Ok Sorry but this is kinda a long story an theres alot of parts to it so listen carefully, its also kinda confusing. I lost my baby on april 15th i was 4 an a half months pregnant. After that happend i went on birth control, Well my last period was may 30th. I stopped taking my birth control on june 10th because it was giving me headaches. Well supposedly i ovulated june 11th through the 15th. An on the 15th an 16th of june i had spotting, but thats probably because i stopped taking the birth control. For the last 2 or 3 weeks my breasts have been lactating an they have gotten bigger this week an they feel soft an squishy like water balloons. I have been feeling some light cramping lately an i have been feeling moody an anxious but that come an goes. And i still have not had a period since may 30th, Do you think i could be pregnant again? Or what do you think it could be? Any help or info is greatly appreciatedAll Women! I need your help an advice please! Am i Pregnant or What?
It takes the body a while to get back to normal after losing/delivering a baby. I was 19 weeks pregnant and went in for my ultrasound and found out the baby wasn't alive. This was Feb 29. I delivered on March 4. I started taking the pill w/ my 1st period. So, my situation is similar to yours. I'm still not completely regular yet and have the same symtoms you do. I think it just takes months for the body to return to normal. But, congrats if you're pregnant. You might find helpful info on Cafemom.com. They have 2nd trimester loss groups. This has helped me.All Women! I need your help an advice please! Am i Pregnant or What?
once you lactate, you can always lactate. my son is 2 and im still lactating, less, but still.
see your OB/GYN immediately. they can do a sonogram to see whats going on. if you have bad cramping call the doc.
i had 2 miscarriages before i got pregnant with my twins, and it was excruciating.
YES IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU CAN BE PREGNANT..... BECAUSE WHY WOULD YOUR BREAST BE LACTATING? AND YOU WASN'T ON THE PILLS A LONG TIME FOR THEM TO BE IN YOUR SYSTEM. WITH IN THE NEXT WEEK YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO TAKE THE TEST... GOOD LUCK, IT'S SOUNDS LIKE YOU WANT A BABY
only a doctor could tell you a good answer.....but i would say that if u have had unprotected sex than yes you probably could get pregnant
lol u culd be preg or ur havin side efects from the birth control
This may be the fallout from the miscarriage. Have you dealt with your loss? It sounds to me like you want to be pregnant and the stress of the loss of your baby teamed with a desperation to replace the loss is making you and your body crazy. You need to have a good cry, talk to someone you trust and give your body a break for a few months. Go back on birth control and let your body, mind, and soul recover, and then try for your baby. Dont be so hard on yourself, its okay to grieve.
Sympathy for your lost.
It sounds like you are worried.
I think your body is doing all sorts of weird stuff!!! ...possibly because of losing your baby. I can't say whether you are again pregnant ...?
I recommend going to see a Gynecologist [womanly bits doctor] or an Obstetrician [I believe they are baby doctors], so you can be sure of what really is going on. It would, at least, give you peace of mind knowing one way or the other and/or get you what you may need to get back to some kind of normal again.
Please see a doc!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
For women---this is not a question-but advice?
most recently,some of us guys really have something to laugh about online and it has to do with that word called trust,anytime you gals think it is nice to ask the opinion of a socalled friend(male) about the guy you are going with,stop and think for a moment, because that friend may think that you are stooping pretty low and behind boy friend's back,dumping everything confidential to a complete stranger as he may just go out of his way to relate back to him and most of us guys are pretty good on watching out for each other's backs.just some advice!For women---this is not a question-but advice?
Maybe for little boys like you - but REAL men actually know what TRUST means. These are the same men who KNOW that women are so much more than simple objects (or ';playthings';) - and treat then with the respect and caring that they DESERVE!
Anyone who takes something told to them in confidence - and then goes around telling EVERYBODY about it - is just an immature @$$hole!For women---this is not a question-but advice?
How about I give you some advice, not all men or guys are untrustworthy, of course I think you are in the other category. But as I am always told it takes all kinds to make the world go round, Good luck in your endeavors something tells me you will get what you sow.
BLA BLA BLA what ever
maybe you should look at it as , that she trust you to give her your honest opinon from a guys point of view....
You must be the next Dear Abby.
Was there a point in posting this....
Yahoo Answers...not advice.
Not all men are made the same.
Trust? I would assume you are talking about the ';gal'; betraying her BF trust by confiding in a male friend. By running to the BF with what his GF has confided to him, this ';friend'; is also betraying trust. Which is better?
Well I feel sorry for not only your female friends, but your girlfriend (if you have one)! Because in actuality, the real reason we ask for an opinion is for clarity through the male race, which definitely isn't too clear seeing how you thought it would be noble of you to post on this site that you really don't care about the man/ woman relationship, your just looking forward to gossiping about it with other guys. Who's the real female?
i kno its advice, but rlly...some ppl that ask these relationship questions rlly dont have n e one to talk to, and dont kno who to talk to about this stuff. isnt it nice not having to dish ur whole life story to a whole new friend, but instead go online, ask the question w/out n e names, and see what other ppl think? more majority of ideas. not just one gossip girl/guy that u call a friend, who feels like she/he has to take ur side on the matter. and n e ways, this is completely anonomus (well, partically) and guys can answer girls' questions without knowing them. u see, if the guy knew the girl, then drama/gossip unfolds. this is simply just an easier way to request advice. rlly this site is no eharmony.com. that, id have to say is pathetic. thats wat i have to say.
If you guys go around telling other guys things that a girl has talked to you about in private, then I guess it just goes to prove that most of you really are PIGS!!
That is why we NEVER trust a guy. You are worse than a pissed off best friend.
You may think that we are idiots and unaware of what you all are really like, but most of the time we tell you stuff in private just to see how long and who you tell about what we said. Just some advice!
Maybe for little boys like you - but REAL men actually know what TRUST means. These are the same men who KNOW that women are so much more than simple objects (or ';playthings';) - and treat then with the respect and caring that they DESERVE!
Anyone who takes something told to them in confidence - and then goes around telling EVERYBODY about it - is just an immature @$$hole!For women---this is not a question-but advice?
How about I give you some advice, not all men or guys are untrustworthy, of course I think you are in the other category. But as I am always told it takes all kinds to make the world go round, Good luck in your endeavors something tells me you will get what you sow.
BLA BLA BLA what ever
maybe you should look at it as , that she trust you to give her your honest opinon from a guys point of view....
You must be the next Dear Abby.
Was there a point in posting this....
Yahoo Answers...not advice.
Not all men are made the same.
Trust? I would assume you are talking about the ';gal'; betraying her BF trust by confiding in a male friend. By running to the BF with what his GF has confided to him, this ';friend'; is also betraying trust. Which is better?
Well I feel sorry for not only your female friends, but your girlfriend (if you have one)! Because in actuality, the real reason we ask for an opinion is for clarity through the male race, which definitely isn't too clear seeing how you thought it would be noble of you to post on this site that you really don't care about the man/ woman relationship, your just looking forward to gossiping about it with other guys. Who's the real female?
i kno its advice, but rlly...some ppl that ask these relationship questions rlly dont have n e one to talk to, and dont kno who to talk to about this stuff. isnt it nice not having to dish ur whole life story to a whole new friend, but instead go online, ask the question w/out n e names, and see what other ppl think? more majority of ideas. not just one gossip girl/guy that u call a friend, who feels like she/he has to take ur side on the matter. and n e ways, this is completely anonomus (well, partically) and guys can answer girls' questions without knowing them. u see, if the guy knew the girl, then drama/gossip unfolds. this is simply just an easier way to request advice. rlly this site is no eharmony.com. that, id have to say is pathetic. thats wat i have to say.
If you guys go around telling other guys things that a girl has talked to you about in private, then I guess it just goes to prove that most of you really are PIGS!!
That is why we NEVER trust a guy. You are worse than a pissed off best friend.
You may think that we are idiots and unaware of what you all are really like, but most of the time we tell you stuff in private just to see how long and who you tell about what we said. Just some advice!
I need STRONG (without sugaring) advice to help me get going with women...?
I'm 17. Never had a date, nor a girlfriend. I rarely even communicate with women in general. I know that I have to get out of this habit but everytime I consider doing it I fall back to old habits (being a recluse, etc). I need to break out of this, but I don't know how to do it. I won't even try, that's the problem. I fall back and say ';what's the use?'; before doing anything.
I need some help!I need STRONG (without sugaring) advice to help me get going with women...?
THATS PERFECTLY NORMAL.
';whats the use';??
CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE THIS VERY MINUTE.
(notice that I am not ';sugaring'; because you asked)
Instead of ASKING yourself . . ';what's the use'; . . . and not having an answer, TELL yourself that when a woman doesn't respond to you . . . IT JUST DOESN';T MATTER.
--%26gt;%26gt; UNTIL SHE ';MEANS'; SOMETHING TO YOU . . . she means NOTHING to you. If you keep this at the back of your mind, then HER REJECTION will mean NOTHING to you TOO!!!
Do you understand the VALUE of that statement??
You are 17. And I am telling you . . . after 23 years of experience since I was 17, having a TOTALLY detached attitude about women who DONT respond means I dont CARE if a woman doesn't respond, and I will CERTAINLY NOT beat myself up about it because it has NOTHING TO DO WITH --%26gt; ME.
';Whats the use'; . . . in CARING about how a woman (you dont even KNOW yet ) responds to you??? Now THATS the question you should be asking.
This makes walking up to ANY women. . . totally inconsiquential EVERY SINGLE TIME. Even if she is a dead KNOCK-OUT . . . who cares. It's not her LOOKS that will KEEP you interested in her . . that's for sure. And it removes any MENTAL block (which only exists in your HEAD anyway) altogether.
Interesting that you used the term ';fall back';. If you wil permit me to say so . . . thats a COWARDS attitude. And its NOT ATTRACTIVE.
If you WANT TO WIN ANY BATTLE IN YOUR LIFE . . . dont even THINK about ';falling back';. You will NEVER win that way. In career . . . promotion . . .and ALL aspects of your life.. . . especially women.
If you WANT to be SUCCESSFUL in LIFE and with women, you must PROJECT NO REMOTE INTENT OF ';FALLING BACK'; UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.
If you are the type to ';cave'; . . . everyone will know it, and you will NEVER be rewarded for it.
Cheers.
:)I need STRONG (without sugaring) advice to help me get going with women...?
In order to date girls youve got to meet girls. Get yourself out there advertise. Start joking with them or at least go up to a girl you like and just ask for her phone number. But you wont get anywhere if your to afraid to try. Do you know how many girls I could have dated in high school if I just asked ? well I dont either my point isunless your horribly ugly you can get a girl pick one your confident will say yes then go from there just ask someone. I have actually asked out 10 girls in 1 day I didnt stop untill I got a yes trust me someone somewhere will ultimatly **** you. You better hurry up out of this awkward stage or else it will be 10 fold in college good luck
GET OUT THERE! Practice makes perfect my friend. Just make it a point to start talking to girls- one step at a time. Start befriending them, figuring out your style w/ girls-the funny guy, the sweet guy, the smart guy, the athlete, maybe the whole package. You may not get it the first time, so you should really start w/ just getting comfortable with girls, then go from there-good luck! u'll be fine, girls love guys =) of all kinds
your still young, just focus yourself on being yourself, make as many friends as possible and as you get older, hitting 21....your friends will start to want to go out drink partying, etc. you'll start to meet alot of ladies then, just don't be that guy that only wants them for one reason
its not a big deal if you didnt date or didnt have a girl friend. You should simply concentrate on your studies and do not listen to or follow your friends who would pretty much have some sort of pressure on you (i.e they have girl friends and you dont) dont worry about, become successful and you will have girls coming to you, you can do that right now too but there is no use right now, make yourself wanted and the best way to have people want you is to keep your distance and dont show too much interest in them, concentrate on your studies and career.
Don't worry about it so much.When the right one comes along,it will feel natural and you will be yourself.
Okay. You really just need to buck up. If you look good, you feel good. Dress up a little. Do your hair differently. Y'know? Make yourself feel attractive before you can act attractive. Then just say hi. Introduce yourself, get to know her. You don't sound like you're out to bone a girl on the first hour, so it should be a piece of cake! Ask her what she's doing on a given night or find something she's interested in or passionate about (i.e. a sport or particular art form or subject) and appeal to it. If you need any more help, just e-mail me! Good luck!
Get involved in something at school. Its the easiest way to be thrown into various social circles. Plus, the exposure you'll get from the girls there will prepare/ease you for dating.
Also, the best way to break a bad habit is to call it out. Don't try to hide it or run from it.. stop dead in your tracks and say I don't like this and I'm going to change it. Make a plan!
Make sure you look good all the time(and smell good).
And just ask out a girl that you like. Whats the worst that could happen. If you don't do anything, you'll never have a date! And trust me, no woman will ask a guy out. You have to do it if you want it.
Relax a little, women are human too and are probably as nervous and as anxious as you. Unfortunatly we live in a world where our media takes much of our confidence when it comes to dating and relationships, you have to put old anxieties to one side and say to your self ';I'm going to ask this girl out'; If she says no then you lose nothing and you will feel so much better that you had the confidence to do it.
If she says yes then go for it :)
Start with people your own age and simple conversation about topics of mutual interest, such as school or similar activities or events. Don't try to get a date the first time out, just work on developing friends.
You will do fine...
~
Okay, first and foremost you have to put yourself in a comfortable situation. If you aren't the school jock, then don't go after the girls who go after school jocks. If you like, i don't know, science, then go to science functions.
Once you are in a setting where you are relaxed and can be yourself, then you can start to loosen up and talk to girls.
Next-don't jump straight to trying to date someone. Get to know her first. The first conversations are always the most awkward and uncomfortable so think of different things you can talk about in advance. Also, during the conversation try to find a common interest and talk about that. Radiate confidence about what you talk about, but not *********. Just be assured of your words and actions.
If you still want to get to know her better, say something along the lines of ';I really want to get to know you better, would you like to get coffee sometime?'; Its a casual get-together that is in the grey area of friendly meeting and date. If that goes well do not be afraid to ask her out to dinner or a movie while you are having coffee. ';I'm a little hungry, want to grab a bite to eat?';
Again, the initial part is the hardest to overcome at first. Rejection certainly isn't fun but its definitely survivable. In a few years you'll realize that there are literally billions of women out there, if one of them isnt interested, forget her, she isnt worth your time.
you gotta go for it bro! You gotta look for anything to give you
an excuse to go up to the girl. like for example. If she has a
watch on ask her what time it is. be you re self man. be confident man. I think most guys are like that because they
are afraid of being rejected. Hey man whats the worse that
can happen if you get rejected. I ve been rejected alot but
that doesnt stop me from going out and getting the honeys.
You gotta go up to them with that mentality like ';F--k it!';
Yo you can do it bro.
just wait, you will get a girl that will knock you off your feet, and she'll be knocked off hers.
my bf never got a gf til he was 19!!!! and he's not a bad looking guy at all!!
just try to be friends, talk about simple stuff, HAVE CONFIDENCE in yourself, and what you say!!!!!
Right any girl you have in mind? recluses are mysterious and women like mystery so you have that to your advantage....but you have to talk to her off course..just a hey, or homework talk, or ask her for a movie date...subtly..i think is the way to go..
GOOD LUCK!
Take your age into perspective, its natural to be confused as to what to do to socialize. And like most kids, you are expecting instant changes when you do something, and don't stick with it long enough to actualize those changes.
You said you wanted advice straight up, so here it is. Stop concentrating on yourself and get out and do something for someone else. Pick a charity or an interest and throw yourself into it. You will not only occupy the time you spend now thinking about yourself, but you will find yourself with like minded people. That will give you something to talk about, and talking about shared interest is the key to starting any conversation. Relationships start with conversation.
Good luck.
Why not correct your mind, choose girl as normal friend in first place, so that will know if she really suit u, for a certain period, u can decide if u really want her to be your girlfriend!!!
it is alright if girl turn you down, at least u ever try!!!!
If u determined to get a wife, this is the right process u got to follow!!! But sometime, a girl probably has more suitors, this is the danger part in chasing.....u got to show your best...
good luck!!!
I understand your problem %26amp; that's because I was once U !
I won't give an advice for that won't help cause those things never helped ME ! Only I can tell how I changed !
There was dis girl in my college who's always inquisitive about me %26amp; always wanted to talk 2 me ! And I always used to give singular replies !
Oneday, I found she had stopped questioning %26amp; that's when the nail hit me on the head ! I suffered the neglegience for 2 months %26amp; then to the greatest surprise %26amp; satisfaction; proposed ! She accepted !
I need some help!I need STRONG (without sugaring) advice to help me get going with women...?
THATS PERFECTLY NORMAL.
';whats the use';??
CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE THIS VERY MINUTE.
(notice that I am not ';sugaring'; because you asked)
Instead of ASKING yourself . . ';what's the use'; . . . and not having an answer, TELL yourself that when a woman doesn't respond to you . . . IT JUST DOESN';T MATTER.
--%26gt;%26gt; UNTIL SHE ';MEANS'; SOMETHING TO YOU . . . she means NOTHING to you. If you keep this at the back of your mind, then HER REJECTION will mean NOTHING to you TOO!!!
Do you understand the VALUE of that statement??
You are 17. And I am telling you . . . after 23 years of experience since I was 17, having a TOTALLY detached attitude about women who DONT respond means I dont CARE if a woman doesn't respond, and I will CERTAINLY NOT beat myself up about it because it has NOTHING TO DO WITH --%26gt; ME.
';Whats the use'; . . . in CARING about how a woman (you dont even KNOW yet ) responds to you??? Now THATS the question you should be asking.
This makes walking up to ANY women. . . totally inconsiquential EVERY SINGLE TIME. Even if she is a dead KNOCK-OUT . . . who cares. It's not her LOOKS that will KEEP you interested in her . . that's for sure. And it removes any MENTAL block (which only exists in your HEAD anyway) altogether.
Interesting that you used the term ';fall back';. If you wil permit me to say so . . . thats a COWARDS attitude. And its NOT ATTRACTIVE.
If you WANT TO WIN ANY BATTLE IN YOUR LIFE . . . dont even THINK about ';falling back';. You will NEVER win that way. In career . . . promotion . . .and ALL aspects of your life.. . . especially women.
If you WANT to be SUCCESSFUL in LIFE and with women, you must PROJECT NO REMOTE INTENT OF ';FALLING BACK'; UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.
If you are the type to ';cave'; . . . everyone will know it, and you will NEVER be rewarded for it.
Cheers.
:)I need STRONG (without sugaring) advice to help me get going with women...?
In order to date girls youve got to meet girls. Get yourself out there advertise. Start joking with them or at least go up to a girl you like and just ask for her phone number. But you wont get anywhere if your to afraid to try. Do you know how many girls I could have dated in high school if I just asked ? well I dont either my point isunless your horribly ugly you can get a girl pick one your confident will say yes then go from there just ask someone. I have actually asked out 10 girls in 1 day I didnt stop untill I got a yes trust me someone somewhere will ultimatly **** you. You better hurry up out of this awkward stage or else it will be 10 fold in college good luck
GET OUT THERE! Practice makes perfect my friend. Just make it a point to start talking to girls- one step at a time. Start befriending them, figuring out your style w/ girls-the funny guy, the sweet guy, the smart guy, the athlete, maybe the whole package. You may not get it the first time, so you should really start w/ just getting comfortable with girls, then go from there-good luck! u'll be fine, girls love guys =) of all kinds
your still young, just focus yourself on being yourself, make as many friends as possible and as you get older, hitting 21....your friends will start to want to go out drink partying, etc. you'll start to meet alot of ladies then, just don't be that guy that only wants them for one reason
its not a big deal if you didnt date or didnt have a girl friend. You should simply concentrate on your studies and do not listen to or follow your friends who would pretty much have some sort of pressure on you (i.e they have girl friends and you dont) dont worry about, become successful and you will have girls coming to you, you can do that right now too but there is no use right now, make yourself wanted and the best way to have people want you is to keep your distance and dont show too much interest in them, concentrate on your studies and career.
Don't worry about it so much.When the right one comes along,it will feel natural and you will be yourself.
Okay. You really just need to buck up. If you look good, you feel good. Dress up a little. Do your hair differently. Y'know? Make yourself feel attractive before you can act attractive. Then just say hi. Introduce yourself, get to know her. You don't sound like you're out to bone a girl on the first hour, so it should be a piece of cake! Ask her what she's doing on a given night or find something she's interested in or passionate about (i.e. a sport or particular art form or subject) and appeal to it. If you need any more help, just e-mail me! Good luck!
Get involved in something at school. Its the easiest way to be thrown into various social circles. Plus, the exposure you'll get from the girls there will prepare/ease you for dating.
Also, the best way to break a bad habit is to call it out. Don't try to hide it or run from it.. stop dead in your tracks and say I don't like this and I'm going to change it. Make a plan!
Make sure you look good all the time(and smell good).
And just ask out a girl that you like. Whats the worst that could happen. If you don't do anything, you'll never have a date! And trust me, no woman will ask a guy out. You have to do it if you want it.
Relax a little, women are human too and are probably as nervous and as anxious as you. Unfortunatly we live in a world where our media takes much of our confidence when it comes to dating and relationships, you have to put old anxieties to one side and say to your self ';I'm going to ask this girl out'; If she says no then you lose nothing and you will feel so much better that you had the confidence to do it.
If she says yes then go for it :)
Start with people your own age and simple conversation about topics of mutual interest, such as school or similar activities or events. Don't try to get a date the first time out, just work on developing friends.
You will do fine...
~
Okay, first and foremost you have to put yourself in a comfortable situation. If you aren't the school jock, then don't go after the girls who go after school jocks. If you like, i don't know, science, then go to science functions.
Once you are in a setting where you are relaxed and can be yourself, then you can start to loosen up and talk to girls.
Next-don't jump straight to trying to date someone. Get to know her first. The first conversations are always the most awkward and uncomfortable so think of different things you can talk about in advance. Also, during the conversation try to find a common interest and talk about that. Radiate confidence about what you talk about, but not *********. Just be assured of your words and actions.
If you still want to get to know her better, say something along the lines of ';I really want to get to know you better, would you like to get coffee sometime?'; Its a casual get-together that is in the grey area of friendly meeting and date. If that goes well do not be afraid to ask her out to dinner or a movie while you are having coffee. ';I'm a little hungry, want to grab a bite to eat?';
Again, the initial part is the hardest to overcome at first. Rejection certainly isn't fun but its definitely survivable. In a few years you'll realize that there are literally billions of women out there, if one of them isnt interested, forget her, she isnt worth your time.
you gotta go for it bro! You gotta look for anything to give you
an excuse to go up to the girl. like for example. If she has a
watch on ask her what time it is. be you re self man. be confident man. I think most guys are like that because they
are afraid of being rejected. Hey man whats the worse that
can happen if you get rejected. I ve been rejected alot but
that doesnt stop me from going out and getting the honeys.
You gotta go up to them with that mentality like ';F--k it!';
Yo you can do it bro.
just wait, you will get a girl that will knock you off your feet, and she'll be knocked off hers.
my bf never got a gf til he was 19!!!! and he's not a bad looking guy at all!!
just try to be friends, talk about simple stuff, HAVE CONFIDENCE in yourself, and what you say!!!!!
Right any girl you have in mind? recluses are mysterious and women like mystery so you have that to your advantage....but you have to talk to her off course..just a hey, or homework talk, or ask her for a movie date...subtly..i think is the way to go..
GOOD LUCK!
Take your age into perspective, its natural to be confused as to what to do to socialize. And like most kids, you are expecting instant changes when you do something, and don't stick with it long enough to actualize those changes.
You said you wanted advice straight up, so here it is. Stop concentrating on yourself and get out and do something for someone else. Pick a charity or an interest and throw yourself into it. You will not only occupy the time you spend now thinking about yourself, but you will find yourself with like minded people. That will give you something to talk about, and talking about shared interest is the key to starting any conversation. Relationships start with conversation.
Good luck.
Why not correct your mind, choose girl as normal friend in first place, so that will know if she really suit u, for a certain period, u can decide if u really want her to be your girlfriend!!!
it is alright if girl turn you down, at least u ever try!!!!
If u determined to get a wife, this is the right process u got to follow!!! But sometime, a girl probably has more suitors, this is the danger part in chasing.....u got to show your best...
good luck!!!
I understand your problem %26amp; that's because I was once U !
I won't give an advice for that won't help cause those things never helped ME ! Only I can tell how I changed !
There was dis girl in my college who's always inquisitive about me %26amp; always wanted to talk 2 me ! And I always used to give singular replies !
Oneday, I found she had stopped questioning %26amp; that's when the nail hit me on the head ! I suffered the neglegience for 2 months %26amp; then to the greatest surprise %26amp; satisfaction; proposed ! She accepted !
(Girls you are really sweet) Could you advice me how to approach women on streets and bus :)?
Hey guys how are?
I am actually very flattered to see that many girls on that site are REALLY committed to trying to help all kind of guys to get over their shyness and start meeting the women of their dreams it is really sweet now it is my turn to get some advice!
I met more than one women in bookstores or shopping centers and most of the women are really nice and polite some interested some not, no problems. However, I have a hard time approaching in the bus because there are many people around and on the street because I hate creeping out girls, I am not a creep, I am not a stalker so I want to know what approach scares you and what approach doesn't scare you, I am not interested in what to say as it is different from girl to girl as long as it is not a pickup line but I am interested in knowing how to make her feel comfortable when I approach in those scenerios thanks?(Girls you are really sweet) Could you advice me how to approach women on streets and bus :)?
Back up a minute--lets start off with the right stuff--you need to look at yourself and then see what needs to be tuned up--grooming is the first thing a gal notices--so cut and wash your hair--brush your teeth--put on a nice smile and then see if the clothes are appropriate for your age and size--neat and clean. Shoes are also something to look at--keep them clean and in good repair. When you happen to be near a girl or you want to talk to one--that smile and your grown up appearance will be a plus and she is liable to talk to you--as opposed to saying to herself--';OH GOD__look at this a--hole coming over here !!'; Smile and say hi and see if there a chance that she will have a coffee with you-- start out easy. The bus???? That is a few minutes of a ride in a cramped vehicle--NO girl wants to talk--they just want to get where they are going. You need to forget the bus unless one happens to talk for a few minutes and you really impress her. What can anyone tell you to talk about?? That is up to you--come on man, the whole world is out trying to find people--so get over this immature shy crap--dress and act like a man--stand tall--speak like an educated person--be polite and respectful and courteous. Good luck(Girls you are really sweet) Could you advice me how to approach women on streets and bus :)?
My best advice is to get her to notice you. Don't be obnoxious about it but glance at her then glance away, drop something in front of her and pick it up, carry something with you that you think she might be interested in whether it's a book, or a package from a certain store. The trick is to let the girl think that this whole thing was her idea.
I think it's really hard to just approach women randomly and expect them to believe you're really interested in them. I remember being in a music shop once and a guy came up to me asking me a whole bunch of questions, flattering me with a million compliments and then asking for my number %26amp; a date. I really didn't know how to turn him down politely! I think you should forget trying to approach women on the street. My best advice is surround yourself with friends and get to know the ladies in your group. You might just find yourself falling for one of them and it's much easier to then say you really like them, because you'll know them well.
Hm, I'm not sure, but I have a story.
One time, I was on a bus, and I saw this guy totally hitting on a girl. It was freaky. He said something like, ';damngirll, you lookin' fynnee.'; And she just smiled politely. Then he said, ';i just wanna kiss thoze sexxie lips of yours!'; And she didn't really reply. And he said, ';you wanna go get a drink or something?'; And she said something like, ';no, i have a boyfriend.'; And he said, ';ohh, well, can i at least get your number?'; And she said, ';noo... i'm seeing someone already.'; And he said, ';weell, we can just be friends.... why not?'; And she said, ';noo... i wouldn't want him doing something like this, so i wouldn't do that to him.';
Then he got off the next stop.
That's what you shouldn't do.
I'd say just walk up to her, smile, say hello (in a polite, casual, non-stalker-ish way), while giving her space, meaning not standing too close. Just say anything friendly--like if she's reading a book, ask her about it. Maybe make a joke about how long the bus ride is. Just strike up a conversation, without saying all that ';daaamnit girl you fine as all hell'; stuff. You can flirt, but dont get too personal. At the end of it, ask for her number. And even if you don't get a number, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you--she could just be shy, busy, or in a relationship.
It's nice to see a decent guy who cares about the girl's point of view!
I am actually very flattered to see that many girls on that site are REALLY committed to trying to help all kind of guys to get over their shyness and start meeting the women of their dreams it is really sweet now it is my turn to get some advice!
I met more than one women in bookstores or shopping centers and most of the women are really nice and polite some interested some not, no problems. However, I have a hard time approaching in the bus because there are many people around and on the street because I hate creeping out girls, I am not a creep, I am not a stalker so I want to know what approach scares you and what approach doesn't scare you, I am not interested in what to say as it is different from girl to girl as long as it is not a pickup line but I am interested in knowing how to make her feel comfortable when I approach in those scenerios thanks?(Girls you are really sweet) Could you advice me how to approach women on streets and bus :)?
Back up a minute--lets start off with the right stuff--you need to look at yourself and then see what needs to be tuned up--grooming is the first thing a gal notices--so cut and wash your hair--brush your teeth--put on a nice smile and then see if the clothes are appropriate for your age and size--neat and clean. Shoes are also something to look at--keep them clean and in good repair. When you happen to be near a girl or you want to talk to one--that smile and your grown up appearance will be a plus and she is liable to talk to you--as opposed to saying to herself--';OH GOD__look at this a--hole coming over here !!'; Smile and say hi and see if there a chance that she will have a coffee with you-- start out easy. The bus???? That is a few minutes of a ride in a cramped vehicle--NO girl wants to talk--they just want to get where they are going. You need to forget the bus unless one happens to talk for a few minutes and you really impress her. What can anyone tell you to talk about?? That is up to you--come on man, the whole world is out trying to find people--so get over this immature shy crap--dress and act like a man--stand tall--speak like an educated person--be polite and respectful and courteous. Good luck(Girls you are really sweet) Could you advice me how to approach women on streets and bus :)?
My best advice is to get her to notice you. Don't be obnoxious about it but glance at her then glance away, drop something in front of her and pick it up, carry something with you that you think she might be interested in whether it's a book, or a package from a certain store. The trick is to let the girl think that this whole thing was her idea.
I think it's really hard to just approach women randomly and expect them to believe you're really interested in them. I remember being in a music shop once and a guy came up to me asking me a whole bunch of questions, flattering me with a million compliments and then asking for my number %26amp; a date. I really didn't know how to turn him down politely! I think you should forget trying to approach women on the street. My best advice is surround yourself with friends and get to know the ladies in your group. You might just find yourself falling for one of them and it's much easier to then say you really like them, because you'll know them well.
Hm, I'm not sure, but I have a story.
One time, I was on a bus, and I saw this guy totally hitting on a girl. It was freaky. He said something like, ';damngirll, you lookin' fynnee.'; And she just smiled politely. Then he said, ';i just wanna kiss thoze sexxie lips of yours!'; And she didn't really reply. And he said, ';you wanna go get a drink or something?'; And she said something like, ';no, i have a boyfriend.'; And he said, ';ohh, well, can i at least get your number?'; And she said, ';noo... i'm seeing someone already.'; And he said, ';weell, we can just be friends.... why not?'; And she said, ';noo... i wouldn't want him doing something like this, so i wouldn't do that to him.';
Then he got off the next stop.
That's what you shouldn't do.
I'd say just walk up to her, smile, say hello (in a polite, casual, non-stalker-ish way), while giving her space, meaning not standing too close. Just say anything friendly--like if she's reading a book, ask her about it. Maybe make a joke about how long the bus ride is. Just strike up a conversation, without saying all that ';daaamnit girl you fine as all hell'; stuff. You can flirt, but dont get too personal. At the end of it, ask for her number. And even if you don't get a number, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you--she could just be shy, busy, or in a relationship.
It's nice to see a decent guy who cares about the girl's point of view!
Women Truck Drivers, have you some advice?
I am a woman who is thinking of going to a truck driving school like England(CR). I am middle age and my options for office and stuff are falling off. I have driven for a coupl different time periods autos for a transport co. to and from auction and dealer to dealer, but we parted on less than desireable terms, I like driving, so know how people are on the road (in a way , and can handle a car have great road judgment, on that level, at the very least. I have total respect for you great safe truckers out there, my brother is an OTR driver Heavy machinery But are woman going to the schools .. even? I look at some sites and never see any women in the pics for vids or .and the auctions which were by truck stops I never saw any women truckers (course I didn't hang out I just gasup paid but the bill, ..so what you diesal dy..I mean lovely ladies say? I happen to be Les(out) and figured theres afew more diesal d y k e s out there but I know straight gals are out there too, no offenseWomen Truck Drivers, have you some advice?
I have been a truck driver for 8 years making good money. From what I understand you are a lesbo is that correct?
Any moron can drive a car so lets see how you do as a truck driver. I would offer advice but not to a lesbian. So if you are straight and want advice from a seasoned pro let me knowWomen Truck Drivers, have you some advice?
Wow...wonder why this is in the LGBT section?
In the U S yes, there are many women truckers.. Truck drivers make pretty good money all around the world I know.
I say go for it. They probably won't bother you...most men are just trying to mind their own business.
Whenever I see a female truck driver I am usually awed because it is just cool to see a woman handle the rig so well. I never knew people thought women who drive trucks were les but it is cool to see them.
if this is what you wanna do,go for it,dont be put off with few women doing this job,just try it out and see how it goes,give it your best shot!good luck
I have a friend who was a OTR but was also a suicide jocky carring explosive materials. She was straight and had a lunitic for a boyfriend. Nice but out there. She had three trucks on the road leased to different compaines plus her own, she said she only hired guys because the women thought because she was a woman she would be easier on them. She made sure her cheater bar (she had also carried lumber) was handy at night and it only took once of having to convince another trucker with the cheater bar she was not looking for companionship by being on the road. Word spread that she was a crazy as her boyfriend. No more problems. She called one afternoon and asked if I'd run lights for her, she needed a double bumper escort. She was headed to Nasa. She had a load that needed cooling and her air died on the trailor. When we got to her the police decided to run escort too. One of the cops started laughing and every one had to go see what was up. Here's the gal putting stick on signs on the truck. Her truck now read High Explosives Student Driver. We had no trouble making the run, and one of the cops went into the gift shop at Nasa to get a roll of film for his camera to take pictures of her and the student driver sign.
You have to set your mind right to drive and it can real quick break you down if you don't pay attention. It's going to be hard to make money right now, but if you learn to drive and can get into a company thats good to their employees it can be a great job. Right now they are going to need drivers a lot of them are parking their rigs and going to work in jobs close to home. The couple girls I know that used to be on the road say to tell you take a few lessons in some kind of marshall arts or get lisensed to carry (a gun), also a short bar or cheater bar and ';Learn How To Use It'; . Until you get out there and people learn your honest not a loony on the road and will help fellow truckers you may get a little flack. Don't pick a handle that is obivious, one I know named her rig, girl chaser, it lasted about 3 months and she changed it, her last rig was called ';Hero's Heart'; She had the picture of the firemen raising the flag at the World Trade Center on her rig. Another gal just retired in May her rig had a map of the middle east and this big dragon frying the map, around the dragons neck was a set of name tags, one had her brothers name the other had the dragon's name Vengeance. She did 25 Army bought her rig the week she came home and did 20 on the road. The first year she had the rig she parked it on the lot of one of our favorite wattering holes. She got someone to take her to her house so she could get her car. When she came back she was driving a VW beatle. Well needless to say we all had a great time about that until she got too greased then she wanted to fight. Well some one got her clamed down but at closing she was not going to give up her keys. She didn't have to much of a problem about her keeping them which I thought was odd. . When we went outside her VW was sitting on her trailer. The gal she was going to fight with had six brothers and the family owned heavy equipment rentals. The same one though had left a message to call in the morning and they would get the car down for her but it was her way of saying you don't want to fight with me. Needless to say she's never lived that one down. I don't know what she is going to do now that she's retired. I bet her and her partner buy a big RV and hit the road. She isn't going to be comfortable anywhere else.
Luck be with you and if you want a companion to ride with you Jack Russell Terriers make great truck dogs and are very protective. Matty's Jack is named Psycho. He'd does a great impression of a mad Tasmaian Devil when ever a guy comes up to the truck.
dont do itphilosophy
I have been a truck driver for 8 years making good money. From what I understand you are a lesbo is that correct?
Any moron can drive a car so lets see how you do as a truck driver. I would offer advice but not to a lesbian. So if you are straight and want advice from a seasoned pro let me knowWomen Truck Drivers, have you some advice?
Wow...wonder why this is in the LGBT section?
In the U S yes, there are many women truckers.. Truck drivers make pretty good money all around the world I know.
I say go for it. They probably won't bother you...most men are just trying to mind their own business.
Whenever I see a female truck driver I am usually awed because it is just cool to see a woman handle the rig so well. I never knew people thought women who drive trucks were les but it is cool to see them.
if this is what you wanna do,go for it,dont be put off with few women doing this job,just try it out and see how it goes,give it your best shot!good luck
I have a friend who was a OTR but was also a suicide jocky carring explosive materials. She was straight and had a lunitic for a boyfriend. Nice but out there. She had three trucks on the road leased to different compaines plus her own, she said she only hired guys because the women thought because she was a woman she would be easier on them. She made sure her cheater bar (she had also carried lumber) was handy at night and it only took once of having to convince another trucker with the cheater bar she was not looking for companionship by being on the road. Word spread that she was a crazy as her boyfriend. No more problems. She called one afternoon and asked if I'd run lights for her, she needed a double bumper escort. She was headed to Nasa. She had a load that needed cooling and her air died on the trailor. When we got to her the police decided to run escort too. One of the cops started laughing and every one had to go see what was up. Here's the gal putting stick on signs on the truck. Her truck now read High Explosives Student Driver. We had no trouble making the run, and one of the cops went into the gift shop at Nasa to get a roll of film for his camera to take pictures of her and the student driver sign.
You have to set your mind right to drive and it can real quick break you down if you don't pay attention. It's going to be hard to make money right now, but if you learn to drive and can get into a company thats good to their employees it can be a great job. Right now they are going to need drivers a lot of them are parking their rigs and going to work in jobs close to home. The couple girls I know that used to be on the road say to tell you take a few lessons in some kind of marshall arts or get lisensed to carry (a gun), also a short bar or cheater bar and ';Learn How To Use It'; . Until you get out there and people learn your honest not a loony on the road and will help fellow truckers you may get a little flack. Don't pick a handle that is obivious, one I know named her rig, girl chaser, it lasted about 3 months and she changed it, her last rig was called ';Hero's Heart'; She had the picture of the firemen raising the flag at the World Trade Center on her rig. Another gal just retired in May her rig had a map of the middle east and this big dragon frying the map, around the dragons neck was a set of name tags, one had her brothers name the other had the dragon's name Vengeance. She did 25 Army bought her rig the week she came home and did 20 on the road. The first year she had the rig she parked it on the lot of one of our favorite wattering holes. She got someone to take her to her house so she could get her car. When she came back she was driving a VW beatle. Well needless to say we all had a great time about that until she got too greased then she wanted to fight. Well some one got her clamed down but at closing she was not going to give up her keys. She didn't have to much of a problem about her keeping them which I thought was odd. . When we went outside her VW was sitting on her trailer. The gal she was going to fight with had six brothers and the family owned heavy equipment rentals. The same one though had left a message to call in the morning and they would get the car down for her but it was her way of saying you don't want to fight with me. Needless to say she's never lived that one down. I don't know what she is going to do now that she's retired. I bet her and her partner buy a big RV and hit the road. She isn't going to be comfortable anywhere else.
Luck be with you and if you want a companion to ride with you Jack Russell Terriers make great truck dogs and are very protective. Matty's Jack is named Psycho. He'd does a great impression of a mad Tasmaian Devil when ever a guy comes up to the truck.
dont do it
Sometimes an article shows up on Yahoo where people ask a woman for advice. What's her name?
It's something like ';Ask _____'; (insert name) I can't remember her name and can't find her articles.Sometimes an article shows up on Yahoo where people ask a woman for advice. What's her name?
Popular columnist are Ann landers and Ask AbbySometimes an article shows up on Yahoo where people ask a woman for advice. What's her name?
Popular Suze Orman's column appears on Yahoo!
Popular columnist are Ann landers and Ask AbbySometimes an article shows up on Yahoo where people ask a woman for advice. What's her name?
Popular Suze Orman's column appears on Yahoo!
Women, i sure do need some advice lol?
ok so i am 38 weeks, and well i have those contractions off and on. Nothing big right, if they dont come closer they really dont matter. I am soft but just a fingertip open. i know dilation can occur with hours or weeks.
when i woke up this morning i fek\lt my musclea achy in my pelvic area. it hurts when i walk. its prob normal since im carryin around extra weight but are any of you experiencing this?
what can i do the relieve this? co-workers say do squats. Any other suggestions?
Thanks :)Women, i sure do need some advice lol?
Try sitting on a yoga ball.
Yes, this is normal. The baby may have dropped lower into your pelvis. Not much longer to go now! Hang on!!!!
Good luck!Women, i sure do need some advice lol?
That is normal not really much you can do about it, try slow walking or doing some yoga stretches, don't worry your 38 weeks in you don't have much to go, it will all have been worth it in the end once you see that beautiful little baby!
I wish I knew, I'm 38 weeks, too, and I just try to lay down to relieve the pressure.
I would try to rest as much as you can. You could have strained a muscle or a ligament. Mention it to you doctor......
Try a hot water bottle!
good luck
when i woke up this morning i fek\lt my musclea achy in my pelvic area. it hurts when i walk. its prob normal since im carryin around extra weight but are any of you experiencing this?
what can i do the relieve this? co-workers say do squats. Any other suggestions?
Thanks :)Women, i sure do need some advice lol?
Try sitting on a yoga ball.
Yes, this is normal. The baby may have dropped lower into your pelvis. Not much longer to go now! Hang on!!!!
Good luck!Women, i sure do need some advice lol?
That is normal not really much you can do about it, try slow walking or doing some yoga stretches, don't worry your 38 weeks in you don't have much to go, it will all have been worth it in the end once you see that beautiful little baby!
I wish I knew, I'm 38 weeks, too, and I just try to lay down to relieve the pressure.
I would try to rest as much as you can. You could have strained a muscle or a ligament. Mention it to you doctor......
Try a hot water bottle!
good luck
I need a girls advice only some girls tell me that 95% of women do not like men with beards is that true?
what do most of you girls thinkI need a girls advice only some girls tell me that 95% of women do not like men with beards is that true?
I don`t know if it`s true or not but I, for one, don`t like them..........I need a girls advice only some girls tell me that 95% of women do not like men with beards is that true?
um, beards can be sexy if you can work them.
but some people just don't make it work nor is it sexy
so if you're a beard person then the ladies will be love you, if not then shave it !
although, some women just hate them completely because sometimes it hurts to kiss the man, and do things with him, beards can be prickly.
It depends on the girl....i love the rough looking short beards! :)
Beards are creepy. And you could feel it when you are kissing someone. ewww!
i love facial hair. makes a guy look all sexy and tough.
I don`t know if it`s true or not but I, for one, don`t like them..........I need a girls advice only some girls tell me that 95% of women do not like men with beards is that true?
um, beards can be sexy if you can work them.
but some people just don't make it work nor is it sexy
so if you're a beard person then the ladies will be love you, if not then shave it !
although, some women just hate them completely because sometimes it hurts to kiss the man, and do things with him, beards can be prickly.
It depends on the girl....i love the rough looking short beards! :)
Beards are creepy. And you could feel it when you are kissing someone. ewww!
i love facial hair. makes a guy look all sexy and tough.
Any advice for going on a date with a woman who is way more extroverted than you?
She's incredibly talkative and outgoing and spontaneous. I'm reserved, and kind of shy.
We are having a casual date this weekend. Just to spend some time together and get to know each other. Any tips on what to do and what NOT to do?
And yes, I asked her out. She chose the time, I chose the place. So we're having dinner, and if we want, whatever else.Any advice for going on a date with a woman who is way more extroverted than you?
SMASH
well just tlk
and keep the conversations
flowing and not so boring
dnt tlk about ur dog getting a
hair cut or something
good luck
have funAny advice for going on a date with a woman who is way more extroverted than you?
sounds like you're gonna be getting laid like a madman, homeskillet.
Let her talk, lisen carefully and relax. Just be yourself !!! I hope you have fun. :D
We are having a casual date this weekend. Just to spend some time together and get to know each other. Any tips on what to do and what NOT to do?
And yes, I asked her out. She chose the time, I chose the place. So we're having dinner, and if we want, whatever else.Any advice for going on a date with a woman who is way more extroverted than you?
SMASH
well just tlk
and keep the conversations
flowing and not so boring
dnt tlk about ur dog getting a
hair cut or something
good luck
have funAny advice for going on a date with a woman who is way more extroverted than you?
sounds like you're gonna be getting laid like a madman, homeskillet.
Let her talk, lisen carefully and relax. Just be yourself !!! I hope you have fun. :D
Husband is acting up, need advice from men mostly, and women too?
My husband and i have been together since we were 17 and now were 24. he is in the military and his buddies ofcourse most of them are bachelors. my husband and i are having problems and he acts like a bachelor when its convienient for him and acts like my man when its convinient for him also. we are seprated but when he is around me alone we had a pretty good time. however i have had enough of it and am really close to just pack my bags and leave for im tired of not being treated as his wife. we still live with each other becuase we just bought a house and becuase of the economy just cant sell yet. we still sleep in the same bed but i dont feel right anymore. i dont pay attention to him anymore, i really dont. when i dont pay attention to him he gets cranky and upset and even accused me on cheating on him. I actually thought that was hilarious becuase it makes me wonder whats going on in his mind. but when i do pay attention to him he gets i guess a bit comfortable andsays im being clingy....hello im your wife you *** married for 4 years!!!! i love him but i love me more. one minute he says he does not love me like he used to,the next he says he does and then he says he does not and blah blah blah. i have one more year left to graduate from college and if things dont change by then my *** is out. but i really would like a mens perspective on this whole situation. why do u think he is going through this? Husband is acting up, need advice from men mostly, and women too?
He has lost interest , but doesn't want to lose his sense of security. He knows he still has you when its convenient to him. I too, just went thru this, I'm sad to say I did this, but as was said by my girlfriend . it wasn't fair to her. I agreed, but am sad that I came to this. I hope things can change in your situation, But sounds a bit common.Husband is acting up, need advice from men mostly, and women too?
as you've bin together along time and between the ages of 17 - 24 you do a lot of growing up so this might just be part of the growing up and the changes hes growing through. you've bin together along time and so you can obviously not imagine life with out each other so it must be hard. just try to stay positive be nice to him and show him affection but give him space when he starts to nag.
You got married way to young. It seems that he cares about you but he is not ready to be tied down yet.
I was in the military also. I knew a lot of people who had marriage problems and it was usually the younger couples. A lot of it can do with his friends. Men in the military like to live it up. It sounds like he is having conflicting feelings and needs to decide if he wants to be the man that comes home to his wife every night or the man who hangs out with his friends every night. In the ideal world he could find a way to balance the 2. But it doesn't sound like he is ready to do that. So i guess what it comes down to is you making the choice for him. I won't say what that choice should or shouldn't be. But I will say to take a step back and look at the whole situation and what you are getting out of the relationship. See if there is maybe some way that you can help him. Do you get mad if he goes out with his friends on occasion? Does he go out way to much? There are too many scenarios. Just ask yourself ';Is this what I want?';. Anyway i kind of babbled a bit hope it helped.
I think he needs some time to really evaluate his life.
you really need to see a marriage counsellor. the Military usually have them available and even talk with the chaplain will help you out.
he needs to grow up and face the responsibilities of a husband and a man.
yes he can have his bachelor buddies and pal around and bring them home to do stuff but ultimately, you are married and you have a duty to your spouse.
do you guys ever get together with the other married military families, you need to and get together for emotional support just like this.
That's tough, sorry to say. In short, I do not know why you are still living together. I take it he is your first real love and it is probably hard to leave that. You never do forget your first love. He is probably acting bachelorish because he is a guy and is going with the flow of his friends. If he is accusing you of cheating it is probably because he does not have real trust in you. I would try to just talk, like a good long talk. you say you are separated but still use the terms wife and husband, maybe that is holding you back.
Well, the first problem is that in a marriage... you should always love your husband above yourself if you want it to work. BUT... it works both ways. You also deserve respect. My suggestion is to get marriage counseling. It sounds cliche but it works for many couples because men tend to listen to an outsiders unbiased opinion. Hopefully he'll snap out of it and be the husband you need him to be. Best of luck.
I know this is hard , but , dump him . Start a new life . You got married too young .
sounds like he wants to move on or already is cheating or thinking about it. or got with you too young and wants a change.
I am a woman and I have this same exact problem. My husband acts like he does not want to be around me then the next he wants to be around me. He also says ';we should get a divorce';. Then he acts like he does not want a divorce the next minute. I have 2 more years of college and if HE does not change, then he knows what is up. Some men just don't deserve good women. Every woman deserves a good man. If he does not change just leave and find someone who loves and appreciates you 24/7 365 days a year.
I AM AN OLDER WOMAN
My first husband would get drunk and beat me up.
My second husband was a lot like your husband
I caught him in bed with a lady who's Children I was baby setting that day when I brought the children home.
The Love of my Life (and third husband ) died in 2002.
Life is much too short -find every (legal ) way to make him leave .
He needs to grow up emotionally
May be he will some day-but he will take you down until then.
f - him.
Seems normal life of marriage to me. Even you get out from that marriage and jump on the other, will always be the same, problem will arise. don't think that because you got married early that's why you are having this kind of problem, even those people who got married late in their life also experience what you are experiencing now, there's no prefect in our lives but it's up to us to make it wonderful.
Stick it out. Hang in there and instead of being clingy begin to find other positive interest such as, helping someone in need, go to school, start a business, etc and pray. Find a good church that have a great women's ministry and learn. Don't give up on your marriage.
well have you recently did something to bug him, well the only reason i can think of is cheating but don't take my word I've been wrong before try and talk have a romantic night if you know what I mean.
sounds like he's just been hanging around the wrong kind of people. He needs to be around married couples like you guys and not immature bachelors.
the military can do a number on your head.......
give it a year...you two are tied together because of the house anyway
don't get pregnant....try communicating in writing....you don't get interrupted, and you can edit yourself to a point.......
after a year if it's still the same, pack you stuff and leave.......
Since you asked for a man's perspective -- from my perspective your husband is still a kid. Twenty-four is awfully young, it really is. The question is, will he grow up some or will you realize you need somebody smarter, more mature, and somebody that doesn't vacillate between ';I love you I love you not.'; As the song goes, ';first you love me then you hate me, that's a game for fools.'; Definitely finish college and remember, financial independence is your ticket to freedom.
So, to reiterate, he's going through this because he's still growing. Heck, when he hits 40 he'll be crawling on his hands and knees begging for a good woman to love and take care of him. For someone that cares enough to buy him some Prilosec for his ulcer, lol.
its simple ... He is cheating and feels uncomfortable about it .
he feels if he can get you mad. then he will feel better about it .
on the other hand , maybe he is just jealous of his buddies and wants to be a bachelor again %26gt;
All I can say is wait and see what happens, don't get pregnant in the meantime. Men take a LONG time to mature and at 24 he's still a child, my husband is 28 and I still think he acts like a child.
he keeping you around for the bootie. leave him.
Manopause.
Seriously.
Also, men in the military tend to have a much later life development. You can expect him to act like a juvenile until he's around 32, or gets out of the military.
Sad but true.
Honestly, I think you two met when you were really young and he probably never got to sew some of his wild oats. Unfortunately the years from 16-25 are those when people change the most. Over the years you two have probably just grown apart because you've both changed.
As for wanting and then not wanting attention, it's just a game. When men have the attention, they don't want it. When don't have it, they yern for it. as for him questing you about cheating, be skeptical about him because men and women normally question that stuff when a) they've done it or b) they are thinking about doing it or 3) you've cheated on them in the past and they know about it.
Good luck though, only time will tell if things will get better or worse.
I think you guys got married to young and now as a result seems like he has lost interest. I would leave him before it gets ugly and cheating does come in to play if it hasn't already on his part.
He has lost interest , but doesn't want to lose his sense of security. He knows he still has you when its convenient to him. I too, just went thru this, I'm sad to say I did this, but as was said by my girlfriend . it wasn't fair to her. I agreed, but am sad that I came to this. I hope things can change in your situation, But sounds a bit common.Husband is acting up, need advice from men mostly, and women too?
as you've bin together along time and between the ages of 17 - 24 you do a lot of growing up so this might just be part of the growing up and the changes hes growing through. you've bin together along time and so you can obviously not imagine life with out each other so it must be hard. just try to stay positive be nice to him and show him affection but give him space when he starts to nag.
You got married way to young. It seems that he cares about you but he is not ready to be tied down yet.
I was in the military also. I knew a lot of people who had marriage problems and it was usually the younger couples. A lot of it can do with his friends. Men in the military like to live it up. It sounds like he is having conflicting feelings and needs to decide if he wants to be the man that comes home to his wife every night or the man who hangs out with his friends every night. In the ideal world he could find a way to balance the 2. But it doesn't sound like he is ready to do that. So i guess what it comes down to is you making the choice for him. I won't say what that choice should or shouldn't be. But I will say to take a step back and look at the whole situation and what you are getting out of the relationship. See if there is maybe some way that you can help him. Do you get mad if he goes out with his friends on occasion? Does he go out way to much? There are too many scenarios. Just ask yourself ';Is this what I want?';. Anyway i kind of babbled a bit hope it helped.
I think he needs some time to really evaluate his life.
you really need to see a marriage counsellor. the Military usually have them available and even talk with the chaplain will help you out.
he needs to grow up and face the responsibilities of a husband and a man.
yes he can have his bachelor buddies and pal around and bring them home to do stuff but ultimately, you are married and you have a duty to your spouse.
do you guys ever get together with the other married military families, you need to and get together for emotional support just like this.
That's tough, sorry to say. In short, I do not know why you are still living together. I take it he is your first real love and it is probably hard to leave that. You never do forget your first love. He is probably acting bachelorish because he is a guy and is going with the flow of his friends. If he is accusing you of cheating it is probably because he does not have real trust in you. I would try to just talk, like a good long talk. you say you are separated but still use the terms wife and husband, maybe that is holding you back.
Well, the first problem is that in a marriage... you should always love your husband above yourself if you want it to work. BUT... it works both ways. You also deserve respect. My suggestion is to get marriage counseling. It sounds cliche but it works for many couples because men tend to listen to an outsiders unbiased opinion. Hopefully he'll snap out of it and be the husband you need him to be. Best of luck.
I know this is hard , but , dump him . Start a new life . You got married too young .
sounds like he wants to move on or already is cheating or thinking about it. or got with you too young and wants a change.
I am a woman and I have this same exact problem. My husband acts like he does not want to be around me then the next he wants to be around me. He also says ';we should get a divorce';. Then he acts like he does not want a divorce the next minute. I have 2 more years of college and if HE does not change, then he knows what is up. Some men just don't deserve good women. Every woman deserves a good man. If he does not change just leave and find someone who loves and appreciates you 24/7 365 days a year.
I AM AN OLDER WOMAN
My first husband would get drunk and beat me up.
My second husband was a lot like your husband
I caught him in bed with a lady who's Children I was baby setting that day when I brought the children home.
The Love of my Life (and third husband ) died in 2002.
Life is much too short -find every (legal ) way to make him leave .
He needs to grow up emotionally
May be he will some day-but he will take you down until then.
f - him.
Seems normal life of marriage to me. Even you get out from that marriage and jump on the other, will always be the same, problem will arise. don't think that because you got married early that's why you are having this kind of problem, even those people who got married late in their life also experience what you are experiencing now, there's no prefect in our lives but it's up to us to make it wonderful.
Stick it out. Hang in there and instead of being clingy begin to find other positive interest such as, helping someone in need, go to school, start a business, etc and pray. Find a good church that have a great women's ministry and learn. Don't give up on your marriage.
well have you recently did something to bug him, well the only reason i can think of is cheating but don't take my word I've been wrong before try and talk have a romantic night if you know what I mean.
sounds like he's just been hanging around the wrong kind of people. He needs to be around married couples like you guys and not immature bachelors.
the military can do a number on your head.......
give it a year...you two are tied together because of the house anyway
don't get pregnant....try communicating in writing....you don't get interrupted, and you can edit yourself to a point.......
after a year if it's still the same, pack you stuff and leave.......
Since you asked for a man's perspective -- from my perspective your husband is still a kid. Twenty-four is awfully young, it really is. The question is, will he grow up some or will you realize you need somebody smarter, more mature, and somebody that doesn't vacillate between ';I love you I love you not.'; As the song goes, ';first you love me then you hate me, that's a game for fools.'; Definitely finish college and remember, financial independence is your ticket to freedom.
So, to reiterate, he's going through this because he's still growing. Heck, when he hits 40 he'll be crawling on his hands and knees begging for a good woman to love and take care of him. For someone that cares enough to buy him some Prilosec for his ulcer, lol.
its simple ... He is cheating and feels uncomfortable about it .
he feels if he can get you mad. then he will feel better about it .
on the other hand , maybe he is just jealous of his buddies and wants to be a bachelor again %26gt;
All I can say is wait and see what happens, don't get pregnant in the meantime. Men take a LONG time to mature and at 24 he's still a child, my husband is 28 and I still think he acts like a child.
he keeping you around for the bootie. leave him.
Manopause.
Seriously.
Also, men in the military tend to have a much later life development. You can expect him to act like a juvenile until he's around 32, or gets out of the military.
Sad but true.
Honestly, I think you two met when you were really young and he probably never got to sew some of his wild oats. Unfortunately the years from 16-25 are those when people change the most. Over the years you two have probably just grown apart because you've both changed.
As for wanting and then not wanting attention, it's just a game. When men have the attention, they don't want it. When don't have it, they yern for it. as for him questing you about cheating, be skeptical about him because men and women normally question that stuff when a) they've done it or b) they are thinking about doing it or 3) you've cheated on them in the past and they know about it.
Good luck though, only time will tell if things will get better or worse.
I think you guys got married to young and now as a result seems like he has lost interest. I would leave him before it gets ugly and cheating does come in to play if it hasn't already on his part.
Women between ages 25-40.. im 14 and i want some advice.?
I was just wondering if you have any advice for me. I'm going into high school. What should i look foward to? What should I steer clear of? What was the best part of high school for you? Are all boys scumbags?
Anything you have to say is appreciated:DWomen between ages 25-40.. im 14 and i want some advice.?
Treat people decently... In my experience, things from high school rarely matter for life. Keeping up with studies are important, but even when people flunk out, they can take adult learning options... Friends change, boys change...
But if you treat people poorly, especially just to fit in with others, that is something you can't take back and you feel it on your conscience for life. Also, try not to let the stress take away from life. With hormone changes, studies, parents and all the rest, some people feel like there is too much to handle, but really this is a time most people look back on as the best years of their life, so enjoy the little things!!
Good luck and enjoy life!!Women between ages 25-40.. im 14 and i want some advice.?
well im 16 but i have good advice going into high school its going to be hard at first but you will love it once you get Settled in Here is some tips tho to keep in mind
1.Always Get to your classes on time And you will be fine if you cut classes or are Tardy you Can Get Denied Credit Or Detention or something All Schools Are Different but High School Teachers are not understandable like middle school teachers
2.Do all your homework i know there is a lot but high school teachers do not accept late homework
3.Pay Attention to all your classes if you pay attention you will be fine and you will do well on all of your class work and assignments
4.Participate in your class discussion you never know you mite know something that somebody else doesint or somebody else mite know something that you mite not know and you will learn something new
hope i helped
Im not between 25-40 but i am a junior in high school and the best part of high school is meeting all the new people. The worst part I guess for me was not being able to find my classes lol(i forgot to get a map btw). The boys arent scumbags in high school or atleast i didnt think so. As of what to stay away from every high school is different youll find out on ur own. You really shouldn't worry about it though I was so scared first day of freshmen year but it actually wasn't that bad :].
high school is just school it's no different than any other type of school and as long as you focus on your school work and whatever extracuriculars you are involved in you won't have any problems boys are nice to think about but i don't see why a girl needs to date when she has school to worry about.
keep your head held up high!
dont get into the wrong crowd,
dont let peer pressure influence you in things such as drugs, cutting class and etc.
try your best! try and do your homeowrk, you dont wanna go to summer school!
stick close to your bestfriends, dont let guys controll you.
Well boys will be perverted and gross so, ya. It only gets worse as they get older. Stay away from people who drink and smoke. Also stay away from people with bad reps.
im 14 too and im scared for high school too!!philosophy
Anything you have to say is appreciated:DWomen between ages 25-40.. im 14 and i want some advice.?
Treat people decently... In my experience, things from high school rarely matter for life. Keeping up with studies are important, but even when people flunk out, they can take adult learning options... Friends change, boys change...
But if you treat people poorly, especially just to fit in with others, that is something you can't take back and you feel it on your conscience for life. Also, try not to let the stress take away from life. With hormone changes, studies, parents and all the rest, some people feel like there is too much to handle, but really this is a time most people look back on as the best years of their life, so enjoy the little things!!
Good luck and enjoy life!!Women between ages 25-40.. im 14 and i want some advice.?
well im 16 but i have good advice going into high school its going to be hard at first but you will love it once you get Settled in Here is some tips tho to keep in mind
1.Always Get to your classes on time And you will be fine if you cut classes or are Tardy you Can Get Denied Credit Or Detention or something All Schools Are Different but High School Teachers are not understandable like middle school teachers
2.Do all your homework i know there is a lot but high school teachers do not accept late homework
3.Pay Attention to all your classes if you pay attention you will be fine and you will do well on all of your class work and assignments
4.Participate in your class discussion you never know you mite know something that somebody else doesint or somebody else mite know something that you mite not know and you will learn something new
hope i helped
Im not between 25-40 but i am a junior in high school and the best part of high school is meeting all the new people. The worst part I guess for me was not being able to find my classes lol(i forgot to get a map btw). The boys arent scumbags in high school or atleast i didnt think so. As of what to stay away from every high school is different youll find out on ur own. You really shouldn't worry about it though I was so scared first day of freshmen year but it actually wasn't that bad :].
high school is just school it's no different than any other type of school and as long as you focus on your school work and whatever extracuriculars you are involved in you won't have any problems boys are nice to think about but i don't see why a girl needs to date when she has school to worry about.
keep your head held up high!
dont get into the wrong crowd,
dont let peer pressure influence you in things such as drugs, cutting class and etc.
try your best! try and do your homeowrk, you dont wanna go to summer school!
stick close to your bestfriends, dont let guys controll you.
Well boys will be perverted and gross so, ya. It only gets worse as they get older. Stay away from people who drink and smoke. Also stay away from people with bad reps.
im 14 too and im scared for high school too!!
Advice from a real man and women ??
men why is it so hard to have a deep conversation with your partner? Far as stuff you have been through or are going through why are you guys so afraid to tell us whats going with yourselves. My bf tells me im trying to make him out to a whimp or sometin just because i want him to talk to me sometime. Why is that?Advice from a real man and women ??
The trick is to talk about things he is interested in. I am female and don't like to speak to my man about deep stuff - he just goes on and on - I find it pushy. If I wanted to tell him something I just would. Sometimes a carton of beer does wonders.Advice from a real man and women ??
It just takes time for them. A real man will talk.
Don't know babe.
He's a wimp and can't handle it.
The trick is to talk about things he is interested in. I am female and don't like to speak to my man about deep stuff - he just goes on and on - I find it pushy. If I wanted to tell him something I just would. Sometimes a carton of beer does wonders.Advice from a real man and women ??
It just takes time for them. A real man will talk.
Don't know babe.
He's a wimp and can't handle it.
FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? ?
(Seriously, girls don't look at this?)?
I was just wondering if any of you could share just one piece of advice that you'd learned about girls/women in your lifetime.
State your age, too!!
(I'm 16 and a guy)
FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? ?
my advice on women..... they ain't universal, so no 1 piece of advice fits them! they're all psychotic split personality guilt machines
34.... marriedFELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? ?
Lol when I was walking one of my friends(girl) home and my dad saw me he said: ';You shouldn't trust them, they'll only hurt you and take your money!';
I lol'd and I'm 15 by the way.
Well i'm 15 but the one thing i hear from almost every guy i know is ';Stay single for as long as you can, don't even think of marriage till your at least 30...';
Before marriage, they're Anakin Skywalker. After marriage, they're Darth Vader.
Wouldn't you ask girls? Guys don't understand us! Be romantic every girl loves that!
No matter how innocent, quiet and cute they are, if with the right guy, they can be the nastiest tramps you ever imagined.... and that's a good thing!
women are humans, just like us guys. In a lot of ways, we're similar. And in some ways we're different. Just treat em kind %26amp; respectfully.
Don't treat her as though she were stupid.
Why wouldn't you want a woman to answer?
After all no one knows us better than, well ~ us...
you dont know what your getting into....
never argue with a woman while she is on her period
18
i'm 17.
treat her like she's the most special thing in the world to you.
I was just wondering if any of you could share just one piece of advice that you'd learned about girls/women in your lifetime.
State your age, too!!
(I'm 16 and a guy)
FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? ?
my advice on women..... they ain't universal, so no 1 piece of advice fits them! they're all psychotic split personality guilt machines
34.... marriedFELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? ?
Lol when I was walking one of my friends(girl) home and my dad saw me he said: ';You shouldn't trust them, they'll only hurt you and take your money!';
I lol'd and I'm 15 by the way.
Well i'm 15 but the one thing i hear from almost every guy i know is ';Stay single for as long as you can, don't even think of marriage till your at least 30...';
Before marriage, they're Anakin Skywalker. After marriage, they're Darth Vader.
Wouldn't you ask girls? Guys don't understand us! Be romantic every girl loves that!
No matter how innocent, quiet and cute they are, if with the right guy, they can be the nastiest tramps you ever imagined.... and that's a good thing!
women are humans, just like us guys. In a lot of ways, we're similar. And in some ways we're different. Just treat em kind %26amp; respectfully.
Don't treat her as though she were stupid.
Why wouldn't you want a woman to answer?
After all no one knows us better than, well ~ us...
you dont know what your getting into....
never argue with a woman while she is on her period
18
i'm 17.
treat her like she's the most special thing in the world to you.
Looking for advice from 25 to 35 year old women?
Is she interested in Me?
I am interested in a friend, more of a friend of a friend. She is a single mother. I was going to be in her area, lives 1 hour away and I suggested we get together. She invited to her house to cooked me dinner at her house with her little girl. I have known her for awhile and I knew her kid already. Her daughter is one day younger than our mutual friends daughter and I have been around them for several years. Then I took her to dinner last Sunday, had a good time, but I am not getting the normal flirting signs. As far as I know, she hasn't dated anyone since she split with her girls daddy about 1 year ago and they were together for 8 years. I know I have to take it slow, friends, kids, lives 1 hour from me, works 2 jobs, but I am interested and want to know if there are signs I am just not seeing?Looking for advice from 25 to 35 year old women?
Hmm, this is a tough one. But first let me say THANK YOU for being interested in a single mom!! Men like you are hard to find.
Anyway, I am 26, so you may get a different answers from someone older, I don't know.
How good of friends have you been in the past? Obviously she is somewhat interested if she invited you to her house and also went to dinner with you a second time . But I know you ware looking for a more definite sign than that.
My honest advice would be to simply ask her. Ask her if she is interested in dating anyone. Flat out. She is a mature woman with her own life and responsibilities, and she will have no problem giving you a straight answer.
Dating gets complicated when kids are involved, as you are always looking out for the best interest of your child. So she may have decided that she does not want to date anyone until her daughter reaches a certain age. If she's not interested in dating, ask her if she minds you continuing to call on her as just friends.
Once you get out of the puppy love thing, I don't think there is a need to dance around the issue. Just ask. The worst that can happen is that she says no. Then you will know where you stand and you won't waste a year trying to read signals.Looking for advice from 25 to 35 year old women?
She is probably scared of relationships. take your time and she'll come around. I know right now I don't know how to trust. It's good she's invited you over and has gone out on a date with you. Just give her time. Good luck!!!
whenu go over for dinner.....if she is dressed extremely casual....like jeans and sweatshirt....then she is just looking for good company for conversation ......but
if you come over and she is dressed up....like a date.....she's got something up her sleeve for the future....hold on to your checkbook and credit cards
well, im a single mother and it is hard dating. In my case it's non-existant. She is probably feeling you out and wondering if she is doing the right thing. If you are interested in being in her and her daughters life, please be patient.
You don't need to look for signs. Just be straight forward and let her know your intentions. She must be interested in you she invited you to her house for dinner. However, you need to let her know your intentions and what you are willing to provide in a relationship with her and her daughter. Make sure she has healed from her breakup and that she is ready for the intimacy you are requesting.
If u r serious abt that.
Whenever u find her in good mood, ask her
I am interested in a friend, more of a friend of a friend. She is a single mother. I was going to be in her area, lives 1 hour away and I suggested we get together. She invited to her house to cooked me dinner at her house with her little girl. I have known her for awhile and I knew her kid already. Her daughter is one day younger than our mutual friends daughter and I have been around them for several years. Then I took her to dinner last Sunday, had a good time, but I am not getting the normal flirting signs. As far as I know, she hasn't dated anyone since she split with her girls daddy about 1 year ago and they were together for 8 years. I know I have to take it slow, friends, kids, lives 1 hour from me, works 2 jobs, but I am interested and want to know if there are signs I am just not seeing?Looking for advice from 25 to 35 year old women?
Hmm, this is a tough one. But first let me say THANK YOU for being interested in a single mom!! Men like you are hard to find.
Anyway, I am 26, so you may get a different answers from someone older, I don't know.
How good of friends have you been in the past? Obviously she is somewhat interested if she invited you to her house and also went to dinner with you a second time . But I know you ware looking for a more definite sign than that.
My honest advice would be to simply ask her. Ask her if she is interested in dating anyone. Flat out. She is a mature woman with her own life and responsibilities, and she will have no problem giving you a straight answer.
Dating gets complicated when kids are involved, as you are always looking out for the best interest of your child. So she may have decided that she does not want to date anyone until her daughter reaches a certain age. If she's not interested in dating, ask her if she minds you continuing to call on her as just friends.
Once you get out of the puppy love thing, I don't think there is a need to dance around the issue. Just ask. The worst that can happen is that she says no. Then you will know where you stand and you won't waste a year trying to read signals.Looking for advice from 25 to 35 year old women?
She is probably scared of relationships. take your time and she'll come around. I know right now I don't know how to trust. It's good she's invited you over and has gone out on a date with you. Just give her time. Good luck!!!
whenu go over for dinner.....if she is dressed extremely casual....like jeans and sweatshirt....then she is just looking for good company for conversation ......but
if you come over and she is dressed up....like a date.....she's got something up her sleeve for the future....hold on to your checkbook and credit cards
well, im a single mother and it is hard dating. In my case it's non-existant. She is probably feeling you out and wondering if she is doing the right thing. If you are interested in being in her and her daughters life, please be patient.
You don't need to look for signs. Just be straight forward and let her know your intentions. She must be interested in you she invited you to her house for dinner. However, you need to let her know your intentions and what you are willing to provide in a relationship with her and her daughter. Make sure she has healed from her breakup and that she is ready for the intimacy you are requesting.
If u r serious abt that.
Whenever u find her in good mood, ask her
Who do you think gives better advice on here - men or women?
In general, I think people only tend to take advice that reinforces what they were already thinking, irrespective of gender.Who do you think gives better advice on here - men or women?
My advice is usually pretty awesome.Who do you think gives better advice on here - men or women?
Men and Women are equally the same somehow in this matter. I only know some and not all, older people are much more wise as they had been through all the good and bad times and know how and what to say or handling some situation.
dpends on the situation and there isnt a right or wrong opinion... both sexes have different points of view... {}
Depends on the categorie
women
My advice is usually pretty awesome.Who do you think gives better advice on here - men or women?
Men and Women are equally the same somehow in this matter. I only know some and not all, older people are much more wise as they had been through all the good and bad times and know how and what to say or handling some situation.
dpends on the situation and there isnt a right or wrong opinion... both sexes have different points of view... {}
Depends on the categorie
women
Women only please...Period and tampon advice!?
I have my period and its always regular. Im not overweight....im healthy and i would say im normal.
When i have my period...all the blood comes out normaly on the pad ( i dont use tampons) but when i wipe my vagina...sometimes i get ';lumps'; of almost blood....but they are DARK red like blood and have a kind of jelly feel...
its not....flesh is it? or bits of the womb lining?
does anyone else have this?Women only please...Period and tampon advice!?
Yup it happens to me all the time during my period. Just don't worry about it, it's normal!Women only please...Period and tampon advice!?
don't worry, everyone has that : )
i get it to it makes me feel kinda scared
When i have my period...all the blood comes out normaly on the pad ( i dont use tampons) but when i wipe my vagina...sometimes i get ';lumps'; of almost blood....but they are DARK red like blood and have a kind of jelly feel...
its not....flesh is it? or bits of the womb lining?
does anyone else have this?Women only please...Period and tampon advice!?
Yup it happens to me all the time during my period. Just don't worry about it, it's normal!Women only please...Period and tampon advice!?
don't worry, everyone has that : )
i get it to it makes me feel kinda scared
Women of the World...I need advice. Plleasse?
I want to meet women. Or just a woman. any woman. As long as they didn't use to be a guy..... another story..... But I am painfully shy. I like the idea of using the net, but there is a lot of crap that goes with it. People assume that I am a creep, or they want to sell me something. I mean, I am a reasonable looking guy. I'm not 400 lbs, I don't live with my mommy, I have a job, I have personal hygeniene. I am just too shy to strike up a conversation with a strange women(in person) and I am afraid of going that route with someone I know. eehh, help meWomen of the World...I need advice. Plleasse?
Get your self out there, if you are just shy but eligible, then, I'm sure there will be a girl that will be after you. Go to places you like to go OUT!! if you like to read, go to the library, or excercise, or yoga, or singing, some place that you can go regularly, this way you'll meet some body with the same interests. I'm sure that some one will notice you and start a conversation with you after a few days. If you are shy, the least you can do is get your self out there right?Women of the World...I need advice. Plleasse?
try local chat lines (on the telephone)
go to a bar, ask a lady if you can buy her a drink, once she accepts the conversation starts from there. take it slow and don't be shy when around women, women see that as a weekness and will take advantage of a man's shyness. Go out with friends that are a littel more bold and learn from them,, it'll help.philosophy
Get your self out there, if you are just shy but eligible, then, I'm sure there will be a girl that will be after you. Go to places you like to go OUT!! if you like to read, go to the library, or excercise, or yoga, or singing, some place that you can go regularly, this way you'll meet some body with the same interests. I'm sure that some one will notice you and start a conversation with you after a few days. If you are shy, the least you can do is get your self out there right?Women of the World...I need advice. Plleasse?
try local chat lines (on the telephone)
go to a bar, ask a lady if you can buy her a drink, once she accepts the conversation starts from there. take it slow and don't be shy when around women, women see that as a weekness and will take advantage of a man's shyness. Go out with friends that are a littel more bold and learn from them,, it'll help.
I don't know what to do and I need someones help... I need advice for both men and women!?
My boyfriend has a very busy schedule and there would be no way that we would be able to see or talk to eachother cause he has school, work study, marching band and he's the section leader of his section and homework! So there would be no way that it would work out and both of us be happy..so we decided to go on a break until after marching season which ends after november 17th... we just split up and it's already killing me... I told him that i would wait for him....but I don't know what to do! I need someone's advice....I don't know what to do and I need someones help... I need advice for both men and women!?
Well November will be here soon enough. Might I suggest that you start journaling your feelings? Your could use a notebook or just write letters that you keep. It'd be sorta sweet to write your thoughts down as if you were talking to your boyfriend. That way, when you get back together, you can copy some of it out for him and share it. :)
I think you've made a good sacrifice, give yourself credit. I believe that by making time for your boyfriend each day, even though it's only on your part, you'll get through the time and not feel so lonely. When November comes around you'll have a very good understanding of yourself and your feelings.I don't know what to do and I need someones help... I need advice for both men and women!?
Get a few minutes and talk to him anything is possible if you put your mind to it. You could leave notes in lockers or online and find a few minutes to talk every couple days. Think about it as long distance. Sounds like you definitely need to talk to him though and see if he is feeling the same about you.
Find the time. Write down his schedule and find out when hes free. Go to his practices.
is it killing you for him or killing you to have a boyfriend? what is it you missing the most from not having a boy freind
Take it easy. You both agreed that it would only be until november 17. In the meantime, concentrate on yourself and your studies. If it is meant to be, then you guys will get back together. Who knows, you might decide you don't want him back. Either way, it is not healthy to be that hung up on someone no matter what age you are. (been there and it cost me my health).
dont wait for him cuz if u do u will have a crappy school year if he doesnt have time for u or cant make time o well he is not worth it plus couldnt u study 2gether he can make time dont wait go for another guy!!!!!
Tell him how you feel.
DONT W8
COZ LIFE IS GOING ON FAST AND U WILL LOOSE TIME....SEEK FOR ANOTHER GUY ...SO UR LIFE WONT B MISRABLE
Well, Honey, do you want someone in your life who has no time for you? Why? Most importantly, does he love you the same way you love him? What do you expect from this relationship? Ask these questions from yourself? Be honest with your self. You heard the expression ';Life is short';. He seemed pretty goal oriented person. Is your time worth for waiting him mostly. Let him to do what he wants to do. You can not change him. he might come back to you. I know it is horrible to break up. I've been there. It will take time to heal. This is the part of life and learning experience. You will grow.
Read information help you to heal and forward your life positively. You will find a nice person that is just right for you one day. Good Luck.
ok go on a break not a break up !
U should keep intouch at least by text msging or emailing each other daily or even weekly ! not completely stop speaking to each other :/
GooC LucK ^__^
You could always join the marching band or the color guard so yuo can be with him.
talk to him again and see if both of you can agree to see other people for a while then see how you feel after november 17
Take it one day at a time. You feel this way now, but things could change dramatically by 11/17. Either you or he could find someone else to be interested in, or you may be able to tough it out. Worrying about it won't help you no matter what happens.
In the meantime, find something else to occupy your time. The best way to get through the next few months is to keep your mind occupied. If it's meant to be, it will be.
first off let me just tell u this is a reallt tough situation
the first u have to do is ask yerself do u reeally love this guy and wanna sacrifice alot for him
2. ask yerself or him is he willing to sacrifice for you
also if u guys go to the same school hang out there and u could visit him at his jobs (ik some dont allow that but if his does) u could go watch his marching band practice (if they allow that) u could help him study and do your homework together
and if none of this works then it all comes down to this
maybe its just....not meant to be
hope i hel[ed =]]
good luck with yer relationship!!!!
Well November will be here soon enough. Might I suggest that you start journaling your feelings? Your could use a notebook or just write letters that you keep. It'd be sorta sweet to write your thoughts down as if you were talking to your boyfriend. That way, when you get back together, you can copy some of it out for him and share it. :)
I think you've made a good sacrifice, give yourself credit. I believe that by making time for your boyfriend each day, even though it's only on your part, you'll get through the time and not feel so lonely. When November comes around you'll have a very good understanding of yourself and your feelings.I don't know what to do and I need someones help... I need advice for both men and women!?
Get a few minutes and talk to him anything is possible if you put your mind to it. You could leave notes in lockers or online and find a few minutes to talk every couple days. Think about it as long distance. Sounds like you definitely need to talk to him though and see if he is feeling the same about you.
Find the time. Write down his schedule and find out when hes free. Go to his practices.
is it killing you for him or killing you to have a boyfriend? what is it you missing the most from not having a boy freind
Take it easy. You both agreed that it would only be until november 17. In the meantime, concentrate on yourself and your studies. If it is meant to be, then you guys will get back together. Who knows, you might decide you don't want him back. Either way, it is not healthy to be that hung up on someone no matter what age you are. (been there and it cost me my health).
dont wait for him cuz if u do u will have a crappy school year if he doesnt have time for u or cant make time o well he is not worth it plus couldnt u study 2gether he can make time dont wait go for another guy!!!!!
Tell him how you feel.
DONT W8
COZ LIFE IS GOING ON FAST AND U WILL LOOSE TIME....SEEK FOR ANOTHER GUY ...SO UR LIFE WONT B MISRABLE
Well, Honey, do you want someone in your life who has no time for you? Why? Most importantly, does he love you the same way you love him? What do you expect from this relationship? Ask these questions from yourself? Be honest with your self. You heard the expression ';Life is short';. He seemed pretty goal oriented person. Is your time worth for waiting him mostly. Let him to do what he wants to do. You can not change him. he might come back to you. I know it is horrible to break up. I've been there. It will take time to heal. This is the part of life and learning experience. You will grow.
Read information help you to heal and forward your life positively. You will find a nice person that is just right for you one day. Good Luck.
ok go on a break not a break up !
U should keep intouch at least by text msging or emailing each other daily or even weekly ! not completely stop speaking to each other :/
GooC LucK ^__^
You could always join the marching band or the color guard so yuo can be with him.
talk to him again and see if both of you can agree to see other people for a while then see how you feel after november 17
Take it one day at a time. You feel this way now, but things could change dramatically by 11/17. Either you or he could find someone else to be interested in, or you may be able to tough it out. Worrying about it won't help you no matter what happens.
In the meantime, find something else to occupy your time. The best way to get through the next few months is to keep your mind occupied. If it's meant to be, it will be.
first off let me just tell u this is a reallt tough situation
the first u have to do is ask yerself do u reeally love this guy and wanna sacrifice alot for him
2. ask yerself or him is he willing to sacrifice for you
also if u guys go to the same school hang out there and u could visit him at his jobs (ik some dont allow that but if his does) u could go watch his marching band practice (if they allow that) u could help him study and do your homework together
and if none of this works then it all comes down to this
maybe its just....not meant to be
hope i hel[ed =]]
good luck with yer relationship!!!!
I need advice from both men and women please,thanks?
The gas station up the street employs a very attractive lady,i'm 33yrs she looks to be about the same age,and i want to know how to go about asking her out,i went boating and she seen my boat and i really want to spend some time with her,but not sure if she may not wanna.I need advice from both men and women please,thanks?
ask her if she likes boats and ask her if she wants to go out on the lake with you one day...if she seems like she is gonna say no, dont be surprised, thats a big thing for randomly asking someone out, then laugh and say, or how about we start off with dinner? then she'll smile and you should be able to take it from there...I need advice from both men and women please,thanks?
When you already have doubts about her conceding to your wish, don't pursue.
first, find out if she's in a relationship...
You're 33 and you don't know how to ask a gas pump jockey out on a date??? Good Lord, man...just go in there and tell her you saw her looking at your BOAT and wondered if she'd like to go for a fast ride! Then, run out of gas on the lake...lol
Well, you just ask. Go in and buy something. Only customer in the store? Strike up a conversation and end it with an invitation.
If you're 33 and still having trouble picking up women, you might wanna start with someone less attractive just to boost your confidence, i'm sure at some point in your life you had game, go out and practice, practice, practice, before you ask out the one you want, get rid of all the butterflies in your stomach before making a big move, you're older so game playing should be minimal, when you do approach her, do it directly and to the point and lots of confidence, GOOD LUCK
I agree with Jodie. Go in there, buy something. Say hey, how you doing today to start the conversation off. Be like it's really hot outside isn't it? Has it been busy int he store today? See how she responds. You'll never know what she might say until she asks. Then, ask her if she would like to go out on the boat sometimes.
Go in there and make a lil conversation ask her out, it couldnt hurt, it is better to love and lost then to have not loved at all good luck
ask her if she likes boats and ask her if she wants to go out on the lake with you one day...if she seems like she is gonna say no, dont be surprised, thats a big thing for randomly asking someone out, then laugh and say, or how about we start off with dinner? then she'll smile and you should be able to take it from there...I need advice from both men and women please,thanks?
When you already have doubts about her conceding to your wish, don't pursue.
first, find out if she's in a relationship...
You're 33 and you don't know how to ask a gas pump jockey out on a date??? Good Lord, man...just go in there and tell her you saw her looking at your BOAT and wondered if she'd like to go for a fast ride! Then, run out of gas on the lake...lol
Well, you just ask. Go in and buy something. Only customer in the store? Strike up a conversation and end it with an invitation.
If you're 33 and still having trouble picking up women, you might wanna start with someone less attractive just to boost your confidence, i'm sure at some point in your life you had game, go out and practice, practice, practice, before you ask out the one you want, get rid of all the butterflies in your stomach before making a big move, you're older so game playing should be minimal, when you do approach her, do it directly and to the point and lots of confidence, GOOD LUCK
I agree with Jodie. Go in there, buy something. Say hey, how you doing today to start the conversation off. Be like it's really hot outside isn't it? Has it been busy int he store today? See how she responds. You'll never know what she might say until she asks. Then, ask her if she would like to go out on the boat sometimes.
Go in there and make a lil conversation ask her out, it couldnt hurt, it is better to love and lost then to have not loved at all good luck
25 year old woman seeks advice for birth control pills?
i want to understand why bc pills contain 21 tablets and the other 28... how will i know which number of tablets is suited for me25 year old woman seeks advice for birth control pills?
Actually 21 pills are all that contain the actual medication. The last 7 in the 28 pack are placebo pills (sugar pills) designed to help you remember to take your birth control everyday.
So either one can be suited for you. but if you like to keep in the habit of taking the pill everyday, than maybe you need to opt for the 28 pack.25 year old woman seeks advice for birth control pills?
Your health care professional can help you with finding the right dosage. Another form of b/c that you may want to consider is the Nuva Ring. You insert the ring into your vagina you leave it in for 28 days and on the 28th day you remove it. After you menstruate you insert the new ring 7days later. It is awesome no worrying about forgetting to take the pill. Most men say they can not feel the ring. However if it is uncomfortable for your partner you can remove it during intercourse and you are still protected. It is a rubber ring that releases hormones like the ones found in oral contraceptives. This is just an idea. I always hated the pill because I would miss doses sometimes.
It may take several months to determine what type of birth control pills are best for you. Let your doctor know your concerns.Your physician will help with your questions.
21 contain hormones, 7 contain iron, this last week (7 days) is when you should get your period. the seven are just to keep the concistency of taking the pills.
the other 7 pills are just sugar to keep you in the habit of taking the pills during your period.
when you talk to your doctor and you tell them you cycle ,they determine if you are 21 or 28 ,im assuming
Differant potency. different drug.
u should visit a doctor before u start taking any of them! the doctor should tell u which type is suiable for ur body!
Actually 21 pills are all that contain the actual medication. The last 7 in the 28 pack are placebo pills (sugar pills) designed to help you remember to take your birth control everyday.
So either one can be suited for you. but if you like to keep in the habit of taking the pill everyday, than maybe you need to opt for the 28 pack.25 year old woman seeks advice for birth control pills?
Your health care professional can help you with finding the right dosage. Another form of b/c that you may want to consider is the Nuva Ring. You insert the ring into your vagina you leave it in for 28 days and on the 28th day you remove it. After you menstruate you insert the new ring 7days later. It is awesome no worrying about forgetting to take the pill. Most men say they can not feel the ring. However if it is uncomfortable for your partner you can remove it during intercourse and you are still protected. It is a rubber ring that releases hormones like the ones found in oral contraceptives. This is just an idea. I always hated the pill because I would miss doses sometimes.
It may take several months to determine what type of birth control pills are best for you. Let your doctor know your concerns.Your physician will help with your questions.
21 contain hormones, 7 contain iron, this last week (7 days) is when you should get your period. the seven are just to keep the concistency of taking the pills.
the other 7 pills are just sugar to keep you in the habit of taking the pills during your period.
when you talk to your doctor and you tell them you cycle ,they determine if you are 21 or 28 ,im assuming
Differant potency. different drug.
u should visit a doctor before u start taking any of them! the doctor should tell u which type is suiable for ur body!
Are there any women out there who can give solid advice on how to convince your wife to try ';backdoor'; love?
yes, get her good and drunk... and grease it up.. then just gently slip it in there.Are there any women out there who can give solid advice on how to convince your wife to try ';backdoor'; love?
If you have asked her and she's said no then you have to respect that or get another wife who does.Are there any women out there who can give solid advice on how to convince your wife to try ';backdoor'; love?
Most women dont want to try this because they think it will be embarassing. Its kind of compicated...it cant be done if you have to poop. of course, a guy wont know when that is. It would be embarassing to have poop all over your husbands penis. not exactly romantic. Why are men obsessed with this? its so gross. seriosuly, its poop. POOP! think about it! how is that a turn on??? if its not tight enough, she can have surgery to tighten her hymen.
she should be comfortable with it not have to be convinced, but if you do talk her into it make sure she knows that you will be gentle and if it starts to hurt her you will stop.
I myself am 51 years old and theres just some things i wont do and thats one of them.If she doesnt want to leave her alone.Theres all kinds of other stuff to do besides that.
It's interesting to me so many men want this but think it is repulsive if two guys do it...
Anyways, what are the main reasons she doesn't want to do it? Is she scared it will hurt? Does she just think it sounds gross?
If we ever do, it's ALWAYS in the shower...I won't do it anywhere else. Tell her it can be great, sometimes even as good as vaginal sex...if you are gentle with her.
I believe the purpose of sex is to please your partner and show them you love them. So, maybe you should do something she wants and she will do what you want...
Now, why would you want to pervert your wife's enjoyment of sex to endanger yourself to a disease from coliform bacteria and microorganisms that could infect your penis or your wife's anus? I don' t think so. You will have to do it alone.
I agree with i2needama..
Give her a few drinks to relax her, grease her %26amp; yourself up well and go easy.....
I enjoy ';backdoor love'; with just about all of my partners...
Novice or Experienced, they all enjoy it and orgasm after a little
practice....It will take several times before they begin to really enjoy it....
get a life. YOu obviously have been watching porn or something. You've been depraved. The Poop shoot is for pooping..............
I feel the reason why most girls would be afraid to try anal sex is because:
1. They don't know enough about it.
2. They fear it because or horror stories they heard
3. They think it is dirty and painful.
4. They are worried that they could get an affection, ether vaginal or bladder if things enter the correct place.
I think if you talk to her about it and reassure her and tell her that things will be done slowly and that she will have complete control as to when to stop...etc...you will have a better chance of her being open minded to anal sex. I think it is mostly the fear of the unknown that prevents girls from trying it out.
Start it in a different fashion like:
During your usual romp in the hay, just shove it up the other entry and say ';whoops, I slipped';
Honestly, it is something that she needs to agree with. try to show her that it feels good by using your tongue or introduce your finger, use plenty of lube and don't force it. I read some of the others advice, some people are just so niave, they don't even know there own bodies. Anal sex doesn't have to hurt, it isn't messy if done properly and at the right time, and it can be as enjoyable as vaginal sex to both.
Is there anyway we can convince you to go find a guy and get screwed up the A**. If you won't do it and think it would hurt, why would you ask your wife to do something she obviously dosn't want to do.
WHAT HAS BECOME OF THIS WORLD!
if there's anything she wants you to do but you haven't wanted to, you could always use that as a bargainng chip. if you can't think of anything, unlimited orgasms for one day is a pretty good negotiation tool, too!
If you have asked her and she's said no then you have to respect that or get another wife who does.Are there any women out there who can give solid advice on how to convince your wife to try ';backdoor'; love?
Most women dont want to try this because they think it will be embarassing. Its kind of compicated...it cant be done if you have to poop. of course, a guy wont know when that is. It would be embarassing to have poop all over your husbands penis. not exactly romantic. Why are men obsessed with this? its so gross. seriosuly, its poop. POOP! think about it! how is that a turn on??? if its not tight enough, she can have surgery to tighten her hymen.
she should be comfortable with it not have to be convinced, but if you do talk her into it make sure she knows that you will be gentle and if it starts to hurt her you will stop.
I myself am 51 years old and theres just some things i wont do and thats one of them.If she doesnt want to leave her alone.Theres all kinds of other stuff to do besides that.
It's interesting to me so many men want this but think it is repulsive if two guys do it...
Anyways, what are the main reasons she doesn't want to do it? Is she scared it will hurt? Does she just think it sounds gross?
If we ever do, it's ALWAYS in the shower...I won't do it anywhere else. Tell her it can be great, sometimes even as good as vaginal sex...if you are gentle with her.
I believe the purpose of sex is to please your partner and show them you love them. So, maybe you should do something she wants and she will do what you want...
Now, why would you want to pervert your wife's enjoyment of sex to endanger yourself to a disease from coliform bacteria and microorganisms that could infect your penis or your wife's anus? I don' t think so. You will have to do it alone.
I agree with i2needama..
Give her a few drinks to relax her, grease her %26amp; yourself up well and go easy.....
I enjoy ';backdoor love'; with just about all of my partners...
Novice or Experienced, they all enjoy it and orgasm after a little
practice....It will take several times before they begin to really enjoy it....
get a life. YOu obviously have been watching porn or something. You've been depraved. The Poop shoot is for pooping..............
I feel the reason why most girls would be afraid to try anal sex is because:
1. They don't know enough about it.
2. They fear it because or horror stories they heard
3. They think it is dirty and painful.
4. They are worried that they could get an affection, ether vaginal or bladder if things enter the correct place.
I think if you talk to her about it and reassure her and tell her that things will be done slowly and that she will have complete control as to when to stop...etc...you will have a better chance of her being open minded to anal sex. I think it is mostly the fear of the unknown that prevents girls from trying it out.
Start it in a different fashion like:
During your usual romp in the hay, just shove it up the other entry and say ';whoops, I slipped';
Honestly, it is something that she needs to agree with. try to show her that it feels good by using your tongue or introduce your finger, use plenty of lube and don't force it. I read some of the others advice, some people are just so niave, they don't even know there own bodies. Anal sex doesn't have to hurt, it isn't messy if done properly and at the right time, and it can be as enjoyable as vaginal sex to both.
Is there anyway we can convince you to go find a guy and get screwed up the A**. If you won't do it and think it would hurt, why would you ask your wife to do something she obviously dosn't want to do.
WHAT HAS BECOME OF THIS WORLD!
if there's anything she wants you to do but you haven't wanted to, you could always use that as a bargainng chip. if you can't think of anything, unlimited orgasms for one day is a pretty good negotiation tool, too!
I really need relationship/internet advice from both men and women of all ages?
Im 22, my fiancee for 3 yrs is 32. We have a 1 yr old daughter together and we're completely committed to eachother. I just showed my boyfriend that I looked up a profile of a 24 yr old male on myspace. This is someone whom I only had a platonic relationship with in the past. A friend from highschool, what he looks like has no relevance because I love my man. My man worries why I am looking up and talking to other guys, I say that people are just words on a computer screen and male or female, social interaction is important to a person. Im a stay at home mom, my man works all day and I just raise my daughter. We just moved to a new province in canada and we dont have any friends. Is it acceptable in a relationship for women to talk to other men or for men to talk to other women? Is chatting on myspace a no no if you want to keep a committed relationship?I really need relationship/internet advice from both men and women of all ages?
Nothing wrong with that at all...You man is being a touch too paranoid.I really need relationship/internet advice from both men and women of all ages?
You can have ANY friends you feel like having. Don't let anyone control you like that. I would rather have my girl look someone up on the internet instead of going to the mall or bar to find friends. He needs to not be so jealous and insecure.
my husband and i just moved to new city as well, and i am in exactly the same situation as you, hubby works all day and i stay home to raise our 2 year old daughter.
i say thank goodness for myspace, it makes me feel as though i have some contact with the outside world, and past friends!! my husband is not as annoyed as he used to be about me being friend with other guys. like you, they are friends from a long time ago. no big deal.
I dont think it is wrong. I myself have spent hours looking at dif peoples sites on myspace. I have found alot of old friends on there.
Because you're asking the question, I'm assuming you already know the possibility exists that some folks will say this is wrong... We're all different and some actions will result in jealous responses when the intent was completely innocent to you. As far as I'm personally concerned, I see nothing wrong with it as long as there is nothing hidden or secret about it. I wouldn't mind if you chatted with an old friend at the mall, but I might get a little uncomfortable if you talked with that same friend in a dark booth in a quiet resturant - and I found out from a friend of mine that saw you there, rather than directly from you.
Does that make sense?
Well right or wrong in this case might be different from one person to other person. Look at it this way, would u accept it IF your man chatted to another girl, someone that he was once attached to? If u have problem with that, then i'd say its wrong but if you think its ok, then its ok.
The bottomline is, i think you have to think where is that relationship (between u and ur friend) might lead to. Even if its only words and screen, a flirt still consider as a flirt. So re-consider that and put yourself in your man shoes and see it all from his perspective. Yes, social interaction is very important for everyone, but then maybe you could pick someone that will not worry your man. but thats your perogrative. you know wats best 4 u.
I hope you both sort out the matters. good luck!
i think committed people should have enough trust for one another to talk to anyone they want. if your man really trusts you and you trust him, i don't see a problem with talking to another guy. my boyfriend doesn't care who i talk to, he knows i am committed to him and only him.
If that is the worst thing you ever do, this guy has it made in the shade.
well you can chat with people in internet l do as well but curiosity makes you bad and you go steps by steps forword and you can not stop it people live their homes and children's for their internet lovers so chat but carefull
i think it is wrong. i don't say that im a saint and don't do this, but at least i don't show it to my man. i know it will be unpleasant for him. wouldn't it be inpleasant for u if your man was talking to other women and showing them to u as if sticking it? i doubt so. i know i wouldn't like it.
yes chatting on myspace is a big no no if u r married. i say that because ppl on there b talkin bout some crazy stuff and u jus might like it or if u meet some1 on there u might catch feelings and it might ruin ur relationship. if i was married i wouldnt b on it. but hey im young and not worried about any marriage right now so im on there all day.
If you are just looking up people on the internet to chat with, hunting down old friends to reminesce with, then it sounds innocent enough. As long as it is just an ocasional thing I would say it's ok. But if it gets to the point where you are talking to this guy on a regular basis, and sharing a lot of info., I could see where that might make your guy feel a little less important, jealous, or mad.
Your fiancee might be worried due to the fact that many people use my space, and such websites to find a fling or realtionship of some sort. There has also been a lot of media attention here recently on how online chatting, can start out innocent enough, then develop in to a highly emotional relationship with another person, and soemtimes even lead to affairs or cheating.
With that in mind, maybe you can kind of understand why he might be a little upset or worried.
I too am a stay at home mom, and do understand it can be hard at times. Maybe it would help if you and your daughter join a playgroup, it would give you both a chance to socialize a little. Or, look around and see if you can find some kind of club that interests you, this would be a great way for you to meet new people since you just moved, and it would give you a chance to get out of the house for a bit.
Most importantly, keep open communication with your fiance. Try to find out why he has a problem with you talking to people online, and you can try to expalin to how you feel about it.
engaged for 3 years? why the hold-up?
The same thing happened to me,as my wife used a text chatroom.everything was ok until we went thro a rocky patch and he became a good shoulder to cry on.
Secretly they arranged to meet but i found out before they met and i stopped any contact .
I told him we were still in love and sleeping together but he then called my wife and said he'd slit her throat and then rape our kids!!!nice chap eh!
My advice is dont get too involved as you dont really know who your chatting to!just chat and dont take everything they say at face value.
Ask your husband to babysit while you take up a hoby or try to meet new friends. Best wishes L
It all depends on what your intentions are for doing what your doing. Being a stay at home mom is a toughy. I did it for almost ten years. Your hubby probably does not realize, that asides from your child... There is no other person you have contact with on a daily basis. It gets boring and lonely. However, sometimes there are other things that you can do asides from chatting. It becomes easily addicting. Balance it out. Do other things also:)
If your boyfriend was a man and committed to you he would have married you before the baby was conceived. He's had three years for crying out loud! Doesn't it bother you that your child is illegitimate? Don't fool yourself. If he was committed, you'd each have a band of gold on your fingers.
Platonic relationship are fine for people who are confident in their relationships. He is obviously not confident in himself you his relationship to you or else he would trust you and not worry about other guys coming to take you away from him.Is he in love with you or are you just a pet. Perhaps that's why he's worried. .
Chatting (Not cyber sex) is NOT cheating. What's he worried about? Is he puting himself into your shoes? Would he cheat? IS that why he's so paranoid?
If he was serious about it you would have been married long ago. It's not about you, it's about him!
as long as you're both secure in the relationship it shouldn't be a problem, but some guys get jelous very easy but i agree that social inter action is a must when you take care of your kids all day. make sure that your man understands this. I went through the same thing with my man and we now have 2 daughters. just make sure your man knows that you love him and are VERY commited to him and things should be fine.
There is really nothing wrong with just talking. Your boyfriend may feel threatened by this type of thing and it could put stress on your relationship! He may get the idea that you are looking for a younger man. It could also cause him to trust you less!
Why are you showing yr finacee some guy on myspace? If that's o.k. with you -- can he (yr finacee) look up girl's he knew in High School?
Nothing wrong with that at all...You man is being a touch too paranoid.I really need relationship/internet advice from both men and women of all ages?
You can have ANY friends you feel like having. Don't let anyone control you like that. I would rather have my girl look someone up on the internet instead of going to the mall or bar to find friends. He needs to not be so jealous and insecure.
my husband and i just moved to new city as well, and i am in exactly the same situation as you, hubby works all day and i stay home to raise our 2 year old daughter.
i say thank goodness for myspace, it makes me feel as though i have some contact with the outside world, and past friends!! my husband is not as annoyed as he used to be about me being friend with other guys. like you, they are friends from a long time ago. no big deal.
I dont think it is wrong. I myself have spent hours looking at dif peoples sites on myspace. I have found alot of old friends on there.
Because you're asking the question, I'm assuming you already know the possibility exists that some folks will say this is wrong... We're all different and some actions will result in jealous responses when the intent was completely innocent to you. As far as I'm personally concerned, I see nothing wrong with it as long as there is nothing hidden or secret about it. I wouldn't mind if you chatted with an old friend at the mall, but I might get a little uncomfortable if you talked with that same friend in a dark booth in a quiet resturant - and I found out from a friend of mine that saw you there, rather than directly from you.
Does that make sense?
Well right or wrong in this case might be different from one person to other person. Look at it this way, would u accept it IF your man chatted to another girl, someone that he was once attached to? If u have problem with that, then i'd say its wrong but if you think its ok, then its ok.
The bottomline is, i think you have to think where is that relationship (between u and ur friend) might lead to. Even if its only words and screen, a flirt still consider as a flirt. So re-consider that and put yourself in your man shoes and see it all from his perspective. Yes, social interaction is very important for everyone, but then maybe you could pick someone that will not worry your man. but thats your perogrative. you know wats best 4 u.
I hope you both sort out the matters. good luck!
i think committed people should have enough trust for one another to talk to anyone they want. if your man really trusts you and you trust him, i don't see a problem with talking to another guy. my boyfriend doesn't care who i talk to, he knows i am committed to him and only him.
If that is the worst thing you ever do, this guy has it made in the shade.
well you can chat with people in internet l do as well but curiosity makes you bad and you go steps by steps forword and you can not stop it people live their homes and children's for their internet lovers so chat but carefull
i think it is wrong. i don't say that im a saint and don't do this, but at least i don't show it to my man. i know it will be unpleasant for him. wouldn't it be inpleasant for u if your man was talking to other women and showing them to u as if sticking it? i doubt so. i know i wouldn't like it.
yes chatting on myspace is a big no no if u r married. i say that because ppl on there b talkin bout some crazy stuff and u jus might like it or if u meet some1 on there u might catch feelings and it might ruin ur relationship. if i was married i wouldnt b on it. but hey im young and not worried about any marriage right now so im on there all day.
If you are just looking up people on the internet to chat with, hunting down old friends to reminesce with, then it sounds innocent enough. As long as it is just an ocasional thing I would say it's ok. But if it gets to the point where you are talking to this guy on a regular basis, and sharing a lot of info., I could see where that might make your guy feel a little less important, jealous, or mad.
Your fiancee might be worried due to the fact that many people use my space, and such websites to find a fling or realtionship of some sort. There has also been a lot of media attention here recently on how online chatting, can start out innocent enough, then develop in to a highly emotional relationship with another person, and soemtimes even lead to affairs or cheating.
With that in mind, maybe you can kind of understand why he might be a little upset or worried.
I too am a stay at home mom, and do understand it can be hard at times. Maybe it would help if you and your daughter join a playgroup, it would give you both a chance to socialize a little. Or, look around and see if you can find some kind of club that interests you, this would be a great way for you to meet new people since you just moved, and it would give you a chance to get out of the house for a bit.
Most importantly, keep open communication with your fiance. Try to find out why he has a problem with you talking to people online, and you can try to expalin to how you feel about it.
engaged for 3 years? why the hold-up?
The same thing happened to me,as my wife used a text chatroom.everything was ok until we went thro a rocky patch and he became a good shoulder to cry on.
Secretly they arranged to meet but i found out before they met and i stopped any contact .
I told him we were still in love and sleeping together but he then called my wife and said he'd slit her throat and then rape our kids!!!nice chap eh!
My advice is dont get too involved as you dont really know who your chatting to!just chat and dont take everything they say at face value.
Ask your husband to babysit while you take up a hoby or try to meet new friends. Best wishes L
It all depends on what your intentions are for doing what your doing. Being a stay at home mom is a toughy. I did it for almost ten years. Your hubby probably does not realize, that asides from your child... There is no other person you have contact with on a daily basis. It gets boring and lonely. However, sometimes there are other things that you can do asides from chatting. It becomes easily addicting. Balance it out. Do other things also:)
If your boyfriend was a man and committed to you he would have married you before the baby was conceived. He's had three years for crying out loud! Doesn't it bother you that your child is illegitimate? Don't fool yourself. If he was committed, you'd each have a band of gold on your fingers.
Platonic relationship are fine for people who are confident in their relationships. He is obviously not confident in himself you his relationship to you or else he would trust you and not worry about other guys coming to take you away from him.Is he in love with you or are you just a pet. Perhaps that's why he's worried. .
Chatting (Not cyber sex) is NOT cheating. What's he worried about? Is he puting himself into your shoes? Would he cheat? IS that why he's so paranoid?
If he was serious about it you would have been married long ago. It's not about you, it's about him!
as long as you're both secure in the relationship it shouldn't be a problem, but some guys get jelous very easy but i agree that social inter action is a must when you take care of your kids all day. make sure that your man understands this. I went through the same thing with my man and we now have 2 daughters. just make sure your man knows that you love him and are VERY commited to him and things should be fine.
There is really nothing wrong with just talking. Your boyfriend may feel threatened by this type of thing and it could put stress on your relationship! He may get the idea that you are looking for a younger man. It could also cause him to trust you less!
Why are you showing yr finacee some guy on myspace? If that's o.k. with you -- can he (yr finacee) look up girl's he knew in High School?
This is for the women cause the give better advice.?
Would she say yes or no your opinion?
i know this girl and i like her yea we talk
i make her laugh even if the jokes was not funny she slaps me on the arm she even looks me in the eyes when we talk. I sometimes c her looking at me my friend says he thinks she likes me because everytime she c me she has a smile on her face. I also noticed when i was talking to another friend which is a girl she stood between me and her until i started telling her a story
that happen which they both laughed but she i think tried to out laugh the other girl.
SO ALL I WANNA KNOW IF IT WOULD BE BEST FOR ME TO ASK IF SHE LIKES ME OR SHOULD I SAY I LIKE HER?This is for the women cause the give better advice.?
She seems to be already telling you that she likes you so why not just tell her you like her if you want to.This is for the women cause the give better advice.?
She sounds like she likes you..but she may be shy. I would suggest you ask her out. I hope it works out for you! Good luck.
out-laugh the other girl? LOL!
im srry but its just funny how you worded it.
i suggest you ask her out.
I gotta represent the XY chromosome here. I don't care if you only want the opinion of women.
You should tell her that you like her. As the man, you have take responsibility for the (possible) relationship. If you step out by telling her you like her and put yourself in that vulnerable position, that saves her from having to do it, and I guarantee she'll like that. It sounds like she likes you, but even if she doesn't, she'll at least respect you for having the guts to tell her how you feel. Do it.philosophy
i know this girl and i like her yea we talk
i make her laugh even if the jokes was not funny she slaps me on the arm she even looks me in the eyes when we talk. I sometimes c her looking at me my friend says he thinks she likes me because everytime she c me she has a smile on her face. I also noticed when i was talking to another friend which is a girl she stood between me and her until i started telling her a story
that happen which they both laughed but she i think tried to out laugh the other girl.
SO ALL I WANNA KNOW IF IT WOULD BE BEST FOR ME TO ASK IF SHE LIKES ME OR SHOULD I SAY I LIKE HER?This is for the women cause the give better advice.?
She seems to be already telling you that she likes you so why not just tell her you like her if you want to.This is for the women cause the give better advice.?
She sounds like she likes you..but she may be shy. I would suggest you ask her out. I hope it works out for you! Good luck.
out-laugh the other girl? LOL!
im srry but its just funny how you worded it.
i suggest you ask her out.
I gotta represent the XY chromosome here. I don't care if you only want the opinion of women.
You should tell her that you like her. As the man, you have take responsibility for the (possible) relationship. If you step out by telling her you like her and put yourself in that vulnerable position, that saves her from having to do it, and I guarantee she'll like that. It sounds like she likes you, but even if she doesn't, she'll at least respect you for having the guts to tell her how you feel. Do it.
My Women just gave birth to our first child; She is showing signs of postpartum depression. I NEED ADVICE?
I want to help it out not make it worse any advice women??? WHAT NOT TO DO. ALSO WHAT TO DO.My Women just gave birth to our first child; She is showing signs of postpartum depression. I NEED ADVICE?
First call her your wife not your woman. Also, help her with the baby, as much as you can. Give her some time by herself to get out of the house and find a few minutes each day that she is not 100% responsible for the baby.
Check out a website such as the one below to see if her symptoms match postpartum depression, and what is available to you both.My Women just gave birth to our first child; She is showing signs of postpartum depression. I NEED ADVICE?
Quick, call her Dr. Also, help out every minute you can in the meantime.
call your doctor, and i think its nice to care about your woman this much!!
good luck and god bless!!!!
Please just call her doctor! there is nothing you can do except be supportive and get her some help.
Get her to her ob/gyn asap!!!!! Let the dr. know what is going on, make a phone call. She may need some med for awhile-that is okay. I am so glad you are there-and so concerned for her. Be there to help her with the baby as much as possible. And more so, if possible. The sooner you get her to the dr., and on a med, the better. Thank you for caring so much for your woman, and your baby. I wish you all the best. Take care.
Do not leave her side. Discuss your concerns with her and have her see her OB as soon as possible.
You need to talk her into seeing a professional and soon. As crazy as it may seem woman have killed their babies during post-partum and i meen normal loving woman!
Listen to her and try to let her know that she is not alone in all of this. Even if you are helping, it can still feel lonely for an emotional woman. Make time for just the two of you to sit and talk or if she doesn't feel like talking, watch TV...whatever. Hold her. When she is making dinner or doing dishes or laundry come up behind her and put your arms around her. Little things really add up and let her know that you are there for her.
Most insurance companies have mandatory testing now for postpartum. Make sure her testing is scheduled immediately. if she is having postpartum, she is going to need help.
Postpartum depression can be severe. You may want to call the doctor.
First, take her to see a doctor. They can treat postpartum depression. Aside from that what you can do is help her with the baby and make sure she gets enough rest. Try to be understanding of what she is going through.
Depression is a real condition. Its not something she or you can fix, its like if you had gangrene on your foot; and it hurt really bad, wouldn't you go to the doctor for medication? There is no shame in antidepressants. Zoloft is a pretty good one, causes slight dependence, but its worth it. I'll give you some of the side effects (for me anyway) It killed my appetite, and my sex drive. it cleared my skin, and seriously made me unable to feel anything but happy during an extremely stressful time. It was my wonder drug! Kind of hard to get off of, you need to slowly wean off of it. But like I said, if you need it, then take it! Talk to the doctor, because its not advised to take if your breast feeding. Good Luck!
I agree with what the person mentioned before, call the doctor. Also depending where you live, the sun has A %26amp; D vitamins, which helps a lot. Also some times a class of orange juice, or cranberry juice. Another helpful ad is sound and smell. Not total rock and not from the ice age music. Take care of the baby for her and let her take bubble bath, moniter. And please ask you doctor, most woment, need to know one thing IT IS OKAY. EVERYTHING IS OK, SHE MUST HAVE YOUTH, AND THAT IS OKAY. HONEST. ITS OKAY.
GO TO A DOCTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!
Call the doctor, do not walk RUN to the phone. Its not something that can be put off and it needs to be dealt with right away.
First call her your wife not your woman. Also, help her with the baby, as much as you can. Give her some time by herself to get out of the house and find a few minutes each day that she is not 100% responsible for the baby.
Check out a website such as the one below to see if her symptoms match postpartum depression, and what is available to you both.My Women just gave birth to our first child; She is showing signs of postpartum depression. I NEED ADVICE?
Quick, call her Dr. Also, help out every minute you can in the meantime.
call your doctor, and i think its nice to care about your woman this much!!
good luck and god bless!!!!
Please just call her doctor! there is nothing you can do except be supportive and get her some help.
Get her to her ob/gyn asap!!!!! Let the dr. know what is going on, make a phone call. She may need some med for awhile-that is okay. I am so glad you are there-and so concerned for her. Be there to help her with the baby as much as possible. And more so, if possible. The sooner you get her to the dr., and on a med, the better. Thank you for caring so much for your woman, and your baby. I wish you all the best. Take care.
Do not leave her side. Discuss your concerns with her and have her see her OB as soon as possible.
You need to talk her into seeing a professional and soon. As crazy as it may seem woman have killed their babies during post-partum and i meen normal loving woman!
Listen to her and try to let her know that she is not alone in all of this. Even if you are helping, it can still feel lonely for an emotional woman. Make time for just the two of you to sit and talk or if she doesn't feel like talking, watch TV...whatever. Hold her. When she is making dinner or doing dishes or laundry come up behind her and put your arms around her. Little things really add up and let her know that you are there for her.
Most insurance companies have mandatory testing now for postpartum. Make sure her testing is scheduled immediately. if she is having postpartum, she is going to need help.
Postpartum depression can be severe. You may want to call the doctor.
First, take her to see a doctor. They can treat postpartum depression. Aside from that what you can do is help her with the baby and make sure she gets enough rest. Try to be understanding of what she is going through.
Depression is a real condition. Its not something she or you can fix, its like if you had gangrene on your foot; and it hurt really bad, wouldn't you go to the doctor for medication? There is no shame in antidepressants. Zoloft is a pretty good one, causes slight dependence, but its worth it. I'll give you some of the side effects (for me anyway) It killed my appetite, and my sex drive. it cleared my skin, and seriously made me unable to feel anything but happy during an extremely stressful time. It was my wonder drug! Kind of hard to get off of, you need to slowly wean off of it. But like I said, if you need it, then take it! Talk to the doctor, because its not advised to take if your breast feeding. Good Luck!
I agree with what the person mentioned before, call the doctor. Also depending where you live, the sun has A %26amp; D vitamins, which helps a lot. Also some times a class of orange juice, or cranberry juice. Another helpful ad is sound and smell. Not total rock and not from the ice age music. Take care of the baby for her and let her take bubble bath, moniter. And please ask you doctor, most woment, need to know one thing IT IS OKAY. EVERYTHING IS OK, SHE MUST HAVE YOUTH, AND THAT IS OKAY. HONEST. ITS OKAY.
GO TO A DOCTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!
Call the doctor, do not walk RUN to the phone. Its not something that can be put off and it needs to be dealt with right away.
What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
She is a close friend of mine, being very unhappy at the first moment, but perhaps ready to cope with the problem, looking for more informations and advice.
Sorry, she cannot ask the question herself because she does not write in English.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
I'd tell her not to make any hasty decisions or judgements; to learn all she can about crossdressing, and to TALK to her partner, calmly and openly, about what it means to him, or her, and to their relationship.
There's some good basic information here;
http://www.pmpub.com/crossdressingFQA.ht鈥?/a>
which she might find useful.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
Though I agree with Valerie in most of her explanations, I think there is a human element she leaves out with her neuroreceptor analogy. Most of us are born with the predisposition due to a hormone wash during gestation which makes it natural not a narcotic.
By partner, I am assuming that they are married. This is no doubt quite a shock to her, and she has every right to be angry. Now she needs to step back and view the situation with this new information in hand.
The cross dressing can be very disturbing to a conservative minded person, and the fact that this has been withheld from her going into the marriaige is a terrible thing to do to someone you purport to love.
If her partner is sincerely sorry about the heartache and grief he has caused by not being upfront with her, then there may be room to salvage this relationship. If the crossdressing is the only flaw in an otherwise great relationship, then she must determine how large of a flaw this is. Is he kind, thoughtful, caring towards her and her feelings? Does he think about her first and show good instincts towards family life? If he's abusive and uncaring and has a few other fatal flaws, then this is just the straw that breaks the camels back
If he is the man she has always desired, then his mistake, not hers, was not trusting the woman he loves with his deepest, most raw secret.
She needs to learn about crossdressing (information, not exposure), what it is and what it is not. Then she needs to decide what level of exposure she is comfortable with and he needs to abide by that level. This is not negotiable at this point, he needs to be respectful of her and show her that he has earned the right, and she has become comfortable with his crossdressing to allow herself more exposure to it.
She may not want him to crossdress around her or thier kids (whether they have them now or later). She may allow him to dress when no one is around or just in the bedroom between the two of them.
This is NOT a slap to her beauty, or a complaint about her femininity. This is NOT her fault, but it is something that she must come to grips with. The man she loves, has a feminine side that he expresses through dressing. As long as he understands HER feelings and needs, this does not need to be a make or break situation.
Tell her that most crossdressers are straight heterosexual men with one little kink. Their brains are hard-wired such that it releases serotonin and other neurotransmitters when they crossdress. This gives them a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. It also affects the reward center of their brains, so it mimics an addiction reaction.
Crossdressing can become a serious problem in a marriage. In order for the marriage to continue happily then the partners need to be prepared to make some compromises. They need to recognize each others needs. He has a need to crossdress, she has a need to be loved by a man. He has to recognize that she is the most important thing in his life. His wife is more important to him than his crossdressing habit.
She needs to prepare a list of rules that she can tolerate. He needs to understand that he needs to place limits on his crossdressing. She may insist that the crossdressing be kept private, not before friends, family or children. She may also insist that the crossdressing be kept out of their intimate times, after all it is a real turn-off for her. Other rules may include frequency, times, or styles, (nothing vile, sexy, or disgusting) keep it in good tastes. In any case, they need to work on the rules together and be prepared to make compromises. She should try to learn as much about crossdressing as she can. Where possible she should help him with his feminine style and look.
Tell her to take self-defense classes and learn to protect herself. Seriously, that's one of the best things ANY person can do... Cross-dressers are frequent targets of violence, so every little bit helps.
Other than that, give her a hug, tell her to stay strong and never give up on who she really, no matter what other people might say.
Good luck.
First of all, I would advise her to not view this as a ';problem'; that she needs to ';cope'; with. This is really an opportunity for her and her partner to become closer. It's very difficult for many men and women to ever truly be both ';friends'; and lovers. But the fact that her partner is a crossdresser gives them an opportunity to add an extra dimension to their relationship, with a mutual interest in apparel and possibly makeup, jewelry, etc.
Tell her to explore and enjoy.
to confess to cross-dress is believe that wrong thing (from religious view) shouldn't happen. Ask him if he thinks that your relation is a mistake which should stop. If so; it's your decision to break. otherwise don't worry
I think,,no big deal,, crossdressers are usually straight men,,so it doesn't mean he is gay or bi,,just means that somewhere in his mind of likes and dislikes ,,he enjoys things that are usually meant for women to wear,, if she loves him,, just go with it,, this isn't the dark ages,, let him express himself openly,,if she doesn't he will just hide it . What happens in private is no ones business. Tell her to try to have fun with it,,and maybe both will enjoy each others fantasies.
goodluck,,
There's nothing wrong with cross-dressing. It does not hurt anyone, it does not cause any harm. Why should she worry?
well being the crossdresser in the relationship, i can say that i have had no luck at all, any woman i have been with long enough to trust with that information has pretty much just freaked out, called me some nasty names and left. so my first advise would be to avoid doing any of those things. frankly i don't see why it is that big of a deal women crossdress all the time and nobody say squat to them. and it would seem to me that women would like a guy that likes to shop, and do other girly things. lastly most crossdressers are not gay we just like your clothes.
Tell your friend to look past the crossdressing, Think of why they were together in the first place. Does he still have the qualities that attracted her. Learn why he does it. I had a boyfrend who crossdressed, he was a good guy and could pass as an attractive woman. We had alot of fun. Plus its always nice to have someone around who can tell you how your makeup looks. Just remember he needs his fem time and your friend will need his manly time there needs to be balance
To begin with she should be flattered that he trusts her enough to tell her.
There are many reasons why a guy does this. It could be he gets a sexual thrill from it and would dress for sex.
It could be that being feminine is a release from the pressures of masculine life.
It can also be because there is more choice in female clothing and it feels good.
He may on the other hand be transgendered. If this is the case and he tells her then that is a different situation.
She needs to understand that there is often a transition period for guys who cross dress. The more they do it often the more they need to do it. Then going out will be the next stage. Not all men who dress as a girl in public are transgendered.
He may not understand why he wants to do it until he has been there.
It's harmless, and it's private. She should not be telling anyone about it, because that will only embarrass him. Tell her to get over it.
if she love him , its a samll thing
If her partner loves her, then he's probably just a transvestite.
The difference between a transvestite and a drag queen is orientation. He's probably just a transvestite and is nothing to worry about.
He's probably just enamored by all that is femanine.
I know it's weird, but it's really nothing to worry about.
Sorry, she cannot ask the question herself because she does not write in English.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
I'd tell her not to make any hasty decisions or judgements; to learn all she can about crossdressing, and to TALK to her partner, calmly and openly, about what it means to him, or her, and to their relationship.
There's some good basic information here;
http://www.pmpub.com/crossdressingFQA.ht鈥?/a>
which she might find useful.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
Though I agree with Valerie in most of her explanations, I think there is a human element she leaves out with her neuroreceptor analogy. Most of us are born with the predisposition due to a hormone wash during gestation which makes it natural not a narcotic.
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By partner, I am assuming that they are married. This is no doubt quite a shock to her, and she has every right to be angry. Now she needs to step back and view the situation with this new information in hand.
The cross dressing can be very disturbing to a conservative minded person, and the fact that this has been withheld from her going into the marriaige is a terrible thing to do to someone you purport to love.
If her partner is sincerely sorry about the heartache and grief he has caused by not being upfront with her, then there may be room to salvage this relationship. If the crossdressing is the only flaw in an otherwise great relationship, then she must determine how large of a flaw this is. Is he kind, thoughtful, caring towards her and her feelings? Does he think about her first and show good instincts towards family life? If he's abusive and uncaring and has a few other fatal flaws, then this is just the straw that breaks the camels back
If he is the man she has always desired, then his mistake, not hers, was not trusting the woman he loves with his deepest, most raw secret.
She needs to learn about crossdressing (information, not exposure), what it is and what it is not. Then she needs to decide what level of exposure she is comfortable with and he needs to abide by that level. This is not negotiable at this point, he needs to be respectful of her and show her that he has earned the right, and she has become comfortable with his crossdressing to allow herself more exposure to it.
She may not want him to crossdress around her or thier kids (whether they have them now or later). She may allow him to dress when no one is around or just in the bedroom between the two of them.
This is NOT a slap to her beauty, or a complaint about her femininity. This is NOT her fault, but it is something that she must come to grips with. The man she loves, has a feminine side that he expresses through dressing. As long as he understands HER feelings and needs, this does not need to be a make or break situation.
Tell her that most crossdressers are straight heterosexual men with one little kink. Their brains are hard-wired such that it releases serotonin and other neurotransmitters when they crossdress. This gives them a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. It also affects the reward center of their brains, so it mimics an addiction reaction.
Crossdressing can become a serious problem in a marriage. In order for the marriage to continue happily then the partners need to be prepared to make some compromises. They need to recognize each others needs. He has a need to crossdress, she has a need to be loved by a man. He has to recognize that she is the most important thing in his life. His wife is more important to him than his crossdressing habit.
She needs to prepare a list of rules that she can tolerate. He needs to understand that he needs to place limits on his crossdressing. She may insist that the crossdressing be kept private, not before friends, family or children. She may also insist that the crossdressing be kept out of their intimate times, after all it is a real turn-off for her. Other rules may include frequency, times, or styles, (nothing vile, sexy, or disgusting) keep it in good tastes. In any case, they need to work on the rules together and be prepared to make compromises. She should try to learn as much about crossdressing as she can. Where possible she should help him with his feminine style and look.
Tell her to take self-defense classes and learn to protect herself. Seriously, that's one of the best things ANY person can do... Cross-dressers are frequent targets of violence, so every little bit helps.
Other than that, give her a hug, tell her to stay strong and never give up on who she really, no matter what other people might say.
Good luck.
First of all, I would advise her to not view this as a ';problem'; that she needs to ';cope'; with. This is really an opportunity for her and her partner to become closer. It's very difficult for many men and women to ever truly be both ';friends'; and lovers. But the fact that her partner is a crossdresser gives them an opportunity to add an extra dimension to their relationship, with a mutual interest in apparel and possibly makeup, jewelry, etc.
Tell her to explore and enjoy.
to confess to cross-dress is believe that wrong thing (from religious view) shouldn't happen. Ask him if he thinks that your relation is a mistake which should stop. If so; it's your decision to break. otherwise don't worry
I think,,no big deal,, crossdressers are usually straight men,,so it doesn't mean he is gay or bi,,just means that somewhere in his mind of likes and dislikes ,,he enjoys things that are usually meant for women to wear,, if she loves him,, just go with it,, this isn't the dark ages,, let him express himself openly,,if she doesn't he will just hide it . What happens in private is no ones business. Tell her to try to have fun with it,,and maybe both will enjoy each others fantasies.
goodluck,,
There's nothing wrong with cross-dressing. It does not hurt anyone, it does not cause any harm. Why should she worry?
well being the crossdresser in the relationship, i can say that i have had no luck at all, any woman i have been with long enough to trust with that information has pretty much just freaked out, called me some nasty names and left. so my first advise would be to avoid doing any of those things. frankly i don't see why it is that big of a deal women crossdress all the time and nobody say squat to them. and it would seem to me that women would like a guy that likes to shop, and do other girly things. lastly most crossdressers are not gay we just like your clothes.
Tell your friend to look past the crossdressing, Think of why they were together in the first place. Does he still have the qualities that attracted her. Learn why he does it. I had a boyfrend who crossdressed, he was a good guy and could pass as an attractive woman. We had alot of fun. Plus its always nice to have someone around who can tell you how your makeup looks. Just remember he needs his fem time and your friend will need his manly time there needs to be balance
To begin with she should be flattered that he trusts her enough to tell her.
There are many reasons why a guy does this. It could be he gets a sexual thrill from it and would dress for sex.
It could be that being feminine is a release from the pressures of masculine life.
It can also be because there is more choice in female clothing and it feels good.
He may on the other hand be transgendered. If this is the case and he tells her then that is a different situation.
She needs to understand that there is often a transition period for guys who cross dress. The more they do it often the more they need to do it. Then going out will be the next stage. Not all men who dress as a girl in public are transgendered.
He may not understand why he wants to do it until he has been there.
It's harmless, and it's private. She should not be telling anyone about it, because that will only embarrass him. Tell her to get over it.
if she love him , its a samll thing
If her partner loves her, then he's probably just a transvestite.
The difference between a transvestite and a drag queen is orientation. He's probably just a transvestite and is nothing to worry about.
He's probably just enamored by all that is femanine.
I know it's weird, but it's really nothing to worry about.
FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? (Seriously, girls don't look at this?)?
I was just wondering if any of y'all could share just one piece of advice that you'd learned about girls/women in your lifetime.
State your age, too!!
(I'm twenty and a guy)FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? (Seriously, girls don't look at this?)?
First, I'm 43
I'm married to a beautiful woman...whose age I don't know if I should post here, but the years between us match our nine year old son's age.
I'm guessing you aren't married, but I will offer you some sage advice.
1. Never stop dating
Whether you go out to a nice restaurant, or have a picnic on the living room floor, women never tire of romance.
2. Have a song for her.
My song for my wife is ';Good Morning Beautiful'; I chose it because it's what I've said to her every morning for several years and some guy out there made a fortune off it. Now whenever she hears it, she says she thinks of me and us.
3.Be her friend.
Women love to have a close friend they can tell anything to. Who they don't have to have their guard up around. Try to be that person, in male form. Of course she's going to have that ';girlfriend'; that she giggles with over some girl thing, that we don't know about and probably wouldn't understand. But, I've learned that women appreciate having someone at home they can laugh, cry and talk to and just generally be themselves around.FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? (Seriously, girls don't look at this?)?
Always lie to a girl with sweet talks when she asks your opinion about anything about her even if she insists that you be only honest because she needs honesty that pleases her. If she says fine to you, it means it is not fine and you have done something very bad, you are in trouble.
Don't try to interrupt her while she is talking to you or having a gossip with others, it is a disrespect to her that will take ages to heal.
Always show the girl that you are a man that can handle himself and give her protection so she feels safe. Spend generously over her, she likes you more.
Women always say things that they really don't mean.
Edit: Not all girls are similar, some are bitchy and you need to avoid them.
I have learned that women, over all, do NOT have the same social codes or type of cognitive reasoning found in men.
This means that you shouldn't be surprised if a woman:
- Takes a jab or criticism WAY too personally, no matter how mundane or constructive it seems at the time
- Remembers it and brings it up 6 months later
- Tells you about another woman that she hates and wants to brutally murder, yet smiles and says hello to her when she sees her in person
- ';Needs'; companionship to go to the movies or to the restaurant's bathroom
- Immediately resorts to asking another human for help, rather than first trying to find a solution herself
Recommended reading:
- ';How to Succeed with Women'; by Ron Louis and David Copeland
- ';Androphilia'; by Jack Malebranche
- ';Not Guilty : The Case in Defense of Men'; by David Thomas
- ';He'; by Robert A. Johnson
- ';She'; by Roberty A. Johnson
If she's mad, let her have her venting session. If she wants to go away with the girls on holiday then say you are glad she will have a chance to relax and get away from pressures. The last is very important if you have children. Say you will be so glad to be with them, they are so wonderful to be round. After all, you can always go to that long planned sport match any old time.
Most importantly, if she's arsed, realize that she is always right. If you don't think she is, you just haven't listened hard enough.
I think they want power and rule over their man...
examples: they want the man to please them in only the way the woman herself wants, which is power
-in arguments they are always the winner
but of course they want faith too, so overall they just want their man to listen to what she desires, she needs, she wants(however indirect they can be, the man must be empathetic and understand), alas not any woman is alike I just think that is the majority
I am 17 and a guy ^_^
edit: this is advice on what women want =p
I'm well into my 60s. In my experience the biggest mistake men make is thinking there's something generic about women. Yeah, of course they usually have this or that characteristic. But all of those general things amount to squat. You just have to be interested in getting to know her. And let's get this straight, if all you're interested in is a roll in the hay, go to the next answer, because you're a twit.
The whole point is that she is a totally different person from you who, if you have any depth to you at all, you can get to know so well that with time it's like placing her somewhere inside you.
So relax and let down those BS macho defenses. and posturing - and if that macho crap works with her ... run! Above all listen, but I mean REALLY listen - not that opportunistic silence that poses as listening. After a little while it seems more like receiving little gifts than mere listening. And then you're on the other side of yourself, you've come to know what an ';other'; really is. And it never stops amazing you.
Did I mention I've been with the same woman for over 40 years!
There is a saying about a woman scorned.
They may be the sweetest, most loving, devoted and sexy beings with tons of integrity when you marry them, but when you divorce them that angel can turn into the b*tch from hell.
The moral is, (apart from keeping your eyes open) remember they are just imperfect beings who don't belong on pedestals.
Girls are very emotional. The little things that might seem meaningless to us, mean the world to them.
If you ignore a girl she will be more interested in you. Because they feel that if you ignore them, then you must have something going for you. That's why desperate is never a good thing to be.
Girls don't want to go with a guy that they feel, any girl can have. They want to know that you had a wide range of girls to choose, but you chose her. That's why so many girls stay with guys that cheat and come back. It turns them on to know that other girls want them, but the bastard chose her in the end. That's why nice guys finish last, because nobody else wants them, so they're not really a catch.
I know I've painted a very shallow picture of girls. But at your age that's pretty much what you're going to meet. When you get older you'll run into mature and more compassionate women. Hopefully. I'm 30.
Well by putting girls don't look, you are basically inviting tons of girl to look.
But, if I could give you any advice on women based on HUGE mistakes I have seen guys have made, but just be truthful, though you want to be careful if anything you say is insulting, but if it just might hurt, still say it.
Abandon technique. Do you care about her ? (First you need to pick one--there's no ';women'; solution). If you screw up all the details, keep going back for more, if you care. Show it, prove it, no matter how awkwardly. If she doesn't want you after all that, there's nothing you can do. And if you don't care, don't waste her time. Risk breaking her heart--just get out of there. It's what she would want, in the end. But you can't really go wrong if you're in love with someone.
But ... don't lose yourself in the process. If she wants you, keep you. Don't trade yourself for the couple; go for both. And insist she stay herself too. Only voluntary evolution can make a couple grow together.
Don't rely on stereotypes to navigate anything. You must be unique and express yourself in your unique way in order to make yourself more attractive than any other dude who knows he can buy the supposedly right clothes, send flowers, say the right things ... few women want a mass-produced hunk for more than one night.
If you can convince her to fart in your presence (we have boxes of matches throughout the house for that purpose), you'll know you're doing well.
I'm 32, happily coupled.
if you want advice about a woman, ask a woman.
we can give you more advice than any man.
i mean, half the time, we're not all that different from a man. we're not all perfect, and a lot of us don't actually expect to get everything we want from a guy. you don't HAVE to give us EVERYthing we want.
Im 14, never ever say they look fat in any way. Example don't say that her dress does make her look fat or don't give her diet coke when she wanted coke (regular). Also never ask her age or weight, those things are very secretive to girls. Last piece try to arrive one time so she doesn't wonder what ur doing or where ur at.
old enough to know and what i have to say is girls hate players and pimps and all that me with girls i am nice what you do is say something nice and meaning ful i have been doing this for a while worked everytime without fail she them you care let them see your romantic side it worked for me and i got all the ladies but don't hurt anyone tho
Lol good question. Don't piss them off, and don't EVER offer to go shopping with them...I'm still scarred.
Oh and if she wears stilletos to the beach...let her go.
Another thing actually, don't let her teach you to dance...especially when the instructors Latino and you can't take your eyes of her HUGE boobs.
girls come in all shapes and sizes, some are high maintenance a lot are not. some are too concerned with their appearance. they like to have a good time. i like girls. girls like guys usually. from time to time they may do some of the following; talk to to you, shop, say ';oh my god'; gossip, and play football. im 19 years younger than twice the age of a 19 year old. you have a lot of answers haha.
sorry i looked i wuz CURIOUS! don't hate! =P
first of all i'm twelve and a girl
haha
ok around girls (well if ur twenty i guess WOMEN) don't do all those craaaazy things 2 impress them or whatever. like, don't lie about ur money or whatever else guys lie about. =O
i met my guy friends this way:
i hung out with my friends and some guys came over 2 some of my friends, help on homework, whatnot. they looked cool 2 me, didn't look like idiots like some other immature guys in my school. so we talked and we became friends. they don't like 2 ADMIT that we're friends, but we're friends. =)
u can meet women the same way too. hang with ur friends (ok if u think i'm getting a TOTALLY wrong idea about what twenty-year old guys do, i'm sooorrrryyy! how am i suppposed 2 know how twenty-year old guys think?!) and maybe some women (aaah i'm used 2 using the term GIRLS) will come along. chat with them, like u were talking 2 ur own friends, and maybe u will start 2 feel a little more comfortable. just remember: (i keep 4getting that ur twenty, aaaaarghh!) how guys associate is COMPLETELY different from how girls associate. put two girls in a room and they'll sit down and chat. put two guys in a room and they'll shoot tennis balls into a Safeway shopping bag. girls like 2 talk, guys like 2 do stuff. try 2 incorporate a little of both when ur talking 2 women.
whew! as a 12-year old, ppl consider me mature and a good advice giver 4 my age. (guys always ask me 4 dating advice - like i would know!) what do u think?
hope i helped, and good luck!
EDIT: i like ur username, haha. exactly what i wuz thinking when the cursor wuz blinking on the screen...
well i have always noticed they go for jerks.... if you are too nice to them they will walk all over you.... so try to keep them on their toes.... you know what they say nice guys finish last ... and i think 95% of the time that is true... my problem is ... i cant be a jerk... i am always nice
another piece of advice dont be a cheater if they find out it will ruin things... if they decide not to leave you things will still never be the same... you will never be able to get back to where you once were
oh and im 20
Well...as you may have guessed we enjoy breaking the rules, the quickest way to get us to do something is to tell us not to, or we can't.
Let me think......always be on time, even if she's never read when you get there. Younger women do like jerks (don't ask me why) but after a few of those the more intelligent of us get wise....older women appreciate Nice.
Oh, know that once a month we go completely off our rocker....we have surges of emotion that even we can't explain...we feel bloated and uncomfortable and a little sympathy would be nice.
Phuck it. My long detailed Answer was erased and lost.
I do not have the time and energy to retype it all.
Good luck. You will need it. I would however still recommend that you buy and read the following book.
';The Anatomy of Sex and Power: An Investigation of Mind-Body Politics'; Hutchison, Michael
http://www.ayerego.com/si/AC020755I.html
And, see Google search:
http://www.google.ca/search?sourceid=nav鈥?/a>
Don't try to analyze them or offer advice of the 'you should have' variety when all they want to do is have someone to talk to.
A guy tells you his problems he wants advice.
A woman tells you, she wants support and a shoulder.
Age 60, married at 20 and never regretted it.
first off, sandfly is awesome haha. i agree
secondly
why are you trying to put girls into one big category? i'm 17 and i have had some insanely diverse girl-friends. they hate and love different things.
dont put them in a category.
and dont look for love.
let it come to you, God will let it happen in His time
hahaha...i am 19, and all it takes is you knowing who you are, where you wanna go, what you want to be, and confidence. NEVER let a women walk all over you. The tougher they are, the stronger a man they want, no matter physical build. Always try to be relaxed and comfortable. WOMEN ADMIRE THAT! And be little cocky too.
I'm a 20 year old woman and all I have to say is:
We are ALWAYS beautiful.
We are ALWAYS right.
We NEVER look fat in those jeans.
lol, but really, don't listen to these guys that say act like a jerk, some women will take it for a while, but you don't want to be there when she get's fed up!
Be yourself.
Listen to them
No means No
Stop hitting on them
Don't be a jerk
Treat them with the utmost respect.
That's about all I can tell you.
When I was a cub, the boys picked on me.
The girls took me into their club and taught me how to treat them.
They swore me to secrecy
Ok ...Im a female and I looked! sorry I was bored...jus had to peek!
for a question like this why would you only want one side ...you really should be asking a womans view as well....but since you really didnt want women to answer this I'll only suggest you listen to 'CTDave' and give him the 10 points he is giving you the benifit of good advise backed by experience.
Good luck!
Blessed Be!
There is ';man'; in ';woman';. There is ';men'; in ';women';.
Women are difficult to understand. They are like little child trapped in a woman's body. And yet they alone can give birth.
Men envied women because men can not give birth. In revenge, men get as many women as he can.
But he can not call one his own.
In the end. Man is alone. But women has her children.
I'm 15. You don't need to listen to any of these dorks who try to give you professional sounding advice, because they don't know anything.
Just be smooth- don't make it obvious that you like a girl- and just talk to them like you would to your friends and the rest will take care of itself.
They are trainable......it just takes time
Alot of time...
See them as little as possible, make up excuses like work or school. Make your self not a commodity, but a luxury. Don't refrain from showing affection.
And once a month, you will be carpet bombed. PMS buddy....It's not an exaggeration, it's really that bad.
Age 29
i'm a girl but i'll tell you a whole lot about girls.
their back-stabbing. bitches. liers. haters. sluts.
hoes. cunts. two faced.
they act all flirty in front of every guy and
they show clevage on purpose so you notice
how big her boobs are, or that the fact that she
actually has boobs. %26amp; she wants you too look
at them but when she notices you are, she goes
OH MY GOD, STOP. but she likes it. and she'll
tell all her frans... oh my god' he was checkin'
my boobs out.
yeah, and ask her out too lunch
and she'll tell the whole world what a big
deal it is.
ask her too homecoming and she'll FREAKIN'
freak out. yeah, girls are freakin' WEIRD.
(GOD HEARS THE WORDS OF THE WOMAN)
God hears the words of the woman who complains to Muhammad about the cruelty of her husband; God hears her words when she complains directly to him. God listens to everything that is said; he hears all and observes all.
-Qur'an, Al-Mujadilah, Surah 58:1
Skippy got game and is glad to help you.
The best advice skippy can give you is as follows.
If you want a chick, treat her like you dont care. Treat her like you are doing her a favor talking to her. In Skippys younger years, his best line in a night club was. ';Wait here for a bit, Im going to see if I can find someone better and if I cant, I will come back for you'; Worked every time.
State your age, too!!
(I'm twenty and a guy)FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? (Seriously, girls don't look at this?)?
First, I'm 43
I'm married to a beautiful woman...whose age I don't know if I should post here, but the years between us match our nine year old son's age.
I'm guessing you aren't married, but I will offer you some sage advice.
1. Never stop dating
Whether you go out to a nice restaurant, or have a picnic on the living room floor, women never tire of romance.
2. Have a song for her.
My song for my wife is ';Good Morning Beautiful'; I chose it because it's what I've said to her every morning for several years and some guy out there made a fortune off it. Now whenever she hears it, she says she thinks of me and us.
3.Be her friend.
Women love to have a close friend they can tell anything to. Who they don't have to have their guard up around. Try to be that person, in male form. Of course she's going to have that ';girlfriend'; that she giggles with over some girl thing, that we don't know about and probably wouldn't understand. But, I've learned that women appreciate having someone at home they can laugh, cry and talk to and just generally be themselves around.FELLOW MEN: WHAT IS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER US ABOUT WOMEN? (Seriously, girls don't look at this?)?
Always lie to a girl with sweet talks when she asks your opinion about anything about her even if she insists that you be only honest because she needs honesty that pleases her. If she says fine to you, it means it is not fine and you have done something very bad, you are in trouble.
Don't try to interrupt her while she is talking to you or having a gossip with others, it is a disrespect to her that will take ages to heal.
Always show the girl that you are a man that can handle himself and give her protection so she feels safe. Spend generously over her, she likes you more.
Women always say things that they really don't mean.
Edit: Not all girls are similar, some are bitchy and you need to avoid them.
I have learned that women, over all, do NOT have the same social codes or type of cognitive reasoning found in men.
This means that you shouldn't be surprised if a woman:
- Takes a jab or criticism WAY too personally, no matter how mundane or constructive it seems at the time
- Remembers it and brings it up 6 months later
- Tells you about another woman that she hates and wants to brutally murder, yet smiles and says hello to her when she sees her in person
- ';Needs'; companionship to go to the movies or to the restaurant's bathroom
- Immediately resorts to asking another human for help, rather than first trying to find a solution herself
Recommended reading:
- ';How to Succeed with Women'; by Ron Louis and David Copeland
- ';Androphilia'; by Jack Malebranche
- ';Not Guilty : The Case in Defense of Men'; by David Thomas
- ';He'; by Robert A. Johnson
- ';She'; by Roberty A. Johnson
If she's mad, let her have her venting session. If she wants to go away with the girls on holiday then say you are glad she will have a chance to relax and get away from pressures. The last is very important if you have children. Say you will be so glad to be with them, they are so wonderful to be round. After all, you can always go to that long planned sport match any old time.
Most importantly, if she's arsed, realize that she is always right. If you don't think she is, you just haven't listened hard enough.
I think they want power and rule over their man...
examples: they want the man to please them in only the way the woman herself wants, which is power
-in arguments they are always the winner
but of course they want faith too, so overall they just want their man to listen to what she desires, she needs, she wants(however indirect they can be, the man must be empathetic and understand), alas not any woman is alike I just think that is the majority
I am 17 and a guy ^_^
edit: this is advice on what women want =p
I'm well into my 60s. In my experience the biggest mistake men make is thinking there's something generic about women. Yeah, of course they usually have this or that characteristic. But all of those general things amount to squat. You just have to be interested in getting to know her. And let's get this straight, if all you're interested in is a roll in the hay, go to the next answer, because you're a twit.
The whole point is that she is a totally different person from you who, if you have any depth to you at all, you can get to know so well that with time it's like placing her somewhere inside you.
So relax and let down those BS macho defenses. and posturing - and if that macho crap works with her ... run! Above all listen, but I mean REALLY listen - not that opportunistic silence that poses as listening. After a little while it seems more like receiving little gifts than mere listening. And then you're on the other side of yourself, you've come to know what an ';other'; really is. And it never stops amazing you.
Did I mention I've been with the same woman for over 40 years!
There is a saying about a woman scorned.
They may be the sweetest, most loving, devoted and sexy beings with tons of integrity when you marry them, but when you divorce them that angel can turn into the b*tch from hell.
The moral is, (apart from keeping your eyes open) remember they are just imperfect beings who don't belong on pedestals.
Girls are very emotional. The little things that might seem meaningless to us, mean the world to them.
If you ignore a girl she will be more interested in you. Because they feel that if you ignore them, then you must have something going for you. That's why desperate is never a good thing to be.
Girls don't want to go with a guy that they feel, any girl can have. They want to know that you had a wide range of girls to choose, but you chose her. That's why so many girls stay with guys that cheat and come back. It turns them on to know that other girls want them, but the bastard chose her in the end. That's why nice guys finish last, because nobody else wants them, so they're not really a catch.
I know I've painted a very shallow picture of girls. But at your age that's pretty much what you're going to meet. When you get older you'll run into mature and more compassionate women. Hopefully. I'm 30.
Well by putting girls don't look, you are basically inviting tons of girl to look.
But, if I could give you any advice on women based on HUGE mistakes I have seen guys have made, but just be truthful, though you want to be careful if anything you say is insulting, but if it just might hurt, still say it.
Abandon technique. Do you care about her ? (First you need to pick one--there's no ';women'; solution). If you screw up all the details, keep going back for more, if you care. Show it, prove it, no matter how awkwardly. If she doesn't want you after all that, there's nothing you can do. And if you don't care, don't waste her time. Risk breaking her heart--just get out of there. It's what she would want, in the end. But you can't really go wrong if you're in love with someone.
But ... don't lose yourself in the process. If she wants you, keep you. Don't trade yourself for the couple; go for both. And insist she stay herself too. Only voluntary evolution can make a couple grow together.
Don't rely on stereotypes to navigate anything. You must be unique and express yourself in your unique way in order to make yourself more attractive than any other dude who knows he can buy the supposedly right clothes, send flowers, say the right things ... few women want a mass-produced hunk for more than one night.
If you can convince her to fart in your presence (we have boxes of matches throughout the house for that purpose), you'll know you're doing well.
I'm 32, happily coupled.
if you want advice about a woman, ask a woman.
we can give you more advice than any man.
i mean, half the time, we're not all that different from a man. we're not all perfect, and a lot of us don't actually expect to get everything we want from a guy. you don't HAVE to give us EVERYthing we want.
Im 14, never ever say they look fat in any way. Example don't say that her dress does make her look fat or don't give her diet coke when she wanted coke (regular). Also never ask her age or weight, those things are very secretive to girls. Last piece try to arrive one time so she doesn't wonder what ur doing or where ur at.
old enough to know and what i have to say is girls hate players and pimps and all that me with girls i am nice what you do is say something nice and meaning ful i have been doing this for a while worked everytime without fail she them you care let them see your romantic side it worked for me and i got all the ladies but don't hurt anyone tho
Lol good question. Don't piss them off, and don't EVER offer to go shopping with them...I'm still scarred.
Oh and if she wears stilletos to the beach...let her go.
Another thing actually, don't let her teach you to dance...especially when the instructors Latino and you can't take your eyes of her HUGE boobs.
girls come in all shapes and sizes, some are high maintenance a lot are not. some are too concerned with their appearance. they like to have a good time. i like girls. girls like guys usually. from time to time they may do some of the following; talk to to you, shop, say ';oh my god'; gossip, and play football. im 19 years younger than twice the age of a 19 year old. you have a lot of answers haha.
sorry i looked i wuz CURIOUS! don't hate! =P
first of all i'm twelve and a girl
haha
ok around girls (well if ur twenty i guess WOMEN) don't do all those craaaazy things 2 impress them or whatever. like, don't lie about ur money or whatever else guys lie about. =O
i met my guy friends this way:
i hung out with my friends and some guys came over 2 some of my friends, help on homework, whatnot. they looked cool 2 me, didn't look like idiots like some other immature guys in my school. so we talked and we became friends. they don't like 2 ADMIT that we're friends, but we're friends. =)
u can meet women the same way too. hang with ur friends (ok if u think i'm getting a TOTALLY wrong idea about what twenty-year old guys do, i'm sooorrrryyy! how am i suppposed 2 know how twenty-year old guys think?!) and maybe some women (aaah i'm used 2 using the term GIRLS) will come along. chat with them, like u were talking 2 ur own friends, and maybe u will start 2 feel a little more comfortable. just remember: (i keep 4getting that ur twenty, aaaaarghh!) how guys associate is COMPLETELY different from how girls associate. put two girls in a room and they'll sit down and chat. put two guys in a room and they'll shoot tennis balls into a Safeway shopping bag. girls like 2 talk, guys like 2 do stuff. try 2 incorporate a little of both when ur talking 2 women.
whew! as a 12-year old, ppl consider me mature and a good advice giver 4 my age. (guys always ask me 4 dating advice - like i would know!) what do u think?
hope i helped, and good luck!
EDIT: i like ur username, haha. exactly what i wuz thinking when the cursor wuz blinking on the screen...
well i have always noticed they go for jerks.... if you are too nice to them they will walk all over you.... so try to keep them on their toes.... you know what they say nice guys finish last ... and i think 95% of the time that is true... my problem is ... i cant be a jerk... i am always nice
another piece of advice dont be a cheater if they find out it will ruin things... if they decide not to leave you things will still never be the same... you will never be able to get back to where you once were
oh and im 20
Well...as you may have guessed we enjoy breaking the rules, the quickest way to get us to do something is to tell us not to, or we can't.
Let me think......always be on time, even if she's never read when you get there. Younger women do like jerks (don't ask me why) but after a few of those the more intelligent of us get wise....older women appreciate Nice.
Oh, know that once a month we go completely off our rocker....we have surges of emotion that even we can't explain...we feel bloated and uncomfortable and a little sympathy would be nice.
Phuck it. My long detailed Answer was erased and lost.
I do not have the time and energy to retype it all.
Good luck. You will need it. I would however still recommend that you buy and read the following book.
';The Anatomy of Sex and Power: An Investigation of Mind-Body Politics'; Hutchison, Michael
http://www.ayerego.com/si/AC020755I.html
And, see Google search:
http://www.google.ca/search?sourceid=nav鈥?/a>
Don't try to analyze them or offer advice of the 'you should have' variety when all they want to do is have someone to talk to.
A guy tells you his problems he wants advice.
A woman tells you, she wants support and a shoulder.
Age 60, married at 20 and never regretted it.
first off, sandfly is awesome haha. i agree
secondly
why are you trying to put girls into one big category? i'm 17 and i have had some insanely diverse girl-friends. they hate and love different things.
dont put them in a category.
and dont look for love.
let it come to you, God will let it happen in His time
hahaha...i am 19, and all it takes is you knowing who you are, where you wanna go, what you want to be, and confidence. NEVER let a women walk all over you. The tougher they are, the stronger a man they want, no matter physical build. Always try to be relaxed and comfortable. WOMEN ADMIRE THAT! And be little cocky too.
I'm a 20 year old woman and all I have to say is:
We are ALWAYS beautiful.
We are ALWAYS right.
We NEVER look fat in those jeans.
lol, but really, don't listen to these guys that say act like a jerk, some women will take it for a while, but you don't want to be there when she get's fed up!
Be yourself.
Listen to them
No means No
Stop hitting on them
Don't be a jerk
Treat them with the utmost respect.
That's about all I can tell you.
When I was a cub, the boys picked on me.
The girls took me into their club and taught me how to treat them.
They swore me to secrecy
Ok ...Im a female and I looked! sorry I was bored...jus had to peek!
for a question like this why would you only want one side ...you really should be asking a womans view as well....but since you really didnt want women to answer this I'll only suggest you listen to 'CTDave' and give him the 10 points he is giving you the benifit of good advise backed by experience.
Good luck!
Blessed Be!
There is ';man'; in ';woman';. There is ';men'; in ';women';.
Women are difficult to understand. They are like little child trapped in a woman's body. And yet they alone can give birth.
Men envied women because men can not give birth. In revenge, men get as many women as he can.
But he can not call one his own.
In the end. Man is alone. But women has her children.
I'm 15. You don't need to listen to any of these dorks who try to give you professional sounding advice, because they don't know anything.
Just be smooth- don't make it obvious that you like a girl- and just talk to them like you would to your friends and the rest will take care of itself.
They are trainable......it just takes time
Alot of time...
See them as little as possible, make up excuses like work or school. Make your self not a commodity, but a luxury. Don't refrain from showing affection.
And once a month, you will be carpet bombed. PMS buddy....It's not an exaggeration, it's really that bad.
Age 29
i'm a girl but i'll tell you a whole lot about girls.
their back-stabbing. bitches. liers. haters. sluts.
hoes. cunts. two faced.
they act all flirty in front of every guy and
they show clevage on purpose so you notice
how big her boobs are, or that the fact that she
actually has boobs. %26amp; she wants you too look
at them but when she notices you are, she goes
OH MY GOD, STOP. but she likes it. and she'll
tell all her frans... oh my god' he was checkin'
my boobs out.
yeah, and ask her out too lunch
and she'll tell the whole world what a big
deal it is.
ask her too homecoming and she'll FREAKIN'
freak out. yeah, girls are freakin' WEIRD.
(GOD HEARS THE WORDS OF THE WOMAN)
God hears the words of the woman who complains to Muhammad about the cruelty of her husband; God hears her words when she complains directly to him. God listens to everything that is said; he hears all and observes all.
-Qur'an, Al-Mujadilah, Surah 58:1
Skippy got game and is glad to help you.
The best advice skippy can give you is as follows.
If you want a chick, treat her like you dont care. Treat her like you are doing her a favor talking to her. In Skippys younger years, his best line in a night club was. ';Wait here for a bit, Im going to see if I can find someone better and if I cant, I will come back for you'; Worked every time.
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