Need advice on my obsession with women.?

I'm married and really love my wife; however, I can't shake my obsession of beautiful women.. ..I'm always looking at beautiful women, younger (young 20's) and older (to 50's) %26amp; just can't help but fantasize about them on a daily basis. I try not to, but then I see a hot woman at the store or at the gym and can't help but to stare and later fantasize. Do other married guys have this problem and what can I do to shake this?? BTW, I've never cheated but if a hot gal hit on me while I'm on a business trip I'm pretty sure I'd cave in... ....sad but true.Need advice on my obsession with women.?
I use to look at handsome men all the time. Everywhere I went I would stare. I did that for awhile. Finally I got


tired of it. I realized what I was doing was driving myself


crazy. I was messing up at work. Couldn't concentrate on my work. I was a mess. So I decided to meditate. Got me some soft music and meditated. I tell you I had released all the


bad thoughts in my head. I did meditation for a week. When I


had finished handsome men didn't phase me.Need advice on my obsession with women.?
Unfortunately, it is a physical flaw in men. Prior to civilization, men would take what they wanted, including female mates. To the strongest went the best mating material. It is still in us, however, society has developed and we don't go around mating with everyone we can hook up with.





So, don't feel like the Lone Ranger here. We all do it (women too). What makes youa real man is the ability to love only one woman and control your urges. Let this other woman who is hitting on you know that you are married. If she has any morals, then she will back out. However, there are plenty who won't.





Be strong, when away from home, fantasize and masturbate! LOL
What does your wife say? She may well have noticed. If it worries you, I would speak to a counsellor but it may well be that you are just being male.
First things first: If you ever decide to cheat, think about it long and hard. Don't think cause you are out of town no one will find out. There are men who cheat and the woman falls for them and harasses them, then the wife finds out, they lose their families and regret it for a quickie fling. It is normal to look at women, my husband does it a lot and personally it drives me nuts. He would never cheat though, i don't worry about that, nor would I on him. Some men need the variety of many women, whether just looking and fantasizing or acutally sleeping with them. If you truly love your wife, let it go at fantasizing, or watching porno's, buy magazines, whatever it takes, but don't destroy the sacred vows you took. Cheating on your spouse is the cruelest thing you could ever do to them. If you can't be faithful, leave her first, be honest, don't destroy her life and faith in marriage cause you need to have sex with other women. It won't be all that different as you might think. Sex is sex, sure women are shaped differently and look different but the actual sex act won't be better or worse based on looks. The inner parts work the same. Be faithful, that is a real man. Anyone can cheat. Stand up for your wife and family, be faithful and proud.
as long as you don't act upon it....could have left the business trip part out....but no harm done.....yet!
At least you are honest. It is ok to look, but do not touch if you want to stay married. A lot of men appreciate beautiful women, it is ok. Please do not cheat. If you are unhappy, get a divorce. Be honest about your feelings and then you are ok.
Well I have to disagree that you truly love your wife, because that is what all cheaters say to compensate what they're doing. Your just using excuses for your bad behaviour and once you've screwed someone else, what are you going to do then, hope your wife forgives you and when/if she does you'll just do it again and blame it on your'obsession'. Well this doesn't cut with most women and you need to either get with your wife for real, or get the hell away from her before you really hurt her by your 'obsession'. Your just looking for an excuse to cheat and see what it's like on the other side. Well forget it, because everyone is just going to get hurt, and you better hope some jealous husband doesn't get 'obsessed' with hurting you!!!!Now would you really accept it if your wife did that to you. Would you feel like a worthwhile husband, or even a man, if your wife wasn't looking at you but someone else, hotter looking than you. C'mon really think about what your doing man!
I am not a man, so I can't really remark about men. But I was pretty much drooling over the garbage men today--they were calendar hot--so I get enjoying the scenery.





Thing is I don't think I could cave in. I love and respect my husband too much. He's my life, my home.





There are lots of scenic vistas, but there is only one home. Don't mess it up. Don't flirt. Look dowdy on those business trips if you are really worried. Call her incessantly so you don't cave to Lady McHotty.





As for the vistas--just remember what home looked like on your wedding day--and believe in your heart that is the prettiest thing you ever saw and marvel at the fact that she is your home.
Can you even imagine how your wife would feel if she knew what you just divulged here. And how would you feel if she felt the same towards men? Sometimes one is so caught up in oneself, that we tend to forget the feelings of another.
sometimes it`s not what we think, like a rapist is not after sex. hey talk to someone who deals with mentel health if you can.if you do not you could lose all that you have if this gets out of hand.
I think you are a sicko who would take advantage of someone and you probably already have.
i really hate to say that you do not love your wife, if your wife is not enough to satisfy your hunger %26amp; passion. If you honestly love your wife, then it shouldn't be a problem.
it is natural phenomina.it happens with mostly mail or femail.do one thing keep ur mind busy in reading or talking,it is all about the mind.what u like in others say to ur wife to do that.if u like someone dont try to go closer to that person keep distance.before doing any thing think what will be end of it what u will gain n what will u loose.
buddy im on the same boat...i think the best thing to do is..make ur wife the most..i mean think of ur wife to be the hottest woman alive and no one is better and why risk having sex with her ever again to do it with some other chick.
The old saying goes...


It's ok to look at the menu...just don't order anything.





If you don't trust yourself in the company of other ';hot'; women...then you need to be honest with your wife before you do something stupid.


Is one roll in the hay worth losing your wife/family over?
Life is too short to be chasing multiple women around...us guys look all the time...happily married or not....it's cheaper to keep em'....don't screw around...you'll just get screwed in the end!
Dad is having a problem as yours but when he reached the age of 45 he quits.
Well sir i understand where you are coming from! I suggest first you get some therapy...now you will have to explain to the wife why you are going huh so you may not...well let me tell you something if you dont be honest with your wife and get help youll be explaining it to her lawyer as she takes half your **** soo. wake up shes your wife and you need to love and honor her remember. If you do ';love he'; like you dont then get some help and stop being an example for every bad male out there. hope it works out sir. suck it up dont be mad!
talk to your wife and find out what she thinks about the whole thing. maybe shes OK with your obsession.
Redirect your thoughts. Squelch it before it goes too far.
If you really love your wife than cheating shouldn't be an issue. The reason why you look at other women--you can blame that on sin %26amp; temptation. I'm a married woman of 7 years %26amp; I don't really look much at other men. I think my husband is the hottest guy in the world %26amp; I don't fantasize about other men.





Sounds like you're just a horn ball!!!





Does your wife ever catch you eyeing other women?
your wife don't need you. it's because your not grown up yet and your a ******* freak. if you love your wife you'll think of her more then anything. get some counceling for your ****** up sex obbsesion. If you love your wife and you think you might cheat on her leave her now before you break her heart. when you love someone you'll do anything to stop from having harm come their way. you know she doesn't deserve it. leave now before there are children invlved dude. i'm not trying to be mean man but it's so true.
Well, where should I begin? First, if you honestly love your wife as much as you say you do, then you wouldn't be lookin or fantasizing about other women. Second, maybe it's wise to talk to your wife about this, honesty is everything in a marriage. Third, if you don't trust yourself if the chance should arise ( no pun intended) then why should your wife. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. Maybe you need to go to a counsler about this, and you need to do some serious thinking about what you truly want out of life.
You know what there's nothing wrong with looking hell everyone dose it but just think about how you would feel if you ever found out that whiel you were on a business trip your wife caved in and slept with a guy that she thought was attractive or fantazised about after seeing him in a store or in the gym, put yourself in her shoes and lookk at things through her eye's and then after you do tell her about your obsession, that way the communication lines will be open between you and it will hopefully make a stronger connection and marriage for your wife and you.
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, and it was your wife who was man crazy???????? What if she just had to look at there private parts %26amp; fanatasized about other things, but remember she can't help herself she is man crazy? Just a thought. Give her the respect she gives you. How crazy are you?
well...for what it's worth, i think ur behaviour is totally normal, and i don't think..at least what u describe here... is an obsession of any kind!


i'm positive every guy, married or otherwise ! will look and/or fantasise about an attractive woman, regardless of age, just becos ur married doesn't mean u lost ur eye for beauty?


as for cheating.... monogamy is a choice !! u make...it's not something that comes naturally to everyone... cheating however is a choice too!


maybe u should ask urself what it is that u think is lacking from ur marriage ?
Look, I'm about to piss a lot of women off and some men who have long ago put their balls in their wife's purse. But here goes. We are MEN. plan and simple. Most men look and a lot cheat. Look at the divorce rate in California(where some of the most beautiful women in the world are.) Men are hunters from the beginning of our existence. Why are there more women on earth than men? The same people that would say that men who look and/or cheat is a sin; are the same people who can't answer why God put more women on earth than men. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. I'm just saying that we should examine why we feel that way. People have gotten away with a lot of stuff because of religion(missionaries raping native women for one, priests and little boys[which is way more sick]).And before I go... A lot of you same people probably stole your current mate from someone else.