What advice for a man involved with an alcoholic woman?

I am getting involved with a single mother and 'social drinker' as she puts it. i have never tasted alcohol all my 30+ years on earth. infact, i am born again. she is not. do i listen to my heart or what do i do?What advice for a man involved with an alcoholic woman?
First of all, don't judge, and I don't think that you are. It is hard to live with an alcoholic, my father is one. If she is a social drinker, then the alcohol shouldn't be a problem. When alcohol becomes the problem, then there is a problem. I am a social drinker also, and my definition of that, to me is my birthday, New Years and maybe a time or two in between. Pray about it, ask God, you might be the vessel that He sent to her in her walk with God. Good luck!What advice for a man involved with an alcoholic woman?
Please move on. If she is an alcoholic you'll always be second to her the bottle is the most important thing to an alcoholic. Trust me, I've been married for over 20 years and the last 4 years alcoholism has changed my husband. He is not the man I fail in love with or married, something snapped and let me tell you the bottle is more important than our children, me, his mom and the rest of his family. He has been in a treatment center, gone to AA, went to his doc, went to a counselor, tried natural medicine. Nothing will help him until he is ready to change. I have not drank in over 4 years the smell of it totally makes me gag, and your probably asking yourself why do I stay? Well I believe what ever is happening to him he will get better. He has a lot of wonderful qualities about him, we've known each other for over 23 years, we have a lot of history together. And I do love him.


So what I'm saying to you is listen to your heart you'll do whatever is the best thing for you! Trust me do not get more involved with her, not unless she is willing to get help for her drinking. Good luck to you and look up alcoholism on yahoo.


Thanks for listening to me and I know you will do what is best for you.
I think you are old enough to know that a relationship like that will not work, but as a christian, you should know that she does need help and you can be the one that puts her life on a new path. Talk to her, tell her that you know she doesn't think she has a problem but you aren't comfortable with how much %26amp; often she drinks and would like to help her get sober because you like her and want things to work. Get her going to church and introduce her to your friend! That will make things a whole lot better, but don't turn your back on her, even if your relationship never becomes anything more than friends, at least you will have made a difference in her life! Good luck!!





- Do not start drinking, thats not your thing...you cant fall into peer pressure, you are not in high school anymore and sinking to her level isnt gonna fix anything!
how are you attracted to a drunk? the cost for your pocket and you life is too high to even consider.sometime they graduate from alcohol to drugs.stay as far away as you can..you are young and there are so many out there who are looking for a guy like you..remember most drunk are abusive and anti social except among the drunks.you must have pitied this single mother so much
What exactly does she mean by a 'social drinker'? From experience, I know that SOME (not all!) social drinkers/alcoholics can be very devious when hiding their 'problem'. What is your heart telling you to do? If you are really that concerned about her drinking, talk to her and find out to what extent she is a 'social drinker'. If you are not happy with what she has to say, then listen to what your head is telling you. Good luck!!
alcohol is not the devil and i'm almost positive that she isn't either. try and look past these things... they are only superficial. if you can't put these off to the side and love her for who she is- then maybe its not the right relationship.


Good luck with your decision, but only you can make one that important... so listen to the advice you may get on here- but know that it has to be YOUR decision. :)
She needs help i know this for sure. tell her that i almost lost my son to drinking. his friends got together and had a meeting at his house he finally went to rehab and now gets out friday. we all worry we hope he doesn't go back it has been a long road for all of us friends parents and siblings we all care. so tell your friend this also i have a friend that is dying he is only 40 years old a single dad to a boy that is 5 years old this man needs a liver transplant. He knows he is dying if he does not get it soon. his son is hurting he needs his daddy.please let your friend read this maybe it will help,, tell them if you date that you will go to all the meeting and stand by to help but honestly don't let her kill herself get her help. hopefully she will go. it takes allot for to them first to come to this my son is 32 years and he started when he was 18 good luck i hope i helped you some
Always listen to your heart, buddy. Maybe give alchohol a try, but if you aren't cool with that just tell her you're concerned. She's only and alchoholic if:





A: she drinks alone


B: she drinks 3+ days a week


C: she starts drinking before 5 pm





If she's always drinking with friends when out, thats what a social drinker is exactly. I always do, and I am in no way addicted to alcohol.





Hope I helped.
What do you have in common? She drinks - you never have. You're born again - she is not. IT seems you would need some really strong bond or commonality to overcome your different backgrounds. The fact that you refer to this woman as an alcoholic is a big red flag. You have your work cut out for you.
well if you like her stay with her. remember a little alcohol isnt bad. but if you have never even tried alcohol i can tell this is going to be a BIG problem in the relationship. Just SLOWLY calm her down on drinking if you want.
People can drink quite a lot and not be alchohol dependent. Can you be sure that you aren't over reacting because you personally aren't used to what constitutes excess.
listen to your head because you heart will get you killed one day spiritually and physically and she don't care about God listen man if you loose him theirs no point in living
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Your life,your choice,but the outstart doesn't sound promising.
You should not do like her, drink alcohol. You should always do what you think is right according to the word of God.....
Take up drinking.
try to talk to her and see if she lessens or get her help she might need it
no idea