That's a tough situation. You can't make someone love you. Do you know what she likes about this guy? Maybe he's got something you don't (exciting, bold, funny). Or maybe she's just got bad taste. Probably the best thing you can do is move on. Looks like she has.Women only! please help,...positive advice only!!!?
Some girls make stupid choices. There isn't really much you can do except let her make her own mistakes and then maybe she will realize how good she was with you. If you try telling her what a loser the other guy is then she will just distance herself even more from you. Try to keep the conversations interesting, talk about movies, music, TV, recent events, etc. Be there for her if she needs to vent her feelings and be supportive of her. She may come back and she may not.
I think you should let her be if the guy really is a loser she will be right back. In the mean time find some other things to do with your friends. Stop making yourself so available give yourself some credit you seem to be a really nice guy there are lots of women looking for someone like you.
if she doesn't want you back, just move on. life is too short for hanging on to someone who doesn't love you. been there. it is not easy. just take your time to know other people and date alot. it's her loss to date a guy who is not up to your standards. good luck. remember each pot has it lid.
FIRST OF ALL I NEED A LITTLE MORE INFO, LIKE WHAT WAS YA'LL DOING WHEN YA'LL WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT WAS MAKING IT SO BORING?
Okay King let me tell u something and give u a little advice. For one I think u did the right thing by asking for advice, but have u ever told this girl how u feel about her. I know that u feel that she is with the wrong person because she鈥檚 not with u. I felt the same way when I went through that. It鈥檚 hard and I know it. After all I鈥檓 still going through this pain. Anyway back to u. U need to tell her all the stuff u told us when u asked this question. Then hope for the best. If it still doesn鈥檛 work the way u want it to then that means u r to good for her. From what it sounds like I Already think that u r to good for her.
I'm so sorry about tht I think thts what I'm experiencing right now. shecking on someone who doesn't really cares about me tht much. the best I could tell you is to ask her how she feels abou you. if its negative, then go ahead with ur life. I know its somehow dificult to let go such situations. I would say when you want to love, don't love to death, limit yourselve. Don't get too fast into it because getting back out is hard rock. if u really love her, I would say go ahead and give it a shut again and again.
best wishes to you buddy.
Tell her what you told us she will probly look at her life in a different pespective. Try it call her now!
You are trying too hard just like she said. She is telling you all that you need to know. Things are different now and that is by her choice. She may still care about you but it might not be in that way. You just need to leave things alone. Don't try to force her into being with you. If the guy she is with is a true loser she will wise up soon enough. If she comes back Then it will be your choice to take her back. Get a back bone and show her what she is missing, don't be desperate and available. She may just want you to chase her and once you stop or start giving your affection and attention to something new she just might see you in a whole new light. Best Wishes
Sometimes you just have to let it go. No matter how painful it is.
Maybe she wants you to try less. Sometimes girls mess with guys by ';liking the chase';
My positive advice is to find a new girl. sorry.
Give her some space and don't try so hard. Women like a man that is attentive but not smothering. We are also a jealous lot. Why don't YOU start talking to other girls. That might get her attention. If she sees you with another girl or knows that you have been talking to another girl it might spark a little more interest in her. If she thinks you are just waiting around for her she is going to take her time because she knows she has you where she wants you. If this doesn't work then maybe by talking to other girls you will find one you like even more than her.
Its hard to give you advise to get her back since I don't really see what she left you for in the first place. She said she was bored... were you not taking her out enough? You wanted to sit on the couch and play XBox? You gained a little weight? You would rather veg out than hang out with buddies? You were spending way too much time together and in turn appreciated eachother less and less? Or maybe its not you at all and she has commitment issues- that would explain why she left you for a loser guy who doesn't have a job and no education- because on some level she knows she won't stay with him and that feels safer to her.
If you weren't being a boring jackass (the stuff I listed up top) than it sounds like she really doesn't know what she wants right now, I don't know how old you two are, but maybe she needs sometime to figure it out. If it was meant to be, it will be. She might be keeping in touch with you because you were close for a year and it is hard to completely cut out someone in your life that you loved-';breaking up is hard to do';
I would say, move on for the moment, keep her in your life as your friend... find a hot girl, get laid. Look hot, be fun, don't pine after her, women hate that. And if she's really interested in you, she'll come around!
What you're doing is obviously not working so maybe it is time to get a different approach. Maybe go out and have a great time with some of your other friends. Talking about you doesn't necessarily mean that she still into you. It is just a trip down memory lane. maybe she is not ';the one'; for you and maybe in time you can just accept it and move on.....
start talking more, tell her how u feel and be direct, no beating around the bush, tell her how u feel and if she doesn't like that, it's her loss!!
It sounds to me that she is a bit confused about what she wants...sometimes it can be difficult to get through to girls about these things, as you well know. It is possible that she feels like you two are going too fast. Maybe she wants to have a bit more fun before having kids. My advice would be to take a step back....be her friend, talk to her when she needs you. Be there when this guy decides to be an ***....If she loves you she will come around when her head is on straight. This may be a difficult thing to do, but do not hound her about getting back with you. Sometimes when you push people enough, they will push you right back and out of their life. Be there for her and she will come back on her own.
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