I know I already asked this question but I think mostly unexperienced teens answered
I need some dating tips, what should I expect from a younger guy early 20's, what should I not do, what is the downside to this type of relationship ?
Do I have to wait for them to mature, or can I mold him..?? If you've dated or married a younger guy, please adviseI really need some ADULT advice about dating younger men, from older women if possible..??
I married a guy younger than me. He will want to play more. Most guys in their early 20's are still into things like video games and it isn't something you can just break them of over night. Don't talk about marriage and kids because it will send him running for the hills. Play it cool. And what ever you do, don't start acting too bossy or nagging him. If you are much older than him, all he will see is that you are trying to be his mother. Dating a younger guy and even marrying a younger guy can be wonderful. They aren't whipped by the responsibilities of the world so they are more care-free and they can add more spice to your life. Just remember that while an older woman dating a younger man can put you into a different category with your friends, it can do the same for him. Be prepared. If there are quite a few years between the two of you, don't be surprised if his own peer group have some snarky comments about you dating. From somewhat nice (hey, it's Stiffler's Mom) to calling you a cougar. If you don't know these references, Stiffler was a character in the movie American Pie and one of his friends got the priviledge of sleeping with his mom. A cougar is a slang term to describe a 35+ year old female who is on the ';hunt'; for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. If this does happen, just chalk it up to the fact that they are threatened by you and have fun. Be mindful that many men, regardless of age, are out to have fun but not necessarily in for a relationship. Make sure you establish what you are after first. If all you want is a man that can go all night, you will find some one out there eager to prove they can. If you want the relationship thing, it can get a little tougher. Most men in this age group are not looking for the domestic bliss relationship. Sowing their wild oats and making memories is for them. If you are lucky you will find a 22-23 year old and have a few good years of fun and then he will mature into the guy who is ready to marry. That's how it happened for me. Now we have wedded bliss but my guy is still in his 20's and I am in my 30s so the fun still continues. Good luck and remember that the best way to approach any relationship is to think about the person first, age second. Have fun.I really need some ADULT advice about dating younger men, from older women if possible..??
First of all what's your age, I'm 45 and i, myself would not date 20 year olds, or around that age, because i would feel like if he is like my son's age. Maybe 35 year olds or older sounds better. Good luck
Early 20's? Well, they are still basically unsure of themselves and the world around them. Depending on the kind of guy you get, he's probably more into having fun and collecting possessions.
Don't make references to the age gap, remember that he's probably a little sensitive to it as well. It's not unlike dating someone your age so just go with what feels comfortable.
Have fun, don't try to mother or mold him, he'll resent it if you do.
well, i'm your girl for this Answer. I haven't dated (or married!) anyone close to my own age since i was 23. I've always dates younger men, by choice. I've always been more attracted to them %26amp; vice versa.
Anyway, my second marriage was to a man 6 years my junior...although we're now divorced, it had absolutely nothing at all to do w/his age. we also have a lovely daughter....we were married/together for about 10 years.
I am now again married to another man, only he's 9 years younger(!) -- %26amp; HE'S THE BEST.
bear in mind when you date a younger guy -- esp. one in their 20's (which I also did when I was nearing 30 %26amp; fell MADLY in love with), you have to understand that they may still have to sow some wild oats %26amp; may not be ready to settle down, if that's what you're looking for (or even commit to one woman)...a few are mature enough to know what they want, whether it's a future w/you or not will tell you if you ask, which is good (but don't have that conversation too early on in the relationship -- you'll scare the snot ouf of the poor thing!).
IMO, each man should be judged invidividually by what YOU expect. be frank %26amp; honest with yourself %26amp; any potential guy %26amp; you won't go wrong. DO NOT try to manipulate, convince or 'wait it out' w/some youngster that you're smitten with %26amp; want to keep forever if he's not thinking the same thing! it won't work %26amp; you'll be the one getting hurt in the end.
I wouldn't count on the whole 'molding' thing either -- people don't ever truly change...sure, they grow %26amp; mature, but basically stay the same deep down inside.
i hope this was helpful.
if you have any more questions, feel free to ask ;-)
I have dated a younger guy. I had problems from the get-go. Most younger men are immature and you can be my guest to try and mold them but its hard! They have a tendancy to be controling and want to know your every move. And when it comes time for an anniversary forget it! They will be spending that night out with their buddies drinking or at a club. Also, if they are in their early 20's means they probably don't have a career yet. So be prepared to eat out at McD's alot and get cheap gifts. You will be the bread winner hunny! However since they are younger, sometimes they are pure and sweet. They havent had the chance to become bitter by the world and often want to have fun! So there are ups and downs just like any relationship. I certainly don't regret dating a younger guy, but it just didnt work out for me. Good luck!
A few years ago, I dated a guy young enough to be my son. Though he wanted to continue the relationship, I broke it off pretty quickly. We had very few things in common (we both liked coffee and hockey), and very different viewpoints on everything. We simply did not see the world the same way. I would get impatient with him, and then realize it was just his lack of life experience. So, my impatience was unfair, but it was still there. I really don't know how you develop a true partnership kind of relationship with someone from a different generation.
they'll do you like any young kid would cuz older women are a novelty. then they will get tired of the novelty and dump you for someone their own age. by the time they mature, they will say, ';what am I doing with this old bag?'; so if you want to have a fling, go for it, but dont expect anything beyond that.
One recommendation--don't keep referring to the age difference, such as ';Oh, when I was your age...';
His education, work, and the meaning of fun might be different from yours. Expect that he might not be able to call you 24/7 or he might be the type to call 24/7. And in the time when he can't reach you or you reach him. Patient is a must. Next thing to think about is money. He doesn't having saving, so long vacation or even buying a ticket is a problem. So the budget of a marriage, honeymoon, or even having a child will be a problem in time wise.
Consider yourself damn lucky is you find a 20 some year old guy that has a strong direction to life, knows how to budget money, has no issues, isn't clingy and is wise beyond his years.
My 'adult' advice is that unless you enjoy the fact that your younger guy is a boy toy for you and can overlook his immaturity or embrace it, you shouldn't waste your time. Molding him? Most of us have a rough time 'molding' our kids; why would you even want to worry about molding your significant other? Well, I have an ex-sister-in-law who I love who is also into 'younger' men...she's presently dating a guy who is not so much younger and I really believe she is starting to 'get' it. The conventional wisdom about not being able to change anyone but yourself holds true -- no matter the age of the subject!!! If you just want the thrill of the chase and the fact that you are still appealing enough to 'score' with a younger guy, you go for it...just keep the molding and sculpting for an art class! Personally, I'm much more attracted to older and monied -- you know, those mature guys who know how to wine and dine a woman and understand romance...
I have dated younger guys, and the sex was awesome, but they seemed to have too much baggage for me (being an older woman). Most were dealing ex wives and child support or bad credit etc.. stuff I didn't want to deal with. Not saying ALL young guys are in the same situation. As for maturity, good luck finding that in a man at any age.
I'm not sure on what to tell you...
But I am 27 currently dating a 36 year old woman. It's pretty good. No complaints.
Before that I was dating a 20 year old girl. That is something I will never do again.
Early 20's should be okay for you... depending on your age... I mean if you're 50 something that would be bad.
And the suggestion to not keep referring to the age difference is great advice.
Hi, I'am Marissa 34 female from Wisconsin, and am seeing Corey and he is 18 going on 19. I'am divorced for 3 years. I have never been so happy. I feel free and young again. With Corey, my first and only young guy, I had to make all the moves. I was nervous at first, but it turns me on. Email us if you want, Myself and my Corey can answer anything.
';Mold '; him?
No, he is too old and you might make him jump hoops for sex but after the orgasms are over your magic powers over him are gone for good.
Thats a fact hon I have seen it too often.First treat him with respect and expect him to be immature and childish at times, he is still growing.
Also, no sex for that will really confuse things and neither of you will think and see things as they are.You will have too much emotion invested before getting to know one another.
This is just common sense hon.
First
you should expect from him to want to have SEX ... mucho.. that's the every guy's dream, hook up with an old lady
Second
Do not say ';omg you're like a little kid for me'; or ';when I was your age'; or stuff like that.. never talk about the age difference
third
the downside is if he is not really in love with you .. he will prolly leave you and find a young girl later after messing around with you... usually to be with an older women is just a fantasy for most men so If he is serious about you, everything is gonna be okay... so if you are looking for something serious you better make you how he feels about you if you dont want to get hurt...
Good luck
Go with the flow-
I married a younger guy we have been together 30+ years it is just like any relationship you get what you put in . If you are looking for someone to mold I say forget about it. You have to start with someone who can have a conversation after sex or you will get bored. Men mature at different ages just like women so maybe his age doesn't matter. My husband is 5 years younger but he has always been more mature then his age . What can he offer you or do you have bring everything to the table? You can have a baby, you don't need someone to raise.
I almost said, ';Some Lube';. But I really have no idea.
I think if you want a serious realtionship looking for a guy in his early 20's probably isn't the best way. For most guys that age, marriage or being tied down in a relationship is the last thing that they want. So, make sure from day one that you both are on the same page. Also, trying to ';mold'; someone isn't a good idea. You should like the person for who they are, not for what you want them to be. I have no idea how much of an age gap you are talking about here...
It depends on the circumstances!
First of all, you CANNOT ';mold'; him!! Don't EVER go into any relationship with the intent of trying to change someone! It probably won't happen and you will end up very frustrated!!
My girlfriend (42) dated a younger guy (24). It was the biggest mistake of her life! She ended up being nothing but a fantasy he was trying to fulfill. Once he had accomplished that, he dumped her. His excuse....I want a family and you cannot provide that for me. Although he was correct, he used her for sex and broker her heart.
Another friend (37) dated a younger guy (25) and ended up getting married to him. They are still married 7 years later and very happy. They have 2 children together.
You just have to be careful and be sure that you are both looking for the same things.
First you shouldn't be going into any relationship trying to decide if you should mold someone. Date the person and stop trying to predict what to do. If it's going to work it will.
I am 40 and I married someone who is now 52. She is the most beautiful person I have ever met. I can't imagine life with a younger woman. I had dated a lot of them too.
Whenever I encounter younger men I don't think about the age difference. I've dated several and enjoy the company, but eventually we have to socialize with our friends, that's when the age difference becomes an issue. There are a number of young men who are more mature and experienced than men my age. I would rather date them but I wouldn't establish a long term relationship. It wouldn't be fair to the guy who will be stuck with a senior citizen in 20 years or more. When I meet a young man I usually establish the boundaries up front , saves having a long heart wrenching goodbye.
If you think you need to 'mold' someone you are the immature one and need to work on your own life before ruining someone else.
well i am 46,and my partner off 19 months is 35,we never mention ages or nothing like that,wow hon the first thing you must not do is try to mold him,,he is a human being just the same and if he wants too date an older woman fair be it,we have a great relationship,and one off the most important things is too never go on and on about the age difference,,why should you anyway,you are together because you want too be,if you keep on n on about it do you want to be like his mother,,,,,anyway good luck too youxxxxxxx
I dated a guy that was 3 years younger than me. It was very hard. It went on for 4 months...we had fun...but then we had some issues too. Like when we hung out with his friends..they are all his age. It made me feel a little weird cause I wasn't into what they were. Plus he wasn't 21 yet, so we couldn't go to the places that I wanted to. Some ladies can date younger guys..and it works for them. but just be careful...he might pull the ';i'm not ready for that yet';, or ';i'm going to a house party'; stuff like that. Molding isn't going to happen, but you can just tell him exactly what you look for in a guy and find out if you guys can make it. Good Luck.
Friday, April 30, 2010
TRUST???? I need advice from both men and women?
i'm married to a women that i thought was just everything. One day i was getting rid of some stuff after we moved in our home i found some of her old cell bills.And what i saw was shocking. I saw this same # listede several times,so i did a call and acted like i dailed the wrong # just to see who is was and he told me who he was, and i asked a mutual friend of ours to check it out and come to find out is that she was talking and supposelty see him. I confronted her about this and she just flat out lied about and continued to lie for about 3 months. They talked for 5 months about 900-1000 mins a month. So finally after i stayed on her for the truth se said it was nothing seriuos.. She claimed she never met him ect. I still didn't feel right and finally broke down and told her that i think kthat she was still lying, and then she said i met him only once '; he came by my work'; unannounced, which to me was creepy. Now my problem is i still feel that there was more to it. y did she hide itTRUST???? I need advice from both men and women?
I would say that they possibly did have something going on and may still have. I would sit quietly and let her get comfortable. Do your homework. Show up at home unannounced, gather bills, check credit card statements, follow her, etc.
On the other hand, if you suspect nothing is going on anymore and you want to stay with your wife, I would let it go. Perhaps she has realized she made a mistake and wants to forget about. Like I said though, I would do your homework.
Good luck!TRUST???? I need advice from both men and women?
I think there`s definitely more to it. Lying to avoid the truth which is painful to her now that she`s not talking to him anymore, is easier for her and she hid it from you out if fear of repercussions.
You didn't say if the cell bills were from prior to your marriage or engagement. If they were, you have no control over that. If they weren't, you must decide if you want to trust her or not. It's always a choice.
she was totally wrong for acting that way.
1. no secrets in a relationship-hiding phone bills, meeting other people, etc.
2. she hid it from you because she knew it was WRONG and that she would lose you
3. actions are louder than words
maybe you should stop with the anger and such like and find out what the reason was for her to communicate with this man... some do it because of marriage issues and others because of other problems or needs...
perhaps you should try being more understanding...
she obviously needed something you couldn't provide...
try to find out what that is/was...
She's told you many lies. She's hiding the truth because she's guilty and she knows it.
If you're going to deal with this issue, at least be adult about it. You know exactly why she hid it, so stop acting so surprised. Either you're going to get over this and get on with the marriage, or you're going to drag your wife through the mud and destroy any chance of salvaging your relationship with her.
Before you discovered this information, you were a happy man. Accept your wife's word, when she says it was nothing serious and move on. Nothing can be gained from prolonging the agony.
WOW...go to therapy and if they think you 2 have a chance fine BUT she is a liar...how can you live with a liar...she has made a fool out of you and you are not happy...find someone who will make you happy that you can trust...trust is the most important thing in a relationship! And usually once a liar always a liar..like one a cheat always a cheat........and iof you doupt something..do not do it..it is God telling you no....
Been there, done that.Trust?? Buddy this is a HONESTY issue,not to mention trust as well. She's still lying to you. In fact I'd venture to say that she doesn't even care how you feel. Get an divorce attorney and let the two ';players'; have each other. It's only a matter of time before they'll start cheating on each other. Try to find someone that doesn't have so many honesty issues. I know it HURTS. Unfortunately she deems you unworthy of an honest answer. Find someone who actually cares about you and loves you. Good luck...
she hid it because she knows it's wrong to have an affair
You can't keep harping on it, you know she called and seen this man. What you have to decide now is well you ever be able to trust her again and do you still want to be married to a cheater.
There is no short answer here, unfortunately. But I can tell you a marriage that is perfect, isn't perfect at all. It's human nature to be interested in other people, in a natural sense we are creatures driven by sex. In other ways we are driven by the environment we were raised in and we are molded by the surroundings and people we live and associate with. When we get married, we have to learn how to be married. Too many people think when you get married that married life is just an extension of single life.
Being married is about the love between two people. For me, love is about honesty, loyalty, trust, faithfulness, and so on. All those words by definition and indeed the actions surrounding those words are what love is to me. Honesty, for instance is one word involved with love and marriage most people don't truly understand. We all think we know that honesty is always telling the truth, when asked or when a situation arises to take back the $10 change a store clerk gave us, when we should have only gotten $5. Although that is a good example of honesty, it's not the true honesty of a marriage.
The honesty of a marriage is sharing with your spouse who you really are. Exposing your fears and showing them your worst. For instance, imagine that your wife was always in the company of men, predominantly in social situations rather than women. That might mean she feels more comfortable around men because she had a great relationship with her father and not her mother. She should identify that to herself and you. So sometimes it's not all that easy to identify why we behave the way we do, but there are reasons. And that's why it is important to have good communications in any relationship, especially marriage. By doing so, we can talk out everything and learn about each other and help each other and grow together.
I can tell you, first hand, if she is hiding something about that man, she does care about you, because if she didn't care, she would simply tell you everything to maybe hurt you, but she is hiding it. Also, she knows it鈥檚 wrong and she knows where she belongs, I suggest you work with her, but don't beat around the bush. Make her understand how you are feeling about this and make her commit to you and promise to stay away from this guy or any guy in the future. You might consider also talking to her to understand why she thought it was important to have contact or be a part of the relationship she had with this other guy. Is there something missing in her life, something she needs from you, a parent or some fulfillment she isn't getting, and just maybe you can help her with that.
There is a site called www.marriagebuilders.com and in it you can find invaluable information about married and relationships. Some you may have to pay for, but there is a lot of good free information there. Check it out.
A marriage can come back from affairs and sometimes, when both people are committed and honest and open, the marriage can actually come back stronger and more purposeful than before.
She's not being honest with you for whatever reason, but trust is a major factor in any relationship. Why she chooses to have an outside life is beyond me. Consequently, she'll probably never tell you the truth and that's unfortunate. The only concern that I have is what else is she not being honest about? I would sit down with a mediator and try to get to the bottom of this, because several thoughts are probably running rampant in your head right now. Your attempts to get the truth were in vain as she is now stumbling over her words. I don't really know what to tell you other than trust has been broken. What I might do if I were in a similar situation? I don't really know, but if the truth manages to surface one day, I pray that the two of you can work out the problem. If not, seek out a marriage counselor. Good luck.
Oh my gosh..I am so sorry she did this to you. It is very hurtful when a mate does this. You and her need to sit down and really talk things through and find out why she did this and she needs to be honest with you . It will take along time if ever if you will trust her again. After your talk you will need to be true to yourself as to rather you stay with her. Sounds like she has got some growing up to do but also some people LOVE the drama they can cause. Good luck because it's not easy sorting this out.
If it took that long for her to come out with what she has;it seems to me that there may be more skeletons in her closet. How long have you been married? Where did she meet this guy? I need more specifics. Pls add more.
Boss... i wud seriously suggest u not to trust her... thats it. no hide n seek in love.... dont get in to break up.. but give her a serious warning.... which is definately serious.. n if she continues.. she is then not ur cup of tea... jst forget her... Life is not going to stop... Finally everything happens for the best...
I have had a problem recently w/ people lying to me. The worst thing you can do to me or anyone (I think) is lie to their face. What I did is I told him that if he didn't tell me the truth then I could not be his friend anymore, cause I'm not friends w/ people that I can't trust. Nobody should be in a relationship w/ somebody who they can't trust. You should tell her, first of all to listen to all that you have to say before she says anything (so she doesn't lie again before you tell her what you proposition is), then tell her this is her last chance and you want to know the whole truth, tell her that you will be less mad at her and your relationship might can be saved if she tells you the truth, then say again this is her last chance and she had better tell you the whole truth now or your relationship will be over no matter what. You need to find out the truth because then you will know what to do about it. GOOD LUCK!!!
This is the problem with cell phones and text messages. people are just to available. My ex did something similiar and a freind is going through the same. Point here is though why all the hiding and lying. In hindsight, I dont believe my ex was having a sexual affair, but what she was doing was still wrong and was a factor in our split. You have to decide for yourself if you can forgive and trust again.
Its natural to hide something when confronted. Most people don't know how to handle that. I would ask her to set aside a time, make an appointment, to talk with you. Then make it an ';easy'; honest conversation. Tell her that in order for you to both get past this she HAS to be honest. You cannot feel like she is holding back at all. You have to keep your ';cool'; during this so she feels safe telling you what happened. When all is said and done you both need to ask ';where do we go from here?'; I wish you all the best.
She's probably lying because she's hiding something..It seems like you need to let her know you want the truth...If she doesn't tell you then leave her..It seems she doesn't appreciate you and she's taking you for granted...You want to be with someone who loves you and that you can trust...So communicate see what's going on and what's missing...if things keep on going the same then you know what you need to do....
Bottom line.....This is going to cause problems until she comes clean.....
You caught her in lies several times....We lie when we know what we did was wrong.....There's more to it and you know it....
Everyone has a past. Why are you making such a big deal over an old cell phone bill. Who did she murder that you are putting her under the spot light with the questioning. If you are now living together then start your life look ahead not backwards.
I would say that they possibly did have something going on and may still have. I would sit quietly and let her get comfortable. Do your homework. Show up at home unannounced, gather bills, check credit card statements, follow her, etc.
On the other hand, if you suspect nothing is going on anymore and you want to stay with your wife, I would let it go. Perhaps she has realized she made a mistake and wants to forget about. Like I said though, I would do your homework.
Good luck!TRUST???? I need advice from both men and women?
I think there`s definitely more to it. Lying to avoid the truth which is painful to her now that she`s not talking to him anymore, is easier for her and she hid it from you out if fear of repercussions.
You didn't say if the cell bills were from prior to your marriage or engagement. If they were, you have no control over that. If they weren't, you must decide if you want to trust her or not. It's always a choice.
she was totally wrong for acting that way.
1. no secrets in a relationship-hiding phone bills, meeting other people, etc.
2. she hid it from you because she knew it was WRONG and that she would lose you
3. actions are louder than words
maybe you should stop with the anger and such like and find out what the reason was for her to communicate with this man... some do it because of marriage issues and others because of other problems or needs...
perhaps you should try being more understanding...
she obviously needed something you couldn't provide...
try to find out what that is/was...
She's told you many lies. She's hiding the truth because she's guilty and she knows it.
If you're going to deal with this issue, at least be adult about it. You know exactly why she hid it, so stop acting so surprised. Either you're going to get over this and get on with the marriage, or you're going to drag your wife through the mud and destroy any chance of salvaging your relationship with her.
Before you discovered this information, you were a happy man. Accept your wife's word, when she says it was nothing serious and move on. Nothing can be gained from prolonging the agony.
WOW...go to therapy and if they think you 2 have a chance fine BUT she is a liar...how can you live with a liar...she has made a fool out of you and you are not happy...find someone who will make you happy that you can trust...trust is the most important thing in a relationship! And usually once a liar always a liar..like one a cheat always a cheat........and iof you doupt something..do not do it..it is God telling you no....
Been there, done that.Trust?? Buddy this is a HONESTY issue,not to mention trust as well. She's still lying to you. In fact I'd venture to say that she doesn't even care how you feel. Get an divorce attorney and let the two ';players'; have each other. It's only a matter of time before they'll start cheating on each other. Try to find someone that doesn't have so many honesty issues. I know it HURTS. Unfortunately she deems you unworthy of an honest answer. Find someone who actually cares about you and loves you. Good luck...
she hid it because she knows it's wrong to have an affair
You can't keep harping on it, you know she called and seen this man. What you have to decide now is well you ever be able to trust her again and do you still want to be married to a cheater.
There is no short answer here, unfortunately. But I can tell you a marriage that is perfect, isn't perfect at all. It's human nature to be interested in other people, in a natural sense we are creatures driven by sex. In other ways we are driven by the environment we were raised in and we are molded by the surroundings and people we live and associate with. When we get married, we have to learn how to be married. Too many people think when you get married that married life is just an extension of single life.
Being married is about the love between two people. For me, love is about honesty, loyalty, trust, faithfulness, and so on. All those words by definition and indeed the actions surrounding those words are what love is to me. Honesty, for instance is one word involved with love and marriage most people don't truly understand. We all think we know that honesty is always telling the truth, when asked or when a situation arises to take back the $10 change a store clerk gave us, when we should have only gotten $5. Although that is a good example of honesty, it's not the true honesty of a marriage.
The honesty of a marriage is sharing with your spouse who you really are. Exposing your fears and showing them your worst. For instance, imagine that your wife was always in the company of men, predominantly in social situations rather than women. That might mean she feels more comfortable around men because she had a great relationship with her father and not her mother. She should identify that to herself and you. So sometimes it's not all that easy to identify why we behave the way we do, but there are reasons. And that's why it is important to have good communications in any relationship, especially marriage. By doing so, we can talk out everything and learn about each other and help each other and grow together.
I can tell you, first hand, if she is hiding something about that man, she does care about you, because if she didn't care, she would simply tell you everything to maybe hurt you, but she is hiding it. Also, she knows it鈥檚 wrong and she knows where she belongs, I suggest you work with her, but don't beat around the bush. Make her understand how you are feeling about this and make her commit to you and promise to stay away from this guy or any guy in the future. You might consider also talking to her to understand why she thought it was important to have contact or be a part of the relationship she had with this other guy. Is there something missing in her life, something she needs from you, a parent or some fulfillment she isn't getting, and just maybe you can help her with that.
There is a site called www.marriagebuilders.com and in it you can find invaluable information about married and relationships. Some you may have to pay for, but there is a lot of good free information there. Check it out.
A marriage can come back from affairs and sometimes, when both people are committed and honest and open, the marriage can actually come back stronger and more purposeful than before.
She's not being honest with you for whatever reason, but trust is a major factor in any relationship. Why she chooses to have an outside life is beyond me. Consequently, she'll probably never tell you the truth and that's unfortunate. The only concern that I have is what else is she not being honest about? I would sit down with a mediator and try to get to the bottom of this, because several thoughts are probably running rampant in your head right now. Your attempts to get the truth were in vain as she is now stumbling over her words. I don't really know what to tell you other than trust has been broken. What I might do if I were in a similar situation? I don't really know, but if the truth manages to surface one day, I pray that the two of you can work out the problem. If not, seek out a marriage counselor. Good luck.
Oh my gosh..I am so sorry she did this to you. It is very hurtful when a mate does this. You and her need to sit down and really talk things through and find out why she did this and she needs to be honest with you . It will take along time if ever if you will trust her again. After your talk you will need to be true to yourself as to rather you stay with her. Sounds like she has got some growing up to do but also some people LOVE the drama they can cause. Good luck because it's not easy sorting this out.
If it took that long for her to come out with what she has;it seems to me that there may be more skeletons in her closet. How long have you been married? Where did she meet this guy? I need more specifics. Pls add more.
Boss... i wud seriously suggest u not to trust her... thats it. no hide n seek in love.... dont get in to break up.. but give her a serious warning.... which is definately serious.. n if she continues.. she is then not ur cup of tea... jst forget her... Life is not going to stop... Finally everything happens for the best...
I have had a problem recently w/ people lying to me. The worst thing you can do to me or anyone (I think) is lie to their face. What I did is I told him that if he didn't tell me the truth then I could not be his friend anymore, cause I'm not friends w/ people that I can't trust. Nobody should be in a relationship w/ somebody who they can't trust. You should tell her, first of all to listen to all that you have to say before she says anything (so she doesn't lie again before you tell her what you proposition is), then tell her this is her last chance and you want to know the whole truth, tell her that you will be less mad at her and your relationship might can be saved if she tells you the truth, then say again this is her last chance and she had better tell you the whole truth now or your relationship will be over no matter what. You need to find out the truth because then you will know what to do about it. GOOD LUCK!!!
This is the problem with cell phones and text messages. people are just to available. My ex did something similiar and a freind is going through the same. Point here is though why all the hiding and lying. In hindsight, I dont believe my ex was having a sexual affair, but what she was doing was still wrong and was a factor in our split. You have to decide for yourself if you can forgive and trust again.
Its natural to hide something when confronted. Most people don't know how to handle that. I would ask her to set aside a time, make an appointment, to talk with you. Then make it an ';easy'; honest conversation. Tell her that in order for you to both get past this she HAS to be honest. You cannot feel like she is holding back at all. You have to keep your ';cool'; during this so she feels safe telling you what happened. When all is said and done you both need to ask ';where do we go from here?'; I wish you all the best.
She's probably lying because she's hiding something..It seems like you need to let her know you want the truth...If she doesn't tell you then leave her..It seems she doesn't appreciate you and she's taking you for granted...You want to be with someone who loves you and that you can trust...So communicate see what's going on and what's missing...if things keep on going the same then you know what you need to do....
Bottom line.....This is going to cause problems until she comes clean.....
You caught her in lies several times....We lie when we know what we did was wrong.....There's more to it and you know it....
Everyone has a past. Why are you making such a big deal over an old cell phone bill. Who did she murder that you are putting her under the spot light with the questioning. If you are now living together then start your life look ahead not backwards.
Women only: ';Period talk';...I need some advice.?
Im a little scared to talk to my mom about this. Ok so Im 18 years old. I get my period every 4-6 months at the least. When I do get it, its super heavy. For the past few years, the cramps have been tolerable. But every now and then they are so awful that Ive actually blacked out/fainted and it feels like my face is burning off (yes its pretty bad). I went to the doctor once for this when I was like.....15, She offered to give me birth control pills to stop my periods, but my mom says this will affect me later in life when I want to have kids. I have no clue what to do in this situation. I literally am afraid of getting my period and randomly passing out somewhere, plus my periods are so irregular its weird. Anyone have any suggestions or any tips on what I can do???? It would be really helpful, thanks!Women only: ';Period talk';...I need some advice.?
You poor thing - that sounds horrible.
Your periods are extreme enough to cause some major health issues for you and you need some impartial medical advice.
Birth control pills do NOT affect your fertility nor your chances at having a baby later in life.
They will be likely to give you regular periods - to reduce your pain and amount of bleeding.
I would suggest that you have a full check up anyhow. It does not sound normal to have such excruciating periods nor so irregular. It may be that you have some hormone issues that can easily be fixed. Maybe something else is going on that is causing you such terrible pain- (i dont mean anything sinister) A blood test may also be helpful to see if the amount of loss is affecting your health - you may be low in iron (anaemic)
I don't think it is fair that you have to live in fear of getting them at any old time and passing out.
Go and talk to an RN or at a Womens Clinic where they can give you a proper check up - give you sensible advice and let you know what your options are.Women only: ';Period talk';...I need some advice.?
You need to go back to your doc and get this treated. It is nothing to be scared to talk to your mother about as she is aware of your problems but just not aware of how severe they are. See your doc and get this taken care of.
Do you mean weeks not months? If you are only getting your period every 4-6 MONTHS you are having trouble and need to see a doctor. Y r u scared to talk to your mom? She will probably try to comfort you then tell you to see a dr. Good luck!
first off you said every 4-6 mths did you mean weeks? if it is mths then you should definiately be going to a dr asap! if you did mean weeks, then thats different, but normally it should be i time a mth-withthe kind of pain you say you are having please see a dr anyway-something could be very wrong-but at the least they can give you something to help your pain so you dont have to suffer like that-as far as the pill -aside from all the ide effects they warn us about -it will not mess you up later in life-when you want to have kids you just need to be off it for awhile-i hope you can go tothe dr soon
definately talk to mom. you should go see a doctor and birth control can help with this. she might just have been afraid to put you on it thinking you will use it for protection as well and earlier than she hoped for you.
You shouldn't be scared to talk to your mom about this. 4 - 6 months is a long time to not have a period. Does your family have a history of endometriosis? It's just something to throw out there, I'm not saying you have it, but it's a condition often overlooked. Please check out the link.
Well if you're nervous to talk to your mom about it...you should locate your nearest planned parenthood...since u are 18 and legal..you could just go in for a consultation...and get their advice about your irregular period and the hurtful cramps...b/c like you..i get cramps just as bad..and i didn't want to go on birth control either...my gyno suggested aleve...but as for the fainting..i'm sorry i can't help
It is natural to skip some months. I do. Maybe you should go back to the doctor 3 years is a long time and they are always coming up with new ways of helping people with medical issues.
tell your mom about it and see another doctor.... considering how long you've had periods, this isn't normal!
I would recommend going back to the doctor. Most birth control does not stop your period entirely, it only regulates it.... Although taking birth control can make it initially harder to get pregnant when you want to, it's effects are almost never permanent. Some people can get pregnant right away, but some have to be off the pill for 6 months to a year. I definitely think it would be worth a delay though, it sounds like it can be dangerous when you get your period!
go see a gyno...you're 18 now and there is no reason you can't take care of yourself. i know about the bad cramps and they suck. there are things that you can do to help, but you MUST go see a dr.
It all depends on the birth control pills you choose to use, I think you should talk to your doctor and make a decision for yourself, You can always research what is available for you, You really need to talk to your doctor about this, your mom may just be worried about never having grandkids but right now your health is more important.
I think you should see an OB/GYN doctor about your problems.You might have some non life threatening issues going on that can be taken care of easily. If I could spell it I would, so here is how it sounds,,sorry: in-duh-mee-tree-osis. I
Please, please, talk to your mother and have her schedule an appointment with a gynecologist for a complete checkup, including a Pap smear. 4-6 months between periods for as long as you have been having them is wrong. If you have been sexually active, you will need to tell the gynecologist about that as well, since he/she will want to test for STDs if you have been having sex.
And don't wait...do it NOW!
You need a gynecologist. You need to rule out forms of cancer and to be checked for Endometriosis.
Birth Control pills are the first thing used to defend against Endometriosis. Having your periods on a regular basis may prevent the excessive bleeding you have been experiencing.
My daughter tried the B.C. shots to prevent her from having any periods because the pain was interrupting her schooling. This resulted in a loss of calcium which is needed for the body to flush out fat ... so after 6 month and gaining too much waist line she went back to the oral birth control.
It all depends on where the growth of cells are attaching to what part of the uterus or tubes. I learned this from a friend who lived with it. Main thing is, don't wait too long to find out.
It's time to talk to your mother ... and if she never suffered, she will probably not understand. I didn't till I read it. But, I'm sure she will understand if some day she wants to hold a grandchild.
Birth control will not affect you later in life when you want to have kids. If that was *ever* true (which i doubt), it was when you mother was twelve.
Birth control pills have SOOOOO many advantages and so very little disadvantages. ***You will thank yourself for it if you take them.!***
You're a legal adult. You can see your doctor and talk to her without discussing any of this with your mother. Tell your doctor what is happening and ask her what is *right* for you...
Going on the pill will regulate your cycles and will NOT have any effect on your future fertility. Your mother was misinformed. I would go ahead and go to the doctor to discuss your problems and fears. Actually, go to a few different doctors, so you know that you know exactly what your options are. That's my advice. :)
birth control pills doesn't always help. They can also cause other health problems too. I had mini strokes on them. If you don't get pregnant the first month off of them it is harder to get pregnant. You need morphine or something strong.
that sounds like somthing more the a period talk u need to go to a doctor thats very unhealthy and unsafe u need to get help with that cause there could be somthing wrong.but if al elts fails MIDOL!(its my best friend when it comes to the little visit from my monthly friend)
I would talk to a gynecologist about your problem. Honestly, talk to your doctor about your specific concerns and ask your DOCTOR about the long term side effects of birth control or other options, and then make an informed decision about what you want to do.
You can get something like Ponderstan over the counter at the chemist for cramps.I think you have to take it early in the period for it to be efective.Hope you are eating[properly as well with plenty of iron rich foods.Maybe you should think about another checkup.
First off, birth control pills don't stop your period, they just regulate it. I would see your doctor and talk about non-birth control options. If your doctor will offer you nothing, then get a new doctor. There are several other options to both a)regulate your period and b) to make it tolerable. I would not recommend birth control. There are MANY side effects, some more serious than others:
Weight gain
Increase or decrease in acne
Nausea and vomiting (particularly for the first few cycles)
Dizziness
Headaches
Depression
Vaginal infections
High blood pressure
Loss of libido
Blood clots in legs, lungs, heart or brain
Stroke
Liver tumors (rare)
Heart attacks
Gallstones (rare)
Jaundice (rare)
Possibly cervical cancer
Ectopic pregnancy
Certain cancers
Spotting and irregular vaginal bleeding
Longer periods
Amenorrhea for extend periods
Headaches
Anxiety and nervousness
Pain in lower abdominals
Dizziness
Loss of libido
Depression
Increase or decrease in acne
Skin rash or darkened patches of skin
Appetite changes
Weight gain
Tender breasts
Increase or decrease in facial and body hair
Possibly hair loss
Vaginal discharge
Bone density loss
Enlarged ovarian follicles
Pain or itching (usually for a brief period of time)
Decrease in fertility and in rare cases, infertility
Talk to your doctor and let them know you need help. If you want to try the pill, you may, but beware of side effects! I really hope you get your periods under control! Good Luck.
by answering this question i could possibly put you in more danger than you are in now... please dont try to ask for help of this nature on yahoo answers! you need medical help..please dont let this one slide... why shud u be afraid to talk to your mom? this isnt ur fault! ask for help...U NEED IT.
Return to the doctor. Birth control pills are a good way of regulating when and how long the period will be. The doseage of hormone used is much less than a few years ago so affecting future pregnancy isn't the concern that it used to be. There is also medication available to lessen the pain of cramps. Heavy periods can also lower your level of hemoglobin in the blood so she/he can check your blood too. If you have anemia, that could cause fainting/weakness.
You poor thing - that sounds horrible.
Your periods are extreme enough to cause some major health issues for you and you need some impartial medical advice.
Birth control pills do NOT affect your fertility nor your chances at having a baby later in life.
They will be likely to give you regular periods - to reduce your pain and amount of bleeding.
I would suggest that you have a full check up anyhow. It does not sound normal to have such excruciating periods nor so irregular. It may be that you have some hormone issues that can easily be fixed. Maybe something else is going on that is causing you such terrible pain- (i dont mean anything sinister) A blood test may also be helpful to see if the amount of loss is affecting your health - you may be low in iron (anaemic)
I don't think it is fair that you have to live in fear of getting them at any old time and passing out.
Go and talk to an RN or at a Womens Clinic where they can give you a proper check up - give you sensible advice and let you know what your options are.Women only: ';Period talk';...I need some advice.?
You need to go back to your doc and get this treated. It is nothing to be scared to talk to your mother about as she is aware of your problems but just not aware of how severe they are. See your doc and get this taken care of.
Do you mean weeks not months? If you are only getting your period every 4-6 MONTHS you are having trouble and need to see a doctor. Y r u scared to talk to your mom? She will probably try to comfort you then tell you to see a dr. Good luck!
first off you said every 4-6 mths did you mean weeks? if it is mths then you should definiately be going to a dr asap! if you did mean weeks, then thats different, but normally it should be i time a mth-withthe kind of pain you say you are having please see a dr anyway-something could be very wrong-but at the least they can give you something to help your pain so you dont have to suffer like that-as far as the pill -aside from all the ide effects they warn us about -it will not mess you up later in life-when you want to have kids you just need to be off it for awhile-i hope you can go tothe dr soon
definately talk to mom. you should go see a doctor and birth control can help with this. she might just have been afraid to put you on it thinking you will use it for protection as well and earlier than she hoped for you.
You shouldn't be scared to talk to your mom about this. 4 - 6 months is a long time to not have a period. Does your family have a history of endometriosis? It's just something to throw out there, I'm not saying you have it, but it's a condition often overlooked. Please check out the link.
Well if you're nervous to talk to your mom about it...you should locate your nearest planned parenthood...since u are 18 and legal..you could just go in for a consultation...and get their advice about your irregular period and the hurtful cramps...b/c like you..i get cramps just as bad..and i didn't want to go on birth control either...my gyno suggested aleve...but as for the fainting..i'm sorry i can't help
It is natural to skip some months. I do. Maybe you should go back to the doctor 3 years is a long time and they are always coming up with new ways of helping people with medical issues.
tell your mom about it and see another doctor.... considering how long you've had periods, this isn't normal!
I would recommend going back to the doctor. Most birth control does not stop your period entirely, it only regulates it.... Although taking birth control can make it initially harder to get pregnant when you want to, it's effects are almost never permanent. Some people can get pregnant right away, but some have to be off the pill for 6 months to a year. I definitely think it would be worth a delay though, it sounds like it can be dangerous when you get your period!
go see a gyno...you're 18 now and there is no reason you can't take care of yourself. i know about the bad cramps and they suck. there are things that you can do to help, but you MUST go see a dr.
It all depends on the birth control pills you choose to use, I think you should talk to your doctor and make a decision for yourself, You can always research what is available for you, You really need to talk to your doctor about this, your mom may just be worried about never having grandkids but right now your health is more important.
I think you should see an OB/GYN doctor about your problems.You might have some non life threatening issues going on that can be taken care of easily. If I could spell it I would, so here is how it sounds,,sorry: in-duh-mee-tree-osis. I
Please, please, talk to your mother and have her schedule an appointment with a gynecologist for a complete checkup, including a Pap smear. 4-6 months between periods for as long as you have been having them is wrong. If you have been sexually active, you will need to tell the gynecologist about that as well, since he/she will want to test for STDs if you have been having sex.
And don't wait...do it NOW!
You need a gynecologist. You need to rule out forms of cancer and to be checked for Endometriosis.
Birth Control pills are the first thing used to defend against Endometriosis. Having your periods on a regular basis may prevent the excessive bleeding you have been experiencing.
My daughter tried the B.C. shots to prevent her from having any periods because the pain was interrupting her schooling. This resulted in a loss of calcium which is needed for the body to flush out fat ... so after 6 month and gaining too much waist line she went back to the oral birth control.
It all depends on where the growth of cells are attaching to what part of the uterus or tubes. I learned this from a friend who lived with it. Main thing is, don't wait too long to find out.
It's time to talk to your mother ... and if she never suffered, she will probably not understand. I didn't till I read it. But, I'm sure she will understand if some day she wants to hold a grandchild.
Birth control will not affect you later in life when you want to have kids. If that was *ever* true (which i doubt), it was when you mother was twelve.
Birth control pills have SOOOOO many advantages and so very little disadvantages. ***You will thank yourself for it if you take them.!***
You're a legal adult. You can see your doctor and talk to her without discussing any of this with your mother. Tell your doctor what is happening and ask her what is *right* for you...
Going on the pill will regulate your cycles and will NOT have any effect on your future fertility. Your mother was misinformed. I would go ahead and go to the doctor to discuss your problems and fears. Actually, go to a few different doctors, so you know that you know exactly what your options are. That's my advice. :)
birth control pills doesn't always help. They can also cause other health problems too. I had mini strokes on them. If you don't get pregnant the first month off of them it is harder to get pregnant. You need morphine or something strong.
that sounds like somthing more the a period talk u need to go to a doctor thats very unhealthy and unsafe u need to get help with that cause there could be somthing wrong.but if al elts fails MIDOL!(its my best friend when it comes to the little visit from my monthly friend)
I would talk to a gynecologist about your problem. Honestly, talk to your doctor about your specific concerns and ask your DOCTOR about the long term side effects of birth control or other options, and then make an informed decision about what you want to do.
You can get something like Ponderstan over the counter at the chemist for cramps.I think you have to take it early in the period for it to be efective.Hope you are eating[properly as well with plenty of iron rich foods.Maybe you should think about another checkup.
First off, birth control pills don't stop your period, they just regulate it. I would see your doctor and talk about non-birth control options. If your doctor will offer you nothing, then get a new doctor. There are several other options to both a)regulate your period and b) to make it tolerable. I would not recommend birth control. There are MANY side effects, some more serious than others:
Weight gain
Increase or decrease in acne
Nausea and vomiting (particularly for the first few cycles)
Dizziness
Headaches
Depression
Vaginal infections
High blood pressure
Loss of libido
Blood clots in legs, lungs, heart or brain
Stroke
Liver tumors (rare)
Heart attacks
Gallstones (rare)
Jaundice (rare)
Possibly cervical cancer
Ectopic pregnancy
Certain cancers
Spotting and irregular vaginal bleeding
Longer periods
Amenorrhea for extend periods
Headaches
Anxiety and nervousness
Pain in lower abdominals
Dizziness
Loss of libido
Depression
Increase or decrease in acne
Skin rash or darkened patches of skin
Appetite changes
Weight gain
Tender breasts
Increase or decrease in facial and body hair
Possibly hair loss
Vaginal discharge
Bone density loss
Enlarged ovarian follicles
Pain or itching (usually for a brief period of time)
Decrease in fertility and in rare cases, infertility
Talk to your doctor and let them know you need help. If you want to try the pill, you may, but beware of side effects! I really hope you get your periods under control! Good Luck.
by answering this question i could possibly put you in more danger than you are in now... please dont try to ask for help of this nature on yahoo answers! you need medical help..please dont let this one slide... why shud u be afraid to talk to your mom? this isnt ur fault! ask for help...U NEED IT.
Return to the doctor. Birth control pills are a good way of regulating when and how long the period will be. The doseage of hormone used is much less than a few years ago so affecting future pregnancy isn't the concern that it used to be. There is also medication available to lessen the pain of cramps. Heavy periods can also lower your level of hemoglobin in the blood so she/he can check your blood too. If you have anemia, that could cause fainting/weakness.
WOMEN: Did I give this guy good advice?
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I hate giving the tough love, but he forced my hand. Did I just save this guy from humiliation?WOMEN: Did I give this guy good advice?
Yes! Good for you. In 99% of cases if you just DO what you feel is right - you will be right!!!
Men are awesome logical thinkers.
Even if a guy doesn't know what to do himself...
If you tell him the truth --- and you KNOW it,
he will THANK you for it.
But women are not like that.
The more truth you tell a woman,
the more angry she's going to get,.
FEMALE ANGER IS THE WEATHERVANE OF TRUTH.
Which is more important??
Running around making some silly girl ';happy';?
Buying her gifts and telling her what she wants to hear?
.... or doing what you know is right.
I rest my case.WOMEN: Did I give this guy good advice?
Yes, you def did! The poor guy, how can he even consider giving this girl a gift. He is probably her ';better than my boyfriend, but I would never date him guy';. No, he needs to find a girl who will love him, he sounds sweet!
You gave him bad advice, im not being rude, but what's so bad about getting your best friend a gift?
Nver mind, you gave your opinion, you have the right to.
offtopic:Man I am in the exact situation as the guy in askmen.com pg2. After I told a girl I liked her she started ignoring me and we're back to being friends permanently. I also cannot get her off my mind.
I'd say it was pretty reasonable advice.
u sounded soo sure giving that advice!! n now u r coming here wondering if u gave him good advice!!!!
....if u r right good 4 u!! if u r wrong, that guy is screwd!!
lmfao, i totally agree with you. 10 *high fives* to you.
because you tried yes..
Can it Cool-Aid man! I've got a sling-shot!
well u gave the right answer..i support you..xDeye makeup
I hate giving the tough love, but he forced my hand. Did I just save this guy from humiliation?WOMEN: Did I give this guy good advice?
Yes! Good for you. In 99% of cases if you just DO what you feel is right - you will be right!!!
Men are awesome logical thinkers.
Even if a guy doesn't know what to do himself...
If you tell him the truth --- and you KNOW it,
he will THANK you for it.
But women are not like that.
The more truth you tell a woman,
the more angry she's going to get,.
FEMALE ANGER IS THE WEATHERVANE OF TRUTH.
Which is more important??
Running around making some silly girl ';happy';?
Buying her gifts and telling her what she wants to hear?
.... or doing what you know is right.
I rest my case.WOMEN: Did I give this guy good advice?
Yes, you def did! The poor guy, how can he even consider giving this girl a gift. He is probably her ';better than my boyfriend, but I would never date him guy';. No, he needs to find a girl who will love him, he sounds sweet!
You gave him bad advice, im not being rude, but what's so bad about getting your best friend a gift?
Nver mind, you gave your opinion, you have the right to.
offtopic:Man I am in the exact situation as the guy in askmen.com pg2. After I told a girl I liked her she started ignoring me and we're back to being friends permanently. I also cannot get her off my mind.
I'd say it was pretty reasonable advice.
u sounded soo sure giving that advice!! n now u r coming here wondering if u gave him good advice!!!!
....if u r right good 4 u!! if u r wrong, that guy is screwd!!
lmfao, i totally agree with you. 10 *high fives* to you.
because you tried yes..
Can it Cool-Aid man! I've got a sling-shot!
well u gave the right answer..i support you..xD
What advice do you have for guys that are afraid to cry in front of women?
It's alright to cry. Go ahead. It doesn't make you less of a man.What advice do you have for guys that are afraid to cry in front of women?
I have a loving husband and 3 happily married grown sons.
I have seen all cry since they are grown for varied %26amp; very emotional reasons.
After a service honering WW2 Vets, my oldest son hugged his father %26amp; told him he never realized what all they had gone through %26amp; he thanked his Father %26amp; cryed right there in the atrium of this big church. He was not ashamed. It was a beautiful thing to see. Men have hearts %26amp; feeling %26amp; compassion. I think REAL MEN CRY. That particular son is our ROCK. He calls %26amp; keeps up with us and the rest of the family. I almost died in 2004 and I seen tears from all of them. Don't hide your feelings. Open up %26amp; be real.
God bless all who read this. I hope you received a blessing and got the message. ~~~~~JillWhat advice do you have for guys that are afraid to cry in front of women?
dont cry................. y should u do it....... its so shameful do u no tat??
Fear Not.
I have a loving husband and 3 happily married grown sons.
I have seen all cry since they are grown for varied %26amp; very emotional reasons.
After a service honering WW2 Vets, my oldest son hugged his father %26amp; told him he never realized what all they had gone through %26amp; he thanked his Father %26amp; cryed right there in the atrium of this big church. He was not ashamed. It was a beautiful thing to see. Men have hearts %26amp; feeling %26amp; compassion. I think REAL MEN CRY. That particular son is our ROCK. He calls %26amp; keeps up with us and the rest of the family. I almost died in 2004 and I seen tears from all of them. Don't hide your feelings. Open up %26amp; be real.
God bless all who read this. I hope you received a blessing and got the message. ~~~~~JillWhat advice do you have for guys that are afraid to cry in front of women?
dont cry................. y should u do it....... its so shameful do u no tat??
Fear Not.
Women of Christ i need some advice!?
Okay so I am 13 and a young woman of Christ. I believe in that true love waits and i haven't even had my first kiss yet. Anyways I met this guy at a church family camp and we were talking and we admitted to haveing feelings for eachother a couple of days ago but today he texted me and said '; I can't wait to hold you'; and im not sure how to react to that. What is your advise?
P.S im a freshman and he is a sophmoreWomen of Christ i need some advice!?
13 yr old freshman? kudos.
My advice would be to not get involved with any boys right now. Focus on school.Women of Christ i need some advice!?
I know how you feel... I met a boy just like that.. It was an awesome feeling. but thats all it was a feeling. and as a young woman of God, I think you should keep yourself pure. wait for the right time. I know you don't want to but when God shows you who he wants your first kiss to be and who he wants to be holding you, You won't just FEEL amazing, it will be amazing, God has plan for your life, and there is temptation, right now your 13 and satin is tryin to get you now because your so young, so watch out, he can be tricky just make sure you pray, pray and pray some more! NEVER stop
and rememeber... The right thing at the wrong time is still wrong..
Well, I was born into a Christian household to Christian parents and I'm a sophmore, so I can relate.
Listen, take this from someone who has been there. He can mean that he can't wait to see you and hug you again because of his feelings for you. Before you do anything you regret, make sure he knows how you feel.
I advice you to talk to him about the boundaries of your relationship, such as no sexual contact before marraige (sp?), when and where it is safe to meet, rules, etc. Trust me, I did NOT do this in my previous relationship and things turned out HORRIBLE. Plus, you are young and if this is not the guy God wants for you, you will know very soon. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If he seems too ';grabby'; make sure you set him straight. Love means respect and pacience. If not, it is just lust, like in Romeo and Juliet. (and look how that turned out!)
Anyways, you two should have ';the talk'; before something is done that ruins your relationship with him. Trust me, some things ARE unrepairable, relationships being one of them. If you want to talk more in depth, just message me through my profile and we can e-mail each other.
Hope I was of help!!!! Have a blessed day and God Bless!!!!
theres nothing wrong with a hug .. if he wants more hes playing u ...
You are young, I think you need to be wise even though it will be hard for you to hold back it might be wiser too.
Ask God for guidance.
Sounds like deep down you don't think it's a good idea to get physical. So don't! If this guy is God's best for you then you're in no danger of losing him. If he's not, then you don't want him anyway trust me. I made a lot of mistakes before I finally let God be matchmaker in my life. I couldn't ask for a better husband than the one he gave me. :)
You guys are so young, what's the rush? Feelings are just that, honey, feelings! He didnt give you a ring and you guys arent making wedding plans! LOL! You will have many feelings for many people before you even get out of your freshman year! Is he a believer also? Don't get carried away if he doesn't believe what you do. Not that you should get carried away if he says he does either! Just let him know that what he said goes against what you believe and since you just met, its a little too fast for you. And tell God all about it! He loves to hear from you and all about your day! He will give you what to say to the young man and any young man you will undoubtedly meet.
your only 13 thats the answer.
Boys will be boys.
Be flattered, but keep him out of your pants.
Well, I am 14, and also a freshman. I know how you feel. I came close to having a relationship too. I haven't had a first kiss, and I also believe that true love waits.
What your guy said can be interpreted many ways. He may mean to hug you, or just to see you again. If he loves you, I don't think he'll mind if you ask him what he means. I doubt he means bad, since you DID meet him at a church family camp. But you are a woman of Christ. Pray, and do what you KNOW is right.
I'm praying for you.
Ask him specifically what he means by that phrase. It could be something completely innocent that you are misconstruing because you want to wait, which there is absolutely nothing wrong with. Talk to him about your feelings on that particular subject and explain to him why you feel that way. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way! I hope everything works out for you.
It probably means that he'd like to hug you, to hold you in his arms and feel you close to him. I think its an awfully sweet thing to say. :)
Just take things slowly. Don't feel pressured to kiss him until you are ready, if you decide that this is the guy you'd like to experience your first kiss with. And kisses don't have to lead to other things. Sharing a kiss or two can be just fine.
This will only advance as far as you want it to. Do what is only comfortable for you.
It,s O.K. to talk to boy,s at your age,just don,t let one
lie to you to have his way,wait till you find the right one
you will not regret it,God will help you,just keep your eye,s on
Jesus.
Praise God, Sister!
I encourage you to continue to stay humble before God and seeking the Lord for his way. Please meditate and seek God for revelation regarding this scripture: Proverbs 3:5,6. I bless God for you and your desire to stay pure before God.
1. Read the book of Esther
2. Read Ephesian 5
Then please write back.
Be prayerful, God is going to reveal something to you.
P.S im a freshman and he is a sophmoreWomen of Christ i need some advice!?
13 yr old freshman? kudos.
My advice would be to not get involved with any boys right now. Focus on school.Women of Christ i need some advice!?
I know how you feel... I met a boy just like that.. It was an awesome feeling. but thats all it was a feeling. and as a young woman of God, I think you should keep yourself pure. wait for the right time. I know you don't want to but when God shows you who he wants your first kiss to be and who he wants to be holding you, You won't just FEEL amazing, it will be amazing, God has plan for your life, and there is temptation, right now your 13 and satin is tryin to get you now because your so young, so watch out, he can be tricky just make sure you pray, pray and pray some more! NEVER stop
and rememeber... The right thing at the wrong time is still wrong..
Well, I was born into a Christian household to Christian parents and I'm a sophmore, so I can relate.
Listen, take this from someone who has been there. He can mean that he can't wait to see you and hug you again because of his feelings for you. Before you do anything you regret, make sure he knows how you feel.
I advice you to talk to him about the boundaries of your relationship, such as no sexual contact before marraige (sp?), when and where it is safe to meet, rules, etc. Trust me, I did NOT do this in my previous relationship and things turned out HORRIBLE. Plus, you are young and if this is not the guy God wants for you, you will know very soon. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If he seems too ';grabby'; make sure you set him straight. Love means respect and pacience. If not, it is just lust, like in Romeo and Juliet. (and look how that turned out!)
Anyways, you two should have ';the talk'; before something is done that ruins your relationship with him. Trust me, some things ARE unrepairable, relationships being one of them. If you want to talk more in depth, just message me through my profile and we can e-mail each other.
Hope I was of help!!!! Have a blessed day and God Bless!!!!
theres nothing wrong with a hug .. if he wants more hes playing u ...
You are young, I think you need to be wise even though it will be hard for you to hold back it might be wiser too.
Ask God for guidance.
Sounds like deep down you don't think it's a good idea to get physical. So don't! If this guy is God's best for you then you're in no danger of losing him. If he's not, then you don't want him anyway trust me. I made a lot of mistakes before I finally let God be matchmaker in my life. I couldn't ask for a better husband than the one he gave me. :)
You guys are so young, what's the rush? Feelings are just that, honey, feelings! He didnt give you a ring and you guys arent making wedding plans! LOL! You will have many feelings for many people before you even get out of your freshman year! Is he a believer also? Don't get carried away if he doesn't believe what you do. Not that you should get carried away if he says he does either! Just let him know that what he said goes against what you believe and since you just met, its a little too fast for you. And tell God all about it! He loves to hear from you and all about your day! He will give you what to say to the young man and any young man you will undoubtedly meet.
your only 13 thats the answer.
Boys will be boys.
Be flattered, but keep him out of your pants.
Well, I am 14, and also a freshman. I know how you feel. I came close to having a relationship too. I haven't had a first kiss, and I also believe that true love waits.
What your guy said can be interpreted many ways. He may mean to hug you, or just to see you again. If he loves you, I don't think he'll mind if you ask him what he means. I doubt he means bad, since you DID meet him at a church family camp. But you are a woman of Christ. Pray, and do what you KNOW is right.
I'm praying for you.
Ask him specifically what he means by that phrase. It could be something completely innocent that you are misconstruing because you want to wait, which there is absolutely nothing wrong with. Talk to him about your feelings on that particular subject and explain to him why you feel that way. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way! I hope everything works out for you.
It probably means that he'd like to hug you, to hold you in his arms and feel you close to him. I think its an awfully sweet thing to say. :)
Just take things slowly. Don't feel pressured to kiss him until you are ready, if you decide that this is the guy you'd like to experience your first kiss with. And kisses don't have to lead to other things. Sharing a kiss or two can be just fine.
This will only advance as far as you want it to. Do what is only comfortable for you.
It,s O.K. to talk to boy,s at your age,just don,t let one
lie to you to have his way,wait till you find the right one
you will not regret it,God will help you,just keep your eye,s on
Jesus.
Praise God, Sister!
I encourage you to continue to stay humble before God and seeking the Lord for his way. Please meditate and seek God for revelation regarding this scripture: Proverbs 3:5,6. I bless God for you and your desire to stay pure before God.
1. Read the book of Esther
2. Read Ephesian 5
Then please write back.
Be prayerful, God is going to reveal something to you.
I just entered a shelter for single women in jamaica,queens i need advice ok?
hey i just entered a shelter for single women in queens and i feel so uncomortable.
it is 50 women in one big room that looks like a basketball court very large room.
evryone has to change in front of each other and the whole bit.
i am very shy woman and i am a person who dont evenlet my mom see me naked or in underwear.
the shelter is my only option i have no where else to go.
now the question is what would u do if it was you?I just entered a shelter for single women in jamaica,queens i need advice ok?
how do u have a computer?I just entered a shelter for single women in jamaica,queens i need advice ok?
deal with the uncomfortableness, this is what you have to do for a short while until you get on your feet, and these people will help you to do just that. At this point in time, you need to get the help you so desperately need and this is a safe place to be, the streets are not for you
How about a live in job, till you get on your feet. A nanny or housekeeper, somewhere that you can have a room, make some money and start over? Good luck and God bless, hope all will go well with you. Meanwhile, do like the hippies days, wrap a blanket or sheet around you as you dress.
sell your computer and go stay in a hotel.
You be thankful Dear, You Have a Place to Stay. If it were Me, I'd Make the Best Of It. You Have to, for now. Something will change, you'll see. I'm sure they Have someone there You can Kinda Become friends with, and then You will be more Comfortable. Also, Do Your Part in Keeping the Place Clean, and other Chores. Time will pass faster, and they will notice you are a Good Worker. Become a Leader, and help Others........ You will be rewarded, Trust me. (smile)
you are in a shelter with access to Yahoo answers?
if you feel arkward about changing in front of people, take your clothes to the bathroom.
Try to establish a relationship with one or two women.. i'm sure you have tons in common both being in the situations youre in.
Get yourself a good paying job, SAVE SAVE SAVE %26amp; hopefully before you know it you'll be independent once again!
it is 50 women in one big room that looks like a basketball court very large room.
evryone has to change in front of each other and the whole bit.
i am very shy woman and i am a person who dont evenlet my mom see me naked or in underwear.
the shelter is my only option i have no where else to go.
now the question is what would u do if it was you?I just entered a shelter for single women in jamaica,queens i need advice ok?
how do u have a computer?I just entered a shelter for single women in jamaica,queens i need advice ok?
deal with the uncomfortableness, this is what you have to do for a short while until you get on your feet, and these people will help you to do just that. At this point in time, you need to get the help you so desperately need and this is a safe place to be, the streets are not for you
How about a live in job, till you get on your feet. A nanny or housekeeper, somewhere that you can have a room, make some money and start over? Good luck and God bless, hope all will go well with you. Meanwhile, do like the hippies days, wrap a blanket or sheet around you as you dress.
sell your computer and go stay in a hotel.
You be thankful Dear, You Have a Place to Stay. If it were Me, I'd Make the Best Of It. You Have to, for now. Something will change, you'll see. I'm sure they Have someone there You can Kinda Become friends with, and then You will be more Comfortable. Also, Do Your Part in Keeping the Place Clean, and other Chores. Time will pass faster, and they will notice you are a Good Worker. Become a Leader, and help Others........ You will be rewarded, Trust me. (smile)
you are in a shelter with access to Yahoo answers?
if you feel arkward about changing in front of people, take your clothes to the bathroom.
Try to establish a relationship with one or two women.. i'm sure you have tons in common both being in the situations youre in.
Get yourself a good paying job, SAVE SAVE SAVE %26amp; hopefully before you know it you'll be independent once again!
GUYS I WANT YOUR ADVICE!My fiance flirts with other women too much . Should i ignore him back?
I did that since I'm about to gtet married and I realized I flirted a lot. But i didn't stop. My fiance was with me one day and she smacked me in the face and left the resteraunt without me, I had no ride home and my phone was in my car she took. I had to walk home in the rain. She ignored my for 3 weeks I was so scared she was gonna leave me. I barely ever talk to girls nowGUYS I WANT YOUR ADVICE!My fiance flirts with other women too much . Should i ignore him back?
Definitely do not marry him. If this bothers you now, you'll be signing up for a lifetime of misery. Especially if he just blows off the fact that it hurts you and says ';It's JUST the way I am';. What bull. Ditch him and let him go play with the other kids in the sandbox. Find yourself a real man.GUYS I WANT YOUR ADVICE!My fiance flirts with other women too much . Should i ignore him back?
if his flirting with other women and you don't like it which i assume you don't not really anyone does. then i would talk to him about it. before you get married and something really bad happens
Communicate your feelings to him. Why is this so hard for people. If he still does it tell him you want a break. Because it seems like it's a big deal and if he can't stop maybe you need to dump him.
I wouldn't like it. I would talk it out with the person once. And if it still continues, I'd move on. No point in hanging around with someone who doesn't respect you and your feelings.
yes you should. what good for the goose is good for the gander to. meaning do to him what he does to you and i bet he would feel the same
if he blatantly flirts, that is rude and you shouldn't have to deal with it.
Definitely do not marry him. If this bothers you now, you'll be signing up for a lifetime of misery. Especially if he just blows off the fact that it hurts you and says ';It's JUST the way I am';. What bull. Ditch him and let him go play with the other kids in the sandbox. Find yourself a real man.GUYS I WANT YOUR ADVICE!My fiance flirts with other women too much . Should i ignore him back?
if his flirting with other women and you don't like it which i assume you don't not really anyone does. then i would talk to him about it. before you get married and something really bad happens
Communicate your feelings to him. Why is this so hard for people. If he still does it tell him you want a break. Because it seems like it's a big deal and if he can't stop maybe you need to dump him.
I wouldn't like it. I would talk it out with the person once. And if it still continues, I'd move on. No point in hanging around with someone who doesn't respect you and your feelings.
yes you should. what good for the goose is good for the gander to. meaning do to him what he does to you and i bet he would feel the same
if he blatantly flirts, that is rude and you shouldn't have to deal with it.
I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
I've always been against all forms of real discrimination. I actually base my life on being against it in everything I do. But over the past few years, I've been feeling like I'm becomging more and more racist against specifically white american women.
It's specifically because, based on attitudes I've seen on here, at my job, in college, at the mall, and reflected on TV, I see this princess entitlement mentality that I never really noticed before. I've ignored it as me feeling maybe I'm just being paraniod but then I keep seing more and more examples of it. Maybe I'm just noticing it because thats what I want to see, and ignoring all of the good ones out there. Or maybe not.
I've hung out with a lot of girls from other ethnicities, specifically foreign girls who have become Amercan, or are American but who's parents are from other countries. Yeah, some of them can have princess mentality too, but many of them usually end up being so down to Earth. Maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe it's just me and I just don't agree with America's mentality when it comes to women.
When American women here guys say this, they usually say things like, '; Oh you just like foreign girls because your afraid of strong independant women, and you want a female slave';. Isn't that racist? Thats the kind of attitude I'm talking about. And the foreign girls I'm talking about are actually strong and independant.
The sweetest thing I've ever seen a white female do, were these two 12 year old girls who were blind. My wife was baby sitting them, and we all went out to eat. They absolutely loved conversating about everything, they gave me all their attention. They were open, kind, attentive, considerate, etc. Not sure if it was because they were blind, or if it was their upbriging but they were so pleasant. The complete opposite of what I see from girls at the mall and other places.
But I want to learn not to become racist because of what I've seen.
Thoughts?I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
What race are you? You say you have a wife, what race is she? I'm confused how you are married yet still measuring up white women as if you're in the market for one. Can you clarify exactly what your problem is?
Thumbing me down is not an answer, it's an evasion. I'm waiting. You may have TDed me but everyone else can still see my questions and see how you're avoiding answering them.
Add:
I think maybe you're seeing it because you're looking for it. Just like racist white people look for the worst behavior in minorities and completely overlook those who are not acting stereotypically. Also, younger women (as well as men) tend to be more self-absorbed and opinionated. Mellowing comes with maturity and experience. Not all, of course, but a good number.
Keep fighting the urge to judge an entire race of women because you know very well that an entire group like that is never all the same. As a black man you know the unfairness of stereotypes.
(I apologize for accusing you of thumbing me down)I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
i disagree with just about everything america does.... i hate what most of the american people think.... but my reasons aren't racist.... and i dont usually generalize all americans by the vast majority of them...
just know in your mind that there are decent american women out there... more than you think..... just dont generalize..
Please dont do that.Your just setting yourself back.What if everyone felt this way towards each other??Dont let ignorance cloud your better judgement.
P.S Im not caucasian
Don't worry about whether or not you fit the ';racist'; label. Just worry about truth.
You gotta be kidding. How many white American women have u met in your life? 2? 3, maybe? Where do people come up with crap like this?
there are some women in any race who act like that.
';You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up.';
OMG, where could he have gotten THAT idea? LOL
If you look hard enough for something, chances are you'll see it everywhere even if it's not really there. It can even become an obsession. I'm not so sure you're not already there. Not saying that to be hurtful but it seems that you're pretty fixated on it. It's like a bad habit that's run away with you like an out of control horse running away with its rider.
Try focusing on other things than skin color because it's the least important thing in the world anyway. Get some help if that's what it takes to break this thing because if you let it keep growing inside of you it could lead to depression or anger or other problems.
Besides, it's not a healthy thing to be stereotyping people this way and that includes stereotyping the foreign women too. Would you want it done to you?
If you trained yourself into this bad habit, you can train yourself out of it too with some work on your part and some help if needed.
You'll be a lot happier if you do.
You just have to accept that what you see isn't really how it is.
Your exact same arguement could be made from the perspective of any race against any other race. ie: ';White boys just want white girls so that they can make them into house wives. What they really need is a ___ (insert ethnicity or race) girl who can show them what a real woman is like.';
It sounds like you're just naturally prone to negativity. There are stereotypes about every race out there. I would argue that it's not a ';white'; girl thing but an ';american'; or even a ';western'; girl thing to act like a princess. I've seen women of every dang color out there act like that.
I guess what I'm saying is, you must realize you have no point. your argument is biased and invalid. If you see a girl acting like a princess, go ahead and dislike all you want. Your ability to translate these examples of girls you don't like into stereotyping an entire race or culture, you are no better than a bunch of americans sitting around who don't trust muslims because they think they are terorrists.
just remind yourself of the nonsense that you are creating out of nothing with these notions.
Does it tell you something when the only white American women you got on with were 2 blind 12 year olds? Perhaps it it is *you* and not *everyone else*.
I didn't say ';men';, I said YOU.
You are racist. You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up. And the only example you can give of white females that you liked are a couple of 12 year old blind girls. Was it because they were blind that they were so 'non-judgmental'?Just get over yourself. The color of a person's skin does not determine personality, caring, kindness, or any other kind of traits.
women? thar all the sammme!
It's specifically because, based on attitudes I've seen on here, at my job, in college, at the mall, and reflected on TV, I see this princess entitlement mentality that I never really noticed before. I've ignored it as me feeling maybe I'm just being paraniod but then I keep seing more and more examples of it. Maybe I'm just noticing it because thats what I want to see, and ignoring all of the good ones out there. Or maybe not.
I've hung out with a lot of girls from other ethnicities, specifically foreign girls who have become Amercan, or are American but who's parents are from other countries. Yeah, some of them can have princess mentality too, but many of them usually end up being so down to Earth. Maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe it's just me and I just don't agree with America's mentality when it comes to women.
When American women here guys say this, they usually say things like, '; Oh you just like foreign girls because your afraid of strong independant women, and you want a female slave';. Isn't that racist? Thats the kind of attitude I'm talking about. And the foreign girls I'm talking about are actually strong and independant.
The sweetest thing I've ever seen a white female do, were these two 12 year old girls who were blind. My wife was baby sitting them, and we all went out to eat. They absolutely loved conversating about everything, they gave me all their attention. They were open, kind, attentive, considerate, etc. Not sure if it was because they were blind, or if it was their upbriging but they were so pleasant. The complete opposite of what I see from girls at the mall and other places.
But I want to learn not to become racist because of what I've seen.
Thoughts?I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
What race are you? You say you have a wife, what race is she? I'm confused how you are married yet still measuring up white women as if you're in the market for one. Can you clarify exactly what your problem is?
Thumbing me down is not an answer, it's an evasion. I'm waiting. You may have TDed me but everyone else can still see my questions and see how you're avoiding answering them.
Add:
I think maybe you're seeing it because you're looking for it. Just like racist white people look for the worst behavior in minorities and completely overlook those who are not acting stereotypically. Also, younger women (as well as men) tend to be more self-absorbed and opinionated. Mellowing comes with maturity and experience. Not all, of course, but a good number.
Keep fighting the urge to judge an entire race of women because you know very well that an entire group like that is never all the same. As a black man you know the unfairness of stereotypes.
(I apologize for accusing you of thumbing me down)I feel like I'm starting to become racist against white american women, and I need your advice?
i disagree with just about everything america does.... i hate what most of the american people think.... but my reasons aren't racist.... and i dont usually generalize all americans by the vast majority of them...
just know in your mind that there are decent american women out there... more than you think..... just dont generalize..
Please dont do that.Your just setting yourself back.What if everyone felt this way towards each other??Dont let ignorance cloud your better judgement.
P.S Im not caucasian
Don't worry about whether or not you fit the ';racist'; label. Just worry about truth.
You gotta be kidding. How many white American women have u met in your life? 2? 3, maybe? Where do people come up with crap like this?
there are some women in any race who act like that.
';You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up.';
OMG, where could he have gotten THAT idea? LOL
If you look hard enough for something, chances are you'll see it everywhere even if it's not really there. It can even become an obsession. I'm not so sure you're not already there. Not saying that to be hurtful but it seems that you're pretty fixated on it. It's like a bad habit that's run away with you like an out of control horse running away with its rider.
Try focusing on other things than skin color because it's the least important thing in the world anyway. Get some help if that's what it takes to break this thing because if you let it keep growing inside of you it could lead to depression or anger or other problems.
Besides, it's not a healthy thing to be stereotyping people this way and that includes stereotyping the foreign women too. Would you want it done to you?
If you trained yourself into this bad habit, you can train yourself out of it too with some work on your part and some help if needed.
You'll be a lot happier if you do.
You just have to accept that what you see isn't really how it is.
Your exact same arguement could be made from the perspective of any race against any other race. ie: ';White boys just want white girls so that they can make them into house wives. What they really need is a ___ (insert ethnicity or race) girl who can show them what a real woman is like.';
It sounds like you're just naturally prone to negativity. There are stereotypes about every race out there. I would argue that it's not a ';white'; girl thing but an ';american'; or even a ';western'; girl thing to act like a princess. I've seen women of every dang color out there act like that.
I guess what I'm saying is, you must realize you have no point. your argument is biased and invalid. If you see a girl acting like a princess, go ahead and dislike all you want. Your ability to translate these examples of girls you don't like into stereotyping an entire race or culture, you are no better than a bunch of americans sitting around who don't trust muslims because they think they are terorrists.
just remind yourself of the nonsense that you are creating out of nothing with these notions.
Does it tell you something when the only white American women you got on with were 2 blind 12 year olds? Perhaps it it is *you* and not *everyone else*.
I didn't say ';men';, I said YOU.
You are racist. You have ideas from somewhere that white American women are stuck up. And the only example you can give of white females that you liked are a couple of 12 year old blind girls. Was it because they were blind that they were so 'non-judgmental'?Just get over yourself. The color of a person's skin does not determine personality, caring, kindness, or any other kind of traits.
women? thar all the sammme!
Help/advice from married/live in women?
im 46 and my girlfriend is 52. my job takes me away for 3 weeks at a time and she works in an office mon-fri. we have no kids at home and talk several times a day on the phone. heres the problem. when i com home i want sex the first night(not as soon as i walk in the door) and this seems to piss her off. i have tried bringing flowers, cards, going out to dinner, etc...then in the bedroom i try long soft kisses, gentle touching, giving her oral till she cums, back rubs, fondling, extented forplay and then after all this then we have intercourse and then lay in each others arms. then to compromise the next couple of nights we cuddle and watch tv cuz if i try and have sex with her every night im home she gets mad, then on my last day in (usually 3-4) i want sex 1 more time before i leave. i thought i was doing what she wanted but she a couple of days later said she just has sex with me the first night cux thats what i require. what do i doHelp/advice from married/live in women?
One thing you need to know, When some women reach a certain age They just don't want it as much or certain meds. works the same way on women that it does on men. They also may have some issues to. Take some time to ask her, you may get your answer your self. Good Luck, BeckyHelp/advice from married/live in women?
i really don't know why she would be upset. it's not unreasonable to think that you would want to have sex with her the first day you get back and the last day before you leave and as much as possible in between. you are going to be gone for 3 weeks which is a long time to go without. have you tried asking her why she feels the way she does?
Have you asked her what the problem could be? Is her job stressful? Is she on any medication? There are alot of reasons why a woman is not hot to trot all the time. Fatigue or lack of vitamins could be the cause. A stressful job could also be the reason. Hormonal? how far is she from menopause? How long have you been together? I would begin by making sure that physically, she is OK. Mentally stable, and comfortable in the relationship. Love has nothing to do with sex, for a woman. It has very much to do with the stability and trust in the relationship. I love my husband dearly, but sometimes, I am so tired, I have a job, a home, a teenager and alot of things on my mind. I am a decade younger than your girlfriend, and I am already tired.
Try to compromise and let her know what your needs are. If she doesn't really wanna do it, then you can either accept that and love her anyway or be thankful she cares enough about you to want to please you even though she might not be in the mood for it all the time.
very difficult
If what you're saying is true, find some who loves and appreciates you. Obviously, she does not..Most women (in love) would be screwing your brains out after three weeks apart. Just a bit of advice from a female someone who knows.
for her it sound like a way to get her rocks off she don't care about you. convience is always nice to have
oPEN A BED AND BREKFAST.
Is she going through menopause, sometimes women her age aren't interested in the same way she used to due to hormonal changes. .Although it's not fair to you, it's a fact of life none the less. Ask her what the problem is.Has she met someone else while you
were away? You didn't mention if her attitude towards sex with you has changed or if it's always been this way..
Communication is the best start to understanding where she's coming from.
Good for you in working hard at trying to please her,she's a lucky woman to have such an understanding man.
Sounds like the two of you need more COMMUNICATION. She has these preconceived notions of what you need and you have your preconceived notions of what she likes. You both need to talk to each other as to why you aren't so close that when you get home, she doesn't want to jump into your arms and into your pants. Then again, with the hours you keep, it's really hard to keep fanning a flame alive. Good luck.
she's menopausal !
Get a new one.
try being a little more spontaneous, it sounds so planned out.
why don麓t you ask her to read what you wrote? there could be a communication problem betwen you two. ask her when is the best time for her, or at least try to discuss your needs with her.
good luck, be patient
Dump her and come on over
Too bad there arent more guys like you !
She probably has a boyfriend, pal, and is getting plenty of sex while you are gone. The relationship is not going well.....you are not meeting each others needs. Perhaps it time to move on.
Do you understand women at all?
We need to know you before sex. That means everyday. In other words when you come home she has to acclimate to you before her desire happens.
Try to be more understanding of her brain. The flowers are just to get her in the sack and deep down she knows it.
show her this post (joking) try not asking her for sex. bring her the flowers the card. then sit and have a nice chat. don't give her any oral a kiss on the cheek is fine. then she may see what she is missing and want to give it to you as you walk through the door. she sounds a bit selfish maybe she has issues with you going away. talk to her. if it doesn't work do the above. she will be begging for some.
I do not know how long you have been married but I do know that when a person has been around a person for a number of years that they learn that persons habits, dislikes, and likes. Did she have a problem with you traveling when you first got together? If she didn't than why should it be any different than before. I know women can go through menopause or sometimes not even enjoy sex anymore. If that is not the case than she is having sex with someone else. I know if my husband is gone 3 weeks at a time, I would be ready to rip his clothes off when he steps in the door. Let me ask you this. Do the things that you used to do to make her happy make her unhappy now? If so, than she's got someone else.
She may be cheating on u.Good luck.A job where u could be home with her would help.
Go without.......just do it. I know you will suffer but really, it will make her suffer. Goof around with her, play, but then stop.....just pretend like you don't want it for a while.eye makeup
One thing you need to know, When some women reach a certain age They just don't want it as much or certain meds. works the same way on women that it does on men. They also may have some issues to. Take some time to ask her, you may get your answer your self. Good Luck, BeckyHelp/advice from married/live in women?
i really don't know why she would be upset. it's not unreasonable to think that you would want to have sex with her the first day you get back and the last day before you leave and as much as possible in between. you are going to be gone for 3 weeks which is a long time to go without. have you tried asking her why she feels the way she does?
Have you asked her what the problem could be? Is her job stressful? Is she on any medication? There are alot of reasons why a woman is not hot to trot all the time. Fatigue or lack of vitamins could be the cause. A stressful job could also be the reason. Hormonal? how far is she from menopause? How long have you been together? I would begin by making sure that physically, she is OK. Mentally stable, and comfortable in the relationship. Love has nothing to do with sex, for a woman. It has very much to do with the stability and trust in the relationship. I love my husband dearly, but sometimes, I am so tired, I have a job, a home, a teenager and alot of things on my mind. I am a decade younger than your girlfriend, and I am already tired.
Try to compromise and let her know what your needs are. If she doesn't really wanna do it, then you can either accept that and love her anyway or be thankful she cares enough about you to want to please you even though she might not be in the mood for it all the time.
very difficult
If what you're saying is true, find some who loves and appreciates you. Obviously, she does not..Most women (in love) would be screwing your brains out after three weeks apart. Just a bit of advice from a female someone who knows.
for her it sound like a way to get her rocks off she don't care about you. convience is always nice to have
oPEN A BED AND BREKFAST.
Is she going through menopause, sometimes women her age aren't interested in the same way she used to due to hormonal changes. .Although it's not fair to you, it's a fact of life none the less. Ask her what the problem is.Has she met someone else while you
were away? You didn't mention if her attitude towards sex with you has changed or if it's always been this way..
Communication is the best start to understanding where she's coming from.
Good for you in working hard at trying to please her,she's a lucky woman to have such an understanding man.
Sounds like the two of you need more COMMUNICATION. She has these preconceived notions of what you need and you have your preconceived notions of what she likes. You both need to talk to each other as to why you aren't so close that when you get home, she doesn't want to jump into your arms and into your pants. Then again, with the hours you keep, it's really hard to keep fanning a flame alive. Good luck.
she's menopausal !
Get a new one.
try being a little more spontaneous, it sounds so planned out.
why don麓t you ask her to read what you wrote? there could be a communication problem betwen you two. ask her when is the best time for her, or at least try to discuss your needs with her.
good luck, be patient
Dump her and come on over
Too bad there arent more guys like you !
She probably has a boyfriend, pal, and is getting plenty of sex while you are gone. The relationship is not going well.....you are not meeting each others needs. Perhaps it time to move on.
Do you understand women at all?
We need to know you before sex. That means everyday. In other words when you come home she has to acclimate to you before her desire happens.
Try to be more understanding of her brain. The flowers are just to get her in the sack and deep down she knows it.
show her this post (joking) try not asking her for sex. bring her the flowers the card. then sit and have a nice chat. don't give her any oral a kiss on the cheek is fine. then she may see what she is missing and want to give it to you as you walk through the door. she sounds a bit selfish maybe she has issues with you going away. talk to her. if it doesn't work do the above. she will be begging for some.
I do not know how long you have been married but I do know that when a person has been around a person for a number of years that they learn that persons habits, dislikes, and likes. Did she have a problem with you traveling when you first got together? If she didn't than why should it be any different than before. I know women can go through menopause or sometimes not even enjoy sex anymore. If that is not the case than she is having sex with someone else. I know if my husband is gone 3 weeks at a time, I would be ready to rip his clothes off when he steps in the door. Let me ask you this. Do the things that you used to do to make her happy make her unhappy now? If so, than she's got someone else.
She may be cheating on u.Good luck.A job where u could be home with her would help.
Go without.......just do it. I know you will suffer but really, it will make her suffer. Goof around with her, play, but then stop.....just pretend like you don't want it for a while.
Can any women please give me some advice?
I'm considering getting circumcised. I was thinking of surprising my girlfriend because she is overseas and i will be able to heal b4 i see her again. I was just wondering what most women would think of this if their man did it it. Does it make any sexual difference at all? Does it feel any different?Can any women please give me some advice?
i dunno...but i'm trying my best to help...so if a guy really did that for me...i would be so happy cuz i finally get to see my beloved again! i would feel so sorry that he came all this way jux to see me yet i'm happy to see him...but i don't knoe ur girlfirendso i don't knoe wat kind of person she is. aniwaise do wat ur heart said!Can any women please give me some advice?
Maybe. im not sure never happebed to me?
i dunno...but i'm trying my best to help...so if a guy really did that for me...i would be so happy cuz i finally get to see my beloved again! i would feel so sorry that he came all this way jux to see me yet i'm happy to see him...but i don't knoe ur girlfirendso i don't knoe wat kind of person she is. aniwaise do wat ur heart said!Can any women please give me some advice?
Maybe. im not sure never happebed to me?
For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
I have currently started to talk regularly and spend time with this great girl I have had feelings for...since about 2 years ago. I have always felt guilty while dating others because I have always had something for this one. Since I broke up with my ex 3 months ago I have started to keep regular contact with this girl,lets call her Jess.
Anyway, i ahve gotten her little gifts her and there, little plants for her house and some chapstick haha. Nothing to crazy because we are just starting to warm up to each other more and more. I have not had any physical contact with her at all besides hugs and little kisses on the cheek as we part. But I would most certainly like her to be mine...I have never had such strong feelings for someone. Recently I went christmas shopping and I bought her some gloves, tuke and a warm blanket. My question for the ladies is that, would it be too much to by her a piece of Jewelery (a cross,shes christian) even though we are not an item yet, please help :)For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
I think that would be very sweet!! Do it!! You sound very nice! Keep it up! Good Luck!For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
A piece of jewellery would be fine, as long as it is not a ring, nor anything too expensive.
I think if she is Christian, a cross on a chain would be a much appreciated and most welcome gift.
I know you would give her the world, but be careful, though, not to embarrass her with the number of presents you give her for Christmas, as she may only have one small gift for you, and you don't want her to feel overwhelmed and feel bad about that.
Good luck to you. I think it sounds promising for you!
No don't get her jewellery yet in case it freaks her out
You aren't even dating her yet so take it slow
well i think it is pushing 'too much.' but its not a bad idea as long as you are willing to take your feelings a step furthur and ask her if she is interested in a relationship. dont get her a cross but something a bit less obvious. like a nice bracelet or a pretty necklace. but dont spend too much money just in case.
Anyway, i ahve gotten her little gifts her and there, little plants for her house and some chapstick haha. Nothing to crazy because we are just starting to warm up to each other more and more. I have not had any physical contact with her at all besides hugs and little kisses on the cheek as we part. But I would most certainly like her to be mine...I have never had such strong feelings for someone. Recently I went christmas shopping and I bought her some gloves, tuke and a warm blanket. My question for the ladies is that, would it be too much to by her a piece of Jewelery (a cross,shes christian) even though we are not an item yet, please help :)For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
I think that would be very sweet!! Do it!! You sound very nice! Keep it up! Good Luck!For the women out there, I need some honest advice please :)?
A piece of jewellery would be fine, as long as it is not a ring, nor anything too expensive.
I think if she is Christian, a cross on a chain would be a much appreciated and most welcome gift.
I know you would give her the world, but be careful, though, not to embarrass her with the number of presents you give her for Christmas, as she may only have one small gift for you, and you don't want her to feel overwhelmed and feel bad about that.
Good luck to you. I think it sounds promising for you!
No don't get her jewellery yet in case it freaks her out
You aren't even dating her yet so take it slow
well i think it is pushing 'too much.' but its not a bad idea as long as you are willing to take your feelings a step furthur and ask her if she is interested in a relationship. dont get her a cross but something a bit less obvious. like a nice bracelet or a pretty necklace. but dont spend too much money just in case.
For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
I'm a woman and I just feel like I have not really enjoyed sex, only if it's oral, but once I get to the intercourse it either hurts, feels like I have to fart or pee and I don't feel like I'm gonna reach that climax anytime soon. One time I found myself laughing at something on tv in the middle of it. My guy always reaches his climax and I'm just numb to it all. I just end up really exhausted. I don't know what more the guy can really do to help in the middle of it. I am still somewhat a newbie to sex, and I am more comfortable to it now, but I've never had an orgasm with intercourse. What works to get to that point?For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
I feel you, and many women actually have a hard time reaching orgasm with actual intercourse, so you are not alone by any means. Oral sex can get me there faster too, because it feels so damn good, depending on whose doing it of course...I've had weird experiences in that department lol! Are you physically attracted to the guy that your with? Are you well lubricated before intercourse? The fact that you are kind of a newbie, may be the reason why it's a little painful when you are doing it.
Close your eyes, turn the t.v off and try to imagine a celebrity or movie star that you are super attracted to and who makes you super horny and see if it helps. Focus on what your doing and not the t.v or anything else in the room. Men are going to get their's regardless, and that's just a known fact. I took a class once that said orgasms don't happen between your legs, but rather in the mind. In my experience, it is the truth. Happy holidays and love making. ; )
-Knowledge24For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
Wow....I have a friend like this...but I have never been able to understand that personally! Try to experiment with different positions...you will more than likely find one that will position your body to where it is more enjoyable and enable your to climax....and trying new things can definatley make things exciting....oh...and turn off the TV so you have very little else to distract you!
Try being on top. In any other position I myself can not reach orgasm however when I'm on top I have more control as to how to stimulate myself. Also a lot of it is mental. A lot of foreplay, touching, kissing etc. Don't just concentrate on the sex part, there is so much more to it AND to enjoy in the middle of it.
Switch positions, tickle, touch, massage, kisses, dirty talk... all can be done while having sex to heighten your feelings. Do some research for yourself, maybe you're into a certain fetish that will really get you turned on. Maybe you like feathers, lace, leather, spanking, long showers, massages, dirty talk etc etc. There's so much out there that there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy it.
AND piece of advice - turn the tv off before you start! Concentrate on him. Most people feed off of each other while being intimate. The more intense you are, the more intense they are. Even if it's a quickie make it as enjoyable as you can w/o all the distractions.
Good Luck
I was with a woman who had been sexually molested when she was a child and had never been able to have an orgasm with a man. We unfairly refer to that as being frigid. What we tried that worked was that I would kiss her and fondle her while she used a vibrator. When she finished then she would accommodate me. Regardless of how it might sound, it worked out better than anything else we tried.
I can't give you any more advice than from what I have read.
To start with, why are you having sex? If it's because he wants it, then guess what, you may not be in the mood.
How often are you having sex? If it become routine, it looses its specialness.
When are you having sex? Are you just popping into the sack and going at it, or is their any courtship involved?
My advice is to cool things off for a couple of weeks. Explain to your partner than you are not achieving the satisfaction you envisioned. Given your ';hurts'; and ';pee'; comments, it sounds like there is not proper build up to the moment.
By taking time off, you can work on your communication skills. By doing those ';romantic'; everyday things and courting you, you start feeling the need to be intimate with him.
I once read that a man should court his beloved all the time. This way, you feel loved and appreciated and then when the mood takes you, then he will be in for a wonderful experience.
If he does not court you, then you become just an object for his personal satisfaction.
I have heard that orgasm with intercourse is RARE for women. most have orgasm through fingering or oral
You need to take control! Move how you want! I never got off with my guy moving how he wants... I had to take control... being either on top and doing all my moves or just be aggressive on the bottom! Try different positions.
Ok so i used to be the same way.The only way i would orgas*m was through fingering and oral, etc. It is very RARE for a women to orgas*m during intercourse in the first place. My guy was never able to plz me, so i had to take charge and get on top, it feels sooo much better, but i used to be scared to do so, so i had to work up confidence. But in the meantime play with ur nipples/cl*t, its a turn on for u and him, and makes u orgas*m and makes him wanna plz u even more. I promise this will work.=)
Maybe he should work on you and THEN you guys can have sex.
Play with your nipples and clit*ris, it might help a lot.
Also, sex is mostly about psyhology, don't think if you're going to c*m, just enjoy the moment, pay attention on your man's pleasure (seeing him excited will make you excited).
Best luck!
I've never had an orgasm during intercourse either. So I make sure Im happy before I pass out. If the guy can't do it well someones got to.
Here's an informative article: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
You need to person to love by heart, not just on the bed. He make you horny.
I feel you, and many women actually have a hard time reaching orgasm with actual intercourse, so you are not alone by any means. Oral sex can get me there faster too, because it feels so damn good, depending on whose doing it of course...I've had weird experiences in that department lol! Are you physically attracted to the guy that your with? Are you well lubricated before intercourse? The fact that you are kind of a newbie, may be the reason why it's a little painful when you are doing it.
Close your eyes, turn the t.v off and try to imagine a celebrity or movie star that you are super attracted to and who makes you super horny and see if it helps. Focus on what your doing and not the t.v or anything else in the room. Men are going to get their's regardless, and that's just a known fact. I took a class once that said orgasms don't happen between your legs, but rather in the mind. In my experience, it is the truth. Happy holidays and love making. ; )
-Knowledge24For the women who DO enjoy sex: I need advice?
Wow....I have a friend like this...but I have never been able to understand that personally! Try to experiment with different positions...you will more than likely find one that will position your body to where it is more enjoyable and enable your to climax....and trying new things can definatley make things exciting....oh...and turn off the TV so you have very little else to distract you!
Try being on top. In any other position I myself can not reach orgasm however when I'm on top I have more control as to how to stimulate myself. Also a lot of it is mental. A lot of foreplay, touching, kissing etc. Don't just concentrate on the sex part, there is so much more to it AND to enjoy in the middle of it.
Switch positions, tickle, touch, massage, kisses, dirty talk... all can be done while having sex to heighten your feelings. Do some research for yourself, maybe you're into a certain fetish that will really get you turned on. Maybe you like feathers, lace, leather, spanking, long showers, massages, dirty talk etc etc. There's so much out there that there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy it.
AND piece of advice - turn the tv off before you start! Concentrate on him. Most people feed off of each other while being intimate. The more intense you are, the more intense they are. Even if it's a quickie make it as enjoyable as you can w/o all the distractions.
Good Luck
I was with a woman who had been sexually molested when she was a child and had never been able to have an orgasm with a man. We unfairly refer to that as being frigid. What we tried that worked was that I would kiss her and fondle her while she used a vibrator. When she finished then she would accommodate me. Regardless of how it might sound, it worked out better than anything else we tried.
I can't give you any more advice than from what I have read.
To start with, why are you having sex? If it's because he wants it, then guess what, you may not be in the mood.
How often are you having sex? If it become routine, it looses its specialness.
When are you having sex? Are you just popping into the sack and going at it, or is their any courtship involved?
My advice is to cool things off for a couple of weeks. Explain to your partner than you are not achieving the satisfaction you envisioned. Given your ';hurts'; and ';pee'; comments, it sounds like there is not proper build up to the moment.
By taking time off, you can work on your communication skills. By doing those ';romantic'; everyday things and courting you, you start feeling the need to be intimate with him.
I once read that a man should court his beloved all the time. This way, you feel loved and appreciated and then when the mood takes you, then he will be in for a wonderful experience.
If he does not court you, then you become just an object for his personal satisfaction.
I have heard that orgasm with intercourse is RARE for women. most have orgasm through fingering or oral
You need to take control! Move how you want! I never got off with my guy moving how he wants... I had to take control... being either on top and doing all my moves or just be aggressive on the bottom! Try different positions.
Ok so i used to be the same way.The only way i would orgas*m was through fingering and oral, etc. It is very RARE for a women to orgas*m during intercourse in the first place. My guy was never able to plz me, so i had to take charge and get on top, it feels sooo much better, but i used to be scared to do so, so i had to work up confidence. But in the meantime play with ur nipples/cl*t, its a turn on for u and him, and makes u orgas*m and makes him wanna plz u even more. I promise this will work.=)
Maybe he should work on you and THEN you guys can have sex.
Play with your nipples and clit*ris, it might help a lot.
Also, sex is mostly about psyhology, don't think if you're going to c*m, just enjoy the moment, pay attention on your man's pleasure (seeing him excited will make you excited).
Best luck!
I've never had an orgasm during intercourse either. So I make sure Im happy before I pass out. If the guy can't do it well someones got to.
Here's an informative article: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
You need to person to love by heart, not just on the bed. He make you horny.
Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
I鈥檓 just going to break it down like this:
Every single day for the past month and a half (every single day) my neighbor has come over. He pulls up from work, gets out of his truck and walks straight to my place. He does this even when he鈥檚 worked a long weekend day 鈥?makes it a point to come over to my place and stay for a while to talk. I鈥檓 new to the neighborhood (which I must say is very small). We have started developing a comfortable friendship and I am now definitely developing a crush on him. I鈥檝e known him since I moved in (3 months ago) but we now spend a lot of time together. He鈥檚 41, I鈥檓 28 鈥?we are both single. I have a feeling he might be into me, but I鈥檓 just not so sure? What can I do to confirm his feelings without coming straight out and telling him? I don鈥檛 want to ruin anything we have going on but at the same time, I don鈥檛 want to miss out on something that could be? I don鈥檛 think he knows I鈥檓 interested and I don鈥檛 know what to do to show him that I am.
Would a man spend this much time with a woman if he just wanted to be friends?
Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Invite him over for dinner, say you've cooked too much and knock on his door or something. Then while chatting you could say it's pleasant to have his company for dinner and you should do it again somewhere else (like a restaurant wink wink), take it from there.Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Based on the facts you presented, I think it safe to say he is interested. I find some humor in this whole thing because I feel if you laid all your cards on the table the problem may be solved. I would bet he feels very much the same and is looking for a sign from you. Communication, is the basis to move any further.
This man is on you like a hound dog, and you're worried he might not like you?
Lady, He likes you to the point it worries me. Of course he knows you're interested too. Next time he comes over after work say ';I don't want to cook tonight - say, do you want to go out and grab some dinner?';.
He's 41. You're 28. He's hit the motherlode.
Well it could be that he likes you but he could also be very lonely and want company after a hard days work. You should pay more attention to the things he does when he comes over. How does he look at you? Does he touch you when you guys talk? What is his body language? Those are some sure fire ways to find out if he's interested in you.
You could inquire as to where a good place would be to meet people or just pep yourself up a bit more than usual and see if he notices. As a guy, I would tend to think that he is interested in something a bit more than just friends but I could be wrong.
you are an adult, just ask him to go the movies some night.tell him you appreciate his friendship but maybe you should not spend so much time together as you are starting to have feelings for him, and see how he responds, he may tell you he likes you too.
From a good guy point of view I think most guys are somewhat oblivious when a female likes him but for a older man he should know what he wants. (relationship etc.) Him coming over as much as he is does is alittle more than than neighborly. You should got 4 it!
good luck
juanjohnny
You can't get anymore obvious - he likes you. Why not ask him if he'd like to go out for a coffee or a drink sometime? It's a harmless question that might help you get the answer you're looking for.
If you had to break it down honesty is the best policy, but timing is involved in your question. You will know when you will make that plunge of no return, exiting isn't it.
I'd definitely say he's into you. However, are you comfortable with that age gap? And also, if things go badly once you do go out, it'll be an awkward situation since you guys are neighbors.
I think there is a love connection between you two . Don't grow old , alone . This guy could be mister right . Tell him your true feelings . If he fells the same as you , wonderful . If he doesn't , at least you know you tried .
in a way you can physically say what you are thinking. Yes, it is possible for him to spend this muck time with you and just want to be friends.
maybe he's just geniunely friendly... or maybe he's interested... either way..does it matter? you enjoy him coming over, you enjoy his friendship. why bother asking questions and ruining it. if he wants more, he'll make the move...
cook him a nice meal,get in some wine and ask if he would like to spend a little more time together.
he's obviously interested or he would not be hanging around
maybe he's on yahoo asking the same question
Oh, he's interested. Just start having a sandwich and a cold beer waiting for him when he gets there, he won't stand a chance
I think he's already showing he likes you by coming over every day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ask him out to dinner one night. when the bill comes offer to pay the tab by saying i asked you out on this date so its on me. his reaction to the date word will give you your answer
honest advice: all men want you know what
men are such pigs... that's why i gave up on them years ago.
good luck sistah!
i think oyu have a chance that he might liek you maybe ask him out as friends maybe invite him to bring his friends and oyu bring your or somehting do somehting if oyu like him
ask him to dinner, I'm sure he's interested, just be honest and confident.
Your first question: I would just kiss him, if he completely rejects you at least you'll know.
And your second question: I don't think he would, it seems he likes you.
Invite him over for dinner
you have posted this question 100 times already...
Sounds like the crush is mutual. Invite him to stay for dinner and see how it goes
Next time he comes over confront him about it.
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rub it in that you're looking for a husband in a joking manner, maybe ask him out.
Swallow your pride and ask him.
That's it.
yes my friend spends lots of time with me and he and i are married
this guy is like a pedo but obviously he digs you just ask him out for dinner it doesnt do any harm....
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww he is old! dont do anything
Every single day for the past month and a half (every single day) my neighbor has come over. He pulls up from work, gets out of his truck and walks straight to my place. He does this even when he鈥檚 worked a long weekend day 鈥?makes it a point to come over to my place and stay for a while to talk. I鈥檓 new to the neighborhood (which I must say is very small). We have started developing a comfortable friendship and I am now definitely developing a crush on him. I鈥檝e known him since I moved in (3 months ago) but we now spend a lot of time together. He鈥檚 41, I鈥檓 28 鈥?we are both single. I have a feeling he might be into me, but I鈥檓 just not so sure? What can I do to confirm his feelings without coming straight out and telling him? I don鈥檛 want to ruin anything we have going on but at the same time, I don鈥檛 want to miss out on something that could be? I don鈥檛 think he knows I鈥檓 interested and I don鈥檛 know what to do to show him that I am.
Would a man spend this much time with a woman if he just wanted to be friends?
Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Invite him over for dinner, say you've cooked too much and knock on his door or something. Then while chatting you could say it's pleasant to have his company for dinner and you should do it again somewhere else (like a restaurant wink wink), take it from there.Men/Women... Help a desperate girl, please? Honest advice appreciated!?
Based on the facts you presented, I think it safe to say he is interested. I find some humor in this whole thing because I feel if you laid all your cards on the table the problem may be solved. I would bet he feels very much the same and is looking for a sign from you. Communication, is the basis to move any further.
This man is on you like a hound dog, and you're worried he might not like you?
Lady, He likes you to the point it worries me. Of course he knows you're interested too. Next time he comes over after work say ';I don't want to cook tonight - say, do you want to go out and grab some dinner?';.
He's 41. You're 28. He's hit the motherlode.
Well it could be that he likes you but he could also be very lonely and want company after a hard days work. You should pay more attention to the things he does when he comes over. How does he look at you? Does he touch you when you guys talk? What is his body language? Those are some sure fire ways to find out if he's interested in you.
You could inquire as to where a good place would be to meet people or just pep yourself up a bit more than usual and see if he notices. As a guy, I would tend to think that he is interested in something a bit more than just friends but I could be wrong.
you are an adult, just ask him to go the movies some night.tell him you appreciate his friendship but maybe you should not spend so much time together as you are starting to have feelings for him, and see how he responds, he may tell you he likes you too.
From a good guy point of view I think most guys are somewhat oblivious when a female likes him but for a older man he should know what he wants. (relationship etc.) Him coming over as much as he is does is alittle more than than neighborly. You should got 4 it!
good luck
juanjohnny
You can't get anymore obvious - he likes you. Why not ask him if he'd like to go out for a coffee or a drink sometime? It's a harmless question that might help you get the answer you're looking for.
If you had to break it down honesty is the best policy, but timing is involved in your question. You will know when you will make that plunge of no return, exiting isn't it.
I'd definitely say he's into you. However, are you comfortable with that age gap? And also, if things go badly once you do go out, it'll be an awkward situation since you guys are neighbors.
I think there is a love connection between you two . Don't grow old , alone . This guy could be mister right . Tell him your true feelings . If he fells the same as you , wonderful . If he doesn't , at least you know you tried .
in a way you can physically say what you are thinking. Yes, it is possible for him to spend this muck time with you and just want to be friends.
maybe he's just geniunely friendly... or maybe he's interested... either way..does it matter? you enjoy him coming over, you enjoy his friendship. why bother asking questions and ruining it. if he wants more, he'll make the move...
cook him a nice meal,get in some wine and ask if he would like to spend a little more time together.
he's obviously interested or he would not be hanging around
maybe he's on yahoo asking the same question
Oh, he's interested. Just start having a sandwich and a cold beer waiting for him when he gets there, he won't stand a chance
I think he's already showing he likes you by coming over every day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ask him out to dinner one night. when the bill comes offer to pay the tab by saying i asked you out on this date so its on me. his reaction to the date word will give you your answer
honest advice: all men want you know what
men are such pigs... that's why i gave up on them years ago.
good luck sistah!
i think oyu have a chance that he might liek you maybe ask him out as friends maybe invite him to bring his friends and oyu bring your or somehting do somehting if oyu like him
ask him to dinner, I'm sure he's interested, just be honest and confident.
Your first question: I would just kiss him, if he completely rejects you at least you'll know.
And your second question: I don't think he would, it seems he likes you.
Invite him over for dinner
you have posted this question 100 times already...
Sounds like the crush is mutual. Invite him to stay for dinner and see how it goes
Next time he comes over confront him about it.
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rub it in that you're looking for a husband in a joking manner, maybe ask him out.
Swallow your pride and ask him.
That's it.
yes my friend spends lots of time with me and he and i are married
this guy is like a pedo but obviously he digs you just ask him out for dinner it doesnt do any harm....
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww he is old! dont do anything
Why women should NEVER ask strangers for dating advice?
Have you ever noticed that our cultural programming has conditioned us so that when men ask about relationship advice they get responses like ';giver her some time to think about it.'; ';Don't judge her so quickly';
But 90% of the time, even if a woman's boyfriend has just stared seductively at another woman one time the only advice she ever gets pretty much is ';dump that bum'; ';you're too good for him.'; and so forth.
Which is why it's usually a bad idea for a woman to ask complete strangers for relationship advice. The answer to EVERYTHING is to ditch the guy.Why women should NEVER ask strangers for dating advice?
haha. holy crap. i never realized that until you said it. what a revelation. that blew my mind. yeah, it seems like guys have to put in so much more effort to keep a relationship. im not sexist, but im sure some girl would say i am cuz ';woman have it so hard since they have to look so good and keep their appearance up';. well, once i guy starts dating you you don't have to really worry. and that applys just as much to a guy though, no girl is gonna go for a guy who looks like sh*t. thanks for sharing this manWhy women should NEVER ask strangers for dating advice?
Well, 90% of the time it's women who are giving the advice, so you can expect it to be a little biased.
But sometimes strangers have a better view of the situation than anyone involved.
cultural programming? whatever you said is false and trumped up.
you either dont understand the questions or answers or both or you dont read all of the answers etc.
That's the one thing that bothers me about Y!A - people are so quick to say ';dump him';.
But 90% of the time, even if a woman's boyfriend has just stared seductively at another woman one time the only advice she ever gets pretty much is ';dump that bum'; ';you're too good for him.'; and so forth.
Which is why it's usually a bad idea for a woman to ask complete strangers for relationship advice. The answer to EVERYTHING is to ditch the guy.Why women should NEVER ask strangers for dating advice?
haha. holy crap. i never realized that until you said it. what a revelation. that blew my mind. yeah, it seems like guys have to put in so much more effort to keep a relationship. im not sexist, but im sure some girl would say i am cuz ';woman have it so hard since they have to look so good and keep their appearance up';. well, once i guy starts dating you you don't have to really worry. and that applys just as much to a guy though, no girl is gonna go for a guy who looks like sh*t. thanks for sharing this manWhy women should NEVER ask strangers for dating advice?
Well, 90% of the time it's women who are giving the advice, so you can expect it to be a little biased.
But sometimes strangers have a better view of the situation than anyone involved.
cultural programming? whatever you said is false and trumped up.
you either dont understand the questions or answers or both or you dont read all of the answers etc.
That's the one thing that bothers me about Y!A - people are so quick to say ';dump him';.
I am married but I think about relations with women all the time. I am female...any advice?
Yes I have been with a female before. Society and my family of course would only accept a heterosexual relationship. Does this make me gay or bisexual?I am married but I think about relations with women all the time. I am female...any advice?
I too was in this position for years. I was depressed because I knew that society is cruel to gays. But when I finally realized that I can't change who I am and I came out it was a relief. My family which I just knew would disown me actually was happy for me. I know that not every family is as open as mine however you never know until you try. If all you can think about is being with a woman I would say yes you are gay. And you know what society is actually more open then I thought. I found more people that I had known for years were gay, and before I never knew that. LOL Remember they call us GAY for a reason....';We are so happy!'; I wish you luck in finding yourself, maybe look online for a support group for gays and lesbians. There are many out there if you look.I am married but I think about relations with women all the time. I am female...any advice?
Tell your husband have a talk he may love you for the adventure I know I would.
Only if you are love other girl that makes u to be an bisexual.I think that will help you
You are the only one that can really answer that question.
If you act on it, then it makes you an adultress and bisexual. A lot of women experiment with other women, you are wired different then men, much more apt to try things becuase of your sensualality, this does not make you gay, gay is gay, it just makes you horny. You might be a trysexual= that means you like to try all types of sex acts. Bottom line is that you are involved in unhealthy thoughts, usually this is a sign of a problem inside yourself or in your marriage. People often get married before they are ready or just do not want to be married anymore and look for ways to get out of it. You could be looking for a way out and using this as a way to do it. My only advice is that we must try to do the right thing in all situTIONS, BUT i DO NOT KNOW WHAT THat right thing always is.
Questions like how many women have you been, how long have you been married, did you only marry because society and family would have otherwise not accepted any other relationship outside of heterosexual, would you rather be in a relationship with a woman, Would be some questions you should answer to yourself. You might only be curious or yes bi-sexual. What would your husband's reaction be if you told him you were interested in women? Would he let you explore or would he be appauld?
you are only a lesbian if you desire physical AND emotional relations with women. it may be a phase.
this means you are bisexual....and put your heart wherever it is comfortable with if you're comfortable with women stay with women and get divorce with your husband,but if you're comfotable with your husband,forget about being bisexual and relationships with female!or the same sex as you!
If you find men sexually attractive, you're bisexual. Pretty simple.
Who are we to tell you what you are,, you know your degree of curiosities, your desires, your likes and all,, I am sure that between gay or bisexual that you will fit in there somewhere,, but why,, Why should we all put ourself in a catagory,, I know,, how about the ';Human Being'; catagory,, and after that it really is no one elses business what you do who you do or what you like to do with who, I believe that no matter what we have ALL at some point thought about even as brief as it may have been, have wondered or a brief thought about a same sex situation, some may have thought it and then thought ';what the heck am I thinking'; and dismissed it, while others may have thought enough about it to act on it, I am a male and I acted on it in 1987, and realized I was more open to things even as an adult, that I used to deny and especially deny thinking about to anyone, I am not attracted to guys at all, but the friend I had an encounter with I felt I could trust him and so we discussed it and I told him that I am a crossdresser and he was ok with that and we both agreed that we both were into the idea of experimenting with oral,, now we are still friends even now, but as you mention family and society do not accept or approve things that many of us feel is none of their damn business, So until society realizes that just because a guy likes wearing lingerie at home in private or that Bi-curious or Bi-sexual people are able to enjoy themself and the person they are,, while others have to much time on their hands to ***** about what others do in their own life, I am sure that if you were to ask your husband he would be very open to you having a Bi-encounter, I bet he'll wanna watch
I think about having relations with women too and it pisses my wife off.
If you don't mind being with men too, then you are probably bisexual. You really need to be honest with your husband about this or else it will fester until it explodes.
Bisexual ;)
invite your husband to watch or accompany you.......you may be able to have it both ways
You are gay and you don't need you'r families approval to be a lesbian. If you have been with a female then you are truly a lesbian. Divorce you'r husband and be with your true colors.
You'r family will accept it overtime and here in San Francisco it's pretty easy to be homosexual. You need to be honest with you'r family
Well if your still into your husband, and you still are thinking of women, then your most likely bi. If you only like women and dont like your husband, your probably gay.eye shadow
I too was in this position for years. I was depressed because I knew that society is cruel to gays. But when I finally realized that I can't change who I am and I came out it was a relief. My family which I just knew would disown me actually was happy for me. I know that not every family is as open as mine however you never know until you try. If all you can think about is being with a woman I would say yes you are gay. And you know what society is actually more open then I thought. I found more people that I had known for years were gay, and before I never knew that. LOL Remember they call us GAY for a reason....';We are so happy!'; I wish you luck in finding yourself, maybe look online for a support group for gays and lesbians. There are many out there if you look.I am married but I think about relations with women all the time. I am female...any advice?
Tell your husband have a talk he may love you for the adventure I know I would.
Only if you are love other girl that makes u to be an bisexual.I think that will help you
You are the only one that can really answer that question.
If you act on it, then it makes you an adultress and bisexual. A lot of women experiment with other women, you are wired different then men, much more apt to try things becuase of your sensualality, this does not make you gay, gay is gay, it just makes you horny. You might be a trysexual= that means you like to try all types of sex acts. Bottom line is that you are involved in unhealthy thoughts, usually this is a sign of a problem inside yourself or in your marriage. People often get married before they are ready or just do not want to be married anymore and look for ways to get out of it. You could be looking for a way out and using this as a way to do it. My only advice is that we must try to do the right thing in all situTIONS, BUT i DO NOT KNOW WHAT THat right thing always is.
Questions like how many women have you been, how long have you been married, did you only marry because society and family would have otherwise not accepted any other relationship outside of heterosexual, would you rather be in a relationship with a woman, Would be some questions you should answer to yourself. You might only be curious or yes bi-sexual. What would your husband's reaction be if you told him you were interested in women? Would he let you explore or would he be appauld?
you are only a lesbian if you desire physical AND emotional relations with women. it may be a phase.
this means you are bisexual....and put your heart wherever it is comfortable with if you're comfortable with women stay with women and get divorce with your husband,but if you're comfotable with your husband,forget about being bisexual and relationships with female!or the same sex as you!
If you find men sexually attractive, you're bisexual. Pretty simple.
Who are we to tell you what you are,, you know your degree of curiosities, your desires, your likes and all,, I am sure that between gay or bisexual that you will fit in there somewhere,, but why,, Why should we all put ourself in a catagory,, I know,, how about the ';Human Being'; catagory,, and after that it really is no one elses business what you do who you do or what you like to do with who, I believe that no matter what we have ALL at some point thought about even as brief as it may have been, have wondered or a brief thought about a same sex situation, some may have thought it and then thought ';what the heck am I thinking'; and dismissed it, while others may have thought enough about it to act on it, I am a male and I acted on it in 1987, and realized I was more open to things even as an adult, that I used to deny and especially deny thinking about to anyone, I am not attracted to guys at all, but the friend I had an encounter with I felt I could trust him and so we discussed it and I told him that I am a crossdresser and he was ok with that and we both agreed that we both were into the idea of experimenting with oral,, now we are still friends even now, but as you mention family and society do not accept or approve things that many of us feel is none of their damn business, So until society realizes that just because a guy likes wearing lingerie at home in private or that Bi-curious or Bi-sexual people are able to enjoy themself and the person they are,, while others have to much time on their hands to ***** about what others do in their own life, I am sure that if you were to ask your husband he would be very open to you having a Bi-encounter, I bet he'll wanna watch
I think about having relations with women too and it pisses my wife off.
If you don't mind being with men too, then you are probably bisexual. You really need to be honest with your husband about this or else it will fester until it explodes.
Bisexual ;)
invite your husband to watch or accompany you.......you may be able to have it both ways
You are gay and you don't need you'r families approval to be a lesbian. If you have been with a female then you are truly a lesbian. Divorce you'r husband and be with your true colors.
You'r family will accept it overtime and here in San Francisco it's pretty easy to be homosexual. You need to be honest with you'r family
Well if your still into your husband, and you still are thinking of women, then your most likely bi. If you only like women and dont like your husband, your probably gay.
Attention women in the military..i need hair advice about my hair please.?
so i have thick hair that is layered(no bangs) and a lil less than halfway down my back. the only time my hair is up is in a high, but not on the top of my head, ponytail for basketball, the rest of the time its down. I know the ponytail is against the rules but I dont know whether to cut it off before i go to basic or practice putting it in a neat bun? like i said i never really put it up. what would be best in your opinion? thanks in advance.Attention women in the military..i need hair advice about my hair please.?
i would suggest keeping it long enough to be able to tie back securely. while in training you'll be constantly running and jumping, etc around an don't want to have to worry about your hair in your face. not to mention when you go on a field exercise and won't be showering as often as you'd like its easiest just to tie it back in a bun and let it be.
just practice putting it back in a tight bun. i find its easiest when its wet, and when thats not possible a strong gel will be your best friend.
then when you're done with training wear it however you want as long as its not touching the collar, multicolored or fadish (at least thats the army policy)
oh and for the 'affirmative action guy' above me -- you do realize that men and women are physiologically different right? thats not to say the excuse 'i can't do it because i'm a girl' is right, you should always try as hard as you can. read one of the last annexes in FM 21-20 or any 6th grade health bookAttention women in the military..i need hair advice about my hair please.?
I would say cut it now so you can get used to it. In basic you have little time to prep in the morning. Even the best of buns can fall out during training and pulling your hair back all the time can be damaging to it. Once you get to AIT you will have a little more time if you wish to grow it out.
No need to cut it. I remember that you are allowed i think 5 hair clips. Get some thick bobby pins and and some snaps that match the color of your hair. Practice putting your hair in a pony tail up high and then braiding it. Wrap it around and use your pins. Make it tight. The garrison hat should pretty much cover it up. You may look like a school marm, but at least you will have your hair.
I would say cut your hair. Short hair takes less work in the morning, also doesn't entangle in your kevlar, takes less shampoo %26amp; conditioner. I had mine cut down to half an inch to my skin before BCT and I'm glad I did! I now keep mine short as we go to the field frequently!
I cut mine. I did it so that it would be easier and one less thing to worry about. Especially when they're rushing you. If your hair isn't right they're going to let you know all about it. Plus, it takes less time to shower, which means more sleep! It's all in personal preference.
Honestly i had been wondering the same thing, but I intend to cut my hair short, because during bmt there will not be enough time to put your hair up properly, or to wash your long hair.
girls hairs are her best jewel ...... but you should be careful during training get them tight like martina hingis tennis player .... high pony!
I can only speak for the Navy, but I'd presume the other services have similar regulations.
';2201. PERSONAL APPEARANCE. Because it is impossible to provide examples of every appropriate or unacceptable hairstyle or of “conservative” or “eccentric” grooming and personal appearance, the good judgment of leaders at all levels is key to enforcement of Navy grooming policy. Therefore, hair/grooming/personal appearance while in uniform shall present a neat, professional appearance.
';1. HAIR
';b. Women. Hairstyles shall not be outrageously multicolored or faddish, to include shaved portions of the scalp (other than the neckline), or have designs cut or braided into the hair. Hair coloring must look natural and complement the individual. Haircuts and styles shall present a balanced appearance. Lopsided and extremely asymmetrical styles are not authorized. Ponytails, pigtails, widely spaced individual hanging locks, and braids which protrude from the head, are not authorized. Multiple braids are authorized. Braided hairstyles shall be conservative and conform to the guidelines listed herein. When a hairstyle of multiple braids is worn, braids shall be of uniform dimension, small in diameter (approx. 1/4 inch), and tightly interwoven to present a neat, professional, well groomed appearance. Foreign material (i.e., beads, decorative items) shall not be braided into the hair. Short hair may be braided in symmetrical fore and aft rows (corn rowing) which minimize scalp exposure. Corn row ends shall not protrude from the head, and shall be secured only with inconspicuous rubber bands that match the color of the hair. Appropriateness of a hairstyle shall also be judged by its appearance when headgear is worn. All headgear shall fit snugly and comfortably around the largest part of the head without distortion or excessive gaps. Hair shall not show from under the front of the brim of the combination hat, garrison, or command ball caps. Hairstyles which do not allow headgear to be worn in this manner, or which interfere with the proper wear of protective masks or equipment are prohibited. When in uniform, the hair may touch, but not fall below a horizontal line level with the lower edge of the back of the collar. With jumper uniforms, hair may extend a maximum of 1-1/2 inches below the top of the jumper collar. Long hair, including braids, which fall below the lower edge of the collar shall be neatly and inconspicuously fastened, pinned, or secured to the head. No portion of the bulk of the hair as measured from the scalp will exceed approximately 2 inches. %26lt;Figure 2-2-2%26gt; refers. A maximum of two small barrettes/combs/ clips, similar to hair color, may be used in the hair. Additional bobby pins or rubber bands matching hair color may be used to hold hair in place, if necessary. Fabric elastics and colored rubber bands/pins are not authorized. Hair ornaments shall not present a safety or FOD (Foreign Object Damage) hazard. Hair nets shall not be worn unless authorized for a specific type of duty.';
However, in Navy Boot Camp, hair is cut. There are two main reasons for that. First, hair is something that gives you individuality. One of the main thrusts of Boot Camp is to take away your individuality and to get you to think like one of the group. You're no longer ';Suzie Smith.'; You're ';Recruit Smith, SIR!!!'; The second reason is a health issue. Some people are just slobs.
Why is there still a double standard in the military regarding women? They need to start meeting the same height and weight standards as men and the same PT standards as men and the same haircut standards as men if you want all the same benefits as men in the military. There shouldn't be any affirmative action programs in the military.
i would suggest keeping it long enough to be able to tie back securely. while in training you'll be constantly running and jumping, etc around an don't want to have to worry about your hair in your face. not to mention when you go on a field exercise and won't be showering as often as you'd like its easiest just to tie it back in a bun and let it be.
just practice putting it back in a tight bun. i find its easiest when its wet, and when thats not possible a strong gel will be your best friend.
then when you're done with training wear it however you want as long as its not touching the collar, multicolored or fadish (at least thats the army policy)
oh and for the 'affirmative action guy' above me -- you do realize that men and women are physiologically different right? thats not to say the excuse 'i can't do it because i'm a girl' is right, you should always try as hard as you can. read one of the last annexes in FM 21-20 or any 6th grade health bookAttention women in the military..i need hair advice about my hair please.?
I would say cut it now so you can get used to it. In basic you have little time to prep in the morning. Even the best of buns can fall out during training and pulling your hair back all the time can be damaging to it. Once you get to AIT you will have a little more time if you wish to grow it out.
No need to cut it. I remember that you are allowed i think 5 hair clips. Get some thick bobby pins and and some snaps that match the color of your hair. Practice putting your hair in a pony tail up high and then braiding it. Wrap it around and use your pins. Make it tight. The garrison hat should pretty much cover it up. You may look like a school marm, but at least you will have your hair.
I would say cut your hair. Short hair takes less work in the morning, also doesn't entangle in your kevlar, takes less shampoo %26amp; conditioner. I had mine cut down to half an inch to my skin before BCT and I'm glad I did! I now keep mine short as we go to the field frequently!
I cut mine. I did it so that it would be easier and one less thing to worry about. Especially when they're rushing you. If your hair isn't right they're going to let you know all about it. Plus, it takes less time to shower, which means more sleep! It's all in personal preference.
Honestly i had been wondering the same thing, but I intend to cut my hair short, because during bmt there will not be enough time to put your hair up properly, or to wash your long hair.
girls hairs are her best jewel ...... but you should be careful during training get them tight like martina hingis tennis player .... high pony!
I can only speak for the Navy, but I'd presume the other services have similar regulations.
';2201. PERSONAL APPEARANCE. Because it is impossible to provide examples of every appropriate or unacceptable hairstyle or of “conservative” or “eccentric” grooming and personal appearance, the good judgment of leaders at all levels is key to enforcement of Navy grooming policy. Therefore, hair/grooming/personal appearance while in uniform shall present a neat, professional appearance.
';1. HAIR
';b. Women. Hairstyles shall not be outrageously multicolored or faddish, to include shaved portions of the scalp (other than the neckline), or have designs cut or braided into the hair. Hair coloring must look natural and complement the individual. Haircuts and styles shall present a balanced appearance. Lopsided and extremely asymmetrical styles are not authorized. Ponytails, pigtails, widely spaced individual hanging locks, and braids which protrude from the head, are not authorized. Multiple braids are authorized. Braided hairstyles shall be conservative and conform to the guidelines listed herein. When a hairstyle of multiple braids is worn, braids shall be of uniform dimension, small in diameter (approx. 1/4 inch), and tightly interwoven to present a neat, professional, well groomed appearance. Foreign material (i.e., beads, decorative items) shall not be braided into the hair. Short hair may be braided in symmetrical fore and aft rows (corn rowing) which minimize scalp exposure. Corn row ends shall not protrude from the head, and shall be secured only with inconspicuous rubber bands that match the color of the hair. Appropriateness of a hairstyle shall also be judged by its appearance when headgear is worn. All headgear shall fit snugly and comfortably around the largest part of the head without distortion or excessive gaps. Hair shall not show from under the front of the brim of the combination hat, garrison, or command ball caps. Hairstyles which do not allow headgear to be worn in this manner, or which interfere with the proper wear of protective masks or equipment are prohibited. When in uniform, the hair may touch, but not fall below a horizontal line level with the lower edge of the back of the collar. With jumper uniforms, hair may extend a maximum of 1-1/2 inches below the top of the jumper collar. Long hair, including braids, which fall below the lower edge of the collar shall be neatly and inconspicuously fastened, pinned, or secured to the head. No portion of the bulk of the hair as measured from the scalp will exceed approximately 2 inches. %26lt;Figure 2-2-2%26gt; refers. A maximum of two small barrettes/combs/ clips, similar to hair color, may be used in the hair. Additional bobby pins or rubber bands matching hair color may be used to hold hair in place, if necessary. Fabric elastics and colored rubber bands/pins are not authorized. Hair ornaments shall not present a safety or FOD (Foreign Object Damage) hazard. Hair nets shall not be worn unless authorized for a specific type of duty.';
However, in Navy Boot Camp, hair is cut. There are two main reasons for that. First, hair is something that gives you individuality. One of the main thrusts of Boot Camp is to take away your individuality and to get you to think like one of the group. You're no longer ';Suzie Smith.'; You're ';Recruit Smith, SIR!!!'; The second reason is a health issue. Some people are just slobs.
Why is there still a double standard in the military regarding women? They need to start meeting the same height and weight standards as men and the same PT standards as men and the same haircut standards as men if you want all the same benefits as men in the military. There shouldn't be any affirmative action programs in the military.
Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
A quick summary about me. I am a serious bodybuilder, young, good and honest person.
Heres the scoop. I am currently dating this guy (We will call him ';Bob'; in this content). One major problem, is he still living with his ex. I asked him several times why he hasn't moved out. He has told me that he cant afford to move out because he has car payments and in debt. He also tells me that his relationship with his ex is very rocky. ';Bob'; tells me that they dont see much of each other because of their work schedule so the living situation is not that bad when his ex is not home. Another major concern to me is that they were once ';married.'; Meaning that they had a commiment ceromony. But around '05, that all fell apart when his ex abandoned him in a time when he was in need. ';Bob'; tells me that he will never forget that day when he abandoned him and that will never forgive him. Also, when ';Bob'; and his ex were together, he told me that they never had much sex, They went for a year or so without having sex. ';Bob'; tells me that he doesnt love him anymore. ';Bob'; also tells me that his ex has some serious anger issues and does this passive aggressive manipulation towards him; and that he has to be kind and help him around the house. I ask ';Bob'; what his friends think of his ex and they dont like him as well. However, ';Bob'; brings his friends over when his ex is around, but he doesnt allow me to come over when his ex around. ';Bob'; tells me that his ex disappears somewhere when he has company.
However, he just recently told me that his ex wants to get back with him. The other day, I had looked at his facebook account, and I noticed that his status says, ';Married to (his ex).'; Of course, I was hurt and devistated. I confronted him about it and he told me he did it to piss me off and that he is not in love with him anyway (I accuse him a lot of cheating). . Plus, that he is tired of me snooping around and me looking at his phone to see if he is cheating on me. I have MAJOR trust issues with him because, obviously he is still living with this ex. We have our arguements A LOT, but the make up part is incredible! Its hard for me to keep distant from him (or each other). I have tried so many times to leave him, but something keeps me coming back.
Now, my concerns are:
-Should I take his word and trust him that him and his ex are no more?
-Do you think he is just using me because of my well kept physique (he has a thing for bodybuilders)?
-Am I just hard headed, naive, REALLY STUPID that there is something still going on with them?
-How do I forget about him so that I don't keep comming back? I cant go through this anymore.
Out of all the muscles I have and that they can endure at the gym, my heart can't take this anymore, it hurts...Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
i dont think you should be worried, because she is his ex for a reason, also she ran out on him so he will be the more angry person in this so i dont think he will be crawling back to her, i think you should trust him, i really do, your with him over his ex for a reason, he wants you more and unless he is like the town bicycle then i dont think you have anything to be concerned over, if you need more help feel free to ask me anything i'll try my best to help you out with anythingHelp me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
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even though u are not going to take this advice, still gonna type it. let it go, time heals all wounds. what doesn't break u only makes u stronger. ur heart won't start to heal until u have ended.
Heres the scoop. I am currently dating this guy (We will call him ';Bob'; in this content). One major problem, is he still living with his ex. I asked him several times why he hasn't moved out. He has told me that he cant afford to move out because he has car payments and in debt. He also tells me that his relationship with his ex is very rocky. ';Bob'; tells me that they dont see much of each other because of their work schedule so the living situation is not that bad when his ex is not home. Another major concern to me is that they were once ';married.'; Meaning that they had a commiment ceromony. But around '05, that all fell apart when his ex abandoned him in a time when he was in need. ';Bob'; tells me that he will never forget that day when he abandoned him and that will never forgive him. Also, when ';Bob'; and his ex were together, he told me that they never had much sex, They went for a year or so without having sex. ';Bob'; tells me that he doesnt love him anymore. ';Bob'; also tells me that his ex has some serious anger issues and does this passive aggressive manipulation towards him; and that he has to be kind and help him around the house. I ask ';Bob'; what his friends think of his ex and they dont like him as well. However, ';Bob'; brings his friends over when his ex is around, but he doesnt allow me to come over when his ex around. ';Bob'; tells me that his ex disappears somewhere when he has company.
However, he just recently told me that his ex wants to get back with him. The other day, I had looked at his facebook account, and I noticed that his status says, ';Married to (his ex).'; Of course, I was hurt and devistated. I confronted him about it and he told me he did it to piss me off and that he is not in love with him anyway (I accuse him a lot of cheating). . Plus, that he is tired of me snooping around and me looking at his phone to see if he is cheating on me. I have MAJOR trust issues with him because, obviously he is still living with this ex. We have our arguements A LOT, but the make up part is incredible! Its hard for me to keep distant from him (or each other). I have tried so many times to leave him, but something keeps me coming back.
Now, my concerns are:
-Should I take his word and trust him that him and his ex are no more?
-Do you think he is just using me because of my well kept physique (he has a thing for bodybuilders)?
-Am I just hard headed, naive, REALLY STUPID that there is something still going on with them?
-How do I forget about him so that I don't keep comming back? I cant go through this anymore.
Out of all the muscles I have and that they can endure at the gym, my heart can't take this anymore, it hurts...Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
i dont think you should be worried, because she is his ex for a reason, also she ran out on him so he will be the more angry person in this so i dont think he will be crawling back to her, i think you should trust him, i really do, your with him over his ex for a reason, he wants you more and unless he is like the town bicycle then i dont think you have anything to be concerned over, if you need more help feel free to ask me anything i'll try my best to help you out with anythingHelp me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
IF YOU WANT TO GET RELATIONSHIP ADVICE, CHAT WITH OTHERS WHO CAN RELATE TO YOUR SITUATION, OR READ ABOUT THE LATEST CELEBRITY DATING GOSSIP AND MORE, GO REGISTER AND CHECK OUT PIMPMYRELATIONSHIP.NET. PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD TO OTHERS IN NEED.
even though u are not going to take this advice, still gonna type it. let it go, time heals all wounds. what doesn't break u only makes u stronger. ur heart won't start to heal until u have ended.
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