Women!! i need some truthful advice?

right just before i got together with my boyfriend he had a one night stand and became pregnant but she assured my boyfriend that it wasn't his, now that the baby is born she is saying that it is his. He doesn't seem too interested in knowing about the issue but I really want to know because it bothers me that it doesn't really bother him lol.I also recently found out that when he spoke to this woman at the beginning he told her that if it was his she should abort which has really bothered me. Should I be letting this affect me so much??Women!! i need some truthful advice?
It is a big deal. So you should worry about it. Don't let it ruin your relationship though. It was something that happened before you guy's got together, remember that.





Talk to you boyfriend about it and ask him questions. ';why aren't you worried if the kid is yours or not...?'; Etc. Best way to get over situations like this is to talk about them.Women!! i need some truthful advice?
maybe 2 easy ur mind u need a paternity test done 2 either confirm that the baby is ur boyfriends or not.that way u will find out 100%.otherwise this situation will only get worse and the poor child that is stuck in the middle wont understand at the moment but later on in life it will affect him.but talking it out with him and discussing that the test needs 2 b taken out so then u can make a plan of action.good luck
Heck yeah, see this man for what he is. His true colors are showing!
yes that's terrible. ur boyfriend shouldnt be making descisions for someone else's baby. if it really was his baby, he should have been more thoughtful and agree to pay child support. u should watch out because he seems obnoxious and uncaring. and the one night stand thing just makes the situation worse, it shows how he doesn't care about people.
Yes, this should bother you. Is this the type of guy you want to be involved with? One who won't man up to his responsibilities? If this is his child, it is his responsibility.





Think long and hard on this one, because that is his character that is showing.
Well put it this way. Are you okay with going out with someone who wants his child aborted? Are you okay with going out with someone who isn't bothered that he may be having a child?





Personally I think those are big loud alarm bells ringing. It shows what type of man he is. But if it doesn't bother you then let it go.
well a one night stand doesn't makes me think that the guy is kinda shallow. Not being interested in his possible child is very disturbing. is he afraid of commitment? well if it IS his child then he needs to take responsibility for his actions! Asking her to KILL a human life that is possibly his own flesh and blood?? TOTALLY INSANE!


i dont know about this guy.....


you have a good reason to be affected by this.
yeah because he might throw you to the curb if you get pregnant
Well I see why you are worried because ';If he doesn't want kids now, will he ever...';





But the way I see it is that firstly since first of all he got told that it wasn't his and now she is saying it is, could be because she is lying and she wants child support or something along those lines and so he doesn't believe her.





Also now he is with you he probably doesn't want something that might not even be true to get between you in your relationship, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.





(By the way I know I'm not a woman I just like trying to help people with bad problems...)





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yeah.. its kinda a big deal
Don't worry about it hun, As long as you and your man are happy! If your too worried about it get a dna test, even if it is his, it will all work itself out! xoxo
yes off course you need to get this sorted





if your boyfriend is a dad


he will need to offer financial support until the child is an adult





He does not sound like a very caring boy to me ,and if I were you I'd be a bit wary of him until all this mess is sorted out
This ';man'; has not grown up yet. He is still childish and so on. He is not ready to be a fauther if he wanted to abort a baby. What makes you think if you get pregnate it will be any different?? The mother of the baby prolly just wanted some money out of him. But thank god she didnt abort the baby. And honestly you need to get away. I know this isnt what you want to hear but, your life is just on hold. Do you really want to get all mixed up in this? Think you will actually spend the rest of your life with him?