniper) --but I have been away from this field for a year after giving birth to my child .
She is now being looked after by her Fathers Mother (we are divorced , he was a violent man) . I now want to get back on my feet and be financially independent . Can anyone recommend/ give advice on the best place to start?
Allah bless.Job advice for a middle aged Muslim woman?
I am sorry that you had to read those dumb comments. There are a plenty of ignorant and bigoted people in this section of Yahoo Answers who will never understand your faith and how it can affect your everyday life. Because you do not say which country you are in (and neither should you, if privacy is a concern perhaps) it is hard to know which resources to point you in the direction of. You are still young and have some specialised skills to build on to make a long career for yourself. So be positive :-)
Are there any government funded or charity employment agencies in your city you could approach to have your skills and employment credentials assessed? Some deal specifically with people who have been out of the workforce for some time, and make extra effort for them
Here in Australia some of the large charities run these types of agencies and they are Christian, but they should be very understanding of the anti-discrimination laws and should not be worried about your religion. Because it is against the employment laws to discriminate on the basis of religion.
But you should still confidently send your resume to every employment agency, particularly the ones that fill IT positions. Even if you can get a foot in the door with an administrative job in an IT company, it may lead to better things and help pay the bills for the time being.
Good luck with everything :-)
Edit-
Oh! And 33 is NOT middle-aged. Not unless you're going to die at 60. Women live much longer than that! You are young and in your prime. Get out there and be young and strong :-)Job advice for a middle aged Muslim woman?
If you are in the US/UK, the job market sucks for IT people. About the only thing you can do is apply for jobs like mad and develop some social networking contacts. See if there are professional groups in your area that you can join for free. You can also try doing volunteer work in the field - see if there are any local charities that need tech support, or maybe senior citizens homes or something like that. It will give you current experience for your resume and also maybe give you a chance to make some good contacts. At the very least you might be able to make some friends.
**** these people they are inconsiderate bastards!! If you have training in IT you could do what my boyfriend does, he set up a system in his home that transfers peoples old video's they love into cd format. The program costs about 50 bucks but after that you should see the profit come in, each transfer takes about an hour; charge them what you feel is right. It is easy simple and you can do this all by yourself.
Cassius: It's much like a divorced Christian man saying God is the reason. Which I know you adhere by and you have been divorced. So shut it!
If you have a really heavy accent,, You could do Hewlett Packard Tech support.
no i cant
I am 33 years of age , I have an IT background (M/S and Juniper) --but I have been away from this field for a year after giving birth to my child .
She is now being looked after by her Fathers Mother (we are divorced , he was a violent man) . I now want to get back on my feet and be financially independent . Can anyone recommend/ give advice on the best place to start?
Allah bless.Job advice for a middle aged Muslim woman?
I am sorry that you had to read those dumb comments. There are a plenty of ignorant and bigoted people in this section of Yahoo Answers who will never understand your faith and how it can affect your everyday life. Because you do not say which country you are in (and neither should you, if privacy is a concern perhaps) it is hard to know which resources to point you in the direction of. You are still young and have some specialised skills to build on to make a long career for yourself. So be positive :-)
Are there any government funded or charity employment agencies in your city you could approach to have your skills and employment credentials assessed? Some deal specifically with people who have been out of the workforce for some time, and make extra effort for them
Here in Australia some of the large charities run these types of agencies and they are Christian, but they should be very understanding of the anti-discrimination laws and should not be worried about your religion. Because it is against the employment laws to discriminate on the basis of religion.
But you should still confidently send your resume to every employment agency, particularly the ones that fill IT positions. Even if you can get a foot in the door with an administrative job in an IT company, it may lead to better things and help pay the bills for the time being.
Good luck with everything :-)
Edit-
Oh! And 33 is NOT middle-aged. Not unless you're going to die at 60. Women live much longer than that! You are young and in your prime. Get out there and be young and strong :-)Job advice for a middle aged Muslim woman?
If you are in the US/UK, the job market sucks for IT people. About the only thing you can do is apply for jobs like mad and develop some social networking contacts. See if there are professional groups in your area that you can join for free. You can also try doing volunteer work in the field - see if there are any local charities that need tech support, or maybe senior citizens homes or something like that. It will give you current experience for your resume and also maybe give you a chance to make some good contacts. At the very least you might be able to make some friends.
**** these people they are inconsiderate bastards!! If you have training in IT you could do what my boyfriend does, he set up a system in his home that transfers peoples old video's they love into cd format. The program costs about 50 bucks but after that you should see the profit come in, each transfer takes about an hour; charge them what you feel is right. It is easy simple and you can do this all by yourself.
Cassius: It's much like a divorced Christian man saying God is the reason. Which I know you adhere by and you have been divorced. So shut it!
If you have a really heavy accent,, You could do Hewlett Packard Tech support.
no i cant
Men&Women of God,need marriage advice badly. ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!?
Here is my situation: I have been married to my husband for 2 and a half years. Nothing has gone right at all in this time,my marriage has been rocky and terrible. He has been emotionally abusive and has what seems like personality disorders,though he hasn't officially been diagnosed with anything.Someone came along into my life and I am 99% sure that I am suppose to be with this person and is my soul mate. NOT the man I am married to. My husband is currently deployed and I am trying to make plans to start a new life that God wants me to have while he is gone(because if I did this while he is home I worry for my safety). I don't mean to cheat or anything like that,I seriously believe God is wanting me to go with this other person(whom is a man of God,unlike my husband). But I am going through a spiritual war with myself ,should I just ignore this whole thing and maybe face consequences for straying away from God's plan for me? Or..should I just leave it all behind and follow God's will no matter how much I don't understand why and it hurts? Can anyone offer advice at all or help in any way?
(Also we have no children together in case anyone is wondering.)Men%26amp;Women of God,need marriage advice badly. ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!?
follow your heart dear.
if you believe in god.. he will understand..
i don't..but i believe that he would want what is best for you.Men%26amp;Women of God,need marriage advice badly. ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!?
Pray.
Try and work it out.
That would be what is best for you.
God put you with your husband for a reason.
If the Lord leads you to separate from your husband (not divorce), then... do it.
However, you cannot enter into a new relationship.
That will still be adultery.
Be strong.
I will pray for you.
Divorce, then go for this new guy.
If God exists, and truly loved you, why would he/she/it/they want you to stay miserable in that kind of relationship?
You know what the answer is. But it doesn't matter does it, Ashley? You're going to do what you want anyway.
You still want my advice? My advice is listen to God.
No children, no commitment. Cheat on his ***. Nobody who is emotionally abusive deserves your consideration.
You sound like a great Christian. ..........
You have God and this other guy before your husband...
sounds good to me :)
Ashley, please read this... it is NOT God's plan for you to leave your husband for another man, no matter how godly that man is. A covenant is sacred to God. you made a covenant with your spouse and with God, a sacred vow that God doesn't want you to break, no matter how hard it is. (the one loophole jesus allows in the bible is of course him cheating on you.) God can heal your hurting marriage. i was in your boat just a year or two ago, and he SAVED my marriage out of the pit. i didn't think i could forgive my husband for the things he did, and my husband is still not a godly man and we have many differences to say the least. if He can do it for me, He can do it for you. do you truly believe in romans 8:28? ALL things work together for good to those who are called according to HIS purpose. he has a plan for your marriage, maybe to save your husband.
here's an extremely helpful ministry for broken or dead marriages. all it takes is one person to stand. www.rejoiceministries.org. and if you go to charlyne.org, it's the same lady (who had her marriage restored), and she writes daily devotionals for people in hurting marriages, like you. please sign up for them, and God will bless you through the scriptures she gives each day.
THE BIBLE SAYS NO DIVORCE UNLESS CHEATING OR BEATING GOD WANT YOU TO PRAY FOR HIM STOP WORRYING ABOUT THAT OTHER MAN THAT IS LUSTING ..,WORRY ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE,, YOU SHOULD OF MARRIED THE OTHER GUY BUT YOU NEED YOU SOME PRAYING OIL AND TAKE IT TO YOU CHURCH AND HAVE IT OUT WHEN CHURCH IS GOING THEN ANNOINT YOUR HUSBANDS PILLOWS AND CLOTHES AND PRAY FOR GOD TO TO CHANGE HIS HEART AND WATCH GOD WORK AND WHEN GOD DOES IT DONT WORRYT ABOUT THE OTHER GUY CUZ YOU WILL BE IN THE WRONG, DONT DIVORCE WHATEVER YOU DO. WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS IN OUR MARRIAGE AND THAT DONT MEAN GET UP AND RUN TO ANOTHER CUZ YOU WILL BE RUNNING FOR YOUR LIFE// GET IN YOUR BIBLE AND READ AND LET YOUR HUSBAND SEE YOU CONSECRATING AND HE WILL CHANGE
If you are worried for your safetythen leaving and divorcing might make things worse. Just remember he's trained to respond to any threat with violence.
Try talking with a counsellor at the camp itself, they must have a lot of wives and girlfriends that stray whilst their man is away.
I guess you thought you really loved your husband when you married him only 30 months ago, just be sure you don't have the same shallow feelings for the new man in your life, him being another believer is not a good enough reason on it's own.
God and the universe help those who help themselves. It sounds like you intuitively understand that you have to take care of yourself and your own safety and sanity right now. Whatever you decide to do with the other person, the most important thing is to get out of the situation with your abusive partner. I was in a similar situation and felt that there was no way out, but found my way. You have a support system. Use it and get yourself into a good place away from your abuser. Then you'll be able to see more clearly if you beling with this other man or not. Best of luck, sister. You are brave and carry a light in you that deserves to be treasured, not squandered.
FIrst....be a women about it and call off your marriage with you husband face to face, not while he is out fighting for your freedom. Thats a pretty low thing to do, no matter how abusive the man is, he deserves that much from you.
If you feel this other man is sent from GOD and he is a follower of god then he will not mind sitting back and waiting for you until you and your husband are divorced.
A women should be so lost in god,
that the man will have to go thru him in order to get to her.
Good luck what eveer you decide to do [smiles]
Wow,
I really don't know what to say
Sell your house?
Buy a farm?
Live by the land, and God will keep you in His dwelling no matter your choice
God is there no matter which man you choose to be with
Be married to God, and He will treat you as you need to be treated
Us mortal men, are sinners just as much as the next
So, release yourself of all trouble and dilemma and God will show you the answer
God will show you the answer
you can answer your own question by asking His Majesty instead of us
If you were a Christian before you married this man, I know you got a warning in your spirit about this marriage. If you married him anyway, well, like so many of us, you need to ask God to change him and yourself to live in peace with each other.
Part of the problem is, (in my opinion) you have now been TEMPTED to end your marriage and God hates divorce. Moses gave a way of escape for those who committed adultery, but divorce was never God's plan.
If you are willing, and it seems you are not, but you both have been unfaithful, why not go to a good, real Christian counselor to help you, help yourself and your husband through this?
You say you are 99% sure you are supposed to be with this new guy and you say you seriously believe God is wanting you to go with this other person, I doubt seriously that God, the Creator of, marriage wants you to end the marriage (even though it may have been a mistake), and be married to another.
The spiritual warefare you are in is real, and its' God's Spirit convicting, not condeming you to do what's right and you know what that is already.
If you do what you are lead by God to do, He has a way of REWARDING OBEDIENCE. Your husband has been deployed, he probably is suffering emotionally in that situation and is confused and hurting.
If you decide to stick it out by prayer and a change in your attitude, he, your husband may and probably will also change. Remember, the Word says, and I'm paraphrasing, an unbelieving husband (or wife) will be changed by his Christian's wife's lifestyle.
I hope and pray for God's will to be done in this situation, I'm prayer for you both.
It seems like you've already made up your mind, but I'll give my advice anyway. First, read the verses below. Second, if this other guy is such a strong believer, why would he be willing to get involved with a married woman? Third, I know deployments can be tough on a marriage (my husband's deployed right now also), but you made a commitment to him before God, and you need to take it very seriously.
And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife...But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? 1 Corinthians 7:13-16a
You need to work out your marriage with your husband. At least try. If it comes to the point where the emotional abuse is overwhelming and his personality disorder is directly harming you to the point where you two can't live or work with each other, I'd Biblically study divorce.
I don't really like the idea of divorce, but you're truly caught between a rock and a hard place.
Furthermore, this man could very well be a temptation to cheat on your husband. I would definitely not look into getting more involved with said man until you (if you decide to) divorce your husband. Satan knows what's happening to you. He knows your marriage is crumbling and he wants nothing more than to make you weak so that he can destroy you and your marriage.
Here's what I suggest:
*Try your hardest to reconcile with your husband. Counseling, talking it out, frequent outtings with each other...the works. See if you can get this personality disorder diagnosed because it'll be safer for the both of you...emotionally and physically.
*Read what God has to say about divorce. Make your decisions accordingly.
*After getting a divorce, if you so choose, don't jump into a serious relationship with this other man. You need time to cool off and get stronger with God and get your life together before you fling yourself into the arms of a man who (possibly) only looks good as of now because of the predicament you find yourself in. Get to know him as a friend first and take things slowly. The grass is always seems greener on the other side.
*Make sure this man is a Christian and truly follows God. You do not want to marry someone unequally yoked again.
MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!!!: Stay strong in God's Word and become closer to Him. Only then will you find peace with yourself, your marriage, your husband, and this other man.
God bless :D I hope everything works out for you...and as long as you put God first and not your flesh...it will.
(Also we have no children together in case anyone is wondering.)Men%26amp;Women of God,need marriage advice badly. ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!?
follow your heart dear.
if you believe in god.. he will understand..
i don't..but i believe that he would want what is best for you.Men%26amp;Women of God,need marriage advice badly. ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!?
Pray.
Try and work it out.
That would be what is best for you.
God put you with your husband for a reason.
If the Lord leads you to separate from your husband (not divorce), then... do it.
However, you cannot enter into a new relationship.
That will still be adultery.
Be strong.
I will pray for you.
Divorce, then go for this new guy.
If God exists, and truly loved you, why would he/she/it/they want you to stay miserable in that kind of relationship?
You know what the answer is. But it doesn't matter does it, Ashley? You're going to do what you want anyway.
You still want my advice? My advice is listen to God.
No children, no commitment. Cheat on his ***. Nobody who is emotionally abusive deserves your consideration.
You sound like a great Christian. ..........
You have God and this other guy before your husband...
sounds good to me :)
Ashley, please read this... it is NOT God's plan for you to leave your husband for another man, no matter how godly that man is. A covenant is sacred to God. you made a covenant with your spouse and with God, a sacred vow that God doesn't want you to break, no matter how hard it is. (the one loophole jesus allows in the bible is of course him cheating on you.) God can heal your hurting marriage. i was in your boat just a year or two ago, and he SAVED my marriage out of the pit. i didn't think i could forgive my husband for the things he did, and my husband is still not a godly man and we have many differences to say the least. if He can do it for me, He can do it for you. do you truly believe in romans 8:28? ALL things work together for good to those who are called according to HIS purpose. he has a plan for your marriage, maybe to save your husband.
here's an extremely helpful ministry for broken or dead marriages. all it takes is one person to stand. www.rejoiceministries.org. and if you go to charlyne.org, it's the same lady (who had her marriage restored), and she writes daily devotionals for people in hurting marriages, like you. please sign up for them, and God will bless you through the scriptures she gives each day.
THE BIBLE SAYS NO DIVORCE UNLESS CHEATING OR BEATING GOD WANT YOU TO PRAY FOR HIM STOP WORRYING ABOUT THAT OTHER MAN THAT IS LUSTING ..,WORRY ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE,, YOU SHOULD OF MARRIED THE OTHER GUY BUT YOU NEED YOU SOME PRAYING OIL AND TAKE IT TO YOU CHURCH AND HAVE IT OUT WHEN CHURCH IS GOING THEN ANNOINT YOUR HUSBANDS PILLOWS AND CLOTHES AND PRAY FOR GOD TO TO CHANGE HIS HEART AND WATCH GOD WORK AND WHEN GOD DOES IT DONT WORRYT ABOUT THE OTHER GUY CUZ YOU WILL BE IN THE WRONG, DONT DIVORCE WHATEVER YOU DO. WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS IN OUR MARRIAGE AND THAT DONT MEAN GET UP AND RUN TO ANOTHER CUZ YOU WILL BE RUNNING FOR YOUR LIFE// GET IN YOUR BIBLE AND READ AND LET YOUR HUSBAND SEE YOU CONSECRATING AND HE WILL CHANGE
If you are worried for your safetythen leaving and divorcing might make things worse. Just remember he's trained to respond to any threat with violence.
Try talking with a counsellor at the camp itself, they must have a lot of wives and girlfriends that stray whilst their man is away.
I guess you thought you really loved your husband when you married him only 30 months ago, just be sure you don't have the same shallow feelings for the new man in your life, him being another believer is not a good enough reason on it's own.
God and the universe help those who help themselves. It sounds like you intuitively understand that you have to take care of yourself and your own safety and sanity right now. Whatever you decide to do with the other person, the most important thing is to get out of the situation with your abusive partner. I was in a similar situation and felt that there was no way out, but found my way. You have a support system. Use it and get yourself into a good place away from your abuser. Then you'll be able to see more clearly if you beling with this other man or not. Best of luck, sister. You are brave and carry a light in you that deserves to be treasured, not squandered.
FIrst....be a women about it and call off your marriage with you husband face to face, not while he is out fighting for your freedom. Thats a pretty low thing to do, no matter how abusive the man is, he deserves that much from you.
If you feel this other man is sent from GOD and he is a follower of god then he will not mind sitting back and waiting for you until you and your husband are divorced.
A women should be so lost in god,
that the man will have to go thru him in order to get to her.
Good luck what eveer you decide to do [smiles]
Wow,
I really don't know what to say
Sell your house?
Buy a farm?
Live by the land, and God will keep you in His dwelling no matter your choice
God is there no matter which man you choose to be with
Be married to God, and He will treat you as you need to be treated
Us mortal men, are sinners just as much as the next
So, release yourself of all trouble and dilemma and God will show you the answer
God will show you the answer
you can answer your own question by asking His Majesty instead of us
If you were a Christian before you married this man, I know you got a warning in your spirit about this marriage. If you married him anyway, well, like so many of us, you need to ask God to change him and yourself to live in peace with each other.
Part of the problem is, (in my opinion) you have now been TEMPTED to end your marriage and God hates divorce. Moses gave a way of escape for those who committed adultery, but divorce was never God's plan.
If you are willing, and it seems you are not, but you both have been unfaithful, why not go to a good, real Christian counselor to help you, help yourself and your husband through this?
You say you are 99% sure you are supposed to be with this new guy and you say you seriously believe God is wanting you to go with this other person, I doubt seriously that God, the Creator of, marriage wants you to end the marriage (even though it may have been a mistake), and be married to another.
The spiritual warefare you are in is real, and its' God's Spirit convicting, not condeming you to do what's right and you know what that is already.
If you do what you are lead by God to do, He has a way of REWARDING OBEDIENCE. Your husband has been deployed, he probably is suffering emotionally in that situation and is confused and hurting.
If you decide to stick it out by prayer and a change in your attitude, he, your husband may and probably will also change. Remember, the Word says, and I'm paraphrasing, an unbelieving husband (or wife) will be changed by his Christian's wife's lifestyle.
I hope and pray for God's will to be done in this situation, I'm prayer for you both.
It seems like you've already made up your mind, but I'll give my advice anyway. First, read the verses below. Second, if this other guy is such a strong believer, why would he be willing to get involved with a married woman? Third, I know deployments can be tough on a marriage (my husband's deployed right now also), but you made a commitment to him before God, and you need to take it very seriously.
And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife...But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? 1 Corinthians 7:13-16a
You need to work out your marriage with your husband. At least try. If it comes to the point where the emotional abuse is overwhelming and his personality disorder is directly harming you to the point where you two can't live or work with each other, I'd Biblically study divorce.
I don't really like the idea of divorce, but you're truly caught between a rock and a hard place.
Furthermore, this man could very well be a temptation to cheat on your husband. I would definitely not look into getting more involved with said man until you (if you decide to) divorce your husband. Satan knows what's happening to you. He knows your marriage is crumbling and he wants nothing more than to make you weak so that he can destroy you and your marriage.
Here's what I suggest:
*Try your hardest to reconcile with your husband. Counseling, talking it out, frequent outtings with each other...the works. See if you can get this personality disorder diagnosed because it'll be safer for the both of you...emotionally and physically.
*Read what God has to say about divorce. Make your decisions accordingly.
*After getting a divorce, if you so choose, don't jump into a serious relationship with this other man. You need time to cool off and get stronger with God and get your life together before you fling yourself into the arms of a man who (possibly) only looks good as of now because of the predicament you find yourself in. Get to know him as a friend first and take things slowly. The grass is always seems greener on the other side.
*Make sure this man is a Christian and truly follows God. You do not want to marry someone unequally yoked again.
MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!!!: Stay strong in God's Word and become closer to Him. Only then will you find peace with yourself, your marriage, your husband, and this other man.
God bless :D I hope everything works out for you...and as long as you put God first and not your flesh...it will.
Other women drama can anyone give advice?
ok well when i met my hubbie he didnt know he had this other girl prego, so by the time i moved in with him is when he had barely found out and did not want to tell me then i found out by myself when the thing was that then i got pregnat it was such a depressing time for me since her baby is only 4 months older than my baby but now i am over it. i admit it gets me emotional but he has proved to me he wants to be with me because he loves me now the only problem is that she wont let him see her baby and i talked to her and she keeps saying no until the court day for child support comes out which is all the way until october and it hurts my husband but she wont even talk to him or anything and i seriously feel its my fault because i know even though she says no that she loves him and i feel that if i would have never showed up they probably would be a happy family and he would not be sad he didnt get to be with his other baby and she would not hold anything against himOther women drama can anyone give advice?
wow drama is right.
you coming into the picture didn't change anything- weren't they separated when you and your hubbie met? regardless he's with you right now.
the other woman is likely going through her won issue- don't take them on as your's. wait until the court date and do things by the books- its you husbands best chance to get visitation rights and be able to build a relationship with this child.
but it sounds like the two of you are depressed. you need to work through this together and really make efforts to support each other- both of you- this isn't your job to make everything fine and happy for him, just to support and understand why this is hard for him, but he needs to realize and be compassionate about why this is hard for you too. this isn't what you bargined for when you go t married.
i'm sorry its hard- but if you two can treat this other woman compassionately and do what you can to build trust with her family relations will be much much easier...Other women drama can anyone give advice?
Oh, Hun, Its not your fault. You didnt even know! Hope everything works out.philosophy
wow drama is right.
you coming into the picture didn't change anything- weren't they separated when you and your hubbie met? regardless he's with you right now.
the other woman is likely going through her won issue- don't take them on as your's. wait until the court date and do things by the books- its you husbands best chance to get visitation rights and be able to build a relationship with this child.
but it sounds like the two of you are depressed. you need to work through this together and really make efforts to support each other- both of you- this isn't your job to make everything fine and happy for him, just to support and understand why this is hard for him, but he needs to realize and be compassionate about why this is hard for you too. this isn't what you bargined for when you go t married.
i'm sorry its hard- but if you two can treat this other woman compassionately and do what you can to build trust with her family relations will be much much easier...Other women drama can anyone give advice?
Oh, Hun, Its not your fault. You didnt even know! Hope everything works out.
Professional Women (or anyone) I need advice?
I shared an office with this woman for about a year and we became good friends at work, but not really outside of work. Our husbands also became friendly because they met each other through work events.
She left the company about two years ago and was later invited to sit on the board of directors. She accepted so I continued to see her now and then. We have remained ';work'; friends.
She and her husband see my husband through his job often. I recently left the company and when she saw my husband she asked for our home number so she could call me. She is a really great person and I respect her and like her allot. She invited me to lunch at her home and I accepted. We had a great time and talked for hours. She made quiche, it was delicious. Her house was immaculate, but ';lived in';.
Ok, here's my problem - I want to reciprocate but my house it not nearly as nice and I can't cook to save my life.
She is in her late 30's and I am 40 she has two children one in school and her 3 year old son that is at home with her during the day. She is currently a director at one company and works two days a week there, she also volunteers at our past company as a director and they meet two times a month.
i really want to continue this friendship outside of work. Our families get along so well. How can I reciprocate in an appropriate way?????
Professional Women (or anyone) I need advice?
if u really like by ur heart u invite her at ur house its big or small doesnt matter but the love, affection and respect u have and show her at during her visit is important. if u dont know to cook call some of ur relative or other person to cook Professional Women (or anyone) I need advice?
I would just get something from the box, can you cook box meals? Like pasta roni? rice a roni? and some canned veggies, heat em up over the stove? Just clean up your house a bit, do the best you can, and invite her over with warning about your cooking and house (she will probably insist you are too modest) If you really want to challenge yourself, invite her whole family or just her and her husband. Also, if you really don't think you can cook, you can always get those giant frozen lasangyas or enchilada, made by a good brand like stoffors or a brand name. Just throw it in the oven for the time and heat it says and voila! simple, try a practice dinner if you're not sure. Doesn't have to be fancy. Good luck!
She left the company about two years ago and was later invited to sit on the board of directors. She accepted so I continued to see her now and then. We have remained ';work'; friends.
She and her husband see my husband through his job often. I recently left the company and when she saw my husband she asked for our home number so she could call me. She is a really great person and I respect her and like her allot. She invited me to lunch at her home and I accepted. We had a great time and talked for hours. She made quiche, it was delicious. Her house was immaculate, but ';lived in';.
Ok, here's my problem - I want to reciprocate but my house it not nearly as nice and I can't cook to save my life.
She is in her late 30's and I am 40 she has two children one in school and her 3 year old son that is at home with her during the day. She is currently a director at one company and works two days a week there, she also volunteers at our past company as a director and they meet two times a month.
i really want to continue this friendship outside of work. Our families get along so well. How can I reciprocate in an appropriate way?????
Professional Women (or anyone) I need advice?
if u really like by ur heart u invite her at ur house its big or small doesnt matter but the love, affection and respect u have and show her at during her visit is important. if u dont know to cook call some of ur relative or other person to cook Professional Women (or anyone) I need advice?
I would just get something from the box, can you cook box meals? Like pasta roni? rice a roni? and some canned veggies, heat em up over the stove? Just clean up your house a bit, do the best you can, and invite her over with warning about your cooking and house (she will probably insist you are too modest) If you really want to challenge yourself, invite her whole family or just her and her husband. Also, if you really don't think you can cook, you can always get those giant frozen lasangyas or enchilada, made by a good brand like stoffors or a brand name. Just throw it in the oven for the time and heat it says and voila! simple, try a practice dinner if you're not sure. Doesn't have to be fancy. Good luck!
Any women out there have any advice or comments?
My now ex who I had been with for five years got involved with a much younger girl shortly after he ended things with me. I'm 40,he's 50 and she's only 23. She's a bartender at a bar he goes to and I also worked there until this happened. It really killed my self-esteem and I was heart broken over the breakup to begin with. I don't know if he's going through a mid-life crisis. He does have a drinking problem also. He has recently contacted me after 3 months but I don't know what I should do. I love him but he said he can't promise it won't happen again. I told him if it's still going on I don't want anything to do with him, but I don't know if I can back it up when I still love him and he knows he is my weakness.Any women out there have any advice or comments?
Honey, you have to back it up!
If he says that he can't promise it won't happen again he isn't worth it. And a man with a drinking problem, well...he shouldn't be worth ruining your self esteem!Any women out there have any advice or comments?
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Honey, you have to back it up!
If he says that he can't promise it won't happen again he isn't worth it. And a man with a drinking problem, well...he shouldn't be worth ruining your self esteem!Any women out there have any advice or comments?
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Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Which hairstyle do you think is the hottest on a teenage asian guy. Im giving u a lot of pics so just tell me which video or what time in the video the guy appears that u think's hairstyle is hottest.
#1
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DAVnlxQZ0m0%26amp;feature=related
#2
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eLjFAcF7p3c
#3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
I like almost all of the hairstyles in the first video (like ermm... the guy at around 1:40 and the guy at around 2:05-ish). I don't really like any of the hairstyles in the second video. The guy in the 3rd video is cute! haha.. His hair's nice.
As for what looks good on asian guys, they all look different. And, if you're basing our decision, on what haircut YOU want, you would have to post a pic of YOU. lol. Because then we can see your face, your features, and just what hairstyle would suit you overall.
good luck!Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Video 1:
9 seconds
49 seconds
1:43
2:04
2:07
3:38
Video 2
None
Video 3
I like his hair but maybe slightly shorter, he is pretty funny too.(this would be my pick out of all of them)
#1
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DAVnlxQZ0m0%26amp;feature=related
#2
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eLjFAcF7p3c
#3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
I like almost all of the hairstyles in the first video (like ermm... the guy at around 1:40 and the guy at around 2:05-ish). I don't really like any of the hairstyles in the second video. The guy in the 3rd video is cute! haha.. His hair's nice.
As for what looks good on asian guys, they all look different. And, if you're basing our decision, on what haircut YOU want, you would have to post a pic of YOU. lol. Because then we can see your face, your features, and just what hairstyle would suit you overall.
good luck!Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Video 1:
9 seconds
49 seconds
1:43
2:04
2:07
3:38
Video 2
None
Video 3
I like his hair but maybe slightly shorter, he is pretty funny too.(this would be my pick out of all of them)
Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Which hairstyle do you think is the hottest on a teenage asian guy. Im giving u a lot of pics so just tell me which video or what time in the video the guy appears that u think's hairstyle is hottest.
#1
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DAVnlxQZ0m0%26amp;feature=related
#2
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eLjFAcF7p3c
#3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Well the whole anime-ish 1 and 2 way are pretty cool.
The last one, is not very orginal its the typcal skater emo person cut.
I say get either a mix of the 1 and the 2.
=) hoppe i helped..Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Go with dreadlocks. (-;
#1
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DAVnlxQZ0m0%26amp;feature=related
#2
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eLjFAcF7p3c
#3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Well the whole anime-ish 1 and 2 way are pretty cool.
The last one, is not very orginal its the typcal skater emo person cut.
I say get either a mix of the 1 and the 2.
=) hoppe i helped..Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Go with dreadlocks. (-;
What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce?
This is for everyone who has been through a divorce.
I am going to court to file for divorce this week.I need all the help and advice i can get.Thanks.What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce?
Be firm but fair, especially if there are children. Expect the worst from him but hope for the best. Don't beat yourself up. He who is without sin....Get into counseling or self help books or anything that will help you discover what happened, how much of it was your responsibility and learn your lesson of how to not repeat the same mistake again. Do not be desperate for another relationship. Take time to chill with yourself. Learn about yourself and learn to love yourself, which is hard to do when you go thru this sort of thing. Don't give up on the idea of marriage and love. Cry, if you need to. If you just want to. When you are dividing things up, ask yourself what things are really worth the energy fighting about. Most things are not. Most of the things you will fight about are replaceable. Children are not. Never give up the fight for your kids if you think you are the best choice for them. And never use the kids as weapons. Your kids will know and it will come back to bite you later. Hang in there. Unfortunately, you don't really know who you married until you divorce them.What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce?
Before you go make sure it over as he might make you feel bad and try to change your mind%26gt;See a attorney if there are children%26gt; Property%26gt; And if it's going to be contested%26gt; Take a friend for support%26gt; Good luck almost single again%26gt; What a fresh breath of air%26gt;S%26amp;H
Get EVERYTHING! And never let anyone tell you that if you live in a 50-50 state that you can't do that. I'm living proof that you can.
Walk away with no regrets. You do not want to be 5 years down the road thinking'; I just wish we had tried this,or said this'; Take time for yourself. Do not rush into another relationship, no matter how bad you may want to. You need time for you, to make you happy. That is the only way you will ever be able to find happiness. And give yourself time to grieve. No matter if you feel relieved or whatever, this is still a loss and you need to treat it as such. Do not push it away like it is no big deal. Let yourself feel whatever it is you need to feel. Then you can learn from it all and move on.
Go to the court house and file the papers yourself , and prevent any more liquidation of your life. The judge will make the decisions and the lawyers bill wont be a factor afterwords.
You can file all the papers yourself at your county clerk of court.
Separation (to stop money liabilities) Divorce, It may cost a fee , but there wont be a lawyer bill tacked on.
Believe it or not it's simple. Although some make more complicated on themselves and both end up getting less.
The courts don't care, just pay the fee(s).
The judge is not going to keep a marriage together if 1 dose not want to be there.
Being on the other side , the husband seeking a divorce. Remember you are not alone. Many people travel this journey every day. Be careful of those that may take advantage of your vulnerability. Being informed and taking time to make your decisions that are right for you is all that matters at this time. Trust your gut feelings 99% of the time they'll be right on. Good luck.
P.S.
Divorce is painful and you will get through it
I hope you didn't get divorced because he was cheating. I'm alive 45 years and I have never met a man that doesn't cheat and the next guy you meet will cheat on you too or worse. My adivce. NEVER EVER NEVER EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN!!!
Be fair. Which may be very hard to do, if you've been badly hurt. Or..you want revenge.
Keep focused on what it is you truly want. Out of the marriage.
It is an extremely emotional ordeal, but please, dont let your emotions get the better of you.
If you can, treat it almost as a business transaction...where you keep a level head.
Things can be said and done, which can totally complicate everything, and drag it on longer than necessary.
Its not about 'what you can get...or get everything'. Its about what you want to walk away with....emotionally.
A divorce can become, worse than the actual marriage, or the situation that brought you to seek a divorce, if you dont keep focused.
Dont lose yourself in the fight for material goods.
And dont let it overwhelm your life. It may be and end to something...but it is also a beginning. Good luck hun.
Take a long look at your part of the marital problems and make certain you've done everything in your power to make it work. That way, you can do this with no regrets or guilt.
be strong, love yourself and FOLLOW THRU! there must be a good reason 4 this; good luck and luv, andra
Your on the way for celebration. Stand still and smile.And don't forget your saving $ %26amp;your own stuffs.
Make sure you are doing it for yourself and not for all the wrong reasons. Take time to sit back and think it through..and whether you can salvage what you once had. If you can't, then make sure you have your ducks in a row. Make sure you have a place to stay if necessary. That you can pay your own bills...and support yourself.
Don't go for everything, its greedy and you will start to regret it when karma comes calling later on...and believe me, it will.. Women complain about why men are so against marriage, this is why. They know that they have a great chance of losing everything that they worked hard to acquire.
Once you have made your decision, keep moving forward.
If there was abuse (of any kind) in your marriage, it is over. It does not get better.
I did my own divorce, after 27 years of marriage. My kids were grown, but the youngest was 15, at the time. We had nothing, so nothing from nothing leaves nothing! He never showed up in court (typical... I did it all by myself!), and you can too. Are you doing it yourself (hope you don't have to have a lawyer, more money down the drain).
It's pretty simple unless you have to get involved with child support and division of property, then you could probably get some legal advice. I'm just stabbing in the dark now, because I don't know what your situation is. So, all I can say is hang in there and have a better life.
I am going to court to file for divorce this week.I need all the help and advice i can get.Thanks.What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce?
Be firm but fair, especially if there are children. Expect the worst from him but hope for the best. Don't beat yourself up. He who is without sin....Get into counseling or self help books or anything that will help you discover what happened, how much of it was your responsibility and learn your lesson of how to not repeat the same mistake again. Do not be desperate for another relationship. Take time to chill with yourself. Learn about yourself and learn to love yourself, which is hard to do when you go thru this sort of thing. Don't give up on the idea of marriage and love. Cry, if you need to. If you just want to. When you are dividing things up, ask yourself what things are really worth the energy fighting about. Most things are not. Most of the things you will fight about are replaceable. Children are not. Never give up the fight for your kids if you think you are the best choice for them. And never use the kids as weapons. Your kids will know and it will come back to bite you later. Hang in there. Unfortunately, you don't really know who you married until you divorce them.What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce?
Before you go make sure it over as he might make you feel bad and try to change your mind%26gt;See a attorney if there are children%26gt; Property%26gt; And if it's going to be contested%26gt; Take a friend for support%26gt; Good luck almost single again%26gt; What a fresh breath of air%26gt;S%26amp;H
Get EVERYTHING! And never let anyone tell you that if you live in a 50-50 state that you can't do that. I'm living proof that you can.
Walk away with no regrets. You do not want to be 5 years down the road thinking'; I just wish we had tried this,or said this'; Take time for yourself. Do not rush into another relationship, no matter how bad you may want to. You need time for you, to make you happy. That is the only way you will ever be able to find happiness. And give yourself time to grieve. No matter if you feel relieved or whatever, this is still a loss and you need to treat it as such. Do not push it away like it is no big deal. Let yourself feel whatever it is you need to feel. Then you can learn from it all and move on.
Go to the court house and file the papers yourself , and prevent any more liquidation of your life. The judge will make the decisions and the lawyers bill wont be a factor afterwords.
You can file all the papers yourself at your county clerk of court.
Separation (to stop money liabilities) Divorce, It may cost a fee , but there wont be a lawyer bill tacked on.
Believe it or not it's simple. Although some make more complicated on themselves and both end up getting less.
The courts don't care, just pay the fee(s).
The judge is not going to keep a marriage together if 1 dose not want to be there.
Being on the other side , the husband seeking a divorce. Remember you are not alone. Many people travel this journey every day. Be careful of those that may take advantage of your vulnerability. Being informed and taking time to make your decisions that are right for you is all that matters at this time. Trust your gut feelings 99% of the time they'll be right on. Good luck.
P.S.
Divorce is painful and you will get through it
I hope you didn't get divorced because he was cheating. I'm alive 45 years and I have never met a man that doesn't cheat and the next guy you meet will cheat on you too or worse. My adivce. NEVER EVER NEVER EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN!!!
Be fair. Which may be very hard to do, if you've been badly hurt. Or..you want revenge.
Keep focused on what it is you truly want. Out of the marriage.
It is an extremely emotional ordeal, but please, dont let your emotions get the better of you.
If you can, treat it almost as a business transaction...where you keep a level head.
Things can be said and done, which can totally complicate everything, and drag it on longer than necessary.
Its not about 'what you can get...or get everything'. Its about what you want to walk away with....emotionally.
A divorce can become, worse than the actual marriage, or the situation that brought you to seek a divorce, if you dont keep focused.
Dont lose yourself in the fight for material goods.
And dont let it overwhelm your life. It may be and end to something...but it is also a beginning. Good luck hun.
Take a long look at your part of the marital problems and make certain you've done everything in your power to make it work. That way, you can do this with no regrets or guilt.
be strong, love yourself and FOLLOW THRU! there must be a good reason 4 this; good luck and luv, andra
Your on the way for celebration. Stand still and smile.And don't forget your saving $ %26amp;your own stuffs.
Make sure you are doing it for yourself and not for all the wrong reasons. Take time to sit back and think it through..and whether you can salvage what you once had. If you can't, then make sure you have your ducks in a row. Make sure you have a place to stay if necessary. That you can pay your own bills...and support yourself.
Don't go for everything, its greedy and you will start to regret it when karma comes calling later on...and believe me, it will.. Women complain about why men are so against marriage, this is why. They know that they have a great chance of losing everything that they worked hard to acquire.
Once you have made your decision, keep moving forward.
If there was abuse (of any kind) in your marriage, it is over. It does not get better.
I did my own divorce, after 27 years of marriage. My kids were grown, but the youngest was 15, at the time. We had nothing, so nothing from nothing leaves nothing! He never showed up in court (typical... I did it all by myself!), and you can too. Are you doing it yourself (hope you don't have to have a lawyer, more money down the drain).
It's pretty simple unless you have to get involved with child support and division of property, then you could probably get some legal advice. I'm just stabbing in the dark now, because I don't know what your situation is. So, all I can say is hang in there and have a better life.
For women only pls. i need some medical advice...
i am experiencing for the first time ever a type of vaginal itch (no discharge, no odor, nothing) except for the itch and a feeling like i want to go pee but nothing comes out (i can pee though, but not 24/7) and this 'pee feeling' doesnt go away after i do pee and is accompanied by an itch internal and just a bit of the external
what is this and what cani do to treat it myself? showers and stuff doesnt help...would douching help and if yes, w/what? do i put chamomile tea in it? pls help thanks
couild this also be because i've been under a lot of emotional/mental/physical stress lately? like crying and being depressed? do u think this affected it
pls help thanksFor women only pls. i need some medical advice...
this ';pee-like'; feeling you mention sounds exactly like a UTI- a urinary tract infection, which are mostly bothersome, but can lead to a very painful experience, and potentially lead to a kidney infection. drink a lot of water and get to the doctor asap. i ignored a UTI once, and it was very painful.
the itching may be due to this as well, or it could be a yeast infection (though yeast infections are usually accompanied by discharge).
if you are sexually active, these could also be symptoms of a sexually transmitted disease. definitely see your doctor...they can diagnose in one pee test a number of conditions. For women only pls. i need some medical advice...
Sounds like you might have a bladder infection or the start of a bladder infection. If you cannot go to the doc, drink LOTS of water to flush your system.
If you can go to the drug store pick up some of those over the counter cranberry pills - sometimes these help people.
Also, if you are only itching on no discharge, you could try some of the Vagisil type creams to clear up any irriation you might be having due to shaving, or maybe friction during sex.
You may also be on the start of a yeast infection. There are plenty of over the counter creams/meds for this.
Get on top of this stuff now, so it does not turn into something else.
My doctor has never recommended douching. Your body produces its own cleansers. When you douch you strip those from your body.
Stress does not typically cause these types of symptoms, but it can cause lower immunity in general, which can cause secondary problems to arise.philosophy
what is this and what cani do to treat it myself? showers and stuff doesnt help...would douching help and if yes, w/what? do i put chamomile tea in it? pls help thanks
couild this also be because i've been under a lot of emotional/mental/physical stress lately? like crying and being depressed? do u think this affected it
pls help thanksFor women only pls. i need some medical advice...
this ';pee-like'; feeling you mention sounds exactly like a UTI- a urinary tract infection, which are mostly bothersome, but can lead to a very painful experience, and potentially lead to a kidney infection. drink a lot of water and get to the doctor asap. i ignored a UTI once, and it was very painful.
the itching may be due to this as well, or it could be a yeast infection (though yeast infections are usually accompanied by discharge).
if you are sexually active, these could also be symptoms of a sexually transmitted disease. definitely see your doctor...they can diagnose in one pee test a number of conditions. For women only pls. i need some medical advice...
Sounds like you might have a bladder infection or the start of a bladder infection. If you cannot go to the doc, drink LOTS of water to flush your system.
If you can go to the drug store pick up some of those over the counter cranberry pills - sometimes these help people.
Also, if you are only itching on no discharge, you could try some of the Vagisil type creams to clear up any irriation you might be having due to shaving, or maybe friction during sex.
You may also be on the start of a yeast infection. There are plenty of over the counter creams/meds for this.
Get on top of this stuff now, so it does not turn into something else.
My doctor has never recommended douching. Your body produces its own cleansers. When you douch you strip those from your body.
Stress does not typically cause these types of symptoms, but it can cause lower immunity in general, which can cause secondary problems to arise.
I am 23 year-old woman that is asking for advice on how to prepare and cook a turkey for the first time.?
First remember to take the neck and other stuff out of the cavity of the Turkey- reserve them if you want to make a great gravy out of them- Rinse the turkey off under cool water and pat dry
Take a stick of butter and rub the turkey down with butter and get some butter under the skin of the turkey. Season it with poultry seasoning, salt and pepper. Don't forget to season the cavity.
tuck the ankles of the bird into the pocket of skin at the tail end. Tuck the wings behind the bird.
Cook the turkey breast down at 400 degrees for 30 minutes
Turn the turkey back over cover with a tent foil and cook at 325 until done.
Take the turkey's temperature don't rely on the pop up thing.
Thickest part of the breast should be 165 degrees
Thickest part of the thigh should be 170 to 175 degrees
8 to 12 pounds 2 3/4 to 3 hours
12 to 14 pounds 3 to 3 3/4 hours
14 to 18 pounds 3 3/4 to 4 1/4 hours
18 to 20 pounds 4 1/4 to 4 1/2 hours
20 to 24 pounds 4 1/2 to 5 hours
Take the turkey out and let it rest for 30 minutesI am 23 year-old woman that is asking for advice on how to prepare and cook a turkey for the first time.?
i always had good luck with the plastic oven bags when i started cooking be sure to give yourself enough timeI am 23 year-old woman that is asking for advice on how to prepare and cook a turkey for the first time.?
the neatest thing i have ever found to cook a turkey is a turkey bag. i believe it is from reynolds co. you just flour the bag, put the turkey in and set it in a cake pan or roaster. let it cook on its own until the timer pops out! it is the single easiest way to go and very easy instructions!
Don't be intemidated by the bird! Cooking a Thanksgiving meal can be fun and rewarding.
The webpage below has everything you need to know. Best of Luck and Happy Thanksgiving!
allrecipes.com has a shitload of recipes
i am a single man of 61 now.i made my 1st turkey several years ago.all i did was thaw it in the fridge,get up early,toss it in a baking bag and put it in the oven and go back to bed.it turned out fine.
Take a stick of butter and rub the turkey down with butter and get some butter under the skin of the turkey. Season it with poultry seasoning, salt and pepper. Don't forget to season the cavity.
tuck the ankles of the bird into the pocket of skin at the tail end. Tuck the wings behind the bird.
Cook the turkey breast down at 400 degrees for 30 minutes
Turn the turkey back over cover with a tent foil and cook at 325 until done.
Take the turkey's temperature don't rely on the pop up thing.
Thickest part of the breast should be 165 degrees
Thickest part of the thigh should be 170 to 175 degrees
8 to 12 pounds 2 3/4 to 3 hours
12 to 14 pounds 3 to 3 3/4 hours
14 to 18 pounds 3 3/4 to 4 1/4 hours
18 to 20 pounds 4 1/4 to 4 1/2 hours
20 to 24 pounds 4 1/2 to 5 hours
Take the turkey out and let it rest for 30 minutesI am 23 year-old woman that is asking for advice on how to prepare and cook a turkey for the first time.?
i always had good luck with the plastic oven bags when i started cooking be sure to give yourself enough timeI am 23 year-old woman that is asking for advice on how to prepare and cook a turkey for the first time.?
the neatest thing i have ever found to cook a turkey is a turkey bag. i believe it is from reynolds co. you just flour the bag, put the turkey in and set it in a cake pan or roaster. let it cook on its own until the timer pops out! it is the single easiest way to go and very easy instructions!
Don't be intemidated by the bird! Cooking a Thanksgiving meal can be fun and rewarding.
The webpage below has everything you need to know. Best of Luck and Happy Thanksgiving!
allrecipes.com has a shitload of recipes
i am a single man of 61 now.i made my 1st turkey several years ago.all i did was thaw it in the fridge,get up early,toss it in a baking bag and put it in the oven and go back to bed.it turned out fine.
Are women the last people to ask for dating advice from a guy's perspective?
Just curious.Are women the last people to ask for dating advice from a guy's perspective?
Depends on the woman. If she really knows her stuff about relationships (as I do, to an extent), then you can ask her.Are women the last people to ask for dating advice from a guy's perspective?
No.......
Depends on the woman. If she really knows her stuff about relationships (as I do, to an extent), then you can ask her.Are women the last people to ask for dating advice from a guy's perspective?
No.......
Hi people,would like your advice on ovulation cycle,safe period in women&possible methods of contraceptives?
Use a Condom unless you want him to try the Coitus Eruptus method. Which is right before he has his orgasm he has to jump off quickly and pull it out, but . I have failed that method....it felt too good so I left it in :)Hi people,would like your advice on ovulation cycle,safe period in women%26amp;possible methods of contraceptives?
No thanks! That's what my gynecologist is for.
No thanks! That's what my gynecologist is for.
I need the most honest advice and insight, from both men and women.?
if a woman wants a man to get to know her, and shes looking for more than just sex. like a relationship, a life partner, should she hold off on having sex? if yes, for how long? why? but if the attraction is there, why not go for it? isnt sex part of a relashionship? could sex make things better or worse? do i just go with the flow, and see what happends? i dont feel right about that, but, at this point, i dont know what to do.hes 35 and im 48, we get along great, and everything is pretty cool between us. we dont seem to have a problem with the age thing. takin things pretty slow, just dont know what to do about this sex thing? would like for this to come out as a secure and lasting relationship. thanksI need the most honest advice and insight, from both men and women.?
Relationships are always tricky. Be honest with him, and yourself. Follow your inner feelings.
Good luck,I need the most honest advice and insight, from both men and women.?
for me, i would say go with your gut feeling, but just make it clear that you are looking for a relationship. even you are not after a commitment right away.
I think you are both old enough to know whether your relationship is dependent on sex alone.
Ask yourself: What's the purpose of holding it off? Are both of you virgins, or at least you? If not, what's the reason for the delay? Don't you want to know whether you are both compatible in your views about sex, which is a vital part in a couple?
You want him to get to know you? Don't have sex with him. Make sure he knows your mind before he knows your body. There's more to a relationship than sex. Make sure you can communicate on an intellectual level, because if you can't do that, then the sex won't mean a whole lot.
If you find that you absolutely cannot keep your hands off him, then just marry the guy and have lots of meaningless sex for the rest of your life. If he only stimulates your body, but not your mind, you'll be a bored woman, but remember, you made that choice.
Women always think that once you have ';given up'; sex, you have given up everything. The truth is guys have trouble telling the diffrence between lust and love until we've had sex with you. If you want to waste time make him wait. A guy will stay with you or leave you regardless of when you have sex. My longest relationship was with a person I slept with on the first night. So have fun and see what happens.
I think it's better to wait, so that you can develop the rest of your relationship more fully, and see if it's worth making a life commitment. We concentrated too much on the physical, my ex and I, and didn't even realize that we didn't know one another well enough otherwise and that we had some serious differences. It made for a 22 year but largely unhappy marriage. Sex doesn't help you get to know each other that much better.
Yes,it is part of a relationship -- a relationship called marriage, in which you give yourself to each other fully and forever. It's not just a fun thing to do together.
A lot of people end up having doubts or bad feelings about having sex before they were ready. Although it's frustrating at the time, hardly anyone really looks back and regrets waiting, though.
Relationships are always tricky. Be honest with him, and yourself. Follow your inner feelings.
Good luck,I need the most honest advice and insight, from both men and women.?
for me, i would say go with your gut feeling, but just make it clear that you are looking for a relationship. even you are not after a commitment right away.
I think you are both old enough to know whether your relationship is dependent on sex alone.
Ask yourself: What's the purpose of holding it off? Are both of you virgins, or at least you? If not, what's the reason for the delay? Don't you want to know whether you are both compatible in your views about sex, which is a vital part in a couple?
You want him to get to know you? Don't have sex with him. Make sure he knows your mind before he knows your body. There's more to a relationship than sex. Make sure you can communicate on an intellectual level, because if you can't do that, then the sex won't mean a whole lot.
If you find that you absolutely cannot keep your hands off him, then just marry the guy and have lots of meaningless sex for the rest of your life. If he only stimulates your body, but not your mind, you'll be a bored woman, but remember, you made that choice.
Women always think that once you have ';given up'; sex, you have given up everything. The truth is guys have trouble telling the diffrence between lust and love until we've had sex with you. If you want to waste time make him wait. A guy will stay with you or leave you regardless of when you have sex. My longest relationship was with a person I slept with on the first night. So have fun and see what happens.
I think it's better to wait, so that you can develop the rest of your relationship more fully, and see if it's worth making a life commitment. We concentrated too much on the physical, my ex and I, and didn't even realize that we didn't know one another well enough otherwise and that we had some serious differences. It made for a 22 year but largely unhappy marriage. Sex doesn't help you get to know each other that much better.
Yes,it is part of a relationship -- a relationship called marriage, in which you give yourself to each other fully and forever. It's not just a fun thing to do together.
A lot of people end up having doubts or bad feelings about having sex before they were ready. Although it's frustrating at the time, hardly anyone really looks back and regrets waiting, though.
Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
Which hairstyle do you think is the hottest on a teenage asian guy. Im giving u a lot of pics so just tell me which video or what time in the video the guy appears that u think's hairstyle is hottest.
#1
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DAVnlxQZ0m0%26amp;feature=related
#2
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eLjFAcF7p3c
#3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
okay robby i like the first video on hair cuts nothing to punkyOk All of you women out there I need your advice!?
#1 video at :9 secs :) HOTT
Definately number one. The 2nd one is too long, and the 3rd one is all in his face
wow ive only watched the first one.... OH MY GOD there all so amazing!!!!!! I really like the ones in #1. I think its the 2nd, 3rd, and 5th pic. I liked the best but im not sure. As long as you get one of those haircuts it'll look hot.
#1
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DAVnlxQZ0m0%26amp;feature=related
#2
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eLjFAcF7p3c
#3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=4ro5A7BpWk4Ok All of you women out there I need your advice!?
okay robby i like the first video on hair cuts nothing to punkyOk All of you women out there I need your advice!?
#1 video at :9 secs :) HOTT
Definately number one. The 2nd one is too long, and the 3rd one is all in his face
wow ive only watched the first one.... OH MY GOD there all so amazing!!!!!! I really like the ones in #1. I think its the 2nd, 3rd, and 5th pic. I liked the best but im not sure. As long as you get one of those haircuts it'll look hot.
Women 18 + i need honest advice?
my friend and I go to college together with a group of girls we know through other friends. We are both 21 and we have both dated pretty girls in the past so we arent ugly. the girls we hang with in college are 18 and 19. im nice, not arrogant, easy going, my friend, Alan is a bit arrogant, a bit sarcastic and makes small jokes, he smokes and doesnt really care what people think of him but because he is 6 foot 3 and works out he thinks '; nobody can ***** with him ';
My question is, which of us is dating material and who is more likely to be in the friend zoneWomen 18 + i need honest advice?
It depends on what kind of man a woman wants, so really you'd both be datable.Women 18 + i need honest advice?
you are! your mate sounds like a ***!philosophy
My question is, which of us is dating material and who is more likely to be in the friend zoneWomen 18 + i need honest advice?
It depends on what kind of man a woman wants, so really you'd both be datable.Women 18 + i need honest advice?
you are! your mate sounds like a ***!
WOMEN ONLY i need your advice?
me and my ex were talkin on the fone i tell her i have to go it was 6:20 ok i said i would call her back in 5 minutes.. i called back in 5 minutes and her sister answear'ed the fone and said she walked down to the store and she would be back in 2 hours the store is 5 mins down the street so i signed onto my msn and talked to her for a bit and she says she said that she did walk to the store and blah blah so then i asked wat time did she get back she said umm about 6:25 but then jay called so i said who the **** is jay she says just a friend then she goes i still like u.................so i was pissed the i go how long have u been talkin to him she goes since we got off the fone then i said i thought u went to the store then she goes o wait i did so i cought her lyin so wat do i do need help?WOMEN ONLY i need your advice?
She is your ex... so you aren't together, don't be jealous of something that is none of you concern.. she can like who she wants.. and 'jay' might just be a friend, you don't know yet.. so ask.... tell her you still like her, be confident.. if she doesn't want to be with you or anything it's her loss.. be happy and try to relax
hope everything works out (:WOMEN ONLY i need your advice?
Just trust.
She is your ex... so you aren't together, don't be jealous of something that is none of you concern.. she can like who she wants.. and 'jay' might just be a friend, you don't know yet.. so ask.... tell her you still like her, be confident.. if she doesn't want to be with you or anything it's her loss.. be happy and try to relax
hope everything works out (:WOMEN ONLY i need your advice?
Just trust.
I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
I may not have a PhD but I have been there and done that. I am trying to write an advice book for young women. It may be a hit, it may not but I need some guidance. I usually give good advice but I need some advice questions. They could be from young women or adults, I just need questions the I can answer giving my advice to. They can deal with anything...Friends, Family, Death, Drugs, School, Boyfriends....anything. Even if the question is not your own but you think it would be a very common question, please ask, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What about something to do with boyfriends vs. yourself
i'm 14 and i had trouble getting over a guy
but then i realized that if he doesnt like me
i shoudlnt change 4 him
and he's nto worth my time if i have to persuade him to like meI'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What is the meaning of Life?
The average earnings for book writers is less than $10,000 per year. You could almost *double* your earnings, simply by going to work, saying ';You want fries with that?';
And if you find a publisher - pretty unlikely - that's not an easy category to succeed in. Not only are there many others writing advice books for young women, but they have their friends, their mothers, their neighbors and their coworkers all giving them more advice than they are willing to accept. You think they're going to pay for YOUR advice? Not unless you're a celebrity!
Write a cookbook. Lots of competition, but there are lots of cookbooks being sold. Come to think of it, I have dozens of cookbooks, myself.
Write a book on how to get to heaven. Lots of books like that being bought, by people who insist that only the Bible gives you the right answers, to people who insist that only the Bible gives you the right answers, and no, I haven't the slightest idea why these books are being written or bought, but there's no point spitting into the wind, right?
Write a book on how to get rich, preferably by how to get rich without doing any work, and without investing any money (other than the purchase price of the book.) Lots of people buying these books. They're even buying books on how to invest their money in stocks of companies that go bankrupt, and how to buy houses that can't be sold because the mortgage business is in the dumpster.
But books on advice for the young woman? No. Surely you have better ways to use your time.
What about something to do with boyfriends vs. yourself
i'm 14 and i had trouble getting over a guy
but then i realized that if he doesnt like me
i shoudlnt change 4 him
and he's nto worth my time if i have to persuade him to like meI'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What is the meaning of Life?
The average earnings for book writers is less than $10,000 per year. You could almost *double* your earnings, simply by going to work, saying ';You want fries with that?';
And if you find a publisher - pretty unlikely - that's not an easy category to succeed in. Not only are there many others writing advice books for young women, but they have their friends, their mothers, their neighbors and their coworkers all giving them more advice than they are willing to accept. You think they're going to pay for YOUR advice? Not unless you're a celebrity!
Write a cookbook. Lots of competition, but there are lots of cookbooks being sold. Come to think of it, I have dozens of cookbooks, myself.
Write a book on how to get to heaven. Lots of books like that being bought, by people who insist that only the Bible gives you the right answers, to people who insist that only the Bible gives you the right answers, and no, I haven't the slightest idea why these books are being written or bought, but there's no point spitting into the wind, right?
Write a book on how to get rich, preferably by how to get rich without doing any work, and without investing any money (other than the purchase price of the book.) Lots of people buying these books. They're even buying books on how to invest their money in stocks of companies that go bankrupt, and how to buy houses that can't be sold because the mortgage business is in the dumpster.
But books on advice for the young woman? No. Surely you have better ways to use your time.
Women: I need your expert advice?
As extremely embarrassing it is to admit, I'm 20 years old and have only had 1 girlfriend, 6 years ago.
I guess one of my biggest problems right now is I'm really busy with work. On weekends, no friends want to go clubbing and I'd hate to show up by myself like a loner.
When I meet women I'm interested in, I don't know how I'm supposed to act... People tell me to ';be yourself';, but I always end up slipping into their ';friends zone'; or she has a boyfriend.
A little bit about myself: I'm 6'7'; tall, very friendly, quite confident person. I hold down interesting conversation and I'm always told I'm funny.
Below I have attached pics of myself so you can give me more educated advice:
http://img12.imageshack.us/img12/2224/pi鈥?/a>
I apologize in advance for the next pic, I was slightly drunk after coming back away from a friends going away party, but its to give you an example of my general physique and appearance:
http://img12.imageshack.us/img12/3064/pi鈥?/a>
I also drive a really good car (which I own):
http://img15.imageshack.us/img15/17/pic3鈥?/a>
So women, I came here for the blunt truth:
1.) From what I've told you, would you date me?
2.) Where are some places I can go to meet you?
3.) What is some advice you can give me to meet, attract and keep you?
I know I wrote a lot, but thanks for making it to the end. :)Women: I need your expert advice?
first of all v r not a dumb like u trust those snaps and make a plan of dating uWomen: I need your expert advice?
Hahaha, I have that shirt in the second pic! Anyway...
1) I might, but if you work a lot it would bother me, personally, because I wouldn't get to see you enough.
2) The library, the mall, my job; if there's a pretty girl working at a store in the mall, tell her you're buying something for your sister and are unsure of what to buy. Oh wow, that sounds horrible, but it would definitely be a good conversation starter. Brownie points if you have a sister! :)
3) Hmm. Well, I like to be treated and not have to pay for once. Wear nice cologne (doesn't have to be expensive, but not Axe because every guy and his dad wears that), dress well, shave, and ask a girl out for dinner and a movie; I'm sure it's not just me who likes the classic date.
Make sure you don't drive like an asshat, though. It doesn't impress the girl, it scares the **** out of her.
Keeping me...I'm not too sure about that one, because I've never been kept for longer than a year and a half. ;) Good luck!
Interesting! Find out first if you are gay!
It's good you got yourself on track with your career.
Believe me, I'd rather be with a guy who can look after himself other than his mum still looking after him.
I would consider dating you if I was single. If you want to meet people just go out, have a laugh, be friendly like you are doing.
Flirting's always good, try not to rush things in finding a girl, it isn't attractive, besides, you are only young :)
Heck YES id date you!!!!
You wouldnt mind if I message you? :p
1) yes
2)church,parks,coffee shops,theatre,
3)girl like guys who respect them--
--be yourself -be thoughtful,respectful and kind~
if you are with a girl and you treat her right and make her feel like a princess--she's not going to want to leave you~
1. I would date you
2. go to local bar or beach with friends use a on-line dating service to meet someone alot of people do these days I know lot of my friends do.
3. you said you are funny that is the key to most of us women use that. looks like you dress nice as well.
WOW..wouldnt date you...
many people probably have liked you and just didnt want to admit it...
P.S. LOVE the car :D
Join more activities, gyms etc
Start meetin new ppl and its true just be yourself.
someday u will meet somebody, ur not gonna find anyone if ur not out their lookin :)
I guess one of my biggest problems right now is I'm really busy with work. On weekends, no friends want to go clubbing and I'd hate to show up by myself like a loner.
When I meet women I'm interested in, I don't know how I'm supposed to act... People tell me to ';be yourself';, but I always end up slipping into their ';friends zone'; or she has a boyfriend.
A little bit about myself: I'm 6'7'; tall, very friendly, quite confident person. I hold down interesting conversation and I'm always told I'm funny.
Below I have attached pics of myself so you can give me more educated advice:
http://img12.imageshack.us/img12/2224/pi鈥?/a>
I apologize in advance for the next pic, I was slightly drunk after coming back away from a friends going away party, but its to give you an example of my general physique and appearance:
http://img12.imageshack.us/img12/3064/pi鈥?/a>
I also drive a really good car (which I own):
http://img15.imageshack.us/img15/17/pic3鈥?/a>
So women, I came here for the blunt truth:
1.) From what I've told you, would you date me?
2.) Where are some places I can go to meet you?
3.) What is some advice you can give me to meet, attract and keep you?
I know I wrote a lot, but thanks for making it to the end. :)Women: I need your expert advice?
first of all v r not a dumb like u trust those snaps and make a plan of dating uWomen: I need your expert advice?
Hahaha, I have that shirt in the second pic! Anyway...
1) I might, but if you work a lot it would bother me, personally, because I wouldn't get to see you enough.
2) The library, the mall, my job; if there's a pretty girl working at a store in the mall, tell her you're buying something for your sister and are unsure of what to buy. Oh wow, that sounds horrible, but it would definitely be a good conversation starter. Brownie points if you have a sister! :)
3) Hmm. Well, I like to be treated and not have to pay for once. Wear nice cologne (doesn't have to be expensive, but not Axe because every guy and his dad wears that), dress well, shave, and ask a girl out for dinner and a movie; I'm sure it's not just me who likes the classic date.
Make sure you don't drive like an asshat, though. It doesn't impress the girl, it scares the **** out of her.
Keeping me...I'm not too sure about that one, because I've never been kept for longer than a year and a half. ;) Good luck!
Interesting! Find out first if you are gay!
It's good you got yourself on track with your career.
Believe me, I'd rather be with a guy who can look after himself other than his mum still looking after him.
I would consider dating you if I was single. If you want to meet people just go out, have a laugh, be friendly like you are doing.
Flirting's always good, try not to rush things in finding a girl, it isn't attractive, besides, you are only young :)
Heck YES id date you!!!!
You wouldnt mind if I message you? :p
1) yes
2)church,parks,coffee shops,theatre,
3)girl like guys who respect them--
--be yourself -be thoughtful,respectful and kind~
if you are with a girl and you treat her right and make her feel like a princess--she's not going to want to leave you~
1. I would date you
2. go to local bar or beach with friends use a on-line dating service to meet someone alot of people do these days I know lot of my friends do.
3. you said you are funny that is the key to most of us women use that. looks like you dress nice as well.
WOW..wouldnt date you...
many people probably have liked you and just didnt want to admit it...
P.S. LOVE the car :D
Join more activities, gyms etc
Start meetin new ppl and its true just be yourself.
someday u will meet somebody, ur not gonna find anyone if ur not out their lookin :)
Women please help me? any advice on what this girl is thinking?
ok I like this girl at my job and the other day she asked me for my number cus i was joking with her we should hang out and all and go partying. she gets my number calls me at the middle of the night and i tell her we will meet up at her apartment. i bring my cousin since he knows the girl i like friends better and all. We are just chilling in her apartment and shes laying there in the bed and we all talking and im sitting at the end of the bed so i start feeling her up. Yeah yeah i know but it was fun and she didnt say anything about the hole time im doing it so i guess she liked it.i tried putting my arm around her later and to no avail she dosent even acknowledge me and i tried looking at her but she dosent even look back so i just feel like wtf? so after that day i called her to wish her a merry xmas she didnt answer or call back. SO today i see her at my job and she dosent seem to wanna talk after i said hi to her so im like wtf? I dont understand her any1 give some advice? plzWomen please help me? any advice on what this girl is thinking?
She feels used. Think about it. She trusted you enough to let you into her apartment to hang out and all of a sudeen you start feeling her up? I don't know but if it was me I'd feel like a piece of meat. And a stupid one at that.
I'm not saying that you meant to freak her out but I can tell you she probably feels violated and doesn't want to let you back in... she doesn't trust you or want to get to know you anymore because, in her mind, it seems like all you wanted was her body.
If you have any interest in actually getting to know this girl and having a real relationship with her, you need to apologize sincerely. Just because she didn't say anything doesn't mean it made her happy. With real relationships you need to take it slow and, jeez, kiss the girl before you feel her up, and dont do it in front of your COUSIN!!Women please help me? any advice on what this girl is thinking?
due just leave her alone its obcious she does not want anything to do wit you
Does seem strange. I'd ignore her back and find another.
she probably thinks your a pervert
Consider it a lesson learned. And you are lucky you still have your hands! Feeling her up like that, if it were me, you would have been out the window. Your number has been burned and you can use those hands on yourself until you find someone as low class as yourself.
if it was me i would feel un confortable about the thing and would kinda like it if you satyed back just a lil but she would get over it after a few days so just calm down a bout it..
hoped i helped..
she prolly was shocked with the whole ';feeling her up';
she prolly didnt mind then
but she prolly didnt want to be in a relationship rite now
idk just an opinion
She feels used. Think about it. She trusted you enough to let you into her apartment to hang out and all of a sudeen you start feeling her up? I don't know but if it was me I'd feel like a piece of meat. And a stupid one at that.
I'm not saying that you meant to freak her out but I can tell you she probably feels violated and doesn't want to let you back in... she doesn't trust you or want to get to know you anymore because, in her mind, it seems like all you wanted was her body.
If you have any interest in actually getting to know this girl and having a real relationship with her, you need to apologize sincerely. Just because she didn't say anything doesn't mean it made her happy. With real relationships you need to take it slow and, jeez, kiss the girl before you feel her up, and dont do it in front of your COUSIN!!Women please help me? any advice on what this girl is thinking?
due just leave her alone its obcious she does not want anything to do wit you
Does seem strange. I'd ignore her back and find another.
she probably thinks your a pervert
Consider it a lesson learned. And you are lucky you still have your hands! Feeling her up like that, if it were me, you would have been out the window. Your number has been burned and you can use those hands on yourself until you find someone as low class as yourself.
if it was me i would feel un confortable about the thing and would kinda like it if you satyed back just a lil but she would get over it after a few days so just calm down a bout it..
hoped i helped..
she prolly was shocked with the whole ';feeling her up';
she prolly didnt mind then
but she prolly didnt want to be in a relationship rite now
idk just an opinion
Women are hard to understand, advice?
First, a bit of background information. She gave me her number a few weeks ago. I only called her a few days ago. I know, that's way too late but I'm still trying to overcome my shyness and caution. But it was an awkward call. She actually didn't answer back when I called for whatever reason, but called me back and asked who I was. I had to explain it was me, and that threw me off completely.
It really boiled down to me saying ';Hi'; and ';How are you'; and ';I'm good';. That's about it. But here's the worrying part. The day after the call, at school, where she would usually say hi to me or wave or talk to me or whatever, now she's completely ignoring me. I was at first a little shaken but now I'm finding out that she might be upset at my waiting so long to call her. It was stupid, I know, but I鈥檓 trying to fix that.
She told me in an email that we would see a movie soon (because I asked her, but she was busy that day). It was in that same email that I got her number.Women are hard to understand, advice?
Whatever you do.. don't give up, not yet anyway.
She's probably just a little confused... next time you see her go up to her and say hi, ask her how she is, and casually in a flirty tone ask he ';so.. when are we going to see a movie?';... and see what she says.
It is better in person because you can see her reaction, and you put her on the spot. also in emails things can get taken out of context. Just give it one last shot.. you have NOTHING to loose.. all the best =) xxWomen are hard to understand, advice?
I think you did take to long to call her from the time she gave you her number . Try to go up and talk to her and let her know that your sorry that you didn't call her sooner . See if you two can still go to a movie or something . It's obvious that you really want to know what she's thinking . See what she says .
Aww I'm sorry.
I would text her and just joke around with her and when you are friends again, if you still like her, ask her out on a friend date, and then after that ask her out on a real date.
The next time you're together (eating lunch, walking somewhere), just say, ';I wished I'd called you sooner instead of waiting a few weeks. Its just--I'm sure you've heard of the ';phone rule';--the rule that says you can't call too soon or you'll look weak? I guess I just carried the rule too far. But if you're up for going to the movies anytime soon, then I'm game';.
it might have been a little late to call her, but she shouldnt act that way. It seems like maybe she isnt as interested. Keep casually talking to her, but dont force anything. Dont keep calling her 24/7, she'll seem like you're a creep and stalking her, keep your distance but still remain open if she wants to do something. She might just be shy and not know what you really want, she might be wondering how to approach you as well!
Try, try again.
Talk to her sometime and tell her how shy and cautious you are and then ask her if she'd like to go out sometime. Don't push things and you shouldn't have a problem.
Ah, cornering her would be a bad move. She's clearly pissed that you've taken so long to answer her initial response. I mean, what's up with that? Shyness and caution I can understand, but ';a few weeks'; worth of shyness and caution? I mean, what the hell do you think she is--a serial killer? Don't you get a pretty good read on the ladies you want to date BEFORE you ask them out anyway? And to make matters worse, you work with this lady, so she's been seeing you every day for weeks now and you've been sitting on a response to her. That's the craziest, control freak thing I've ever heard. No wonder she's snubbing you; I would. And if this has been your history, losing female friends because of your lack of confidence and trust, that's clearly something you need to figure out, not blame on women being ';hard to understand.'; Personally, I don't think it's so much confidence or trust as self-involvement and control issues, but you keep telling yourself that, reluctant romeo.
Yeah, you might want to fix that with the lady pronto or you're window of opportunity will very well close, if it actually hasn't already. By now, she could be in another relationship with another dude--and if she's an intelligent and independent woman, she probably wasn't sitting around waiting for you to get over ';whatever it is you were going through.'; Why should she? She's got a life, too, you know. So, apologize sincerely, explain to her your habit of being overly cautious and somewhat shy, and hope she gives you another chance. I suggest saying this to her face to face, if you can get a second alone with her, because telling her directly will let her know that you are truly sincere about taking actions to create a budding romance.
maybe you're coming on a bit too strong?
Dud listen, I had the same problem at work, you know what? talk to her tell her you are sorry and you wanna fix it up, If she don't give you a chance, just ignore her and give her time she gonna come and talk to you.
Dude she is playing hard to get all girls do it and yea it can get frustrating somtimes. You just got to stick with it and let her know that you like her bye looking deep into her eyes and just when you feel its right pop the question. If she truely wants to go she will show signs of happiness that you finally asked. But if she looks suprised and say shes gonna think about it you might wanna slow back the the start.
Call her if you can; it's much more personal. And at least try to sound confident. If you can't do the call, do the email.
Identify yourself and ask her if she was still up for that movie. Be sure to name one you'd like to see (bonus points if it's one you think she'd be interested in and you truly are interested in seeing it), and ask her if she's free. You can pick a couple of days (Friday, Saturday, Sunday, next Tuesday, whatever). If she turns you down for all of them and doesn't seem to have any reasons that make sense, move on. Say, ';Too bad, just thought it'd be fun. Thanks anyway,'; regardless. (Unless she says yes!)
Be confident... laugh and tell her you're sorry things got off to a crazy start but you're really wanting to catch that movie with her:)
I think you're really just over thinking it!
I think that she is annoyed that you took so long to call and she is not interested anymore.
You'll find that girls only give guys a limited amount of time to begin chase before they close the door on then, and I think that you may have missed the opportunity.
There may still be a very small chance that if you persist, you might bring her around, but it will take time.
As for shyness, you are only shy because you choose to be shy, so get over it.
It really boiled down to me saying ';Hi'; and ';How are you'; and ';I'm good';. That's about it. But here's the worrying part. The day after the call, at school, where she would usually say hi to me or wave or talk to me or whatever, now she's completely ignoring me. I was at first a little shaken but now I'm finding out that she might be upset at my waiting so long to call her. It was stupid, I know, but I鈥檓 trying to fix that.
She told me in an email that we would see a movie soon (because I asked her, but she was busy that day). It was in that same email that I got her number.Women are hard to understand, advice?
Whatever you do.. don't give up, not yet anyway.
She's probably just a little confused... next time you see her go up to her and say hi, ask her how she is, and casually in a flirty tone ask he ';so.. when are we going to see a movie?';... and see what she says.
It is better in person because you can see her reaction, and you put her on the spot. also in emails things can get taken out of context. Just give it one last shot.. you have NOTHING to loose.. all the best =) xxWomen are hard to understand, advice?
I think you did take to long to call her from the time she gave you her number . Try to go up and talk to her and let her know that your sorry that you didn't call her sooner . See if you two can still go to a movie or something . It's obvious that you really want to know what she's thinking . See what she says .
Aww I'm sorry.
I would text her and just joke around with her and when you are friends again, if you still like her, ask her out on a friend date, and then after that ask her out on a real date.
The next time you're together (eating lunch, walking somewhere), just say, ';I wished I'd called you sooner instead of waiting a few weeks. Its just--I'm sure you've heard of the ';phone rule';--the rule that says you can't call too soon or you'll look weak? I guess I just carried the rule too far. But if you're up for going to the movies anytime soon, then I'm game';.
it might have been a little late to call her, but she shouldnt act that way. It seems like maybe she isnt as interested. Keep casually talking to her, but dont force anything. Dont keep calling her 24/7, she'll seem like you're a creep and stalking her, keep your distance but still remain open if she wants to do something. She might just be shy and not know what you really want, she might be wondering how to approach you as well!
Try, try again.
Talk to her sometime and tell her how shy and cautious you are and then ask her if she'd like to go out sometime. Don't push things and you shouldn't have a problem.
Ah, cornering her would be a bad move. She's clearly pissed that you've taken so long to answer her initial response. I mean, what's up with that? Shyness and caution I can understand, but ';a few weeks'; worth of shyness and caution? I mean, what the hell do you think she is--a serial killer? Don't you get a pretty good read on the ladies you want to date BEFORE you ask them out anyway? And to make matters worse, you work with this lady, so she's been seeing you every day for weeks now and you've been sitting on a response to her. That's the craziest, control freak thing I've ever heard. No wonder she's snubbing you; I would. And if this has been your history, losing female friends because of your lack of confidence and trust, that's clearly something you need to figure out, not blame on women being ';hard to understand.'; Personally, I don't think it's so much confidence or trust as self-involvement and control issues, but you keep telling yourself that, reluctant romeo.
Yeah, you might want to fix that with the lady pronto or you're window of opportunity will very well close, if it actually hasn't already. By now, she could be in another relationship with another dude--and if she's an intelligent and independent woman, she probably wasn't sitting around waiting for you to get over ';whatever it is you were going through.'; Why should she? She's got a life, too, you know. So, apologize sincerely, explain to her your habit of being overly cautious and somewhat shy, and hope she gives you another chance. I suggest saying this to her face to face, if you can get a second alone with her, because telling her directly will let her know that you are truly sincere about taking actions to create a budding romance.
maybe you're coming on a bit too strong?
Dud listen, I had the same problem at work, you know what? talk to her tell her you are sorry and you wanna fix it up, If she don't give you a chance, just ignore her and give her time she gonna come and talk to you.
Dude she is playing hard to get all girls do it and yea it can get frustrating somtimes. You just got to stick with it and let her know that you like her bye looking deep into her eyes and just when you feel its right pop the question. If she truely wants to go she will show signs of happiness that you finally asked. But if she looks suprised and say shes gonna think about it you might wanna slow back the the start.
Call her if you can; it's much more personal. And at least try to sound confident. If you can't do the call, do the email.
Identify yourself and ask her if she was still up for that movie. Be sure to name one you'd like to see (bonus points if it's one you think she'd be interested in and you truly are interested in seeing it), and ask her if she's free. You can pick a couple of days (Friday, Saturday, Sunday, next Tuesday, whatever). If she turns you down for all of them and doesn't seem to have any reasons that make sense, move on. Say, ';Too bad, just thought it'd be fun. Thanks anyway,'; regardless. (Unless she says yes!)
Be confident... laugh and tell her you're sorry things got off to a crazy start but you're really wanting to catch that movie with her:)
I think you're really just over thinking it!
I think that she is annoyed that you took so long to call and she is not interested anymore.
You'll find that girls only give guys a limited amount of time to begin chase before they close the door on then, and I think that you may have missed the opportunity.
There may still be a very small chance that if you persist, you might bring her around, but it will take time.
As for shyness, you are only shy because you choose to be shy, so get over it.
Women: Please help, I need advice!?
I’ve heard that women start asking about past relationships after a few dates? Do you think women will think I’m weird if they find this out about me? Will they decide not to go on any more dates if they find out? If they find out before a first date, would they just avoid me?
Right now I’m 26, and in a couple of months I will be 27. I’ve only been on three group dates in my whole life. I’ve never been on any single one on one dates. I’ve never been on any second dates, and from all that you probably can guess that I’ve never had a girlfriend nor have I ever kissed, held hands, etc. I’ve also never been on any dates where I asked a girl on a date. I’ve only asked one girl on a date in my lifetime, when I was 23 back in 2005, but she said she had a boyfriend.
Basically, the first date I went on was when I was 22, almost 23. There was this girl who was probably special needs who asked me to a school dance at college. It was a group date because she was with this group of other people, and for a meal beforehand we were with the group. Then the second date I went on was a blind group date where we went to a college basketball game when I was 23. Then when I was still 23, this one guy set me up on a blind date with one of his high school friends and I doubled with one of my roommates. Basically it was a pizza restaurant and bowling. My date seemed really cold. My roommate spent $70 because he was enjoying himself, which I had to split with him.
Will she think that I’m too weird and decide to stay away from me, if she finds out? Will she wonder, “If he’s almost 27 and hasn’t been on dates, there’s probably something wrong, and you have to wonder about him. I’ll just avoid him without giving him a chance”? Like, I heard this one guy say that he has an uncle who’s 50 and he’s never been on a date before in his life. However, I don’t think that would be something to brag about. If that guy were to start asking women on dates, a lot of them probably would wonder what’s up with his dating past and maybe stay away from him just because of that.
So what should I do about my situation? Do women ask men about past dates they’ve been on and past relationships? Will this hurt me? Is there something I can do for damage control so that it doesn’t hurt my ability to go on a date or even develop a relationship later on?
Women: Please help, I need advice!?
In my opinion the worst part is you've missed out on valuable experiences. Dating is hard and a mind game in itself; when dating other people you learn a lot about yourself and what you want and desire for yourself and the other person; especially long-term relationships teach you this.
I personally would stay away from you (sorry) b/c I wouldn't want to go through all the new relationship experiences with you just for you to learn what you want and decide it's not me. Also, I wouldn't want to go through all the arguments someone's first/second/etc. relationship goes through until you understand how irrelevant and wasteful arguing can be. ALTHOUGH, I might date you just for fun, but wouldn't take it serious and might laugh when you start arguing about irrelevant things; I say this b/c although I'm 25 yrs old and should probably be looking for a serious relationship, I don't want one right now.
Of course it doesn't mean that you're out of the dating game. I believe a person SHOULD go through at least 3 relationships (of longer than 3-6 months) before they settle down with anyone person.
In this day in age people are getting married at an older age anyway, so I would suggest that you date younger girls (21-24) until you get an idea of what you're truly looking for. I suggest this, b/c older girls are going to want serious relationships and the younger girls are still out just trying to have fun; this way no one really gets hurt and you get the experience you need.
I believe all partners start asking questions about previous relationships. I believe some girls will think it's weird you haven't dating at your age, but some girls will think it's cute and be intrigued by it. I would probably white lie it and keep your past a mystery. It's not really lying, you just avoid questions about it or keep your answers short. Maybe say you've been too busy to date, but have came across some really nice girls in the past that you felt you couldn't act on b/c you didn't have the time at that point to invest in those girls.
Women: Please help, I need advice!?
Don't worry about anything my friend,
take it easy and set your mind free.
it isn't such a complicated situation!
Just enjoy yourself.
I wish you the best.
Please forgive me! I am not a woman
No; absolutely not. Any girl who doesn't like you because of your experience, is not worth your time, don't worry about it.
wow what a weird guy
what that first girl said is absolute balleex mate.
your not weird!!! the girl will probably think its very cute..
it will also make her feel special!! also! its better to be in your situation than look like an absolute man whore!
if the girl doesnt accept this then she really aint worth your time!!
just be honest with her... and be nice =]
Best of luck mate!
xox
Just don't go into detail - if she asks, just say something like 'not many.' If she asks why, just say you never felt you had a good connection with anyone, or that you're shy. I mean, don't lie to her, but you don't necessarily need to go into all this detail.
I personally would think it's uncommon, but wouldn't use the word 'weird.'
You have to realize that the eventual (hypothetical if you keep on like this) love of you life isn't going to care. Don't let a shy past keep you from being confident; or, find a girl you can be really confident with.
Usually only girls with their own insecurities ask such stupid questions, anyway. Some people are just careful shoppers when it comes to dating.
Point is: who cares? Confidence is sexy; play it off.
My son is 28 and just had his first real girlfriend. And no she did not think he was weird at all. In fact he kinda dumped her after a while because she wouldn't stop talking about her past relationships. (and ALL the sex she had with them)
First of all, you don't need to tell someone your whole life story on your first few dates. If she asks, you only have to say..I've been on a few dates, they didn't work out.
Believe it or not, you are not the only guy out there who hasn't dated at your age, there's nothing wrong with you. If you are like my son, he's really shy and thinks it's more important to find a girl he really likes and respects and not just date for the sake of dating.
But he had the same questions and feelings as you do. Just because you are not average, doesn't make you weird or wrong.
Truthfully, most girls (ones that matter anyway) will be thrilled that you don't have a slew of ex girlfriends.
Relax, accept who you are, if a girl doesn't like you, there are a gazillion more who will.
Oh and yeah, girls will ask. You can say something like..I've been focusing on my career more than dating or you've just never met someone before that really interested you. Girls ask, but they sure don't wanna hear that your some big man ho ;)
Just be honest about the relationships you've had, but try to buffer the truth. Tell her the girls you dated didn't seem to 'fit' or were taking things too 'fast' for you or some such thing. Girls tend to be pretty forgiving of a guy who just wound up with the wrong girl.
I am a 25-year-old women who has never been on a date in her life. I have kissed men (and women, for that matter), but never actually gone out with any and never gotten to third base, so I know where you're coming from. Everyone keeps telling me it's never too late to fall in love. Maybe that's true.
If your girl decides not to see you again just because your previous dates didn't work out, it just means she's judgmental and is basing her opinion of you on too little information. If this happens and you still want to give the relationship a shot, try explaining that she is not like the other girls you dated and that she is really special. It might work.philosophy
Right now I’m 26, and in a couple of months I will be 27. I’ve only been on three group dates in my whole life. I’ve never been on any single one on one dates. I’ve never been on any second dates, and from all that you probably can guess that I’ve never had a girlfriend nor have I ever kissed, held hands, etc. I’ve also never been on any dates where I asked a girl on a date. I’ve only asked one girl on a date in my lifetime, when I was 23 back in 2005, but she said she had a boyfriend.
Basically, the first date I went on was when I was 22, almost 23. There was this girl who was probably special needs who asked me to a school dance at college. It was a group date because she was with this group of other people, and for a meal beforehand we were with the group. Then the second date I went on was a blind group date where we went to a college basketball game when I was 23. Then when I was still 23, this one guy set me up on a blind date with one of his high school friends and I doubled with one of my roommates. Basically it was a pizza restaurant and bowling. My date seemed really cold. My roommate spent $70 because he was enjoying himself, which I had to split with him.
Will she think that I’m too weird and decide to stay away from me, if she finds out? Will she wonder, “If he’s almost 27 and hasn’t been on dates, there’s probably something wrong, and you have to wonder about him. I’ll just avoid him without giving him a chance”? Like, I heard this one guy say that he has an uncle who’s 50 and he’s never been on a date before in his life. However, I don’t think that would be something to brag about. If that guy were to start asking women on dates, a lot of them probably would wonder what’s up with his dating past and maybe stay away from him just because of that.
So what should I do about my situation? Do women ask men about past dates they’ve been on and past relationships? Will this hurt me? Is there something I can do for damage control so that it doesn’t hurt my ability to go on a date or even develop a relationship later on?
Women: Please help, I need advice!?
In my opinion the worst part is you've missed out on valuable experiences. Dating is hard and a mind game in itself; when dating other people you learn a lot about yourself and what you want and desire for yourself and the other person; especially long-term relationships teach you this.
I personally would stay away from you (sorry) b/c I wouldn't want to go through all the new relationship experiences with you just for you to learn what you want and decide it's not me. Also, I wouldn't want to go through all the arguments someone's first/second/etc. relationship goes through until you understand how irrelevant and wasteful arguing can be. ALTHOUGH, I might date you just for fun, but wouldn't take it serious and might laugh when you start arguing about irrelevant things; I say this b/c although I'm 25 yrs old and should probably be looking for a serious relationship, I don't want one right now.
Of course it doesn't mean that you're out of the dating game. I believe a person SHOULD go through at least 3 relationships (of longer than 3-6 months) before they settle down with anyone person.
In this day in age people are getting married at an older age anyway, so I would suggest that you date younger girls (21-24) until you get an idea of what you're truly looking for. I suggest this, b/c older girls are going to want serious relationships and the younger girls are still out just trying to have fun; this way no one really gets hurt and you get the experience you need.
I believe all partners start asking questions about previous relationships. I believe some girls will think it's weird you haven't dating at your age, but some girls will think it's cute and be intrigued by it. I would probably white lie it and keep your past a mystery. It's not really lying, you just avoid questions about it or keep your answers short. Maybe say you've been too busy to date, but have came across some really nice girls in the past that you felt you couldn't act on b/c you didn't have the time at that point to invest in those girls.
Women: Please help, I need advice!?
Don't worry about anything my friend,
take it easy and set your mind free.
it isn't such a complicated situation!
Just enjoy yourself.
I wish you the best.
Please forgive me! I am not a woman
No; absolutely not. Any girl who doesn't like you because of your experience, is not worth your time, don't worry about it.
wow what a weird guy
what that first girl said is absolute balleex mate.
your not weird!!! the girl will probably think its very cute..
it will also make her feel special!! also! its better to be in your situation than look like an absolute man whore!
if the girl doesnt accept this then she really aint worth your time!!
just be honest with her... and be nice =]
Best of luck mate!
xox
Just don't go into detail - if she asks, just say something like 'not many.' If she asks why, just say you never felt you had a good connection with anyone, or that you're shy. I mean, don't lie to her, but you don't necessarily need to go into all this detail.
I personally would think it's uncommon, but wouldn't use the word 'weird.'
You have to realize that the eventual (hypothetical if you keep on like this) love of you life isn't going to care. Don't let a shy past keep you from being confident; or, find a girl you can be really confident with.
Usually only girls with their own insecurities ask such stupid questions, anyway. Some people are just careful shoppers when it comes to dating.
Point is: who cares? Confidence is sexy; play it off.
My son is 28 and just had his first real girlfriend. And no she did not think he was weird at all. In fact he kinda dumped her after a while because she wouldn't stop talking about her past relationships. (and ALL the sex she had with them)
First of all, you don't need to tell someone your whole life story on your first few dates. If she asks, you only have to say..I've been on a few dates, they didn't work out.
Believe it or not, you are not the only guy out there who hasn't dated at your age, there's nothing wrong with you. If you are like my son, he's really shy and thinks it's more important to find a girl he really likes and respects and not just date for the sake of dating.
But he had the same questions and feelings as you do. Just because you are not average, doesn't make you weird or wrong.
Truthfully, most girls (ones that matter anyway) will be thrilled that you don't have a slew of ex girlfriends.
Relax, accept who you are, if a girl doesn't like you, there are a gazillion more who will.
Oh and yeah, girls will ask. You can say something like..I've been focusing on my career more than dating or you've just never met someone before that really interested you. Girls ask, but they sure don't wanna hear that your some big man ho ;)
Just be honest about the relationships you've had, but try to buffer the truth. Tell her the girls you dated didn't seem to 'fit' or were taking things too 'fast' for you or some such thing. Girls tend to be pretty forgiving of a guy who just wound up with the wrong girl.
I am a 25-year-old women who has never been on a date in her life. I have kissed men (and women, for that matter), but never actually gone out with any and never gotten to third base, so I know where you're coming from. Everyone keeps telling me it's never too late to fall in love. Maybe that's true.
If your girl decides not to see you again just because your previous dates didn't work out, it just means she's judgmental and is basing her opinion of you on too little information. If this happens and you still want to give the relationship a shot, try explaining that she is not like the other girls you dated and that she is really special. It might work.
Women; do u have any advice ?
Alright im 18 and im recently starting to feel a bit of nausea,
But that could also be from my lack of iron.
I notice my boobs are starting to feel sore (it looks like they're growing).As well as some of my bones are starting to hurt. I also noticed my feet get red by standing up for a long period of time. I am eating a lot more than what I used to.
There are night when I wake up and i cant go back to sleep.
(last night for ex: i went to bed at 9:30 and woke up at 2:30a.m.
and I couldn't fall asleep)
I have my period. im not pregnant
Am I going through some type of stage, or gaining weight; any ideas or advice?Women; do u have any advice ?
Well, here are a few things I've noticed.
- You need more sleep than that. At least six hours is necessary to be feeling normal, and to carry out a good day.
- Your period can make you be more hungry. I'm not sure why (some doctor explained it on tv the other day), but it happens. It was something like, when your body is under stress, the natural thing to releve the stress is to eat.
- the nausea and sore boobs is just because of your period. It should go away soon enough.Women; do u have any advice ?
if you went to bed at 9.30 then you would have got 5 hours sleep you're body only needs 6-8 on average!
you might be having a growing spurt it sounds like it but really unusual cus u r 18.
go to your doctor if you are worried but try taking multi vitamins with zinc,iron and omega3 in them.and all the others that you need, also if you are stressed it might be a factor just making you tense and not be able to sleep.
good luck!
But that could also be from my lack of iron.
I notice my boobs are starting to feel sore (it looks like they're growing).As well as some of my bones are starting to hurt. I also noticed my feet get red by standing up for a long period of time. I am eating a lot more than what I used to.
There are night when I wake up and i cant go back to sleep.
(last night for ex: i went to bed at 9:30 and woke up at 2:30a.m.
and I couldn't fall asleep)
I have my period. im not pregnant
Am I going through some type of stage, or gaining weight; any ideas or advice?Women; do u have any advice ?
Well, here are a few things I've noticed.
- You need more sleep than that. At least six hours is necessary to be feeling normal, and to carry out a good day.
- Your period can make you be more hungry. I'm not sure why (some doctor explained it on tv the other day), but it happens. It was something like, when your body is under stress, the natural thing to releve the stress is to eat.
- the nausea and sore boobs is just because of your period. It should go away soon enough.Women; do u have any advice ?
if you went to bed at 9.30 then you would have got 5 hours sleep you're body only needs 6-8 on average!
you might be having a growing spurt it sounds like it but really unusual cus u r 18.
go to your doctor if you are worried but try taking multi vitamins with zinc,iron and omega3 in them.and all the others that you need, also if you are stressed it might be a factor just making you tense and not be able to sleep.
good luck!
Women Trouble please I need advice on a situation!!?
I have been with my girlfriend for 10 months now tomorrow today it was brought to my attention that she told people some pretty sketchy things.
In her english class (We're both seniors in high school) she was told to tell a story of a shrew or annoying person. She told the class that someone she knows slept with her Ex boyfriend and then told his fiancee to spite him. When asked by a friend who it was she said it was her. WTF!? i know.
I find out go to her and tell her someone told me you told a funny story in english i wanna hear it. So she starts to tell me a totally different story. I stop her and tell her I know she is bullshitting and she at first denies it but then admits to telling the story. She says she said it was her in the story so as not to embarass a friend of hers, but then changes it to saying it was not to embarass her Ex boyfriend (Who she has cheated on me with before) I am extremely pissed off and don't know whether to believe her.
She keeps tellnig me it was stupid to tell the story and she is sorry and it didn't really happen. I don't know What should i do?Women Trouble please I need advice on a situation!!?
Make sure you get the WHOLE story before making assumption but to be truthful you don't need that in you life and she needs to be dumped!Women Trouble please I need advice on a situation!!?
Your problem is in the title, you don't have woman trouble you have GIRL trouble.
In her english class (We're both seniors in high school) she was told to tell a story of a shrew or annoying person. She told the class that someone she knows slept with her Ex boyfriend and then told his fiancee to spite him. When asked by a friend who it was she said it was her. WTF!? i know.
I find out go to her and tell her someone told me you told a funny story in english i wanna hear it. So she starts to tell me a totally different story. I stop her and tell her I know she is bullshitting and she at first denies it but then admits to telling the story. She says she said it was her in the story so as not to embarass a friend of hers, but then changes it to saying it was not to embarass her Ex boyfriend (Who she has cheated on me with before) I am extremely pissed off and don't know whether to believe her.
She keeps tellnig me it was stupid to tell the story and she is sorry and it didn't really happen. I don't know What should i do?Women Trouble please I need advice on a situation!!?
Make sure you get the WHOLE story before making assumption but to be truthful you don't need that in you life and she needs to be dumped!Women Trouble please I need advice on a situation!!?
Your problem is in the title, you don't have woman trouble you have GIRL trouble.
Women with past pregnancies...any advice?
Ok here is a quick down load
January-3 day period
Febuary-no period
March-2 to 3 day period
and no period since then.
normally my periods are 5-6or 7 days.
I have recently had a few days of spotting when I used the restroom.Not enough to leak in my panties but did show on the toilet tissue.
I have had light cramps here and there with a little discomfort in my lower back.
I have been using the restroom at least 5-6 times a day sometimes more urinating full amounts each time
no sickness, sore breast, although a few days ago I experienced some tingling like someone took and rubbed icy hot on my nipples. It only lasted a few hours and hasnt happended again since then.
I have taken pregnancy test a few weeks ago and they came back negative.
I took one the other day and it didnt show anything and a few hours later, just to see I pulled it out of the trash can and it was negative.
I feel full, and very slight tightness in my tummy area.
so..lol that was a lot of information, so what do you think?
(MATURE COMMENTS ONLY) and YES I am TRYING to CONCIEVEWomen with past pregnancies...any advice?
go to the doctor and get a blood test, that is accurate from about 6 days if you are pregnant. There might be just a low amount of HCG and the urine test isn't working. It sounds like you are pregnant!Women with past pregnancies...any advice?
Since you have not had a real period since March I would have a blood test done at the dr's office, those are the most accurate ones. Also since you are trying to conceive, you have to realize that there is a certain amount of stress that comes with that, even if you don't conciously feel more stressed, and that could be delaying, or changing your period.
well I have never had a problem conceiving, and I just knew.
You can get a blood test though that will tell you.
I am also very regular, so if I missed a period I knew, if you aren't regular that would make it harder.
I would think that this long without a period, you should be having positive tests if you are pregnant.
Good Luck
i guess u should go to ur gynecologist for check up
sounds like to me you very well could be !!!! when i was pregnant i always had the light spotting !! that was how i always knew i was pregnant! when you take a pregnancy test are you using your first urine of the day thas the strongest one and best one to use !!! and by the way im a mother of Four so !!yes my answer is serious !!! if you are congrats OH and its best to take test After 30 days of no period !! i know they say you could know in a week or what ever !!!! but wait 30 days and use you first morning pee!!
January-3 day period
Febuary-no period
March-2 to 3 day period
and no period since then.
normally my periods are 5-6or 7 days.
I have recently had a few days of spotting when I used the restroom.Not enough to leak in my panties but did show on the toilet tissue.
I have had light cramps here and there with a little discomfort in my lower back.
I have been using the restroom at least 5-6 times a day sometimes more urinating full amounts each time
no sickness, sore breast, although a few days ago I experienced some tingling like someone took and rubbed icy hot on my nipples. It only lasted a few hours and hasnt happended again since then.
I have taken pregnancy test a few weeks ago and they came back negative.
I took one the other day and it didnt show anything and a few hours later, just to see I pulled it out of the trash can and it was negative.
I feel full, and very slight tightness in my tummy area.
so..lol that was a lot of information, so what do you think?
(MATURE COMMENTS ONLY) and YES I am TRYING to CONCIEVEWomen with past pregnancies...any advice?
go to the doctor and get a blood test, that is accurate from about 6 days if you are pregnant. There might be just a low amount of HCG and the urine test isn't working. It sounds like you are pregnant!Women with past pregnancies...any advice?
Since you have not had a real period since March I would have a blood test done at the dr's office, those are the most accurate ones. Also since you are trying to conceive, you have to realize that there is a certain amount of stress that comes with that, even if you don't conciously feel more stressed, and that could be delaying, or changing your period.
well I have never had a problem conceiving, and I just knew.
You can get a blood test though that will tell you.
I am also very regular, so if I missed a period I knew, if you aren't regular that would make it harder.
I would think that this long without a period, you should be having positive tests if you are pregnant.
Good Luck
i guess u should go to ur gynecologist for check up
sounds like to me you very well could be !!!! when i was pregnant i always had the light spotting !! that was how i always knew i was pregnant! when you take a pregnancy test are you using your first urine of the day thas the strongest one and best one to use !!! and by the way im a mother of Four so !!yes my answer is serious !!! if you are congrats OH and its best to take test After 30 days of no period !! i know they say you could know in a week or what ever !!!! but wait 30 days and use you first morning pee!!
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