Need advice on boy, preferrably from older women please.?

i used to talk to him online a lot


and then one day he randomly came over to my friend's house to drink and hang out.. he ended up hooking up with my friend.





he just randomly added me on myspace and started replying to my bulletins and sending me messages and stuff





i asked him when i was going to get to see him and he told me that whenever he has a day off work, he can take me to the beach. :) then he asked for my number








this guy is EXTREMELY good looking and a nice guy from what i know..





i need advice on how far i should go on the first date, second, third, etc..





i don't want to mess this up.. so far my guy friend's advice is this::





date one hold hands maybe, kiss goodnight no tongue


date two, do the same but with more consistency


(3 - make out


4 - heavy making out











any advice on how to try to make this one last ?Need advice on boy, preferrably from older women please.?
So he hooked up with your friend, and I'm assuming nothing ever came of it... so first you need to talk to your friend and make sure he's not just a one night person.


If he seems like he's going to be a good guy, and treated your friend right then go for it. But I wouldn't offer anything more then a kiss for several dates, that way you know he's serious and wants to hang in there for a while. It wouldn't be fun if you did other things with him and he never called you back, so make sure he's in it for a relationship. Try to get to know him, and date him for a while before you ever do anything with him. If you have sex on the first few dates the relationship almost never works.Need advice on boy, preferrably from older women please.?
Hooked up with your friend and I assume this was a one time shot. This good looking guy is a confirmed ladies man, forget him. From your question and your plan to ration your sexual activity with him you are trying for a real relationship. No dice with this candidate. He gets what he wants immediately without effort. He will use you and discard you and he will want the home run on the first ';date';.
don't put it on a time line. and don't feel like you have to go so far at any point. don't rush things especially until you get to know the guy better. do whatever feels right and only what you are ready for and don't get caught up in the heat of the moment.
I am an older woman, btw - thank you for asking us; I appreciate the opportunity!





This guy is NOT into you - want to know how to know? this is from the lips of men - if a man is into you - he doesn't wait til Saturday night to ask you for a date; he asks you the week before. He wouldn't casually email you, and see you later- he;d be at your door. He'd call you on the phone, often, and he would make great efforts to see you.





My advice - blow him away by blowing him off - don't say yes to his first request for a date - make an excuse that you already have plans. Guys want to know they have something of great value - and you do not demonstrate that by giving him your 'special gifts' on the first, second or 22nd date; you make him wait, til you know that he is worth your salt. You dont' want a man for a night; you want him for a life time- and you don't do that, by giving yourself away cheap.